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Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by capnies: 2:14pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
If you have the resources to help then continue blessings awaits you and your kids. Why not train the man on a trade some people become lazy when they have a ready made HOPE |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by foolbuster: 2:15pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
Biglittlelois: Continue laughing at your ignorance. Please go look for your kind. |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by Biglittlelois(f): 2:20pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
foolbuster: Lol you will be fine 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by uniqueogo(f): 2:20pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
J111333: i am in the same situation but kinda different because in my case it's my sister if not for her husband i wouldn't have written waec cus my mom was so broke we didn't even have anything to eat at that point in time now my advice to you, if God has left in a position to help do help them but don't displease your self in the process, don't be stupid and neglect your own needs and responsibility because of them. find a particular amount that wont affect your budget and pay to them every month end after you have received your salary if you are a salary earner or after you have done your account at the end of the month if you are self employed and after that give a deaf ear to every other pleas from them until the next month end of course its gonna be hard but you have to learn how to say NO AND MAINTAIN IT . this will help them manage and budget every funds they receive and even make them have a rethink about how they spend cash and also lessen your burden sorry that i quoted you i just needed to make sure you see this cus i believe it will go a long way for you 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by Cannicus: 2:26pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
Plead: I dont remember ever dragging girlfriend(s) or even boyfriend(s) with you. |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by EasternPrince: 2:40pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
midnighter: This wh.ore stop mistaking me for your useless father. I'm not him please.
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Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by frozen70(f): 2:41pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
Biingoo: Yes i agree, if you have an uncle or aunt that breeds like rabbits and hoping on you to cater for their family, go ahead and carry their liabilities leave yours Don't stop helping them continue until you get to the stage of collapsing Mugu 7 Likes |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by Paulo3ree(m): 2:47pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
Locate a hotspot, partner her in setting up a restaurant or business centre. This requires good sum of money though, employ anyone else that disturbs you for money under her/business from their certainly they will discover themselves with time. 1 Like
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Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by tafat: 2:49pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
hmmmm, thats all i can say for now sha |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by Nobody: 2:52pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
Paulo3ree: They will not discover shit. If you don't have flair for business, you don't have flair for business. You will watch your money disappear |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by bossvinqualad25(m): 2:53pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
Lie from the pit of hell nollywood script we don hear you |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by mamatwiny(f): 2:56pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
As brother dey abroad naa. You will be surprised they are even living better than you. I once had an aunty like that. She would lie all the lie in this world including painting others black just to get money from our aunty in USA then. When she put to bed her second baby, I went to help her as grandma couldn't go. Her hubby paid hospital bills, bought provisions and the rest. I was so shocked when she told my aunty on phone that she has not been discharged from hospital cos hubby cannot pay hospital bill. She charged this aunt of mine (her elder sis) over 200k for hospital bill as her baby was treated jaundice before they were discharged .This was over 15years agooo. Sometimes, we believe money grows in trees abroad and are not considerate when tasking our family. My advice would be, if you can, file papers for the husband, let him go and hussle for his family and see how easy it is.That way you will not feel guilty of anything. If he feels he can take care of ten kids with his hussle, it is his decision. 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by Awoleesu(m): 2:58pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
Are you married? Do you have your own kids? If your answer is "No/Not yet" please cease now! Truth is if you keep setting others, you may never be settled yourself! BTW, Omo you hammer oh! 10 Holy M Naira! ... Trust me, if you know what that can do, you would have invested it in a way that by now will be taking care of them and you! You for no need this post at all! But, if you still have the capacity to raise that kind of amount now, and you are not sure what to invest it in, you can send me a private message... I'll guide FOC! - seriously! 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by UjuJoan2: 2:58pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
J111333: You obviously don't have a family of your own. If you can't say NO to them, keep giving then . . It's just money, not blood! 3 Likes |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by healthserve(m): 3:00pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
UjuJoan2: UjuJoan how is family. Where have you been oh. E be like say your comments Don dey scare with style You and Yewandequeen |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by Funkybabee(f): 3:02pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
some people have luck but always refused to appreciate it.. so funny is that if u stop to help them, another grace will still open for them.. that's God imaginable way. 10mil oga ooo |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by nlPoster: 3:02pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
zone51: The story makes sense now. The OP or whoever this is about, might be abroad and sending euros, not being there to actually monitor the money. Of course who wouldn't be religious and have many kids when N10 million is comfortably coming in. Cant really blame them. Its answer to prayer. 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by dazzlingd(m): 3:03pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
J111333: Stop this madness before u become a slave....you are not helping them if you don't let them face their responsibilities. Pls focus on your family before u regret in future. 4 Likes |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by coldFLARES1(m): 3:05pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
J111333:I have a favorite cousin whose works of kindness and benevolence actually surpasses yours. He got seriously burdened one day that he asked for my advice. I told him: Bros, I love you but do you think those fellas you are absolutely responsible for will die if you either become incapacitated or deliberately refrain from living your life for them? That was years ago. Now my fv bros os retired and not much of the people he did all manner of good deeds for have died following his seeming lack of capacity to play at that level he used to roll. When you choose to be largely responsible for a supposedly educated adult human, you kill his creativity. I would have stopped the moment they went ahead with birthing a fifth child they obviously had no means to take care of. Summarily, please stop being their breadwinner so they can think for themselves By then your favourite cousin could sign on to welfare support from the church that makes her take life less seriously while her husband could become level-headed to find a practical business that would make him play his role. Please note that these same people are not obligated to helping should tides turn against you. Then again, these people would ask what you did with all your money when you run into tough times, God forbid! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by UjuJoan2: 3:09pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
healthserve: My dear we are chasing the money na. Xmas is around the corner you know Thanks for looking out for me. |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by Ehmpire: 3:09pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
Open an account in your own name nd give de one u wanna help de Atm card...... Xo u can give him money anytime |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by sholay2011(m): 3:10pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
ornicus: I don't know why but the emboldened broke my heart. 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by Paulo3ree(m): 3:10pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
ornicus:He has to justify himself before leaving her(remember the topic/op) But that flair of a thing just reminds me of something
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Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by Biingoo: 3:14pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
frozen70:Home breaker common gerrarahia ! |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by egopersonified(f): 3:17pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
if you want to survive by making your own money, you can do that. if you want to survive by living off others, it is also possible. the choice is ours to make. |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by Nobody: 3:19pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
sholay2011: I agree, and like I said my old man poured serious money. The kind that later, when money no too dey flow you will look back and grit your teeth at the waste. On top of that the woman hated me as well. I did my it in lagos and stayed in the house. My dad was sending money to feed me, and you should have seen the stew, one part stew, three parts water. After a while I just stopped eating her food. Her grandkids were staying in the house and she started poisoning those ones minds against me. Was telling them I would beat them. They were still young and they told me. He daughter had five kids total. That one is another long story |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by sholay2011(m): 3:23pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
ornicus:Ah...the woman sef sha. Yeah, I didn't mean you dad didn't try. Like you said, many of us are hard-wired in certain ways that it takes grace to change for good. 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by Yewandequeen(f): 3:26pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
healthserve:Awwww I have been around ooo. No mind me na work load hook me. Thanks for checking on moi. How are you and family? |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by xbox360: 3:43pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
My bro may God bless you, don't ever think of quitting ohhh. God has destined you to help them, but I can assure you reward for this can even be gotten by even your unborn generation or down lines Bro you no know wetin tomorrow go born ohhh, those their children somehow can turn around to help your own children |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by iLegendd(m): 3:43pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
It's good to have principle — it has saved me a lot. One on my principles is: don't help parents with more than 4 kids. Allow them to suffer. All these parents know is sex and more children even when they are aware they have no source of income. Pure wickedness. Starting your life with principles from the beginning is way better than cruising life with rules, warning, and boundaries. 4 Likes |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by ikwedim(m): 3:45pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
Continue helping ooooo. Don't stop because those kids might be the one to help you tomorrow. |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by xbox360: 3:47pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
My bro may God bless you, don't ever think of quitting ohhh. God has destined you to help them, but I can assure you reward for this can even be gotten by even your unborn generation or down lines Bro you no know wetin tomorrow go born ohhh, those their children somehow can turn around to help your own children don't look down on any one |
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