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Ayo4251:
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for me,anyone is free to leave any relationship or marriage with an abusive patner or a cheat..

Is ur dad a redeemed pastor

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Your father cannot be a pastor. No pastor will behave like this knowing that he will preach to people almost daily. What will he preach? Pls stop telling lies @OP. Much as I am against fake pastors seeking tithe, I will not support tgis kind of manipulation to malign pastors. Some of the pastors we have in Nigeria are real men sent by God. Don't generalise and rubbish all of them.

I don't even know what to comment.. Family issues are always complicated.. I pray you find a solution to it. #safe

Not really. It's not your place to ask her to divorce him . The thing with relationships of any kind is that the person in it, has to make the decision to leave or stay on his/her own. If you play any part in her divorcing him , she may always view it as your decision, instead of hers. Isn't it possible for you to or your younger ones to educate her yourself ?
If you are a christian , pray about it and seek guidance . Also if it's possible to notify the church about what is going on on your family with a video or something , it would be a plus.
Finally , I know staying in a troubled home plays havoc with the children's psyche but children who are from broken homes, are damaged in a whole different kind of way. Adding that damage now to what you people have already been through could cause a total break down .

The physical and emotional abuse should stop otherwise she should think of seperation no matter what life has no spare

What is she doing there when your dad want her dead The choice is hers

Sorry broda , I feel your pain and I understand you good. Do you any uncle from your dad family ? If yes , report your dad and ask the uncle to talk to him .

Get a well paid job, build/rent a cool apartment and take your mum away from him, divorce still is not de best option

If ur dad is physically abusing ur mum, u guys should fight for ur mum, i remember when we caught someone with my dad in my mums matrimony bed, thou my mum was nt around them, that night eh we beat my dad nd d woman, he begs never to do it again, he swear that night lol, it was a night to remember

Divorced can never solve anything, just sit him down,confront him as a man not as a boy anymore though ur mother caused her suffering pardon me for that...If he didn't yield try to talk to his senior pastor you can trust

Take it easy,work hard,pray,and save ur mum,s life.You will regret it for ever if anything happen to that woman.be wise,make her happy,unite ur siblings and act smart with God direction

What God has joined together, let no man put asunder.

What do you say?

No husband with little or average income is happy around a woman who has no means of income. If your mother is not up and doing, I can assure you it is one of the reasons. Your mum should try and meet the standard that your father needs in a woman.You should as well do good by talking to your father to know the exact problem. I pray for God's peace in your home.

Moyinoluwa35:
Ur. Fathers is a mad man

Real talk...real talk man

Do you have any sister called Leah?

When I am faced with problems like this, I ask myself: "what would Satan do?"

oruma19:
Your father cannot be a pastor. No pastor will behave like this knowing that he will preach to people almost daily. What will he preach? Pls stop telling lies @OP. Much as I am against fake pastors seeking tithe, I will not support tgis kind of manipulation to malign pastors. Some of the pastors we have in Nigeria are real men sent by God. Don't generalise and rubbish all of them.

Is it your father?
Is it your pastor?
why you come carry the matter for head like this?

isaacfreeman99:
Hi good evening Romancelanders this is my first time to seek for help or advice here,

I need your advice on this issue,
my mother may die before her time, she's suffering, and not happy in her marriage with my dad, she's just enduring and not enjoying her marriage,
she is enduring it because she grew up in a broken home under a single parent and she knew what she passed through and according to her she don't want her children to experience the same thing so She'll rather die for and with her children.
she's always abused physically and emotionally by my Dad, hurt and disrespected severely by her so-called pastor husband,
my dad is a pastor for nearly 30 years with a global church, the problem here is that my mother is not educated, but she had 10 children with my dad, but my dad feels like she's not worthy to be his wife now both of them are in their 50's.
my mother is very intelligent, she can read the bible very well in our local language, and can speak little pidgin English, she's a fast learner, if my dad want to train her it will be easy but he's not just interested in that, note that when they both got married my dad too was not educated, it was years later that he went back to school and did his PhD and still further on to a theological seminary, sometimes he do wish that my mother should die so that he can get free and marry a woman of his class.
please I need your advice here, I suggested to my mum that he should live him but could not convinced her, she's too religious, always saying that the Bible does not encouraged divorce, and my dad was the first man and only man she knew in her entire life, my father does not know the value of children, sometimes I do question God that "God they said that everything you do is perfect but why did you allowed this to happened?? giving 10 good children to someone who don't care or know the value or worth of a child, wife and family??"
this has physically, mentally or psychologically effect on us his children especially we the 3 boys, none of us see value, happiness or joy in marriage, I personally see marriage as a prison or bondage, same with my 2 brothers any time I speak with them concerning marriage none of them seems to be interested or ready for that shit.
marriage was meant to be enjoyed and not to be endured, getting married to the right person makes and keep one happy and it affects your lifespan positively, you live longer and healthier.
guys help me with your ideals and plans, I can't sit my father down or report him to the Church, he may curse and disowned us all since I'm the first son. my dad can be so violent.

please don't insult my father remember he's a pastor, pastors too are human.

Is it your marriage?

oruma19:
Your father cannot be a pastor. No pastor will behave like this knowing that he will preach to people almost daily. What will he preach? Pls stop telling lies @OP. Much as I am against fake pastors seeking tithe, I will not support tgis kind of manipulation to malign pastors. Some of the pastors we have in Nigeria are real men sent by God. Don't generalise and rubbish all of them.

..Nawa o,do u knw the father more tham him...pastors are humans too and are capable of anything..

It's a pity,this is the one people are looking up to,calling Daddy up and down,meeting for counseling.man that can't take care of his family,sorry your dad doesn't know God,let alone pastor because God is love.

Hector09:
If ur dad is physically abusing ur mum, u guys should fight for ur mum, i remember when we caught someone with my dad in my mums matrimony bed, thou my mum was nt around them, that night eh we beat my dad nd d woman, he begs never to do it again, he swear that night lol, it was a night to remember

Are you sure you are not operating under a curse? You have the nerves to say you beat your dad? ��

OMG!! At first, i thought it was one of my siblings writing this. The only difference is the number of children and i cant even deal.

Some of us have accepted our fate, but my faith wont be shaken. These issues are at the place of prayer most importantly that God should protect and spare my mums life.

I have no other advice, its same thing here.

sometimes I do question God that "God they said that everything you do is perfect but why did you allowed this to happened?? giving 10 good children to someone who don't care or know the value or worth of a child, wife and family??"

God is perfect, the way he reasons differs from ours seriously. How can he give Jesus Christ to a "careless" parent that will forget him at the camp for 24hours when there is Elizabeth and Zechariah who had been looking for a child for donkey years and who would probably have appreciated Jesus better or maybe some other people.

Now to your parents: when it comes to physical abuse , it is advisable a "separation" (not divorce ) takes place for some time until issues are resolved. God hates divorce.

There's nothing bad in you seeking help from people your daddy respect or fear to help resolve issues without their consent. So long as you have enough strong evidences to present.

As for you and your siblings, don't allow the bad experience you've had in life to determine who you should be, rather learn from it and make a message out of the mess. You can marry, you should marry , you will enjoy it. It's one of the best things in life.

Most importantly, pray ernestly. No matter what anybody says, we have a God, the Father of Jesus Christ, that answers prayers.

God bless.

isaacfreeman99:
Hi good evening Romancelanders this is my first time to seek for help or advice here,

I need your advice on this issue,
my mother may die before her time, she's suffering, and not happy in her marriage with my dad, she's just enduring and not enjoying her marriage,
she is enduring it because she grew up in a broken home under a single parent and she knew what she passed through and according to her she don't want her children to experience the same thing so She'll rather die for and with her children.
she's always abused physically and emotionally by my Dad, hurt and disrespected severely by her so-called pastor husband,
my dad is a pastor for nearly 30 years with a global church, the problem here is that my mother is not educated, but she had 10 children with my dad, but my dad feels like she's not worthy to be his wife now both of them are in their 50's.
my mother is very intelligent, she can read the bible very well in our local language, and can speak little pidgin English, she's a fast learner, if my dad want to train her it will be easy but he's not just interested in that, note that when they both got married my dad too was not educated, it was years later that he went back to school and did his PhD and still further on to a theological seminary, sometimes he do wish that my mother should die so that he can get free and marry a woman of his class.
please I need your advice here, I suggested to my mum that he should live him but could not convinced her, she's too religious, always saying that the Bible does not encouraged divorce, and my dad was the first man and only man she knew in her entire life, my father does not know the value of children, sometimes I do question God that "God they said that everything you do is perfect but why did you allowed this to happened?? giving 10 good children to someone who don't care or know the value or worth of a child, wife and family??"
this has physically, mentally or psychologically effect on us his children especially we the 3 boys, none of us see value, happiness or joy in marriage, I personally see marriage as a prison or bondage, same with my 2 brothers any time I speak with them concerning marriage none of them seems to be interested or ready for that shit.
marriage was meant to be enjoyed and not to be endured, getting married to the right person makes and keep one happy and it affects your lifespan positively, you live longer and healthier.
guys help me with your ideals and plans, I can't sit my father down or report him to the Church, he may curse and disowned us all since I'm the first son. my dad can be so violent.

please don't insult my father remember he's a pastor, pastors too are human.

Tau sheybI u too go born ur pikin? And they will also gang up against everytime u make a mistake,