Hey guys, moving straight to the point, there's this girl I really really like, we are coursemates in school and we just recently started talking in 300 level. I've noticed (even before we started talking) that she's the shy type.

She barely talks to anyone in class and for that reason most people thinks she's a snub, including me, before we started talking but in all sincerity, she ain't, 'cause I asked her about and she said she's chronically shy, that she didn't have and make a lot of friends growing up.

How we first got talking was through WhatsApp, she wished me a happy birthday and from there, we became friends, always teasing each other and all those normal banter. The thing there is overtime, I've grown to really like this girl alot, she's funny, smart and beautiful- very BEAUTIFUL in case I didn't mention that and I've sensed that she's grown fond of me too and during our recent holiday/vacation. We kept calling each other on phone and she "playfully" told me that she's in love with me and that I should do so that we can get married, when I asked her if she meant what she said, she asserted that she was just joking, so I let it slide.

Fast forward to yesterday 13th, she called me 9 times and so I wasn't with my phone but when I got back I saw the missed calls and immediately called her back, she berated me for not picking her calls but I explained the situation and she understood, then while talking she asked me what I'm getting her for valentine, I wasn't expecting that but asked what she wanted but she somehow dodged the question.

So initially, I had already planned with some of my guys and our individual girls, we intend to go to the beach today, I had already told a female friend of mine, that I'd like for us to go to the beach, she agreed and everything was set, so when this my other female friend(course mate) now mentioned valentine, I started thinking of how to ask her to go with me, 'cause initially I didn't ask her because I wasn't sure if she'd agree to go with me due to her anti social nature.

I called her later in the evening (yesterday) and told her about it and asked if she could go with me, she instantly said no without giving it a seconds thought, I asked what's the reason for that, she gave a flimsy excuse, saying that she doesn't like the beach, that we can go somewhere else but the beach, I tried convincing her and in the process she gave another excuse that the place is far even though I already told her of how we've had everything planned and covered including transportation.

I saw that she wasn't ready and I said goodbye and cut the call, now I'm soo distraught because all my guys and their girls are currently at the beach having fun and I'm here on my bed, telling my story to total strangers and to make matters I can't even ask the previous girl to go with me again, 'cause I already cancelled so I could go with that my course mate, now it's a lose lose for me.

I've decided not to call or talk to her until further notice, 'cause she really let me down or what do you guys think? I mean who in their right senses don't like the beach

Sorry for the long story.

If I'm you, I won't do anything with that girl again..

you are doing yourself...she already gave you an alternative but seems u not smart enough to decide, instead of you to think of other places aside the beach, like cinema, Eatery or somewhere I don't know, you are here complaining....smhw...

She declined you and u are busy posting
If she agree and u bang puna u go post?

Dammnnn

Serves you right man, you got it all set with another babe and you went far begging another one to be your liability and you're sad cuz she turned it down.

E de surprise me ah swear how some niqqaz are weaker than a spider web with girls matter when girls full everywhere. Nnnna man

Do nothing... I'm all here with myself in my house doing literally nothing.. Valentine wasn't made for all of us.

Brother, I'll be straight with you because I'm not used to making people feel good....

You're a fool

You have a girl who likes you and all, and you know she's extremely shy to the extent people call her a snob, and then you invite her to the beach and she says no. Note that she didn't say no to you, she said no to the beach outing and even told you anywhere else but the beach. Which shows that she wants to spend time with you.

But sadly, you put friends above her and now you're crying about how lonely you are? Pathetic.

The answer is there in your message. She's the shy type and cant handle being amidst all those coming along.

Your alternative would have been to fix an appointment that involves just you and her. Dont lose this girl due to your obvious lack of sharpness.

Today is not the best time to ask questions like this on nairaland. we have many frustrated single peeps

And get her that valentine gift.

But she already asked you take her somewhere else.
She just wanted a private outing for both of you.
Its a gradual thing, she ll get use to your friends later.
Get up, give her a call and take her out at least for a drink.
She must be expecting your call by now.

Chai, my kind of girl.

You're mad.
Very mad.
Very very very mad.




Thank you.

Romeo3:
Brother, I'll be straight with you because I'm not used to making people feel good....

You're a fool

You have a girl who likes you and all, and you know she's extremely shy to the extent people call her a snob, and then you invite her to the beach and she says no. Note that she didn't say no to you, she said no to the beach outing and even told you anywhere else but the beach. Which shows that she wants to spend time with you.

But sadly, you put friends above her and now you're crying about how lonely you are? Pathetic.

Baba eazy na, you can pass your message across without being rude.

phlamesG:


Baba eazy na, you can pass your message across without being rude.

Thats not rudeness... I called you what you are.... A fool.

Catalyst4real:
The answer is there in your message. She's the shy type and cant handle being amidst all those coming along.

Your alternative would have been to fix an appointment that involves just you and her. Dont lose this girl due to your obvious lack of sharpness.

Today is not the best time to ask questions like this on nairaland. we have many frustrated single peeps

And get her that valentine gift.

Thanks man, you're a real G
This is how to pass across a message, no insults, no slander.

Romeo3:
Thats not rudeness... I called you what you are.... A fool.

Bro I ain't the cause of your frustration in life, why do have to take it out on me?

Chill G, if money is your problem send me your acct details...

phlamesG:


Bro I ain't the cause of your frustration in life, why do have to take it out on me?

Chill G, if money is your problem send me your acct details...

See this fool. How much do you have?

Go spend it on your miserable self crying over a girl.

czarr:
You're mad.
Very mad.
Very very very mad.




Thank you.

Lmao. No time wasting straight to the point nigga

If she doesn't like the beach, then u change location na.
She already told you that she can go anywhere else except the beach.
What's your own sef?
Giving yourself unnecessary stress.

OP. Let me advice you as a brother. Be very careful of those girls you term 'shy'. Its too easy for such people to use your head, and you'll be there thinking 'oh its because she's just shy, let me give her another chance'.

You're the man in this relationship, and i think you're spending the resources and have a plan set. Don't let anyone make you feel guilty. She could have suggested another place instead, but she didn't. She could have bought you a present, but she didn't. Forget the 'i love you', that's simple manipulation 101 to soften your heart, before asking what she wants. I guarantee you wouldn't have gained anything from her. She's the one to benefit more.

Also, I think you should'nt contact her again for a relationship. Just greet her casually when you see her in school.

Tip: Remember if she breaks your heart, you'll never recover till you graduate since you'll see her in school everyday.