locust:


I do not even know the words to say. However, even if did have anything to say, the little moment I looked at your eyes I became spellbound and felt like i was in a trance. pray for me o,not funny anymore

me too!


not funny at all...

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lol.

Tried hard not to laugh but that meme funny jare. Describes how much I feel about the situation.

I don't think the problem with wooing a lady is much of an introversion thing. One cause is you're likely overthinking the situation which makes you nervous and hence dumbfounded. Of course, the overthinking can be attributed to Introversion though. Another is shyness. Whichever way, do not overthink the situation and don't try to woo a random lady out of the blues. Get to know them first like you would a guy and let things flow from there.

My own problem is that I can't face and talk to crowd or talk to more than five people alone.

Although I'm a shy guy and an introvert too but my shyness is little or nothing to notice, I have overcame it some while ago but I think little of the shyness is still left in me; even though I can walk to a girl and talk to her but I'm not good at keeping conversation flowing and getting her number.

I'm facing a lot of challenges now I don't know how to overcome this problem even to address a crowd and recently I was elected as the president of my faculty although the election was kind of zoned to my department but I emerged the winner without any manifesto but screening was done and I became the president. So the problem now is how I will address the departments under my faculty when we resume because we're presently on holiday.
How embarrassed would it be if a whole faculty president couldn't stand infront of a class to address them
It would be so bad.

Pls I want you guys to assist me because whenever the thought cross my mind, my heart will just vibrate as if it would just bounce out of my chest.

Guys I seriously need a way to overcome this before we fully resume.

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holluikon:
My own problem is that I can't face and talk to crowd or talk to more than five people alone.

Although I'm a shy guy and an introvert too but my shyness is little or nothing to notice, I have overcame it some while ago but I think little of the shyness is still left in me; even though I can walk to a girl and talk to her but I'm not good at keeping conversation flowing and getting her number.

I'm facing a lot of challenges now I don't know how to overcome this problem even to address a crowd and recently I was elected as the president of my faculty although the election was kind of zoned to my department but I emerged the winner without any manifesto but screening was done and I became the president. So the problem now is how I will address the departments under my faculty when we resume because we're presently on holiday.
How embarrassed would it be if a whole faculty president couldn't stand infront of a class to address them
It would be so bad.

Pls I want you guys to assist me because whenever the thought cross my mind, my heart will just vibrate as if it would just bounce out of my chest.

Guys I seriously need a way to overcome this before we fully resume.

Stop feeling like the world is just watching you to see if you make an awkward move and then they laugh at you.

You aren't the center of the planet and everyone has insecurities to deal with.

holluikon:
My own problem is that I can't face and talk to crowd or talk to more than five people alone.

Although I'm a shy guy and an introvert too but my shyness is little or nothing to notice, I have overcame it some while ago but I think little of the shyness is still left in me; even though I can walk to a girl and talk to her but I'm not good at keeping conversation flowing and getting her number.

I'm facing a lot of challenges now I don't know how to overcome this problem even to address a crowd and recently I was elected as the president of my faculty although the election was kind of zoned to my department but I emerged the winner without any manifesto but screening was done and I became the president. So the problem now is how I will address the departments under my faculty when we resume because we're presently on holiday.
How embarrassed would it be if a whole faculty president couldn't stand infront of a class to address them
It would be so bad.

Pls I want you guys to assist me because whenever the thought cross my mind, my heart will just vibrate as if it would just bounce out of my chest.

Guys I seriously need a way to overcome this before we fully resume.

See, you already have the solution to your supposed problem. Noticed the parts of your message I put in bold? Your election as the President will make you address the crowd and when you do, words will come out of your mouth. Maybe not perfect the first time but you will definitely do much better in no time, trust me.

Address the crowd as though you are addressing two or three people. Don't look at their faces, just look a little above their heads. And don't speak too fast. You'll be very fine. In fact, you'll post a message here in two months time telling us you didn't know you could do it as you found it easy.

DonOms:


See, you already have the solution to your supposed problem. Noticed the parts of your message I put in bold? Your election as the President will make you address the crowd and when you do, words will come out of your mouth. Maybe not perfect the first time but you will definitely do much better in no time, trust me.

Address the crowd as though you are addressing two or three people. Don't look at their faces, just look a little above their heads. And don't speak too fast. You'll be very fine. In fact, you'll post a message here in two months time telling us you didn't know you could do it as you found it easy.

Thanks so much; I believe I can do it but I'm very scared to be honest.
Ps: No part of my message is highlighted bold

TechEnthusiast:


Stop feeling like the world is just watching you to see if you make an awkward move and then they laugh at you.

You aren't the center of the planet and everyone has insecurities to deal with.

Thanks bro

holluikon:
My own problem is that I can't face and talk to crowd or talk to more than five people alone.

Although I'm a shy guy and an introvert too but my shyness is little or nothing to notice, I have overcame it some while ago but I think little of the shyness is still left in me; even though I can walk to a girl and talk to her but I'm not good at keeping conversation flowing and getting her number.

I'm facing a lot of challenges now I don't know how to overcome this problem even to address a crowd and recently I was elected as the president of my faculty although the election was kind of zoned to my department but I emerged the winner without any manifesto but screening was done and I became the president. So the problem now is how I will address the departments under my faculty when we resume because we're presently on holiday.
How embarrassed would it be if a whole faculty president couldn't stand infront of a class to address them
It would be so bad.

Pls I want you guys to assist me because whenever the thought cross my mind, my heart will just vibrate as if it would just bounce out of my chest.

Guys I seriously need a way to overcome this before we fully resume.

Take a bold step to that podium with the mentality that you're about to talk to people who are privileged to have you as their leader. Look above the heads with occasional glances at one or two faces as if you were speaking directly to them only. When you take those occasional glances, do it with authority, not minding what the person thinks. Also, pause from time to time, in order to pick your words carefully. End it with words that offer hope and belief to your followers. Then take that bold step down the podium amidst a standing ovation.

GloryIsaac:


Take a bold step to that podium with the mentality that you're about to talk to people who are privileged to have you as their leader. Look above the heads with occasional glances at one or two faces as if you were speaking directly to them only. When you take those occasional glances, do it with authority, not minding what the person thinks. Also, pause from time to time, in order to pick your words carefully. End it with words that offer hope and belief to your followers. Then take that bold step down the podium amidst a standing ovation.

Thanks, that would require a very strong courage to walk up the podium which I don't even have;
I appreciate your advice thanks so much bro

DonOms:
I don't think the problem with wooing a lady is much of an introversion thing. One cause is you're likely overthinking the situation which makes you nervous and hence dumbfounded. Of course, the overthinking can be attributed to Introversion though. Another is shyness. Whichever way, do not overthink the situation and don't try to woo a random lady out of the blues. Get to know them first like you would a guy and let things flow from there.

My only problem with wooing a lady is fear of rejection. And probably my height

DonOms:
I don't think the problem with wooing a lady is much of an introversion thing. One cause is you're likely overthinking the situation which makes you nervous and hence dumbfounded. Of course, the overthinking can be attributed to Introversion though. Another is shyness. Whichever way, do not overthink the situation and don't try to woo a random lady out of the blues. Get to know them first like you would a guy and let things flow from there.

My only problem with wooing a lady is fear of rejection. And probably my height

whillyamz98:


My only problem with wooing a lady is fear of rejection. And probably my height

My only problem with wooing a lady is fear of rejection. And probably my height

We all get some form of rejection at one point or the other in life. So we must learn to deal with it. As a child, your mom denied you that candy; your friend denied you the chance to play with that toy and life denied you the opportunity to keep your primary school friend when going to secondary school. So.... rejection is normal and we must be able to deal with it and accept it when we must.

In fact, some rejections are blessings, not even in disguise. What if that lady with a pretty face is a devil at heart and she rejects you? Should you not sing a song of Thanksgiving? My point is, do not fear rejection - not only is it part of life, it can be a good thing.

As for your height, my brother, it's the same thing I just told you about rejection. See, you need to begin to understand everyone will not love you. It's impossible. While one lady may reject you because you are short, another may accept you because you are industrious (while overlooking the height because she doesn't care). As a matter of fact, if a lady rejects you because of your height, be happy. She is not your own. Because if you were otherwise and she accepts you, she wouldn't have accepted you for who you truly are but for how high you stand.

My advice is this: Never try to ask out a random lady. Any lady who accepts to date you without knowing you will most likely dump you soon or treat you anyhow.
Meet the lady you fancy on neutral grounds. Then as you're getting to know her and she's knowing you, ask her out (Don't listen to all those nonsense talk that, "If you don't act fast you will be 'friendzoned'" ). She will most likely be more inclined to accept you especially if you have seen some some supporting evidence she likes you in return. Godspeed!

Olarewajub:


Now you sound like one of my favorite OAP.. My country people.. Hehehe

Mctoomuch

DonOms:


We all get some form of rejection at one point or the other in life. So we must learn to deal with it. As a child, your mom denied you that candy; your friend denied you the chance to play with that toy and life denied you the opportunity to keep your primary school friend when going to secondary school. So.... rejection is normal and we must be able to deal with it and accept it when we must.

In fact, some rejections are blessings, not even in disguise. What if that lady with a pretty face is a devil at heart and she rejects you? Should you not sing a song of Thanksgiving? My point is, do not fear rejection - not only is it part of life, it can be a good thing.

As for your height, my brother, it's the same thing I just told you about rejection. See, you need to begin to understand everyone will not love you. It's impossible. While one lady may reject you because you are short, another may accept you because you are industrious (while overlooking the height because she doesn't care). As a matter of fact, if a lady rejects you because of your height, be happy. She is not your own. Because if you were otherwise and she accepts you, she wouldn't have accepted you for who you truly are but for how high you stand.

My advice is this: Never try to ask out a random lady. Any lady who accepts to date you without knowing you will most likely dump you soon or treat you anyhow.
Meet the lady you fancy on neutral grounds. Then as you're getting to know her and she's knowing you, ask her out (Don't listen to all those nonsense talk that, "If you don't act fast you will be 'friendzoned'" ). She will most likely be more inclined to accept you especially if you have seen some some supporting evidence she likes you in return. Godspeed!

#Word.

Thanks man!

How do i really get to express myself without talking too much?

holluikon:


Thanks, that would require a very strong courage to walk up the podium which I don't even have;
I appreciate your advice thanks so much bro

Just Do It.

You're Welcome.

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I am an introvert too, a deep one (if you must know), but my issues seems to be the very opposite of yours.... I find it had to let go of friends. We might not really get talking when we see but trust me when we are away, I connect emotionally via social media, esp Instant messaging apps. It has its pros and cons though (cos it is kind of hard cutting off some people that ought to have been cut off long ago).
Let me give you a few tip that works for me.
1. Try to initiate a conversation wit random people you meet during the course of the day. You will be amazed at how a little compliment can make a strangers day. I love to compliment guys when I see them in good suits, and they return the compliment wit a big smile on their face. It in turns makes me happy throughout the day, knowing I made someone happy
. Do not forget to understand that some people could also react in a way you might find offensive, others might know not how to react to you compliment, but don't get discouraged. It is safer to pass a compliment without expecting the other party to respond.
2. Some friendship just Kickstart accidentally. You might be soliloquizing in public and a stranger eavesdrops and booooom, you just discover you get talking. In this case, flow with the dialogue, don't try to withdraw
3. When talking to a strange that is the opposite sex keep one that is very much appealing to you), don't keep on the conversation / friendship wit a hop of it leading to a relationship.... Just keep an open mind.
4. When you finally have a friend you chat with on say whatsapp, ensure u are always bringing a meaningful input into the conversation, and try be the one to respond last. That way, you see the person also reciprocates and before you know it, the dialogue will never end.
5. One last thing..... If you try to start a conversation and the person isn't getting the vibe, it is beat to let the person be cos you might end up looking 'like' a fool, and it will shatter your morale. This then can be transfered by you to another person unknowingly. So if it isn't working out, just let it be.
If there is nothing to say to someone you last communicated with, you can call the person to say hello, or just send a text message and let the person know you just ant to say hello... You will be shocked at how happy the person will be. It could be at that very time the person is passing through a challenge and your "hello" made the person's day. I have issues keeping things short, pls bare with my 'epistle'
I hope I was able to help?


you have been able to help alot
I really do appreciate
Gracias

whillyamz98:
How do i really get to express myself without talking too much?

Sign language and/or microexpressions...?

Just kidding.

I actually don't understand your question. Maybe if others do, they can answer. Or you can try to explain what you actually mean.

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Your post is on point. Communication is definitely important & starting/maintaining it varies from person to person. I love talking especially when we sync but there's always a voice talking to me to moderate contact. There's a fine line between someone always being there to talk/listen and someone being a pest.

About 1 & 3; I once read a quote from a movie I think that says "The best way to get heartbroken is to expect people will do the same thing you'll do for them". It has become my mantra

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ultron12345:
pls someone should help me with advice, this introversion is causing me lonliness. I'm a 200lvl student and I have only 2 friends in my whole faculty, and this is only because we were classmates in secondary school. After spending more than a year, I don't have anyone I talk to apart from them, I will get to the class, and sit down alone and quietly like mumu.... ............. even in my hostel, no friends, it's just the normal greetings, it's either am at school or on in my room, sometimes I spend more than 2 days alone in my room without coming out. If not for our class whatsapp group, I wonder hw I would b getting info giving out of class cos I don't have anyone to call, there was a time I even missed a test because my whatsapp enables phone had a flat battery, and there was no one I could call and no one to call me to inform me of d test....
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Pls, I need advice, I need to make friends, I'm too lonely.

I feel ur pain, but I think u shld try making friends with some of ur sec. Schl frnds, start by just saying hi and try to hang out wit dem once awhile and even try being friendly. Dis style helps me a lot.

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holluikon:
My own problem is that I can't face and talk to crowd or talk to more than five people alone.

Although I'm a shy guy and an introvert too but my shyness is little or nothing to notice, I have overcame it some while ago but I think little of the shyness is still left in me; even though I can walk to a girl and talk to her but I'm not good at keeping conversation flowing and getting her number.

I'm facing a lot of challenges now I don't know how to overcome this problem even to address a crowd and recently I was elected as the president of my faculty although the election was kind of zoned to my department but I emerged the winner without any manifesto but screening was done and I became the president. So the problem now is how I will address the departments under my faculty when we resume because we're presently on holiday.
How embarrassed would it be if a whole faculty president couldn't stand infront of a class to address them
It would be so bad.

Pls I want you guys to assist me because whenever the thought cross my mind, my heart will just vibrate as if it would just bounce out of my chest.

Guys I seriously need a way to overcome this before we fully resume.

elected or appointed

Kingnap:


elected or appointed

I can't call it "appointment" because everything that was needed done was done except the manifesto

Mine...I can't seem to look a guy I like in the eye...which kian gbese is d@? Granted I am introvert but abeg

LadyHeaven:
Mine...I can't seem to look a guy I like in the eye...which kian gbese is d@? Granted I am introvert but abeg

One possible reason you can't look the guy you fancy in the eye is because you haven't come to know him. Although it can be a symptom of shyness too, but Introverts process relationships much slower than extroverts so it's very possible to avoid eye contact because it feels like your personal space is being invaded.
I'm also guessing you love hard once you fall in love so maybe you subconsciously avoid the eye contact to keep yourself in a "safe" zone.

Whichever way, I don't think it's something you should see as gbese though because if you get to know a guy eventually -especially if he checks all your tick boxes, you will feel so relaxed with him that you can stare into his soul all day.

DonOms:


One possible reason you can't look the guy you fancy in the eye is because you haven't come to know him. Although it can be a symptom of shyness too, but Introverts process relationships much slower than extroverts so it's very possible to avoid eye contact because it feels like your personal space is being invaded.
I'm also guessing you love hard once you fall in love so maybe you subconsciously avoid the eye contact to keep yourself in a "safe" zone.

Whichever way, I don't think it's something you should see as gbese though because if you get to know a guy eventually -especially if he checks all your tick boxes, you will feel so relaxed with him that you can stare into his soul all day.

Processing... Love hard? I don't know about that , stare into his soul all day? I would really love that