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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by nairanaira12: 2:08am On Dec 05, 2017 |
HeyCorleone: Worst advice of the year. |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by nairanaira12: 2:15am On Dec 05, 2017 |
Xcelinteriors: Anty, stop this stupid idea. A sensible woman will wake up early and GLADLY take care of the home. A woman taking care of the home does not make her a slave. I'm sure your mum took care of the home while she and your dad haven't given birth to you and your siblings. Does that make your mum a slave to your dad? Will you look at your mom right now and boldly point out any feature on her that makes her look like your dad's slave? This your feminism nonsense has taken a turn into Foolishness Street, off Stupidity Street, enroute Mental Blindness Street. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by nairanaira12: 2:18am On Dec 05, 2017 |
Dimples129: A woman taking responsibility at home is not abuse... It is just what it is..... Taking Responsibility. Please girl, do not marry at all. You seen to lack basic understanding about marriage. |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by nairanaira12: 2:21am On Dec 05, 2017 |
Mille: Oga wake up. There is a lot to marriage than that. You can't be married and be waking up by 7am when you have to resume at work by 8am. Does that even sound like a responsible behaviour to you? |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by lordswill03: 2:34am On Dec 05, 2017 |
Ever heard of that Nursery school rhymes :Early to bed is Early to rise that makes body healthy wealthy and wise?? Maybe you should consider allowing her sleep early and don't even bother to tap her at night. You'll see she will wake up 5:00. But how can you achieve that when John Tommos is restless. The solution to your problem lies with you |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Nobody: 2:52am On Dec 05, 2017 |
Realitycheck007: Oga ade if waking by 7am is the only problem she has then I don't see a problem so far she doesn't go late to work. U keep talking about the kids, u forgot a nursing mother does not sleep. By the time she has the first child she will be waking up in the midnight to feed the baby, she will get used to that. She knows she will need to take care of the kids before going to work and u will also assist her, u are not marrying her to enslave her. |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by malache(m): 2:57am On Dec 05, 2017 |
u must be d reason y she wakes up late.reduce d way u hammer her. |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by MightySparrow: 3:03am On Dec 05, 2017 |
Realitycheck007: Put her where she belongs ahikena. |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Nobody: 3:06am On Dec 05, 2017 |
But seriously if the lady is my sister I will advice her against marrying this op. So just because someone comes to visit u and wakes up 7am (probably on a weekend) then that makes her not fit enough to be a wife material? I know ur type, u are one of those rigid ' This is Africa ' kind of men. Those that will beat their wife up and see nothing wrong with it . R u looking for a housegirl or a wife? So let me see... U expect her to wake by 5am, make ur food and serve u breakfast in bed and she must be on her knees while serving u the food abi. See this hustler dey form big man, so what will u do then when u become really rich, u will tie a rope to her neck 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Nobody: 3:11am On Dec 05, 2017 |
nairanaira12: U have a point, but 1 question... If a lady wakes up by 7am (single lady oh with no children yet), is that enough to tag her as 'not a wife material'? Just a question. And op didn't tell us if it was on a weekend on weekday. The way I see it I think the op is too rigid. |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Jilo83(m): 3:14am On Dec 05, 2017 |
It is not her fault now. You did not allow her to sleep untill late in the night and maybe in the midnight you still give her another rounds. What do you expect? Body no be fire wood. She need rest biko. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by usajunior: 3:40am On Dec 05, 2017 |
Its not true if this is your reason. I used to sleep like that, even she is even better. Mine was 6pm to 7am while i was in school on daily basis. But when i get married and started having kids coupled with a job, i didnt know when i changed. You cant sleep when ur kids are awake. I cant sleep for more than 3hrs at a strecth. Its impossible so she even have no reason to be awake now. No kids and no job. |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by marylandcakes: 4:09am On Dec 05, 2017 |
Realitycheck007: @ OP what you need is a nanny not a wife. When she is doing all this chores what will you be doing? Sitting down twiddling your thumbs. Get real man, this is 2017 marriage is more of a partnership these days except you want your wife to resent you then carry on. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by nnamdiosu(m): 4:26am On Dec 05, 2017 |
Realitycheck007: Oga weh done o. So....for a lady to sleep late, it now means she is not a wife material bah? Is that club material? On a more serious note, you can't gauge that in the school of wife materialism. Besides, remove it from your mind now that she'll just be taking care of the kids and doing house work when she marries. Is that all there is to marriage? If there is an attitude that she possess that you don't like, calmly talk to her, addressing your points. No one is perfect. Not even you. Marriage is more than using sleep to judge wife material. Its about BEGINNING A journey WITH ANOTHER HUMAN BEING (FOR EVER), THAT HAD A TOTAL BACK GROUND FROM YOURS. ......AND ONLY GOD CAN HELP YOU MAKE A RIGHT CHOICE. NOT CALCULATING THE NUMBER OF hours SPENT SLEEPING. I pray God helps you choose right in Jesus name . Allow madam sleep her mind biko. Smile 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by sandland: 4:30am On Dec 05, 2017 |
HeyCorleone:this boy is already on top of the bridge. It is how to walk pass it that he is looking for. But wait, is she fat. She will get fatter and sleep longer. |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by mema900: 4:57am On Dec 05, 2017 |
You de over worry for nothing. I came here expecting to see more valid reasons, only to see She sleeps too much |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Aadeyinka(m): 5:06am On Dec 05, 2017 |
Realitycheck007:No problem here , she slept till 7am bcoz no job yet and has not yet married, when got a job and children to take care of, no one will tell her before she will/must adjust to wake early for her responsibilities, like early cook for the family,bath children, etc but real study her if not lazy type, wish u all the best. |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by TEYA: 5:10am On Dec 05, 2017 |
Xcelinteriors:Lol not everyone is your husband. There are men that contribute more than your husband and that does not compel your husband to be like them and there are things that your husband cannot tolerate which many married men do. |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Blissp99(f): 5:18am On Dec 05, 2017 |
She will get ova it Maybe she doesn't have responsibilities now |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by jy2kbeyond(m): 5:24am On Dec 05, 2017 |
Xcelinteriors: And what time does your husband wake up? |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Nobody: 5:32am On Dec 05, 2017 |
wahala dey o she sleep trouble,she no sleep na witch, 11pm-7am na over sleep have u forgotten d stress she goes through,abeg leave d babe for anoda man abi is it ur SLEEP? |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by babooshka: 5:34am On Dec 05, 2017 |
Mille:truth!!! |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by jy2kbeyond(m): 5:34am On Dec 05, 2017 |
MissWrite: Reality check one, two. Helloooo, how about if she ignores even as the husband makes breakfast himself. Saturday wey go better, na from friday person dey see the signs |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Nobody: 5:37am On Dec 05, 2017 |
nairanaira12:But d babe is not married,how can he complain of just 8hrs sleep,if i know d lady i would make sure she dump dis boy she thinks is a man 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by MobilityExpress: 5:46am On Dec 05, 2017 |
Xcelinteriors: your brain is working perfectly |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by onadana: 5:48am On Dec 05, 2017 |
Realitycheck007: Since you wake up early why not help out abi she be house girl ne marriage na help me i help you ooo remove all this old mentality for ya head. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Jimi23(m): 5:53am On Dec 05, 2017 |
Realitycheck007: You normally like taking the kids to school? Which kids have you been taking to school? Meaning you have been married before yet you are still seeking to make her your maid? Little wonder your marriages will all crash like a pack of cards. You have no regard for the womenfolk at all. Fear the curse of a woman you have bunked o especially when she leaves bitter or sad. Their curses stick like glue.My friend still dey suffer from curse till tomorrow. Thats why I am always careful with the womenfolk. This is the 21st century dude. Wake up and smell d coffee. Urgggghh!! I've got sisters and I truly despise selfish and jobless old gigolo puppets like you! If you still got a momma sure her pussy is still available and she can work her dry butts out for you. That's what a heartless devil like you needs. Your mamas pussy. Gosh! If only us men all understand that all women need is love, care and tenderness not greedy leaching gigolos who change women like nappies. Divorce rates would be brought to the bearest minimum. Sure thing you'll die lonely with this shallow notion. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by ra4fo(m): 5:54am On Dec 05, 2017 |
Realitycheck007: bros, i don't know what u mean by over sleeping but if ur would b wife sleeps 11-7am, dats 8hours and sure its a healthy recomendation by d medical xperts + if she can carryout her functions well, i don't think u shud hav sleepin as an xcuse not to marry. I had opened this page because i taught i was going to see something worth backin out of marriage for but i'm yet to c one real reason. The thing is, when the kids start coming, she would adjust. #with grt power coms great responsibility.. cheers man, encourage ur woman.nobody is perfect 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by MobilityExpress: 6:05am On Dec 05, 2017 |
Realitycheck007, i think what you need is a reality check with yourself first. This is 2017, any fiancée that sleeps from 11pm - 7am is a wife material. The ones that are not wife material are the ones that do night vigil at Quilox etc and sleep at different hotels everyday. Reality check for every wise man: Play a trivial game with your fiancée called “mention the places you know”. Then when it is your turn to ask questions, ask your fiancée to name 10 hotels she knows. If she can conveniently name 7 or more hotels, then your fiancée is likely to be a runs girl material, not a wife material 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by birdsview(m): 6:05am On Dec 05, 2017 |
Your problem pass your fiancee own.Na wa for you ooo.Too petty 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Afec1000givers: 6:09am On Dec 05, 2017 |
u are not a husband material op..because she sleeps its a problem to you what if she wakes up all night. have u gone to know are parent while u camp her in your house? are u having sex with her at late hours? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Nobody: 6:09am On Dec 05, 2017 |
Wonderful! 11pm to 7am sleep now disqualifies one as wife material ? Kai, nothing women no dey see for this life... 3 Likes
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