You need to understand where the rain started beating you.
Living apart encourages infidelity.
Do not treaten the lady, she might be the vicious type and come for you. If you must do the expose and move on.

Yuji:

We are equal. Argue till you faint, nothing can change that! My opinion though and its role not roll.

its ur opinion! be it roll ,row or role u've decoded I hail thee Lord of linguistics. don't let over sabi finish you receive sense I pray thee!

honestwife:
Hello house,
I have been been a nairalander for many years and i just need advice because am so devasted. I got married to my husband 7years ago with 3beautiful kids ,a girl and 2 boys

My husband is that perfect men any woman would ever prayer for.i have never suspected him for once not until last year september that i saw some frequent call from a particular no, i decided to take the no and store on my own phone,,i suspected he was cheating but i did nit have any evidence to prove it.

So last month,i activated an automatic call recording on his phone and here i am, all my doubt were confirmed, i decided not to ask him as i laid down my own plans too, i took his phone and scan his whatapp QR code and i deactivated the notification so he wont know. So with this, i was able to veiw all his chat directly from my phone through this chat i saw that the lady was around at his place yesterday morning and i travelled in the eveningbecause we dont live in the same state due to transfer

i took my children to my sisters place and i travelled, looo and behold this lady was wearing only paint and bra in my husbands room although i gave both of them good dirty slap of thier life, and i told her i have details of his guy and that i was going to call and let him know the kind of girl she is

so now to cut the long story short this lady has a fiance which is planning to wed her because i got to her instagram page and facebook page and i saw that she has a very good guy at her hand thus made me sad because i dont know why she would cheat with my husband even after having a good relationship,

my decision is that am planning to call this guy through facebook call and send him all the recording and whatappbchat between her fiance and my husband

i just want to know if am making the right decision

as for my husband , he will meet me at home

Good afternoon ma. Please help me. I need some money to pay for my belongings and transport them and myself back to the village, particularly Ebonyi state.
My name is Emanuel Chukwuebuka, a 300level student of pharmacy, uniuyo. I have remained in uyo since the start of ASUU strike and now want to return home. Transport fare has been on roof my reasons for remaining behind. Please help me. AKTC Akwa Ibom transport company charges total of #5000.
I know the money is much but God will not cease blessing you and your family. Please do not desert me I have no relatives to help me. My friends say they are all students and don't have much on themselves. Please I beg you. I can't afford to remain hungry in uyo please MA.

NoToPile:


Silly responses from most of the boys not surprised.

Cook pepperoup for a man you caught red handed? . What won't I hear on NL, they will never condem cheating see them supporting the cheating man, telling the babe to think about her children didnt the hubby forget about his own children when he was phildering about.
Assuming it was the woman who cheated they won't even say forgive it's chase her out.

See the way they manovered it and they all wanted her to inform the lady's fiance so that they will save one of their own from a cheat, that's the only reason why they kept telling the OP to tell the girls fiance

I have always said it we have a lot of boys on NL parading as men.

Silly people everywhere.

calm down

Myself2:


Thunder fire your landlord there, na your mama be morally bankrupt.
Wetin concern me with any young man engaged to the OPs lover ,did you see anywhere I mentioned any such person (in any case the guy may just be as bad as the OP or as she has painted her husband to be,or is it because no one has come to nairaland with crocodile tears with a similar long story like that of the OP to convince dolts like you the guy cheated on them??) So how dare you ignoramus make such an outlandish and definitive statement that the guy is innocent )
That said, may I remind you that in my former post on this topic,my focus was just the OP and the way she handled her suspicion of her husband's alleged infidelity,when it was still at the stage of allegation,which unfortunately the OP mishandled and allowed to degenerate .
If you were not so blinded by your desire to jump on the bandwagon of people patting the OP on the back without taking time to critically examine the demerits of her actions AS IT AFFECTS HER HUSBAND AND FAMILY,you won't come here and seek to pontificate to me when in essence you're just spewing ignorant and moronic bunkum. Idiocy must be the stock in trade of your obviously ill-educated,ill-mannered,ill-bred and and intellectually emasculated family.
So I say may a rabid mad he goat urinate in that your dirty mouth you used in addressing me in that condescending manner

, Oga don dey provoke

Fourwinds:
you just displayed your mumuism...go and read my replies you will see where I offered advice... I was even challenged by one of the nairalander to give advice and I did

why are you this daft? you are not even hiding it. Sorry case. I got better things to attend to than wasting my time reading your stupid advise. Go and marry first. Nonsense.

mumexcellency:
why are you this daft? you are not even hiding it. Sorry case. I got better things to attend to than wasting my time reading your stupid advise. Go and marry first. Nonsense.

do you know you are an idiot? who have time for you in the first place... do you think it is when one is married automatically means he or she is well off in thinking and doing things properly? you must be a buckle head... useless nonsense

Guitarlife:


Your assumption that the distance caused the infidelity is fallacious.

We have countless men working far away from home and are faithfull.

Its not everyone that is married that has that priedge of staying with thier families so try to expand your horizon.

People work offshore and are transferred to different locations and its normal so lets not excuse the mans infidelity.

Now to the OP. Stop listening to some fools here who wanna ruin your home.
Some of the women here asking you to divorce ypur husband take far more bullshit from their huabands to secure thier home.

From ur write up, your husband is apologetic so just be wise. This is the time to win him over. Let him know the implication and negative exposure his infidelity causes.

Do not leave your home after 3 children , that will be very stupid and the other lady would have achieved her aim if you did that.

Lastly some people will argue that if the tables were turned people would have advised the ma to leave the woman . YES! I would not hesitate to advise a man to divorce his cheating wife. Its not chauvinism its simply nature . A married woman cheating has far more dangerous repercussion than a married man cheating like risk of fathering a bastard because when multiple men sleep with a woman it becomes difficult to know whom the real father of the child is also men are not as emotionally vulnerable as women.

So OP be wise.

At the bolded, that is the simple truth. A man can cheat with 100women and still make his wife and family No1. The same is not possible with women, Cos they have emotions that are easily manipulated.
So a cheating woman must go. As for a cheating man, it shud be treated based on the severity and the circumstances on ground.

There are so many stupid men in this world. so a man cannot divorce his wife or maltreat her cor of his gf outside?

@op how did u activate the automated call recording?

mark2sunny:


Eveil woman. You live your life here abi? Try and get married first. All these single mothers always campaigning for more women to join them miserable life

A typical thought of a misogynist

Fourwinds:
do you know you are an idiot? who have time for you in the first place... do you think it is when one is married automatically means he or she is well off in thinking and doing things properly? you must be a buckle head... useless nonsense

oh no! Time wasted. You cant even speak english "who have time". Imagine! I shoudn't be replying a nonentity like you. What a shame and you are here on social media. Go and apply to learn english before you can come back to comment. Bye olodo 100%.

mark2sunny:


Eveil woman. You live your life here abi? Try and get married first. All these single mothers always campaigning for more women to join them miserable life

Yeah exactly because the ones with the cheating husbands live glorious lives.

I.diocy at its peak.

obstead200:

At the bolded, that is the simple truth. A man can cheat with 100women and still make his wife and family No1. The same is not possible with women, Cos they have emotions that are easily manipulated.
So a cheating woman must go. As for a cheating man, it shud be treated based on the severity and the circumstances on ground.

This is the kind of comment that brainwashes women to think that they are special even if their husbands come back home with herpes on their pricks.

Keep finding excuses why it is ok for you to cheat and not ok for your (future) wife. None of your excuses justifies and minimizes the damage that will be done.

Just do yourself a favor and tell your (future) woman what you have said here, if she decides to stay, she is a certified mu.mu. Congratulations!

mumexcellency:
oh no! Time wasted. You cant even speak english "who have time". Imagine! I shoudn't be replying a nonentity like you. What a shame and you are here on social media. Go and apply to learn english before you can come back to comment. Bye olodo 100%.

stupid fool... who is here to teach you English... nonsense being... it is like your low self doesn't know where to educate yourself...Is this forum an English class? big idiot

obstead200:

At the bolded, that is the simple truth. A man can cheat with 100women and still make his wife and family No1. The same is not possible with women, Cos they have emotions that are easily manipulated.
So a cheating woman must go. As for a cheating man, it shud be treated based on the severity and the circumstances on ground.

See ur warped mentality? Your points have a iota of validity, but what about the health risks to the woman?
God help you

vicben27:
its ur opinion! be it roll ,row or role u've decoded I hail thee Lord of linguistics. don't let over sabi finish you receive sense I pray thee!

it is also your opinion,kindly stick it up your ass. learn and stop being a dunce!

Yuji:

it is also your opinion,kindly stick it up your ass. learn and stop being a dunce!

fuccck off!

Daeylar:

This is nice to see



Ah has it reached that level.

not a real bullet so don't b scared

vicben27:
fuccck off!

Go and die

Mindfulness:


Yeah exactly because the ones with the cheating husbands live glorious lives.

I.diocy at its peak.

Jah bless you

vicben27:
young girl you can leave ur husband in the future if he cheat's on you it's ur life. stop giving stupid advice.

Stop giving stupid opinion

Yuji:
Go and die

leave me be! you retard!

Diamondville:
Jah bless you

And you! Abundantly!

vicben27:
leave me be! you retard!

Such a kid! Cry baby!!

Mindfulness:

And you! Abundantly!

Amen o

Yuji:

Such a kid! Cry baby!!

lol there is thing am 100% sure of your the kid here, soo I won't be having your time after this. go and suck on feeding bottle and receive sense

Mindfulness:


This is the kind of comment that brainwashes women to think that they are special even if their husbands come back home with herpes on their pricks.

Keep finding excuses why it is ok for you to cheat and not ok for your (future) wife. None of your excuses justifies and minimizes the damage that will be done.

Just do yourself a favor and tell your (future) woman what you have said here, if she decides to stay, she is a certified mu.mu. Congratulations!

my opinion may not go down well with u. I am not saying it is justified. Infact, I agree it is a very twisted opinion. But that is still the way of the world, especially in west Africa.
In these parts, it still remains a man's world

myking95:


See ur warped mentality? Your points have a iota of validity, but what about the health risks to the woman?
God help you

l agree it is s warped opinion. It is twisted and unfair. But it is still the way of the world. It is still what u get in African culture. Men are still supreme and women don't just get similar rights and privileged as men.
Sad, but true

obstead200:
my opinion may not go down well with u. I am not saying it is justified. Infact, I agree it is a very twisted opinion. But that is still the way of the world, especially in west Africa.
In these parts, it still remains a man's world

Change is inevitable.

bekpo:



Are u kidding me? This dud isn't married but want u to join her in single parenthood.

My adviced, if u leave ur matrimonial home as a result, what reason will u offer d society? What will u tell ur kids? Women independent, r u kidding me? What's and where's d biblical standard for marriage? What marrital legacy did ur parents leave for u?

It's d same society that will scorn and mifed at u should u heed to d advice above. Should u heed d advice above me will u stay without a man? And should u stay wid a man, it became immoral.
Stick to ur hubby and build ur home. Find out what casused d infidelity in ur hubby n deal with it. U will become a champion of a woman. Goodluck.

The society's opinion is not an excuse because the society will always talk no matter what..
The society is the main problem of Africa

Daeylar:


Irritating men, look at the silly advice one tried to give, give your cheating husband a good treat, don't raise your voice,
men should leave cheating wives

I'm tired of reading this type of trash, I'm tired
Let misogyny not kill Nigerian men one day

It will kill them