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Ruling On A Man Kissing His Adult Daughter And Hugging Her by Lukgaf(m): 9:02am On Nov 10, 2017
Praise be to Allaah.

For a man to embrace and hug his daughter, or kiss her on the head or cheek or between the eyes by way of showing compassion, kindness and love is permissible, even if she is an adult, on condition that there be no fear of fitnah or provocation of desire. Excluded from that is kissing on the mouth, which is only for spouses, and which usually provokes desire.

Imam Ahmad (may Allah have mercy on him) was asked: Can a man kiss a woman who is his mahram? He said: If he has come home from a journey and does not fear (temptation) for himself.

Ibn Muflih said: But he should never do that on the mouth, only on the forehead or head.
End quote from al-Adaab al-Shar‘iyyah , 2/256. See also al-Iqnaa‘ , 3/156; al-Mawsoo‘ah al-Fiqhiyyah , 13/130
Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allah have mercy on him) was asked:
Is it permissible for a man to kiss his daughter when she has grown up and passed the age of puberty, whether she is married or not, and whether the kissing is on her hand or mouth or so on? If she kisses him in those places, what is the ruling?
He replied (may Allah have mercy on him):
There is nothing wrong with a man kissing his daughter, whether she is older or younger, without desire so long as that is on her cheek once she has grown up, because it is proven from Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) that he kissed his daughter ‘Aa’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) on her cheek. And because kissing on the mouth may lead to provocation of sexual desire, so it is better and safer not to do that. Similarly, a daughter may kiss her father on his nose or head, without desire. But if there is desire then that is haraam for all concerned, so as to avoid temptation and so as to block means that may lead to immorality. And Allah is the source of strength.
End quote from Fataawa Islamiyyah, 3/78, 79.

Secondly:
Embracing sons and daughters when they are small, hugging them, smelling them and kissing them are all part of the compassions and warmth that people should give in abundance to their children and not deprive them of it, because it is compassion that Allah has created in the hearts of His slaves, and Allah only shows mercy to those of His slaves who are merciful.

We advise fathers and mothers not to deprive them of this parental gesture, because it is a basic psychological need, especially in small children, as is proven in all psychological and educational studies, both contemporary and classical.
It is proven in Saheeh al-Bukhaari (5997) that Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) kissed al-Hasan ibn ‘Ali, when al-Aqra‘ ibn Haabis al-Tameemi was sitting with him. al-Aqra‘ said: I have ten children and I have never kissed one of them. The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) looked at him, then he said: “The one who does not show mercy will not be shown mercy.”

In Saheeh al-Bukhaari (3704) it also says: al-Bara’ entered with Abu Bakr upon his family -- after he reached Madinah as a migrant. ‘Aa’ishah was lying down as she was suffering a fever. I [al-Bara’] saw her father kiss her cheek and say: How are you, O my daughter?

And Allah knows best.

https://islamqa.info/en/159539

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Re: Ruling On A Man Kissing His Adult Daughter And Hugging Her by segebase(m): 9:52am On Nov 10, 2017
i dedicate this FTC to my unborn kids and president of nigeria...my hommies smokin weeds in d chruch...

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Re: Ruling On A Man Kissing His Adult Daughter And Hugging Her by Auwm1(m): 9:54am On Nov 10, 2017
Educative,nice Hadith

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Re: Ruling On A Man Kissing His Adult Daughter And Hugging Her by sunshineV(f): 9:54am On Nov 10, 2017
What's my own with what Islam thinks.....?



I do whatever I want with my daughter.




Islam ko, Islamabad ni

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Re: Ruling On A Man Kissing His Adult Daughter And Hugging Her by freeman95(m): 9:57am On Nov 10, 2017
Haha nonsense

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Re: Ruling On A Man Kissing His Adult Daughter And Hugging Her by freeman95(m): 9:57am On Nov 10, 2017
sunshineV:
What's my own with what Islam thinks.....?



I do whatever I want with my daughter.




Islam ko, Islamabad ni


O jor mi loju oo

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Re: Ruling On A Man Kissing His Adult Daughter And Hugging Her by mammanbawa: 10:03am On Nov 10, 2017
sunshineV:
What's my own with what Islam thinks.....?



I do whatever I want with my daughter.




Islam ko, Islamabad ni

What people like you do is beyond comprehension. Islam doesn't think, it preaches. Do whatever you wish to your daughter, she'll do whatever she wishes to you. What goes around ........

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Re: Ruling On A Man Kissing His Adult Daughter And Hugging Her by sod09(m): 10:04am On Nov 10, 2017
this doesn't make sense, siblings are told to sleep separately when reach a certain age
so why will a father kiss or hug his adult daughter

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Re: Ruling On A Man Kissing His Adult Daughter And Hugging Her by kolafolabi(m): 10:04am On Nov 10, 2017
The strong person is not the good wrestler. Rather, the strong person is the one who controls himself when he is angry.
(Sahih al-Bukhari, Book 73, #135)”
― Prophet Muhammad

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Re: Ruling On A Man Kissing His Adult Daughter And Hugging Her by abuaaliyah(m): 10:05am On Nov 10, 2017
good write up, may ALLAH insrease your knoledge

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Re: Ruling On A Man Kissing His Adult Daughter And Hugging Her by Abdulsalaam9(m): 10:05am On Nov 10, 2017
Tanx 4 d Admonition, may Allah makes d Deen easy 4 and on each and every1 of us

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Re: Ruling On A Man Kissing His Adult Daughter And Hugging Her by mutiu450: 10:08am On Nov 10, 2017
Jakumllah khyran

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Re: Ruling On A Man Kissing His Adult Daughter And Hugging Her by SweetyZinta(f): 10:11am On Nov 10, 2017
Jazaakumullahu khairan. May Allah guide us aright, Amen

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Re: Ruling On A Man Kissing His Adult Daughter And Hugging Her by haypeller: 10:13am On Nov 10, 2017
sunshineV:
What's my own with what Islam thinks.....?



I do whatever I want with my daughter.




Islam ko, Islamabad ni
whatever you think or feel about Islam is you cup of tea, because Islam is the only way to salvation (embrace it or you leave it)

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Re: Ruling On A Man Kissing His Adult Daughter And Hugging Her by DeutschJunge: 10:20am On Nov 10, 2017
sod09:
this doesn't make sense, siblings are told to sleep separately when reach a certain age
so why will a father kiss or hug his adult father

Because siblings at a certain age are not wise enough and would want to explore with no limit. It’s amazing what the devil can make people do when given the time and opportunity. An adult knows his/her limits and would not cross it.

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Re: Ruling On A Man Kissing His Adult Daughter And Hugging Her by theapeman: 10:23am On Nov 10, 2017
Lukgaf:
Praise be to Allaah.

For a man to embrace and hug his daughter, or kiss her on the head or cheek or between the eyes by way of showing compassion, kindness and love is permissible, even if she is an adult, on condition that there be no fear of fitnah or provocation of desire. Excluded from that is kissing on the mouth, which is only for spouses, and which usually provokes desire.

Imam Ahmad (may Allah have mercy on him) was asked: Can a man kiss a woman who is his mahram? He said: If he has come home from a journey and does not fear (temptation) for himself.

Ibn Muflih said: But he should never do that on the mouth, only on the forehead or head.
End quote from al-Adaab al-Shar‘iyyah , 2/256. See also al-Iqnaa‘ , 3/156; al-Mawsoo‘ah al-Fiqhiyyah , 13/130
Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allah have mercy on him) was asked:
Is it permissible for a man to kiss his daughter when she has grown up and passed the age of puberty, whether she is married or not, and whether the kissing is on her hand or mouth or so on? If she kisses him in those places, what is the ruling?
He replied (may Allah have mercy on him):
There is nothing wrong with a man kissing his daughter, whether she is older or younger, without desire so long as that is on her cheek once she has grown up, because it is proven from Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) that he kissed his daughter ‘Aa’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) on her cheek. And because kissing on the mouth may lead to provocation of sexual desire, so it is better and safer not to do that. Similarly, a daughter may kiss her father on his nose or head, without desire. But if there is desire then that is haraam for all concerned, so as to avoid temptation and so as to block means that may lead to immorality. And Allah is the source of strength.
End quote from Fataawa Islamiyyah, 3/78, 79.

Secondly:
Embracing sons and daughters when they are small, hugging them, smelling them and kissing them are all part of the compassions and warmth that people should give in abundance to their children and not deprive them of it, because it is compassion that Allah has created in the hearts of His slaves, and Allah only shows mercy to those of His slaves who are merciful.

We advise fathers and mothers not to deprive them of this parental gesture, because it is a basic psychological need, especially in small children, as is proven in all psychological and educational studies, both contemporary and classical.
It is proven in Saheeh al-Bukhaari (5997) that Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) kissed al-Hasan ibn ‘Ali, when al-Aqra‘ ibn Haabis al-Tameemi was sitting with him. al-Aqra‘ said: I have ten children and I have never kissed one of them. The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) looked at him, then he said: “The one who does not show mercy will not be shown mercy.”

In Saheeh al-Bukhaari (3704) it also says: al-Bara’ entered with Abu Bakr upon his family -- after he reached Madinah as a migrant. ‘Aa’ishah was lying down as she was suffering a fever. I [al-Bara’] saw her father kiss her cheek and say: How are you, O my daughter?

And Allah knows best.

https://islamqa.info/en/159539
is there any Islamic ruling on child marriage and pedophile?

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Re: Ruling On A Man Kissing His Adult Daughter And Hugging Her by sod09(m): 10:31am On Nov 10, 2017
DeutschJunge:


Because siblings at a certain age are not wise enough and would want to explore with no limit. It’s amazing what the devil can make people do when given the time and opportunity. An adult knows his/her limits and would not cross it.
does that mean devil cant use an adult to practice incest.
we hear news father having intimate with daughter

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Re: Ruling On A Man Kissing His Adult Daughter And Hugging Her by babayinka77(m): 10:34am On Nov 10, 2017
[quote author=sunshineV post=62243353]What's my own with what Islam thinks.....?



I do whatever I want with my daughter.




Islam ko, Islamabad ni[/quote
No body cares what you do with her. perhaps you are one of those taught by the kaduna teachers...This post is not meant for non muslims to comment on.

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Re: Ruling On A Man Kissing His Adult Daughter And Hugging Her by babayinka77(m): 10:37am On Nov 10, 2017
freeman95:



O jor mi loju oo

No body cares what you do with her. perhaps you are one of those taught by the kaduna teachers...This post is not meant for non muslims to comment on.

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Re: Ruling On A Man Kissing His Adult Daughter And Hugging Her by BenzEne1(m): 10:37am On Nov 10, 2017
sunshineV:
What's my own with what Islam thinks.....?



I do whatever I want with my daughter.




Islam ko, Islamabad ni


Lol. This actually is funny.
Although Islam or Islamabad likewise do not care if you even decide to mount her after kissing her fully on the mouth. She's your daughter after all and you can do whatever you like with her.

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Re: Ruling On A Man Kissing His Adult Daughter And Hugging Her by babayinka77(m): 10:38am On Nov 10, 2017
sunshineV:
What's my own with what Islam thinks.....?



I do whatever I want with my daughter.




Islam ko, Islamabad ni

No body cares what you do with her. perhaps you are one of those taught by the kaduna teachers...This post is not meant for non muslims to comment on.
Re: Ruling On A Man Kissing His Adult Daughter And Hugging Her by sunshineV(f): 10:59am On Nov 10, 2017
babayinka77:


No body cares what you do with her. perhaps you are one of those taught by the kaduna teachers...This post is not meant for non muslims to comment on.


I'm a Muslim dumb dumb

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Re: Ruling On A Man Kissing His Adult Daughter And Hugging Her by sunshineV(f): 11:01am On Nov 10, 2017
mammanbawa:


What people like you do is beyond comprehension. Islam doesn't think, it preaches. Do whatever you wish to your daughter, she'll do whatever she wishes to you. What goes around ........



Gbe enu e soun

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Re: Ruling On A Man Kissing His Adult Daughter And Hugging Her by adek6555: 11:06am On Nov 10, 2017
Thank God i'm a MUSLIM

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Re: Ruling On A Man Kissing His Adult Daughter And Hugging Her by Teeboi56: 11:12am On Nov 10, 2017
haypeller:

whatever you think or feel about Islam is you cup of tea, because Islam is the only way to salvation (embrace it or you leave it)
Na so now
No be by force
Quran said lahiqra fi dinni
We should not force anybody to do islam

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Re: Ruling On A Man Kissing His Adult Daughter And Hugging Her by tasteofcash: 11:20am On Nov 10, 2017
haypeller:

whatever you think or feel about Islam is you cup of tea, because Islam is the only way to salvation (embrace it or you leave it)
yea through terrorism, beheading, peadophilism to mention but a few.........set of confused fellows. Rubbish

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Re: Ruling On A Man Kissing His Adult Daughter And Hugging Her by haypeller: 12:43pm On Nov 10, 2017
tasteofcash:
yea through terrorism, beheading, peadophilism to mention but a few.........set of confused fellows. Rubbish
Islam never teaches terrorism, and also condemn killing of one another. Also Islam is a religion of peace

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Re: Ruling On A Man Kissing His Adult Daughter And Hugging Her by Nobody: 1:57pm On Nov 10, 2017
A girl can kiss her father on his NOSE. LMAO. grin
What about kissing him on his ear? grin

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Re: Ruling On A Man Kissing His Adult Daughter And Hugging Her by teadrake(m): 2:52pm On Nov 10, 2017
Jazakhumulah khairan

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