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How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by Nobody: 7:01pm On Dec 06, 2017
Okay let me write this as brief as i can, been dating this girl for over 10 months now, but what baffles me about her is her lack of care, concern for me like i do to her, and then she's excessively selfish, she can never sacrifice even a 100 naira recharge card for me. but always wants to take from me every time. i have talked with her several times about this but she doesn't want to change a bit. and i am already thinking of ending things with her like seriously.
Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by FreshBoss007: 7:04pm On Dec 06, 2017
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Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by Nobody: 7:04pm On Dec 06, 2017
it just tiring about relationships these days, especially those kiddies dating.
all what you hear is after so so months they.............. undecided

back to ur issues, stop giving or investing in the relationship and see if she will change

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Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by ItsTutsi(m): 7:05pm On Dec 06, 2017
take a walk fam,she obviously doesn't like u man..shes just there for the benefit

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Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by ClitoPen: 7:06pm On Dec 06, 2017
Guys no de fumble
Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by Nobody: 7:13pm On Dec 06, 2017
RETIREDMUMU:
it just tiring about relationships these days, especially those kiddies dating.
all what you hear is after so so months they.............. undecided

back to ur issues, stop giving or investing in the relationship and see if she will change
She is 23 and a graduate too bro you know.
Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by Nobody: 7:22pm On Dec 06, 2017
A guy who's in a relationship and cannot read signs is just plain dumb
Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by Demmtek(m): 7:23pm On Dec 06, 2017
Are you sure u are in relationship or just friendship acting that way means she doesnt give a tfuck about the relationship, sit her down tell her how u feel, or you just have to act u dont care for a week and see her reactions too, for me talking from experience she is not interested or she is not just ready for commitment she is just there for the benefit use your head bro before she turn you to ATM.
Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by Nobody: 7:25pm On Dec 06, 2017
Demmtek:
Are you sure u are in relationship or just friendship acting that way means she doesnt give a tfuck about the relationship, sit her down tell her how u feel, or you just have to act u dont care for a week and see her reactions too, for me talking from experience she is not interested or she is not just ready for commitment she is just there for the benefit use your head bro before she turn you to ATM.
We've talked about all this several times bro, but she doesn't want to change so i guess ending it now would just be the best you know.
Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by Saintsammurai(m): 7:25pm On Dec 06, 2017
It means you don't have her mumu button..
Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by Nobody: 7:29pm On Dec 06, 2017
You can't meet her needs. Up your hustle or leave her grin
Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by Nobody: 7:35pm On Dec 06, 2017
Dimples129:
You can't meet her needs. Up your hustle or leave her grin
Lols trust me am that type of guy that every lady wants to date, i practically provide everything she needs even when i am not too buoyant , but i still give her from the little i have.

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Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by Nobody: 7:40pm On Dec 06, 2017
aurxtino:
Lols trust me am that type of guy that every lady wants to date, i practically provide everything she needs even when i am not too buoyant , but i still give her from the little i have.

So why you complaining? We should help you fund your relationship

If you don't like her. End it. undecided
Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by Nobody: 7:43pm On Dec 06, 2017
Dimples129:


So why you complaining? We should help you fund your relationship

If you don't like her. End it. undecided
Do you do or like a one sided relationship? Where you bf won't show you care, attention, when you write him he only replies you with hello, hi, k, you know. and he hardly calls you. how would you feel dear ?
Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by ifex370(m): 7:47pm On Dec 06, 2017
Dimples129:


So why you complaining? We should help you fund your relationship

If you don't like her. End it. undecided

Hiaey.. Y is it now doing you craw craw in your yansh na

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Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by Nobody: 7:48pm On Dec 06, 2017
aurxtino:
Do you do or like a one sided relationship? Where you bf won't show you care, attention, when you write him he only replies you with hello, hi, k, you know. and he hardly calls you. how would you feel dear ?

That's a personality trait or he's not into me so I have 2 options, take it or leave it. Finished.

I've been in such situations and if the guy is worth it, I put up with the bs if not, I bounce.

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Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by Demmtek(m): 8:30pm On Dec 06, 2017
aurxtino:
We've talked about all this several times bro, but she doesn't want to change so i guess ending it now would just be the best you know.
that is the point if i may hope she is not a religion fanatic like all those sisters in church forming holy holy who hate to hear you call them girlfriend talkless of relationship .
Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by Nobody: 9:09pm On Dec 06, 2017
This topic/issue really grinds my gears in relationships/friendships. Selfishness and taking advantage and taking for granted kind hearted people

Listen up bloke, Its really simple.

She is clearly not as invested as you are.

Cease all sacrificial giving. And then warch her disappear from your life faster than speedy Gonzalez.

If she doesnt “ghost” on you, then the “real” talk about the importance of “reciprocation” to you need to happen.

Dont let the relationahip continue for long if no real change from her. And if you see small small change, make sure it real and sustainable change.

If not, sack her from yer life.


‘Matter of fact, tge holidays are coming! Have the talk now and give her proper chance to show ase change.

Or just give her the boots now- if by all things considered, she is not worth it at all.







aurxtino:
Okay let me write this as brief as i can, been dating this girl for over 10 months now, but what baffles me about her is her lack of care, concern for me like i do to her, and then she's excessively selfish, she can never sacrifice even a 100 naira recharge card for me. but always wants to take from me every time. i have talked with her several times about this but she doesn't want to change a bit. and i am already thinking of ending things with her like seriously.
Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by habsydiamond(m): 9:42pm On Dec 06, 2017
a selfish girlfriend is that type that collect from her guy everything without using her own resources for the betterment of both of them...selfish girls dey break homes most especially, can cause problems among families..dem be esin national theatre....them hand no dey open to give but to take dey sweet them.....Na dem go dey wait their husband to give them money for panties even when they have a well paid job...I pray against selfish girls ooo

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Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by Olami90: 9:49pm On Dec 06, 2017
Op, I was in your shoe some years back.
My immediate ex was extremely selfish, proud and knows too much.

I gave her time to change but I discovered it has been her way of life. Her mum told me sometimes then that when she and her other siblings were much younger, she is the only child that will refuse to break her save-box to assist her with their little savings.

I loved her so much then that she felt on top like I can't do without her.

She is very stingy but fashion conscious (clothes, shoes, jewelries etc).
I chose not to ignore that attitude (a big red flag) and I have never regretted it one bit till today.


Save yourself future headache because a lady like her will only make you poor and be the one to rub it on your face.

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Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by ayokellany: 9:57pm On Dec 06, 2017
aurxtino:
Lols trust me am that type of guy that every lady wants to date, i practically provide everything she needs even when i am not too buoyant , but i still give her from the little i have.

You are being delusional girls nowadays do not want to date the bank manager, they are after the owners of the bank. What you think your are providing is not what she desires in life when she come across that you will be left dry n high. I advice guys like you to get done with such girls so you do not turn out the loser. There are some girls some guys can not have for whatever reason but that should not stop you from having a piece of the pie, just be contended with the piece or pieces depending on how many times you had a dig into the cookie jar.

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Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by Demmtek(m): 11:42pm On Dec 06, 2017
ayokellany:


You are being delusional girls nowadays do not want to date the bank manager, they are after the owners of the bank. What you think your are providing is not what she desires in life when she come across that you will be left dry n high. I advice guys like you to get done with such girls so you do not turn out the loser. There are some girls some guys can not have for whatever reason but that should not stop you from having a piece of the pie, just be contended with the piece or pieces depending on how many times you had a dig into the cookie jar.
am.sure the girl.no dey give she may stingy to that level infact she as nothing to offer that's all why waste your time Op get a boat and fishing hook fish as you like by then she will realize what she is missing she may just b too proud to walk to you again, Move on with your damn life, most of all enjoy your life to the fullest you can do as much as you think you can.

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Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by Obodo999(m): 1:46am On Dec 07, 2017
Selfish and leechy ladies are what men should avoid at all costs, they are destiny destroyers. Thank me later.

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Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by Enoma222(m): 5:33am On Dec 07, 2017
aurxtino:
Okay let me write this as brief as i can, been dating this girl for over 10 months now, but what baffles me about her is her lack of care, concern for me like i do to her, and then she's excessively selfish, she can never sacrifice even a 100 naira recharge card for me. but always wants to take from me every time. i have talked with her several times about this but she doesn't want to change a bit. and i am already thinking of ending things with her like seriously.
_dump_her_ass
Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by ibietela2(m): 11:06am On Dec 07, 2017
aurxtino:
Do you do or like a one sided relationship? Where you bf won't show you care, attention, when you write him he only replies you with hello, hi, k, you know. and he hardly calls you. how would you feel dear ?

You mean were she shows her BF
Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by Artzdanielsz(m): 11:33am On Dec 07, 2017
chia op ndo,op Tasie I'm speechless to comment but op you try .Bia!! you mean that she has been bitching you for 10 good months.op lie down you need to be flog .you just embarrassed us men.and you are still thinking of leaving her.kwontinu thinking.
Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by pocohantas(f): 12:07pm On Dec 07, 2017
You're seeing the signs now.
A selfish woman is a very bad one for any hustling young man.
Even Dangote wouldn't want a selfish women.

End it.
She won't change.
Some habits are in the blood, this seems like one.

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Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by ashjay001(m): 1:43pm On Dec 07, 2017
Olami90:
Op, I was in your shoe some years back.
My immediate ex was extremely selfish, proud and knows too much.

I gave her time to change but I discovered it has been her way of life. Her mum told me sometimes then that when she and her other siblings were much younger, she is the only child that will refuse to break her save-box to assist her with their little savings.

I loved her so much then that she felt on top like I can't do without her.

She is very stingy but fashion conscious (clothes, shoes, jewelries etc).
I chose not to ignore that attitude (a big red flag) and I have never regretted it one bit till today.


Save yourself future headache because a lady like her will only make you poor and be the one to rub it on your face.


How did u decode all that, without marrying her? Lucky u
Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by Fernandowski(m): 3:02pm On Dec 07, 2017
All I do is fuckkkk em once and honestly, I don't give em numbers
Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by Nobody: 3:49pm On Dec 07, 2017
Olami90:
Op, I was in your shoe some years back.
My immediate ex was extremely selfish, proud and knows too much.

I gave her time to change but I discovered it has been her way of life. Her mum told me sometimes then that when she and her other siblings were much younger, she is the only child that will refuse to break her save-box to assist her with their little savings.

I loved her so much then that she felt on top like I can't do without her.

She is very stingy but fashion conscious (clothes, shoes, jewelries etc).
I chose not to ignore that attitude (a big red flag) and I have never regretted it one bit till today.


Bro you just said it all, now let me tell you something that happened today, she promised to send me a card, after about 3 days i didn't bother to ask her, so today she sent it after our arguments last night, and i told her i do not need it, do you know that before i could say Jack, this girl has loaded the recharge card. menh am tying up my pocket for her i swear. and then pretend i still love her, but believe me things have to change.

Save yourself future headache because a lady like her will only make you poor and be the one to rub it on your face.
Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by Nobody: 5:39pm On Dec 07, 2017
pocohantas:
You're seeing the signs now.
A selfish woman is a very bad one for any hustling young man.
Even Dangote wouldn't want a selfish women.

End it.
She won't change.
Some habits are in the blood, this seems like one.
This is why i love you.
Always saying the trueth.
Re: How Do You Guys Deal With A Selfish Girlfriend by Olami90: 7:57pm On Dec 07, 2017
ashjay001:



How did u decode all that, without marrying her? Lucky u

I had to do thought provoking analysis.


Her mum once asked me one of the days I went there "if I am sure I can handle her" thereby leading to more revelations which I appreciated.



I have also had brief experience of such before hers.
After I tried my best for this particular one, she had gut to tell me "certain guys are doing this and that for their babes"

Funny enough, both are so called Christian ladies o.

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