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Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by GHoJes: 12:24pm On Apr 14, 2018
classc25:
Please my niece acts the same, that is hyperactive her speech is not clear and yes she tip toes and has a bit of cross eyes. Does it means any thing please . She is 7 years.
kingAfo what do you say about this?

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Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by pimper24: 1:00pm On Apr 14, 2018
PurestBoy:
I have 2 boys, Kevin and Alvin, 4 and 1yr old respectively, both were on 6-month exclusive breastfeeding, Had Cow&Gate2 baby formula, Kevin is just too active, he doesn't doesn't even walk at home, he runs even when I take him out (cos he doesn't even play in the compound), he can't stay in a place for 2 minutes except he's watching his favorite cartoon channel GoTv 60, no matter how you beat him he doesn't cry for more than few seconds, he learns too much that he even corrects me his father but the problem is he's too active (I don't want to use the word stubborn). His 11+ mths younger brother is already following his footsteps, their mother shouts and beats Kevin every minute for jumping around in the house like monkey. He even engages in fight with me whenever I want to watch my favorite channels except I beat him thoroughly, he wouldn't allow anyone touch anything that is his. Their mother is fed up and losing weight and she's afraid his Alvin is already acting likewise. I don't know what to do because you can't leave Kevin alone in the house without closed monitoring for a minute else something bad and injurious might happen. All my life, I've never see a kid like my boy, I need advise on what to do, it was worse when he was younger. I don't like beating him like his Mom does but won't have peace at home due to excessive shouting and scolding except he's asleep. Anyone with ideas on how to curtail this?
this is nearly my son's attributes. The difference is that he's just 3. Im now more scared cos I think he would outgrow these at 4. My first, he graduated from friso Gold to Golden morn and likes it like he must take it after any meal. I was advised on this forum not to worry for he's still a child. I'm now wondering if I should stop the Golden morn thing. He has really improved I must confess (I won't deny God of his Glory) after I made it a point of prayers.

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Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by Nobody: 1:13pm On Apr 14, 2018
kense88:
Lol nurse eliza
lol...na so
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by pimper24: 1:23pm On Apr 14, 2018
dabrats:
Unfortunately, you can't diagnose a 4 year old child of ADHD, since he may be displaying a typical behaviour. ADHD Diagnosis starts from 5 years. All the same, reduce sugar intake, and reduce any thing that stimulates the child.
this advise actually strikes a mark and stands out from the rest. The boy is 4. I was also told to take my 3yr old for same evaluation. Please we have to be careful from public opinion.

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Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by OmoAlata1(f): 1:26pm On Apr 14, 2018
Yes I am a very active member of the autism community and I am a member of several autism organization.


ststyreal:

Well, I am talking from experience. Austism is wide, some kids own might be that of loss of speech, echolalic(meaning repetition of words), being hyperactive, meaning they can injure themselves while playing, they are always on the move, they hardly feels pain etc. While some could be social behaviour. My friend, have you ever seen a severe austistic child? Hmmmmm. Any way, I only offered an advice.
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by ottersberger(m): 1:29pm On Apr 14, 2018
drajjay:
Your son probably has ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder). I'll advise you take him to a psychiatrist. ADHD is fairly common especially among males and can be best managed using CBT, family therapy or the use of Ritalin.

OP, please pay close attention to the above contribution.

ADHD is pretty common. That is what we routinely call stubbornness in Nigeria.

ADHD is not a sickness. At worst, it can be described as a life condition.

The exact cause of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) isn't fully understood, although a combination of factors is thought to be responsible.

ADHD tends to run in families and, in most cases, it's thought the genes you inherit from your parents are a significant factor in developing the condition.

Research suggests that both parents and siblings of a child with ADHD are four to five times more likely to have ADHD themselves.

Research also suggests that people with ADHD may have an imbalance in the level of neurotransmitters in the brain, or that these chemicals may not work properly. Dopamine is the prime suspect here.

From a personal experience, let me advise you a bit. DO NOT allow your child to consume beverages that contain caffeine eg. Coke.

Beating or yelling at your child in this instance will be counterproductive. You will groom a violent child for the future.

What an ADHD child needs in his life is lots of love and structure. You need to form a structured life for your child.

This is so because he lacks this ability on his own by nature's design. But, you can and should provide a template that will enable him to learn and store positive behaviors.

Your child needs very clear and concise communication. Talk to him with precision, almost as an adult.

Here in my neck of the woods, ADHD is usually managed by a controlled dosage of methylphenidate eg Ritalin.

You'll have to tinker with various dosages to find the optimum level for your child, and he will usually need to take a half pill every couple of hours if properly managed until the age of 10 or thereabouts.

methylphenidate is administered in the early years to enable a child to learn and store the basic skills and life information that a child requires in the future.

Regular tests to check his liver health should be conducted at periods determined by a physician.

Managed properly, your child should be able to live a healthy and productive adult life.

You may contact me if you need further information

Good luck!

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Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by OmoAlata1(f): 1:29pm On Apr 14, 2018
I am seen enough autism cases that he will be missed diagnosed as an autistic child. Anyway I will recommend his parents take him to a child behavior expert so he can be properly diagnosed. His mom needs to be a little patient. Her excessiveness is only making matter worst.

Otubio:


You were able to rule out Autism and diagnose ADHD from the same write up? You realize the Autism Spectrum is very broad and some of the characteristics are as described by the OP. Only a medical professional can evaluate the child and make that determination.

Also, for the people saying the OP should stop worrying that it is normal. You all realize that he may be witnessing signs that made him come here for ideas? Everyone knows kids can be defiant and overactive but sometimes if you notice things out of the ordinary, it is best to have them checked because EARLY INTERVENTION is key. If there is nothing wrong, no HARM done but if something is wrong and you WAIT and keep saying it is normal, you may regret the decision later in life. Best thing is to have the child checked if the OP suspects anything out of the ordinary.
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by Mira200(f): 1:30pm On Apr 14, 2018
dominique:


I didn't suggest beatings na. I don't support it myself

I need ur help sis
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by dominique(f): 1:53pm On Apr 14, 2018
Mira200:


I need ur help sis

Send me a private message
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by pimper24: 1:54pm On Apr 14, 2018
PurestBoy:
I have 2 boys, Kevin and Alvin, 4 and 1yr old respectively, both were on 6-month exclusive breastfeeding, Had Cow&Gate2 baby formula, Kevin is just too active, he doesn't doesn't even walk at home, he runs even when I take him out (cos he doesn't even play in the compound), he can't stay in a place for 2 minutes except he's watching his favorite cartoon channel GoTv 60, no matter how you beat him he doesn't cry for more than few seconds, he learns too much that he even corrects me his father but the problem is he's too active (I don't want to use the word stubborn). His 11+ mths younger brother is already following his footsteps, their mother shouts and beats Kevin every minute for jumping around in the house like monkey. He even engages in fight with me whenever I want to watch my favorite channels except I beat him thoroughly, he wouldn't allow anyone touch anything that is his. Their mother is fed up and losing weight and she's afraid his Alvin is already acting likewise. I don't know what to do because you can't leave Kevin alone in the house without closed monitoring for a minute else something bad and injurious might happen. All my life, I've never see a kid like my boy, I need advise on what to do, it was worse when he was younger. I don't like beating him like his Mom does but won't have peace at home due to excessive shouting and scolding except he's asleep. Anyone with ideas on how to curtail this?
in my own experience, I have to give you an honest advice, I learnt to thread with caution. The first reason is that this is Nigeria. Second reason, many people shout Autism, ASDH or whatever. No one has given details of how his own child was treated with therapy or drugs. The truth is that Nigerians like giving advise from what they learnt theoretically. Oga, go to God in prayers and/save money and take your family abroad once in a while, there you can actually take time and check stuff like that. Medical practice here is mainly based in speculations diagnosis are most often wrong. I have seen people get wasted on simple issues that can be tackled by mere home remedy. Yes, we pray a lot. There's a reason for that cos almost everything has failed us. The Israelite molded a golden calf as god until a leader surfaced to lead them to God. Let's be wise while in this country and Wait for a messiah that will lead us out of this douldrum
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by KingAfo(m): 1:55pm On Apr 14, 2018
GHoJes:

kingAfo what do you say about this?
Okay, how’s her interaction with people. Does she socialize? She tells you good bye, welcome Aunty, plays with her peers or wants to be left alone?if your is yes, MIGHT be autism. MIGHT

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Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by Mira200(f): 2:01pm On Apr 14, 2018
dominique:


Send me a private message

I asked and took an email address from a friend to open this account, so I can't pchat.

I'm in a big trouble, check my thread, I need advice ma, plz, help me push it to front page, please.
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by KushLyon(m): 2:15pm On Apr 14, 2018
adaksbullet:
Brought him too mine sch on Abeokuta ita oshin grin


He we used just 3 day on mine sch and his live we never be dsame again cheesy grin cheesy grin


U we be glad u are diddid wink wink wink wink wink


We are special on stubborned hyperten childrenses wink wink

Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by justmenoni: 2:19pm On Apr 14, 2018
Op, please try to reduce his intake of sweet foods and snacks/drinks.. Take him on long walks and most importantly get him diagnosed
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by ceelog(m): 2:40pm On Apr 14, 2018
PurestBoy:


Thanks I'll do that, he's left handed and his younger brother has started using his his left hand too and get aggressive whenever you tamper with his toy or whatever he wants to grab
Be encouraged by the personal life of the greatest athlete of modern Era. Follow the medical advice posted here but channel that energy to something he loves.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Michael_Phelps
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by redsun(m): 2:55pm On Apr 14, 2018
Did you say beat him? You don't beat a child for being active,it makes his situation, you have to grow some senses and learn how to manage him without being a typical nigerian-inherently violent. Break the circle and bring up your child interactively and sensibly without having to lash out every time he acts like a child,a child that he is,innocent.

You should probably think twice about all those indomie and sugary drinks you ply him with,if you do.

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Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by stonecoldcafe: 3:42pm On Apr 14, 2018
PurestBoy:
I have 2 boys, Kevin and Alvin, 4 and 1yr old respectively, both were on 6-month exclusive breastfeeding, Had Cow&Gate2 baby formula, Kevin is just too active, he doesn't doesn't even walk at home, he runs even when I take him out (cos he doesn't even play in the compound), he can't stay in a place for 2 minutes except he's watching his favorite cartoon channel GoTv 60, no matter how you beat him he doesn't cry for more than few seconds, he learns too much that he even corrects me his father but the problem is he's too active (I don't want to use the word stubborn). His 11+ mths younger brother is already following his footsteps, their mother shouts and beats Kevin every minute for jumping around in the house like monkey. He even engages in fight with me whenever I want to watch my favorite channels except I beat him thoroughly, he wouldn't allow anyone touch anything that is his. Their mother is fed up and losing weight and she's afraid his Alvin is already acting likewise. I don't know what to do because you can't leave Kevin alone in the house without closed monitoring for a minute else something bad and injurious might happen. All my life, I've never see a kid like my boy, I need advise on what to do, it was worse when he was younger. I don't like beating him like his Mom does but won't have peace at home due to excessive shouting and scolding except he's asleep. Anyone with ideas on how to curtail this?

As kids, we had a neighbor who appeared to bear similar traits to the ones you've raised especially the beating and crying for 2/3 seconds only.
That is the major thing you wrote of that set off an alarm in my head. The child was also very hyperactive and he had a very low concentration span. Sorry to say but personally i never knew if there was a medical condition to it. We grew up and this kid continued to struggle academically and otherwise. He wasn't hyperactive anymore as a teenager/young adult but you could tell he was not growing (intellectually/emotionally and otherwise) at the same pace as his peers. Nigeria is a one kain place. I'm sure if we were in an advanced society, there would have been diagnosis and help for this young man. To at least set him aright from a young age when we began to discover some of these traits.

I pray your case will be different in Jesus name. It may seem like play but i will also take this child to God in prayer if i were you. Also don't neglect medical intervention. God bless. By the way, nothing wrong being left handed. Just my opinion

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Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by Abyima(m): 3:50pm On Apr 14, 2018
use reinforcement and shaping. Reinforce him anytime he puts on a good behavior. I hope this help.
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by horia: 3:59pm On Apr 14, 2018
cynthia1111:
Is good you are in Ibadan, take him to special education department in U.I for diagnosis. For the main time engage him in activities that will make him get tired and sleep. Think of something he can use his energy to do.you can tell him to repeat the activity until he is tired. All the best
you think he would listen? Then, this thread would not have existed.
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by pattybf(f): 5:17pm On Apr 14, 2018
PurestBoy:
I have 2 boys, Kevin and Alvin, 4 and 1yr old respectively, both were on 6-month exclusive breastfeeding, Had Cow&Gate2 baby formula, Kevin is just too active, he doesn't doesn't even walk at home, he runs even when I take him out (cos he doesn't even play in the compound), he can't stay in a place for 2 minutes except he's watching his favorite cartoon channel GoTv 60, no matter how you beat him he doesn't cry for more than few seconds, he learns too much that he even corrects me his father but the problem is he's too active (I don't want to use the word stubborn). His 11+ mths younger brother is already following his footsteps, their mother shouts and beats Kevin every minute for jumping around in the house like monkey. He even engages in fight with me whenever I want to watch my favorite channels except I beat him thoroughly, he wouldn't allow anyone touch anything that is his. Their mother is fed up and losing weight and she's afraid his Alvin is already acting likewise. I don't know what to do because you can't leave Kevin alone in the house without closed monitoring for a minute else something bad and injurious might happen. All my life, I've never see a kid like my boy, I need advise on what to do, it was worse when he was younger. I don't like beating him like his Mom does but won't have peace at home due to excessive shouting and scolding except he's asleep. Anyone with ideas on how to curtail this?


https://www.nairaland.com/2984585/need-handling-son

Welcome to my world sir!

He's 6+ now n still d same. His younger brother is copying everything he does.

But u r d daddy, I expect u will be more strict n instil some fears in him.
I ve learnt to cope wt him that way.
Best of luck to u n madam.
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by tharaomo(f): 5:24pm On Apr 14, 2018
PurestBoy:
I have 2 boys, Kevin and Alvin, 4 and 1yr old respectively, both were on 6-month exclusive breastfeeding, Had Cow&Gate2 baby formula, Kevin is just too active, he doesn't doesn't even walk at home, he runs even when I take him out (cos he doesn't even play in the compound), he can't stay in a place for 2 minutes except he's watching his favorite cartoon channel GoTv 60, no matter how you beat him he doesn't cry for more than few seconds, he learns too much that he even corrects me his father but the problem is he's too active (I don't want to use the word stubborn). His 11+ mths younger brother is already following his footsteps, their mother shouts and beats Kevin every minute for jumping around in the house like monkey. He even engages in fight with me whenever I want to watch my favorite channels except I beat him thoroughly, he wouldn't allow anyone touch anything that is his. Their mother is fed up and losing weight and she's afraid his Alvin is already acting likewise. I don't know what to do because you can't leave Kevin alone in the house without closed monitoring for a minute else something bad and injurious might happen. All my life, I've never see a kid like my boy, I need advise on what to do, it was worse when he was younger. I don't like beating him like his Mom does but won't have peace at home due to excessive shouting and scolding except he's asleep. Anyone with ideas on how to curtail this?
awww...I want boys so bad
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by eyiyemi1: 5:35pm On Apr 14, 2018
ADHD doesn't actually mean a child would get violent and fight(that could be part of his normal attitude). the hyperactivity is laced to many problems, so taking him to the hospital for evaluation is advised...
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by dyangprof(m): 5:50pm On Apr 14, 2018
adaksbullet:
Brought him too mine sch on Abeokuta ita oshin grin


He we used just 3 day on mine sch and his live we never be dsame again cheesy grin cheesy grin


U we be glad u are diddid wink wink wink wink wink


We are special on stubborned hyperten childrenses wink wink

Eewooo, see grammar!
Ya English na die

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Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by Megaideas(f): 5:52pm On Apr 14, 2018
Kevin is most likely, predominantly choleric by temperament and sanguine, secondarily. Get a very good book on Temperament - "Why you act the way you do" or "Spirit controlled temperament" both authored by Tim Lahaye. Study it and know how to handle the boy now that there's still hope.
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by Nobody: 5:52pm On Apr 14, 2018
CaesarDon:
@PurestBoy

Ur son is most likely suffering from ADHD
ADHD is not just a disorder to joke with cos it's effect are lifelong and all round, pls don't treat this with kid gloves
I know this cos my bro has it

1. Let him sleep on time at least 7 hours


2. He should take omega3 fish oil



3. He'd listen to brain wave entertainment



4. Be strict with him with regards to being calm and meditation(this may sound complex 4 his age but realizable)



5. Take more fruits, no sugar, less carbohydrates, no sweetened drinks with aspartame






or....






he could take Aderall from a doctors prescription(lifelong)
Hello. I would like to ask if you know where i can get Adderall here in Nigeria please. Thanks.
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by Megaideas(f): 5:59pm On Apr 14, 2018
Brought him too mine sch on Abeokuta ita oshin grin


He we used just 3 day on mine sch and his live we never be dsame again cheesy grin cheesy grin


U we be glad u are diddid wink wink wink wink wink


We are special on stubborned hyperten childrenses wink wink[/quote]


Hmmm. English grammar ahula ihe. Keduzi ka Onye nkuzi si egbu grammar mma otu a.

If you ask me, I'll tell you that, that so-called school should be closed down permanently; it's not worth it.
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by Priceless200(f): 7:08pm On Apr 14, 2018
Your child probably have ADHD. It signs and other neurological issues might show as he grows. Not trying to frighten you but speaking from facts. Best thing to do now is take him to a government hospital. Fly away from privates, they don't have the power to handle these things.

It's not an abnormal thing, many kids suffer it in Nigeria without knowing and they suffer it. All it needs is management, love, special care and medical care too. Good luck. There's nothing to fear.
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by katyamizotta: 8:03pm On Apr 14, 2018
Looks like ADHD. Get a diagnosis. Cut out sugar. You might want to supplement with magnesium and l- theanine for calm.
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by timsbee(f): 8:59pm On Apr 14, 2018
Whoever made this thread, I say God bless u. For bringing back the sanity in dis forum when I first joined to d extent of old getting old members to comment. Walahi, God buless u kuma.

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Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by pseudomonas: 9:24pm On Apr 14, 2018
Let me state this categorically....absolutely nothing is wrong with your son. You see I have a son and a daughter as well. My son will be 4 by o October will my daughter will be 1 by June. My son is definitely more active than yours (just saying ) he sometimes annoys me. I had to resort to use the cane. While I was concerned like you are and literally complaining, my mum sat me down and told me the story of my life. She said I was much worse and more active and playful than my son at his age. She told me at that time she had to use her wrapper to tie me to either a chair or herself as the case may be.
My point is generally at this age children are mostly active (I know this for a fact coz I have being around and involved with them) and also sometimes it's a trait they inherited from either of the parent. Trust me this is mostly true. It's a phase. Just learn to manage it. How? Engage him. Let him know he's not the only one that needs to watch the TV and know when to watch and allow others to watch and of course discipline him if you have to...
Most times the one of the parent has to be form on the children while the other is mild. If bother are too firm it's not too good and if both are too lenient it's also not the best...My two cents. Pwee

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Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by MOSICATED5(m): 9:26pm On Apr 14, 2018
I think u should reduce the cartoons he watch. They also have negative effect on them. My Nephew almost jumped down for a storey building because of PJ max. Even his concentration in sch dropped until the parents reduced their cartoon watching to only weekends. It wasn't easy bit it was worth it. However I still advice u see a child Therapist since he's already fighting u
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by Nobody: 11:05pm On Apr 14, 2018
I love this.thank u
IamaNigerianGuy:
Children will be children.
The human brain is the fastest growing organ in the body and consumes 20% of its blood supply and 40% of its energy. Young children have to deal with the consequences of a rapidly functioning supercomputer that is not only receiving input but increasing in capacity at the same time.

Many people talking about ADHD here. ADHD is over diagnosed even in the west and one key fact you have mentioned totally rules it out for your kid: he is quiet when watching his favorite cartoons.
Children want to be mentally stimulated. One of the early signs of high intelligence is extraordinary curiosity and energy. The worst thing you can ever do is tie down a curious child to a boring task. If cartoons distract him, give him cartoons for 10 hours a day if need be. Buy him computer games, story books and coloring books. There are hundreds in the market. Teach him to read and write so he can occupy himself. When he is older, offer him treats in exchange for peace and quiet. There needs to be an outlet for his fantastic mental energy and if you do not provide one, it will be channeled into disruption. Fighting with you is an indication that he needs attention and something to preoccupy his mind. An occupied child will not struggle with you for the remote control.

You want to limit sugar on general principles of obesity and nutrition and not because it causes any kind of mental effects. Give the child what normal children eat.

This is the age at which white people take advantage and begin the process of seeking and nurturing genius in kids. Music lessons, art, chess, maths, drawing, reading etc. Search for his passions. My niece was the same way and I taught her the multiplication table from 2 to 9 before she turned 5.
If you suppress their natural curiosity and energy at that age, you will be committing a crime against humanity.

Stop beating the child.

There is nothing wrong with him.

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