You are very normal my guy , over population is one of Nigeria's biggest problem , now everybody cites China as an example when talking about how to manage over population but the same people are lazy and corrupt and as such can't stand to go through the he'll China went through, in fact you are more sane than most people posting prewedding and engagement pictures here .

One time I was in a bar and one guy was boasting about how many kids he has and that one of them must be rich , he even went ahead to break a glass cup to show how he will act when one of his sons become rich, that's when we realized someone else was paying for his beer. I was just angry that his children are as much a liability to Nigeria as him.

You can keep your name in history without children. Just invent a product and put your name on it, 50% of the time your name would be on peoples lips till eternity, as opposed to all this aleye collecting money at every bus stop, they should have been washed away as sperm that would have saved us all the" owoda" we hear at the bus stop everyday.

Moreover think about going into dog breeding , most people are realizing that most people who roam the streets were not supposed to be born, so they buy dogs to keep them in check.

Awesome move.

I support your idea.

If at any time in the future you need a child, baby mama's dont cost much. I think I love that idea.

Ride on, friend.

business4all:
If you were in places like the US where you can be transferred to assisted living facilities for seniors(old people), where they are well being taken care of, that might be okay for you to remain unmarried with no kids for the rest of your life.

But in Nigerian situation, by the time you are old, no matter how much money you have, it will then dawn on you that you should have got married with kids. You don’t want to live in solitude at the ripe age of your life with no one you can call your own that you can talk to. By that time, everyone you know today, your siblings and relations would abandon you because they too would be living the last part of their life. Only your children and your old wife will be all you got.

Even at that, Marriage is not an assurance that your children will take care of you at old age, some people children were married to bad wives who will make their kids neglect them. And again marriage is not an assurance that your wife will see you till your old age.

My advice for OP is to live his life as he wants, don't make any decision that u don't like because it will be you, you and you at the end of the day, another thing is if u are going that part, I'll advise u relocate to a sane country like USA where no one cares or sees marriage as an achievement. There you will live your solitary life in peace with no critics from the Society.

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aaronson:
You normal bro.

Marriage is only a social construct. Love is series of chemical reactions in the brain that compels human to breed. Marriage is just the platform that enables both love and breeding seem moral or legal, Man made this up! No consequences if you breed or love outside of marriage, it's only a personal choice. The only down side of it is you would need somebody to keep you company when you aging. Loneliness causes depression and at that point money would seem irrelevant so, what's the point of having lots of money if one lives a miserable life of solitude? This results to suicide sometimes.

I, typing this is guilty of being introvert and solitude but the internet is my play ground. Trust me, I'm worst because I shut down my Facebook page so nobody I know reaches out to me. Back to your decision.

It's not a bad thing after all, I think the same as you sometimes as well and other times I think otherwise. Reason being, Kids gives people new meaning to live for especially when you married.

You should give credit where credit is due. You clearly lifted this sentence from that cartoon show Rick and Morty.

B4 I got married I had the same feeling



After I got married I still have the same feeling.



My own reason is that I love being left alone. Especially weekends. I don't like parties and you know you lose all these freedom once you get married.



Being Human is sincerely exhausting

AdaAde:
I don't know broda. As for me, I'm just so scared of going into a relationship. Marriage freaks me out.

You are not alone, funny how those who look forward to it fail in it.

Biglittlelois:
Imagine if your dad never met and married your mum, you wont exist, everyone has a destined partner yeah!!! if you go ahead with this, she may be wondering why she is not married!! i pray you meet her soon so that you'll become lovestruck

many people were told that line. 'everyone has a destined partner' yet those marriage we keep hearing of divorces every day.

Is good that you wanted to replace dogs with children. When dogs need children you will give them out for marriage instead of your children and when you die they would represent your kids to bury you. Good luck!

mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?

There is nothing whatsoever wrong with you.
Marriage is not for everybody. Having kids is also often thoughtless and selfish.

mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?

Why invest in dogs when you can invest in a human being??
Dogs die and then what ?? You mourn them then get another one??
The circle continues until you're aged and emotionally worn out...you're not always going to be the way you are now
There's someone out there for you, your soulmate that you can share your thoughts with, that'll understand you even before you say anything...you just only have to open up your heart to find her.

franchasng:
I know a lot of guys doing well financially who don't desire to marry but having kids, they so wish they could have their own kids right away, but hearing your own case; u don't want to get married and u don't want to have kids, ah that's not okay.

Bro kids are so lovely; whenever I see cute 2 - 5yr old kids I just wish to have one , so I am shocked u don't feel same.

But then reading through your post, I noticed that why u feel this way is due to financial handicap. Trust me, once u start earning good steady income, your mindset will change especially about having kids.

As for getting married, many guys of today are loosing interest in getting married sha, God will help us.

But bros money no be all o, loneliness can kill....I am not rich but by Gods grace I am doing okay but I live alone in a somewhat spacious apartment, I have basic things of life every young man dream of but guess what Loneliness wan finish me, kai....all siblings are on their own, no relative to visit or stay with me, most true close friends are either out of the country, married or far away.

Sometimes I sit at my sitting room without putting on any electronics as I keep wondering what life is all about.

I pray God continue to hold me so I don't lose my sanity one day due to loneliness.

Morning - 5pm is usually sweet for me, but once I set my foot into my apartment, everywhere is dry empty, no noise, nobody to talk to, nobody to welcome u, jeez...its scary. If its this scary at my young age, imagine if I was old and approaching say 70yrs and this lonely, mhen no matter how rich u are, u may commit suicide.

So my brother op, think again o....giving birth is very vital and getting married is also good for company and friendship and having steady person to talk to when bored.

Mhen life is vanity; some have money but no friends or company, some have good company but no money while some lack both....and some are sick but have plenty money, others are healthy but so poor, sighs

If not for internet and social media platforms and forums like this eh, we would have been hearing of so many suicide stories for no justifiable reason but loneliness

Import babes now

caprini1:
I used to think I was the coolest and hardest dude around ,until I had my daughter,nothing is sweeter ,nothing is comparable , absolutely nothing is near the joy of her cute eyes and cute little voice ,calling you " my daddy"....nothing bro , absolutely nothing.

You've said all that the op needs to hear.

Biglittlelois:



I do

Rev fathers' females nkọ? Where are they?

tragergeorge:
Not at all bro,,,,having same thoughts too,the only reason people keep bringing up is kids,,,or who gonna care for you wen u aging, that's bullshit ,even right now bringing kids into this sinful world full of struggles and hardship is kinda like wickedness to me,there loads of kids out there who need to be taken care of,both kids of family friends neighbours, orphans a lot,

Exactly my thought. On days like this when i work into the midnight just to make ends meet, i think about the future once in a while. What you wrote here is what im still considering.

You are very normal.

Marriages are not what it used to be anymore

Fitbillionairep:

your reason is financial. if your reason was because u dont want to bring in innocent children to face the world hardship, i will understand.

If he hasn't money and don't see it coming in, in droves, bringing in kids is bringing innocent children to face world hardship. What are you saying?

@op you are not alone.

Diso60090:





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Philpham:
Op, you are nothing but an impotent g.ayy olosho. Don't jazzy crew

Kai! Ka chi durun uwarka!

Now I'm feeling for your dogs.. Believe it or not, you'd soon begin to sleep with your dogs.

No one is born ga.y or lesbian, there are no born rapists either. Environments eventually dictate who we are, how we behave and what we perceive as normal. People embrace same sex relationship because of environmental factors. Ga.y men were not born to burst ars..es, they just refused to have enough affairs with the opposite sex.

You don't desire marriage because you were probably not raised in a proper home; you don't have married folks as friends; I also feel you don't have nephews and nieces around you.

Your actions and choices today are a reflection of your environment. A time will come when you'll start perceiving man-dog relationship as ideal. Same people telling you to go ahead, "no shaking", "it is your life" will end up insulting you for going against the "norm" and "society".

Why do you think herdsmen love their cow more than fellow humans? They have absolutely the same brain content, the only difference is environmental factors. We all insult them and call them names for refusing to follow the norm. They've spent a larger part of their lives with their animals, they're always alone with animals, sometimes months in rainforest, yet we expect them to reason like us. Go and check the number of a.bo.kis in Lagos sleeping with ram, goats, cow, etc. These guys have the same brain contents. Environment makes the difference bro, environment eventually shapes a new normal.

While it may be proper to go against that norm, the consequences aren't always pleasant especially when you're ill prepared to face them. There are no government sponsored homes for the aged in Nigeria, remember? The money you think you have can disappear in your mid-60s when your cv becomes very useless in the labour market. By the time you realize what it means to have a family, it might be too late to start one.

blackaxe78:


Dude is a kid

Am 100% certain. Still earning allowance and in bad company

Or a miserable life he can't get out of.

Earn money has a man and you imagine a young one.

Trust me, I am more fortunate than you. And I refuse to be miserable so therefore I'm doing just fine.

Absolutely!
You are completely normal and fine.

jaxxy:
Mhd5757 I was in agreement with ur post till i saw ur reasons being money to spend on a wife and kids. Are u telling me u want to remain on one financial level tru out ur life? Like no Ambition or wat? So u will rather feed dogs. Lol dats not normal at all. If u had said vos if the drama and all i will understand and agree uts better to be single than tolerate all manner of drama and nagging.

Money will be made irrespective of marriage cos thats the main objective to be useful to urself and others.

So u guess if u became a billionaire 2moro u wud change ur mind quick and get married rite? Lol

Hell no! So that she will be eating all my money ba?

gr8tone:
But do you love sex?

Ofcource I do but I'm not dependant on it like others, I can stay for long periods of time without having any intercourse.

mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?

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While I share your nọ marriage no kids thought, i don't share your reasons.

I don't want to get married myself. I love kids, I love them so much that even though I am single, my house is filled with them and the thought of the coming long vacation is kinda scary because more will come. I hope to adopt kids, say, one or two when I get to late 30s and concentrate on giving her or them the best I can afford.

As for sex, I can always get that with no strings attached

Your main problem is plutophobia, fear of losing money, you feed your dogs? You take them to see the vet? You bath them, cmon replicate that with children that will bear your name when you die, no happiness is greater than having someone that's calls you daddy, instead of dogs that will bark your life away, mofo

kennygee:
It is normal. But Nigerians will roast you, your parents especially.

Is it normal to love a cow more than a fellow human being?

greatman247:
Yes very normal, especially in proper clime, but over here our society see it as abnormal.

Yes, that's because over there, your neighbors can always take you to a home for the aged by the time you're down and inactive. Mind you, there is a 911 to call and a standby paramedics to check you in your home if anything goes wrong, e.g. a broken leg or arm.

Who are you gonna call to get you drugs when you're down and unable to walk or drive? Your semen or the baby mama that's probably gyrating on another man's bed? There is something about living with someone for 20, 25 years. Unless you're a terrible person yourself, she'll always watch your back and have your interest at heart.