Afam4eva:
If you make more money than us, what then do we have to offer other than our pen1s...

Right there is the reason why a lot of men (not all) don't want their wives to make more money than them because it takes away their true manliness. The manliness is the reason they are respected and in some occasions, feared by their wives, so why risk something like that?

I like people who speak the truth

Acidosis:

smh, so this is your plan abi?

he he he

cruchenutii:

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Lets just agree that Women are complicated beings that start messing up when they are giving little power LOL[/s]

Misogynist

Whomever that owns the largest share in company controls company decisions. He is the head.

In the family, whomever that earns more money is the head of the family, you can only argue on it but you can't help it.

Any family that is headed by woman usually ends in disaster because women are not naturally wired for that role. The Bible said the man should be the head of the family.

There are exceptions though. I have seen.

Acidosis:


...because NO woman wish/pray to earn more than her husband.

You will earn more money than your husband. Say Amen...

Lets see the number of women that will quote me and type amen.

Acid. That's a very childish thing to write.

A good marriage built on a solid foundation promotes "oneness" between husband and wife. That means working TOGETHER in partnerships for the benefit of the family unit.

It shouldn't matter who earns more or less as they aren't in competition with each other (over what?)

Yes, money does make life easier, but it isn't the be-all-and-end-all of the union. TRUST ranks higher than money. And genuine LOVE. Otherwise that union will forever be strife with problems and may not stand the test of time.

byvan03:
Doesn't matter who is richer, they are playing for the same team.

True words.

Because they don't want to be treated the way they treat their wives when they are the ones with money.

To them it seems normal of a rich man has mistresses and is waited upon hand and foot. It's okay. It's healthy. It's doesn't belittle the woman.

But once a woman is rich same things become suddenly horrible. What am I saying?
even doing half of what men do when they are rich would be an abomination of women do them.

If a rich man works hard to provide for his family, it is common sense that the wife take care of his personal needs and that of the family but if the situation were to be reversed, she's would be evil to expect him to take care of her while she's providing for the family.


Disgusting hypocrites

cococandy:
Because they don't want to be treated the way they treat their wives when they are the ones with money.

To them it seems normal of a rich man has mistresses and is waited upon hand and foot. It's okay. It's healthy. It's doesn't belittle the woman.

But once a woman is rich same things become suddenly horrible. What am I saying?
even doing half of what men do when they are rich would be an abomination of women do them.

Disgusting hypocrites

Babe , you so predictable.

Acidosis:


Will this stop single ladies from running after loaded guys with cars?

That's not my opinion, but the opinion of your fellows.


I seriously don't care whether my spouse earn higher.. but I have to speak the truth, let's trace the root of a man's insecurity. Almost all the women I have ever met or read about want a better man in all aspect. Some of you cannot hold a 10 minute prayer but you want a god fearing man.. some of you are less than 4 feet, but you want a 10 feet guy.

Don't blame a man for being insecure at some point when all that got you attracted in the first place was those things he had in better quality and quantity!

It's good to state at the onset of the relationship what your expectations are. If as a lady your criteria for your life partner is that he must be tall, dark, handsome, kind-hearted, and have a calm disposition, then by all means go for it.

If on the other hand you care less about his physical attributes but more about the depth of his pockets, then by all means let him know it from the start.

And vice versa for the male folk.

If both parties are okay with the expectations from each other, fine. If not negotiate and come to an agreeable compromise. Otherwise go your separate ways. Nothing is ever set in stone.

Re: the bolded, a lot of men are the cause of their own insecurities. If as a man, you start off by flashing the cash, believing it's the only way to get ladies interested in you, then don't complain if your cash-flashing-antics attract the wrong type of women. Start as you mean to go.

EfemenaXY:


Acid. That's a very childish thing to write.

A good marriage built on a solid foundation promotes "oneness" between husband and wife. That means working TOGETHER in partnerships for the benefit of the family unit.

It shouldn't matter who earns more or less as they aren't in competition with each other (over what?)

Yes, money does make life easier, but it isn't the be-all-and-end-all of the union. TRUST ranks higher than money. And genuine LOVE. Otherwise that union will forever be strife with problems and may not stand the test of time.

That guy you quoted is probably the dumbest person on this section. He's so dumb that it hurts. (I'm almost forced to sympathize with Francis Galton's eugenics campaign). He must have an IQ of 20 digits. The way he processes the world around him is similar to the way a primitive animal in the wild would. I'm surprised he hasn't yet quoted a bible passage (which is no different from quoting a page from Harry Potter) to justify the archaic and utter nonsense he's wont to write.

DarkRebel69:


That guy you quoted is probably the dumbest person on this section. He's so dumb that it hurts. (I'm almost forced to sympathize with Francis Galton's eugenics campaign). He must have an IQ of 20 digits. The way he processes the world around him is similar to the way a primitive animal in the wild would. I'm surprised he hasn't yet quoted a bible passage (which is no different from quoting a page from Harry Potter) to justify the archaic and utter nonsense he's wont to write.

I'm sorry I don't agree with your approach. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, it's a free forum and that doesn't give you the right to resort to insults to get your point across.

I don't have and never have had issues with acidosis. Sometimes we agree on certain points and sometimes we don't.

Or are you deliberately trying to cause a stir here?

cc: RoyalRoy

Acidosis:





Why?

Your wahala is too much jare

You said a prayer, and some said amen. Yet you're complaining.

Was it meant to be a curse?

You'd be surprised at the number of married women that'll say amen to Your prayers, especially when their husbands earn more money, and has been misbehaving towards them. Many stay put in the marriage because they're not financially independent and this your prayer is truly a heart felt desire.

Acidosis:

You will earn more money than your husband. Say Amen

Amen
Amen and amen! I want to be the next okonjo or. alakija

Proudgorgeousga:
Amen

Amen and amen! I want to be the next okonjo or. alakija

Love the Afro

whitebeard:
OK I am part of those men who would end up transferring all their assets to their wives..cause that's what I actually plan on doing..so nothing can come between me and my games..!!

Acidosis:





Why?

I want to OWN my OWN money and take control of my OWN FINANCES because like the bible says woe is he that puts his trust in man

SAMBARRY:
I want to OWN my OWN money and take control of my OWN FINANCES because like the bible says woe is he that puts his trust in man

cococandy:
Because they don't want to be treated the way they treat their wives when they are the ones with money.

To them it seems normal of a rich man has mistresses and is waited upon hand and foot. It's okay. It's healthy. It's doesn't belittle the woman.

But once a woman is rich same things become suddenly horrible. What am I saying?
even doing half of what men do when they are rich would be an abomination of women do them.

If a rich man works hard to provide for his family, it is common sense that the wife take care of his personal needs and that of the family but if the situation were to be reversed, she's would be evil to expect him to take care of her while she's providing for the family.


Disgusting hypocrites

Their way

Hypocrites

EfemenaXY:


It's good to state at the onset of the relationship what your expectations are. If as a lady your criteria for your life partner is that he must be tall, dark, handsome, kind-hearted, and have a calm disposition, then by all means go for it.

If on the other hand you care less about his physical attributes but more about the depth of his pockets, then by all means let him know it from the start.

And vice versa for the male folk.

If both parties are okay with the expectations from each other, fine. If not negotiate and come to an agreeable compromise. Otherwise go your separate ways. Nothing is ever set in stone.

Re: the bolded, a lot of men are the cause of their own insecurities. If as a man, you start off by flashing the cash, believing it's the only way to get ladies interested in you, then don't complain if your cash-flashing-antics attract the wrong type of women. Start as you mean to go.

I like the way you approach the bolded part in my previous post.

Like I said earlier, I don't really care whether my spouse earns better, but as always, I like to approach issues from a different perspective.

Money should never be the essence of any relationship but that's not always the case.

If more women learn to reduce the manner at which they worship money (and men with money), men will immediately respond to the trend. Men display what women want to see (good house, furniture, car)...same way a woman displays what men wish you see (figure 8, good hair, etc).

Meanwhile, the insecurity we talk so much about is not a disease. I think, at some point, it is normal to be insecure. If for instance, my wife earns a million naira per month, and I'm stuck at 50k without a burning desire to improve my earnings, it means that I am shameless. So you'll agree with me that some level of insecurity is ideal. At least, we've read about the attitude of female bosses severally.. I'm not making up estimates from my head, but I do know that many women avoid female bosses. This is the reality we hate to face.

eyinjuege:


Your wahala is too much jare

You said a prayer, and some said amen. Yet you're complaining.

Was it meant to be a curse?

You'd be surprised at the number of married women that'll say amen to Your prayers, especially when their husbands earn more money, and has been misbehaving towards them. Many stay put in the marriage because they're not financially independent and this your prayer is truly a heart felt desire.

The amen largely came from married women


Let's take the stats of amen from single ladies.

Proudgorgeousga:
Amen
Amen and amen! I want to be the next okonjo or. alakija

and your husband will be...?

DarkRebel69:


You could have just simply ignored my comment if you didn't approve of my approach. See her tagging Ro lRoy as well. Drama queen.

You're an embarrassment to humanity. I know shamelessness is one of your good qualities but please learn to comport yourself, at least, on Sabbath.

cococandy:
Because they don't want to be treated the way they treat their wives when they are the ones with money.

To them it seems normal of a rich man has mistresses and is waited upon hand and foot. It's okay. It's healthy. It's doesn't belittle the woman.

But once a woman is rich same things become suddenly horrible. What am I saying?
even doing half of what men do when they are rich would be an abomination of women do them.

If a rich man works hard to provide for his family, it is common sense that the wife take care of his personal needs and that of the family but if the situation were to be reversed, she's would be evil to expect him to take care of her while she's providing for the family.


Disgusting hypocrites

Cooking is not a function of who has less money. Stop idolizing money. My wife will cook, and that's not because I earn more..

Many men will not cook because it is simply not "manly" for them to cook all the time. A man or woman that wants to cook will do so even while he/she earns millions.

If at some point, a woman earns so well that she can no longer take care of her house, the ideal thing is to assign some of the roles to an alternate HELPmate. A husband is not a helpmate.

Acidosis:


and your husband will be...?

whatever he wants to be and finds fulfillment in. I won't try to stop his hustle or demand submission or force him to be a stay at home dad or house horseband unlike some control freaks I know

Proudgorgeousga:


whatever he wants to be and finds fulfillment in. I won't try to stop his hustle or demand submission or force him to be a stay at home dad or house horseband unlike some control freaks I know

You don't want him to stay home, cook for you and the kids, and tell you "welcome home honey, your food is ready"?

But you were among those that liked cococandy's cr. azy post?

OmoLayo29:

I know men like to be in control and that's why my hubby will borrow money and not return.

Look at dis one, can't y dash ur husband money? una too greedy.

OmoLayo29:

I know men like to be in control and that's why my hubby will borrow money and not return.

Look at dis one, can't you dash ur husband money? una too dey selfish.

Acidosis:


You don't want him to stay home, cook for you and the kids, and tell you "welcome home honey, your food is ready"?

But you were among those that liked cococandy's cr. azy post?

cococandy's post is far from crazy she is only pointing out the hypocrisy of control freaks.

imustsaymymindo:


Well, in my own opinion I think it is a fallacy that the richest person in a group or in a relationship automatically becomes the one in control. If so, the richest man in each country would automatically become the President or be the most influential person in the country. And this is untrue.

Following this line of thought, it is probable that those men that lost control or respect because their wives got richer than them is because they didn't have strong leadership qualities but relied on money to buy them such respect.

GBAM!

Bruno3000:
Look at dis one, can't you dash ur husband money? una too dey selfish.

I should dash my husband money? He earns more than me but he likes to borrow all my money so that I can go broke and beg him for money.men ehn

Daeylar:



Misogynist

lol, na you sabi oh. I will still get married to a woman one day, Misogynist or not. Women are complicated being unless you want to keep lying to Ya Self.

The issue is, men have no choice but to deal all the wahala of women.