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Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by 8stargeneral: 3:42pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
....menh d joke was too expensive, hw could u call ur fiancee ur cousin, let assume she tell someone that ur her bros u will run mad, I pray she comes back to u but never u try such. |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by Holocene(m): 3:43pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
Lol....you ain't sorry for nothing.... You only sorry because you got caught.... Forget the babe and move on with your life 3 Likes |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by Nat404: 3:46pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
QueenSekxy:LOL, your English is damn good. You sounded like a no-nonsense chick. |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by essenceplus: 3:47pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
K |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by Olawrites: 3:47pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
AntiBrutus: U again |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by Plebian(f): 3:48pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
my sincere advise bro, give her time, no contact, no call, no messages. go ghost mode, you pestering her will make her want to punish you, so you feel the gravity of losing her, with time she'll come around two weeks top, if you don't pester her walahi she no go fit sleep. |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by Stillthebest: 3:49pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
Cheating isn't good when your partner is loyal. But you are a weak man... Just explain to her and apologise. If she leaves she had wanted to leave. |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by Feyang: 3:50pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
Please nairalanda I need 3 k today very urgent this is my account no 0013539273 gtbank thanks |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by Nobody: 3:51pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
ibkayee:Yes, talk about utter disrespect: lying to females that he's single and searching and telling them she's his cousin. The only reason he created the thread is b|c she found out/he got caught. She should think very carefully before proceeding with him. Once she forgives him and they're on good terms again and they get married, he'll go back to his cheating ways and she'll be the one to create a thread next year on Nairaland: "HELP! MY HUSBAND KEEPS CHATTING AND FLIRTING WITH DIFFERENT GIRLS". There was a thread three weeks ago in Family of a similar nature. 3 Likes |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by Harpan: 3:52pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
Like someone said, you're sorry because you got caught. The truth... If you had the physical opportunity with those women you flirt with, it would have moved from Fun to Real. Give her space. But the truth is, even if she forgives you, she'll never forget it and it will always hit her from time to time. "Who knows who he's flirting with now". We don't forget these things. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by HMarshal(m): 3:52pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
Be smart, if you engaged (dating or extra dating) & want to "cheat" avoid fone chats, form the habit of clearing if you do,never save thier numb,& get another small fone (wich you have to always remove the sim & ba3 wheneva she is around).wew! Shit is stressful! Why cheat if she wife material sef Supportive & sound upstairs ,Nice character,fine or cute,cooks well, bleeps well , open to crazy adventures ... 1 Like |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by Benwise: 3:53pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
jy2kbeyond:you deserve some accolades.. |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by smogup: 3:54pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
HARDDON:Harddon Baba� 1 Like |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by backwardneva: 3:55pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
I'm sure if she had done the same to you flirting as u claimed you may not forgive her.The deed is done.Sending both family members to beg& she did not reconsider her stand calls for second thought.My brother you can't do more than that.Give her time& call her later,if she insist forge ahead.Many wife material out there.Aiye o pa re. |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by IAMBlesssed(f): 3:56pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
Ezeego1: @Ezeego1, I didn't mock him.I told him the bitter truth. If he wasn't caught he would keep deceiving those girls and definitely sleep with them and even boast about it. Not minding that the emotional wreckage this has on our girls in the society. I don't care about the flirty chats but must he lie that he is not in a committed relationship? What was the reason behind the lies?Just to get them to take him serious, if possible leave their relationship. That's wickedness.This nonsense has become a norm in Nigerian society. So many men (and some women) deny their partners even their children for whatever thing they want to gain.. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by luvyaself95(m): 3:56pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
tlurdy:She don plan for you before you plan for her... 1 Like |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by mudiana(m): 3:57pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
Kapello8:em catch me too but I lucky cos I no claim single. So I still have my babe for now. Thank God oh! 1 Like |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by Onyi22(f): 3:57pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
Foolish guy, u were lying to other ladies that she is ur cousin, that's the same way u will lie to ladies that u r single when u r already married with kids I pray she doesn't come back, a cheat will always be a cheat.... Thunder fire u there 5 Likes |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by DonMekino(m): 3:57pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
are u sorry bcoz you been caught? |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by skyhighweb(m): 3:58pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
HEFAIROHLUWA:plzzz oh have dey married ni Nd secondly am not taking anything wanna beg on his befull |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by Samanza89: 3:59pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
funshint: You've said it all... Kudos!.. |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by IceColdVeins(m): 4:00pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
Dear Op, Ain't you just a jerk? just like many of us out here though. I can empathize with you as I deeply understand that men might still love to put their charm and sex appeal to test by passively hitting on other ladies even while they have a partner already. My girlfriend once stumbled upon a chat that revealed me fixing an adulterated-rendezvous with an old 'friend with benefit' of mine, funny as it sounds, I was only flirting and had no plan to even set my eyes on the lady. The part where you denied your gf is a bit twisted though, but its still forgivable. Now op, here is the catch! you learnt your lessons apparently, this is not the time to start hitting her phone and relaying your boring love messages. Rather, this is moment for you to sit down, re-organize and launch your 'operation get my girl back', code name 'time'. Firstly, you need to give her some time or maybe lots of time, size down your calls and quit sending messages(wont really work)....if you know her whereabouts, quite fortunate for you but if you don't, you need to by all means have full info on her bearings. Then, plan to pay her an unexpected warm visit, she might not be very welcoming but you need to really take things slowly cos your integrity had already been dilapidated and it will be herculean for her to trust your words or actions at that moment, dont forget to get her gifts that she would fancy AFTER you have been welcomed and not before you are welcomed. Repeat the visits haphazardly and not persistently, then apologize and let her know your future plans with her again, lastly give her access to your phone and stop your cheating ways..make her trust you again. I'm tired of typing... lol Dont forget it will take time for her to heal...My write up is not as easy as it seems but time solves all jigsaw puzzles. 4 Likes |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by Fhowe: 4:00pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
ReeLoaDead:Abi ? my advice to the op better focus on your life and your goals ,stop calling and texting all the time , once or twice a day is to show you are sorry but don't over push it .Now op i don't wanna hurt how you feel but i think you should use this opportunity to set a new dimension in your relationship what happened to "no checking of each others phones" ? You must always find something there or things that will make you assume in the wrong direction .op most of the ladies out there not yet married have atleast 3 to 4 sex mates even when they are in a serious relationship this might just be a case of reverse physcology for her to go run her shows so you need to observe carefully also but dont over do it and make wrong assumptions . 2 Likes |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by giddy10(m): 4:01pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
Leave everything to time, stop all the struggle to get her back now, she will only develop hatred for u if u continue. Give her time to ponder on the whole thing and self heal, learn to act as if u too are no longer interested in the relationship again; that's a risky way of getting her to fall in love with you again. That's manly, that's what makes a woman falls for man. Good luck. 1 Like |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by SammyTJack: 4:01pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
Its not your fault. Happens to every man at some point in his life. |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by dingbang(m): 4:01pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
AntiBrutus:lmao...I tell you..the same men cheating are castigating him. well, you know what they say, a person is innocent until proven guilty. In the game of cheating, it's a crime to get caught and he is paying for his sins 3 Likes |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by femi4: 4:02pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
Kapello8:tell her you will commit suicide |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by Fhowe: 4:08pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
Op sorry but it should not be this serious ,did she catch you on top of any woman ? this is what too much telemundo,zee world ,africa magic epicc,show case causes ,when i was home for the holidays and i watched some of the movies and soaps many of them send women on the wrong part pele she will come around |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by djon78(m): 4:08pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
You are still a kid You already had your woman and was still flirting and saying she is your cousin You got caught And you are now crying and begging Dude you have a lot of growing up to do That lady may not look your side again You had no respect for her It may not work out BTW you guys again Learn your lesson Grow up If you want to flirt keep on But if you want something serious Be serious minded Mature Use this as a learning curve Improve on yourself to better yourself Not just because of a woman If you work on yourself You may end up with someone better than her Cheers 4 Likes |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by Ten06(m): 4:10pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
She did not truly love you before, she was just leading you on |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by Ezeego1(m): 4:10pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
IAMBlesssed: OK. I got your point, you sound morally upright... I guess you're married. |
Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by Kwinesther: 4:10pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
Why are these nairaland guys like this? See hypocrisy in all their comments, she is not ready to settle to down yet, she didn't love him in the first place but she didn't react that way when she hasn't found out the guy is cheating. The Op even described how wonderful the lady is yet these nairaland guys are still saying she isn't really in love. Hmmm nawa ooo If it was a girl that was caught in this same act I know what you guys would have said. You guys are just all same!!! If she accepts the guy and he repeats such nonsense you guys will still blame her for being stupid for accepting him saying she is a fool not to know once a cheat is always a cheat. The guy is not serious and committed for saying he's single and calling the lady his cousin. I will advise the girl to think very well before taking you back because you may repeat such once again, you don't really deserve her. But all the same, give her enough time to think it through you might be lucky to have her back 7 Likes 1 Share |
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