STARGREEN:

This topic worth comments of adults in reality.
Her Family you seems not to understand or care of.
Take this....if all issues in marriage are not tolerated...most often marriages might not last longer.

I can tolerate other issues in marriage but not cheating.

Please, that will not be the best thing to do as you will be shooting yourself in the leg. except you want to end the marriage.
This is the result of leaving apart as husband and wife, however, you and your husband can discuss things out and look for a way a resolve issues. you can start visiting or he does so you don't give room to such to happen. The truth is that, you must sacrifice your job for your home or your home for your job, knowing fully well how distance has made you guys far apart. And this, I know is impacting on the children.
I pray God grant you the wisdom to go about it.
Good luck.

my husband is that perfect man any woman would ever pray for ' you have said it all, why need advice

solasoulmusic:


You never quit because of a challenge you press on cases of infidelity and how their handled say a lot about the strength of a couple and the bond they share. A revelation is heart breaking albeit but setting yourself up for it is double the trouble.

People who grew up in a polygamous environment are prone to cheat and say nothing it's you as a woman that know how you will handle it screaming at the top of your lungs or like Jackie Kennedy poised and focused on a good foundation for the kids

Now i like this point you touched on slightly " bond ". Do people know what bonds mean at all these days?

Men don't want to form a thick bond because they want to be ready to bail at any time..Women on the other hand these days open their mouth and says once he cheats, i'm gone for good...Do people know what bonds mean atall? Or they have a shallow understanding of what a bond implies? I like to think that when people call it quit immediately from something as basic as cheating, then such a person is not ready for relationship or shouldn't even be married....The possibility of cheating is what should push both parties to put their absolute best into building the bond, the foundation for a healthy relationship..

What a morally-bankrupt generation !!!

Another round of bullshitt! The more I read up stories like these, the more I lose interest in marriage and women. Someone has a fiance and is still fuvking a married man;what the Bleep is wrong with these people? These days, I notice I'm getting less interested in asking women out and of course, it's issues like this..
No man or woman deserves to be treated this way after giving his/her all to make a relationship work. It's just 's cruel. Please expose that bitch to her fiance asap. As for your husband, do whatever pleases you.

Evaberry:
Send those stuffs to her fiance so that the young man can avoid making the biggest mistake of his life.

but as for your husband meeting you at home, My dear please leave that marriage it's not safe.

your husband can even resort to physical abuse because of anger.

Cheaters should not be given second chances.

Once a cheater always a cheater.

but op sha you are a correct hacker o, see the way you monitored the man just so you can catch him, lol.

This is why women should always be independent in marriage, so that when your husband screws up, you can leave without thinking of how to take care of yourself and kids.

Let's be honest if it was the husband who caught his wife cheating would you advise the husband to stay with her, why the hypocrisy and double standard? some1 above even advise the op to give the cheating dimwit a good treat. is it when your husband starts giving you numerous std Or impregnates another woman is that when you will leave?

Are u kidding me? This dud isn't married but want u to join her in single parenthood.

My adviced, if u leave ur matrimonial home as a result, what reason will u offer d society? What will u tell ur kids? Women independent, r u kidding me? What's and where's d biblical standard for marriage? What marrital legacy did ur parents leave for u?

It's d same society that will scorn and mifed at u should u heed to d advice above. Should u heed d advice above me will u stay without a man? And should u stay wid a man, it became immoral.
Stick to ur hubby and build ur home. Find out what casused d infidelity in ur hubby n deal with it. U will become a champion of a woman. Goodluck.

fatymore:
Ok oooo.. Na beating sure pass

Beating the side chick will not stop the husband from cheating u know? So why punish and disgrace/ embarass urself!

Mindfulness:


What did i say? They will try to blame you.

I hope you will give the same advice to the lonely wives who got weakened when they were waiting for their husband and decided to fvck some toy boy.

Irritating men, look at the silly advice one tried to give, give your cheating husband a good treat, don't raise your voice,
men should leave cheating wives

I'm tired of reading this type of trash, I'm tired
Let misogyny not kill Nigerian men one day

Pls my advise be very carefull with your decision, your husband is the problem here. For the lady take it easy with her because what is behind 6 is pass 7 have witness a similar case like that at the end the lady assassinate the whole family pls think well

solasoulmusic:


You never quit because of a challenge you press on cases of infidelity and how their handled say a lot about the strength of a couple and the bond they share. A revelation is heart breaking albeit but setting yourself up for it is double the trouble.

People who grew up in a polygamous environment are prone to cheat and say nothing it's you as a woman that know how you will handle it screaming at the top of your lungs or like Jackie Kennedy poised and focused on a good foundation for the kids

I've been an ardent follower of Hilary Clinton since back in the 90s, we witnessed the infedility in their marriage and how the Monica Lewinsky saga caused tension, but imagine the closeness they exude thesedays, this is after can i say two decades? ( Can't remember the exact time ), what i mean is if they had broken the tie because of " cheating ", they won't be standing tall stronger and better today.


The ladies of the younger generation should be easy on this cheating thing abeg...Our fathers did parole and were not even repentant about it, our mothers endured, we were the aftermath of those relationships, yes, less than beautiful, not even worth putting a good tag on it, but staying thick...I'll stop here...What a generation !!!

vicben27:
young girl you can leave ur husband in the future if he cheat's on you it's ur life. stop giving stupid advice.

But men chase away cheating wives all the time, why can't women leave cheating husbands?

supersystemsng:


Now i like this point you touched on slightly " bond ". Do people know what bonds mean at all these days?

Men don't want to form a thick bond because they want to be ready to bail at any time..Women on the other hand thesedays open their mouth and says once he cheats, i'm gone for good...Do people know what bond mean atall? Or they have a shallow understanding of what a bond implies? I like to think that when people call it quit immediately from something as basic as cheating, then such a person is not ready for relationship or shouldn't even be married....The possibility of cheating is what should push both parties to put their absolute best into building the bond, the foundation for a healthy relationship..

What a morally-bankrupt generation !!!

You have to denounce what you yourself won't do and hence why women are vocal because they know if you don't raise hell the first time it will continue but you never go as far as tracking

Social media stalking etc

Love them that's what your here for not to investigate like police

dominique:


But men chase away cheating wives all the time, why can't women leave cheating husbands?

Because men own cheating

Rhozabeth:

Beating the side chick will not stop the husband from cheating u know? So why punish and disgrace/ embarass urself!

you funny sha.. Why will I beat her myself... ..but truth be told is better she just forget and move on.. Men are naturally cheat...

solasoulmusic:


You have to denounce what you yourself won't do and hence why women are vocal because they know if you don't raise hell the first time it will continue but you never go as far as tracking

Social media stalking etc

Love them that's what your here for not to investigate like police

Na...i'm not personalizing this.... Too many ladies are quick to give up on their relationships is just the problem i have with the ladies of the next generation

cummando:
And you are asking advice from a forum where 99% of them are retards and bigots?




Good luck

And u make up the 1% with wisdom? Cheers to you.

Evaberry:
Send those stuffs to her fiance so that the young man can avoid making the biggest mistake of his life.

but as for your husband meeting you at home, My dear please leave that marriage it's not safe.

your husband can even resort to physical abuse because of anger.

Cheaters should not be given second chances.

Once a cheater always a cheater.

but op sha you are a correct hacker o, see the way you monitored the man just so you can catch him, lol.

This is why women should always be independent in marriage, so that when your husband screws up, you can leave without thinking of how to take care of yourself and kids.

Let's be honest if it was the husband who caught his wife cheating would you advise the husband to stay with her, why the hypocrisy and double standard? some1 above even advise the op to give the cheating dimwit a good treat. is it when your husband starts giving you numerous std Or impregnates another woman is that when you will leave?

Op listen to this comment.

"Red Handed" ended any hope of reconciliation

The wise book says; he/she who has not done this type of thing before should cast the best stone..

You were not once better than your husband nor the lady in your net....all have sinned and need repentance..

NO angels among humans you know? ..so, just forgive your husband and give him more love and attention

than the lady is giving him...already you created the loophole for the temptation...leaving your hubby to groom the wind!!

Afterall, you vowed for better for worse...if this is the worst side, then take it like a cream...forgive the lady too to make her reason better.

supersystemsng:




I've been an ardent follower of Hilary Clinton since back in the 90s, we witnessed the infedility in their marriage and how the Monica Lewinsky saga caused tension, but imagine the closeness they exude thesedays, this is after can i say two decades? ( Can't remember the exact time ), what i mean is if they had broken the tie because of " cheating ", they won't be standing tall stronger and better today.


The ladies of the younger generation should be easy on this cheating thing abeg...Our fathers did parole and were not even repentant about it, our mothers endured, we were the aftermath of those relationships, yes, less than beautiful, not even worth putting a good tag on it, but staying thick...I'll stop here...What a generation !!!

Let's be honest our generation is different if in their time they cheated it wasn't as loud and disrespectful as it has evolved into today. They respected their wives albeit in some case some went as far as physical abuse which is wrong irrespective there was respect for the term husband and wife. There were set roles and the woman was the maker of the home the husband the breadwinner nowadays you have a healthy mix of supportive marriages but the respect for womanhood is on the decline.

You don't have to be seen or heard by the world to communicate deeply with your spouse on what you don't want in your marraige.

You don't have to go as far as tracking whatsapp you have crossed that thin line between control and Love when you do that

Funny enough the fiance might be on nairaland oooo.. Might have even drop his own advice ooo

Evaberry:
Send those stuffs to her fiance so that the young man can avoid making the biggest mistake of his life.

but as for your husband meeting you at home, My dear please leave that marriage it's not safe.

your husband can even resort to physical abuse because of anger.

Cheaters should not be given second chances.

Once a cheater always a cheater.

but op sha you are a correct hacker o, see the way you monitored the man just so you can catch him, lol.

This is why women should always be independent in marriage, so that when your husband screws up, you can leave without thinking of how to take care of yourself and kids.

Let's be honest if it was the husband who caught his wife cheating would you advise the husband to stay with her, why the hypocrisy and double standard? some1 above even advise the op to give the cheating dimwit a good treat. is it when your husband starts giving you numerous std Or impregnates another woman is that when you will leave?

Leave a marriage with 3 kids because of infidelity. Will the problem that will be created by leaving the man be not more than the problem she's is trying to solve. When she become single parent and start eyeing other people's husband or children begins to give her problem and become nuisanse to the society, is this one better. The marriage need to be worked upon, she needs some patience

[quote author=honestwife post=60277906]Hello house,
I have been been a nairalander for many years and i just need advice because am so devasted. I got married to my husband 7years ago with 3beautiful kids ,a girl and 2 boys

My husband is that perfect men any woman would ever prayer for.i have never suspected him for once not until last year september that i saw some frequent call from a particular no, i decided to take the no and store on my own phone,,i suspected he was cheating but i did nit have any evidence to prove it.

So last month,i activated an automatic call recording on his phone and here i am, all my doubt were confirmed, i decided not to ask him as i laid down my own plans too, i took his phone and scan his whatapp QR code and i deactivated the notification so he wont know. So with this, i was able to veiw all his chat directly from my phone through this chat i saw that the lady was around at his place yesterday morning and i travelled in the eveningbecause we dont live in the same state due to transfer

i took my children to my sisters place and i travelled, looo and behold this lady was wearing only paint and bra in my husbands room although i gave both of them good dirty slap of thier life, and i told her i have details of his guy and that i was going to call and let him know the kind of girl she is

so now to cut the long story short this lady has a fiance which is planning to wed her because i got to her instagram page and facebook page and i saw that she has a very good guy at her hand thus made me sad because i dont know why she would cheat with my husband even after having a good relationship,

my decision is that am planning to call this guy through facebook call and send him all the recording and whatappbchat between her fiance and my husband

i just want to know if am making the right decision

as for my husband , he will meet me at home
[/quote

I always love a good wife with this kind of evidence but i will rather say my opinion on this should be private.kindly chat me or call by some past post to get my number
Am a married woman with kids as well and i understand this situation.

majekdom2:
The mentality of some here amazes me. Little wonder HIV is on the rise in Africa despite the awareness. Put simply hypocrisy and unintelligence. I am very sure your husband is n ot the only man that stupid whre is sleeping with. How can you be engaged to to promising guy nd still mess around. Save th next man from a promiscuous woman!

It's only the woman you saw,
It's only her that's messing around, it's only her that's a whorê
you guys are clowns I swear

supersystemsng:




I've been an ardent follower of Hilary Clinton since back in the 90s, we witnessed the infedility in their marriage and how the Monica Lewinsky saga caused tension, but imagine the closeness they exude thesedays, this is after can i say two decades? ( Can't remember the exact time ), what i mean is if they had broken the tie because of " cheating ", they won't be standing tall stronger and better today.


The ladies of the younger generation should be easy on this cheating thing abeg...Our fathers did parole and were not even repentant about it, our mothers endured, we were the aftermath of those relationships, yes, less than beautiful, not even worth putting a good tag on it, but staying thick...I'll stop here...What a generation !!!

Thank you for your intelligent contribution. Children of this generation are wise in their own eyes.

solasoulmusic:


Let's be honest our generation is different if in their time they cheated it wasn't as loud and disrespectful as it has evolved into today. They respected their wives albeit in some case some went as far as physical abuse which is wrong irrespective there was respect for the term husband and wife. There were set roles and the woman was the maker of the home the husband the breadwinner nowadays you have a healthy mix of supportive marriages but the respect for womanhood is on the decline

I don't believe the respect for womanhood is on the decline...That's a media induced hype to make men look like apes...

Our mothers endured, people should endure, how many marriages wil ladies jump in and out due to infidelity..? I put it to you, she dates A, he cheats, she runs, dates B, the same scenario, also to add, the next person has even more demons than the one left behind...People should fix the mental problem in their minds first before they start a relationship. Yeah, we don't want to be in a position where we're cheated upon, but the quick-to-bail rush is one issue i have problems with...


The day women know men are wired to fall in love with many women is the day they will finally have peace , all this one man one woman thing is basically just civilization... I am a 100 percent faithful guy till date but three truth is that in course of my activities I get to meet different women I know I like but I use a lot of discipline to shrug it off ..we are wired to love many women at the same time and we can't help it we can just hope to contain it for as long as we can

dadabashua1:
sister am exactly your male version, I hate cheats with passion...not bragging I once told a friend I don't know what is like to cheat...but trust me there are alot of guys like that..due to my nature I find it impossible to find a girl that can be 100% faithful... I know is possible but its extremely difficult tbh..once u cheat on my for once...I CANT ever trust u again so it better I just leave...but as for the case of married people I know its more complicated considering the fact that they already have kids also..

Nigerians are too modest for my likening.
If its the woman that cheated that guy won't give it a second thought before sending her packing .Aunty doesn't know if the girl is even faithful to ur cheat of a husband. See prayer and holy holy wife doesn't make u immune to HIV. I see couples with HIV in the hospital all the time and they all got it through their partner. Better clear ur eyes cos he will still cheat again .
Don't say no one told u

toyetade:

Thank you for your intelligent contribution. Children of this generation are wise in their own eyes.

Appreciated !

honestwife:
Hello house,
I have been been a nairalander for many years and i just need advice because am so devasted. I got married to my husband 7years ago with 3beautiful kids ,a girl and 2 boys

My husband is that perfect men any woman would ever prayer for.i have never suspected him for once not until last year september that i saw some frequent call from a particular no, i decided to take the no and store on my own phone,,i suspected he was cheating but i did nit have any evidence to prove it.

So last month,i activated an automatic call recording on his phone and here i am, all my doubt were confirmed, i decided not to ask him as i laid down my own plans too, i took his phone and scan his whatapp QR code and i deactivated the notification so he wont know. So with this, i was able to veiw all his chat directly from my phone through this chat i saw that the lady was around at his place yesterday morning and i travelled in the eveningbecause we dont live in the same state due to transfer

i took my children to my sisters place and i travelled, looo and behold this lady was wearing only paint and bra in my husbands room although i gave both of them good dirty slap of thier life, and i told her i have details of his guy and that i was going to call and let him know the kind of girl she is

so now to cut the long story short this lady has a fiance which is planning to wed her because i got to her instagram page and facebook page and i saw that she has a very good guy at her hand thus made me sad because i dont know why she would cheat with my husband even after having a good relationship,

my decision is that am planning to call this guy through facebook call and send him all the recording and whatappbchat between her fiance and my husband

i just want to know if am making the right decision

as for my husband , he will meet me at home

Just do the world a favor and divorce already. He'll be much happier and can straff PYT's in peace.

Life's too short for drama.

supersystemsng:



I don't believe the respect for womanhood is on the decline...That's a media induced hype to make men look like apes...

Our mothers endured, people should endure, how many marriages wil ladies jump in and out due to infidelilty..? I put it to you, she dates A, he cheats, she runs, dates B, the same scenrio, also to add, the next person has even more demons than the one left behind...People should fix the mental problem in their minds first before they start a relationship. Yeah, we don't want to be in a position where we're cheated upon, but the quick-to-bailrush is one issue i have problems with...


The day women know men are wired to fall in love with many women is the day they will finally have peace , all this one man one woman thing is basically just civilization... I am a 100 percent faithful guy till date but three truth is that in course of my activities I get to meet different women I know I like but I use a lot of discipline to shrug it off ..we are wired to love many women at the same time and we can't help it we can just hope to contain it for as long as we can

Me see it as if I can stay loyal to just one man out of billions he should be able to at least be faithful and even if he is not he should have respect for me to keep it as far away from me and the kids as possible till I'm dead

Dear, deal with your husband however you want but don't leak the affair to the ladys fiance....she might decide to fight to death and ruin your marriage as you ruined hers ..

solasoulmusic:

Me see it as if I can stay loyal to just one man out of billions he should be able to at least be faithful and even if he is not he should have respect for me to keep it as far away from me and the kids as possible till I'm dead

I'm not playing with you again. You used to sound sweet...I can see you've joined the club of the sisters...Anyway, women are mild, temperate, some call it soft, men are lions, hunters and have the instincts to " prey on " instinctively and inherently, staying committed to one partner, may God raise a generation of strong-willed men but ladies please take it easy on my guys abeg

honestwife:
Hello house,
I have been been a nairalander for many years and i just need advice because am so devasted. I got married to my husband 7years ago with 3beautiful kids ,a girl and 2 boys

My husband is that perfect men any woman would ever prayer for.i have never suspected him for once not until last year september that i saw some frequent call from a particular no, i decided to take the no and store on my own phone,,i suspected he was cheating but i did nit have any evidence to prove it.

So last month,i activated an automatic call recording on his phone and here i am, all my doubt were confirmed, i decided not to ask him as i laid down my own plans too, i took his phone and scan his whatapp QR code and i deactivated the notification so he wont know. So with this, i was able to veiw all his chat directly from my phone through this chat i saw that the lady was around at his place yesterday morning and i travelled in the eveningbecause we dont live in the same state due to transfer

i took my children to my sisters place and i travelled, looo and behold this lady was wearing only paint and bra in my husbands room although i gave both of them good dirty slap of thier life, and i told her i have details of his guy and that i was going to call and let him know the kind of girl she is

so now to cut the long story short this lady has a fiance which is planning to wed her because i got to her instagram page and facebook page and i saw that she has a very good guy at her hand thus made me sad because i dont know why she would cheat with my husband even after having a good relationship,

my decision is that am planning to call this guy through facebook call and send him all the recording and whatappbchat between her fiance and my husband

i just want to know if am making the right decision

as for my husband , he will meet me at home

Report the lady to her man. that's wickedness. As for your husband I don't know what you should do about him just beware of hiv but that lady should remain single for all I care. such a slut.