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Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by ufotty2001: 3:59pm On Dec 22, 2020
Rrex99:
I hv never seen a jobless man having true love. Everything is bore to financial stability before thinking of a marriage.
true.. Financial freedom is just the key
Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by Nobody: 4:00pm On Dec 22, 2020

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Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by emmaodet: 4:10pm On Dec 22, 2020
Basiljoe:

A perfect definition of how the feminine hypergamous brain works; most of you want to eat your cake and have it, you want a rich man to take care of you after your whoring phase is over, stupid Leech. How can you call a simp a real man if you're not foolish.

grin
Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by emmaodet: 4:17pm On Dec 22, 2020
ednut1:
lol naso. In our fathers time. If they employ 50 people. 47 will be men while women will be 3. Those guys easily married. But now na 25 men 25 women. Which is not a bad thing. But women should learn to adjust. If you are the breadwinner you no go die

Gbam!!!!!!!
And for every woman you see employed, there is equal amount of men displaced for her to get the job.
So where will these men go? Create jobs and money out of thin air? Because they are spirits?
Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by Nobody: 4:17pm On Dec 22, 2020
Foolishmasses:
My brother, the topic is not about people marrying every weekend or not. What has been the outcome of the marriage on the partners? Do you know how many men of marriageable age that doesn't want to venture into that ? And it will keep getting worse because of we have decline in morals, ethics and values.save this word, in twenty years time, ladies cum women will kill to have a husband because it won't be about social pressure then , rather , a way out of financial captivity.


You have enough time quoting that Fooo.ool........

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Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by Splitmind: 4:28pm On Dec 22, 2020
Gerrard59:


I like your post about women being realistic esp about the economic situation in Nigeria but for most posters to say people (men and women) aren't getting married is entirely false. As it's, almost all of my female classmates (secondary school and university) have gotten married in Nigeria. Notwithstanding the economic crises and Covid-19, people within my circle have gotten married this year than previous years. So when Nairalanders opine that people aren't getting married, I find it amusing.

First how old are you and what is the income range of your circle?
Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by Asapchris(m): 4:29pm On Dec 22, 2020
Because no matter how to take care of a woman, she still going to cheat. in fact, she might bring a bastard child for you to raise

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Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by anungangampu: 4:30pm On Dec 22, 2020
Fiscus105:



In fact you nailed it at exact point, and that is why they jump from one guy to another dick.

They dnt think twice before they abandon relationships this day. Just like man does.

Few years back, you will hear that a lady will tell you where will she starts from? Having realised she had gone far with the guy. But now only dangling of cash, money that new guy might not spend for her, she abandons already established relationship, I witnessed several such relationships in recent time and it always bring premium tear for the lady.


Some girls abandoned already established relationship just because one guy she just met online, has promised heaven and earth without meeting her physically, she will be give attitude for main guy and become frustrated.

Very correct

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Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by DOnlooker(m): 4:34pm On Dec 22, 2020
That CWO president is talking trash. When you ask parents to concentrate on the education of their Male children, what happens then to the female ones? And such a suggestion comes from a woman who should be an advocate for girl education. The key is to bear as much offspring as you can take care of so you will be able to give ALL your children quality education irrespective of gender. An educated man will most likely seek for an educated lady to date or marry.
Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by Nwaotu10(m): 4:35pm On Dec 22, 2020
MGTOW comes to mind!


Who marriage help? I'm 48, still single with 3 kids.

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Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by authority2006(m): 4:50pm On Dec 22, 2020
Any lady who knows that it's getting late for her and the prospect of getting married to a single guy is not there should consider a polygamous arrangement. It's constitutional, it's African and has basis in Islam, Christianity and traditional religions.

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Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by Happy2020: 4:51pm On Dec 22, 2020
Why would a Nigerian man want to marry a liability? Makes no sense at all.
Nigerian women need to change their attitude and actually bring something to the table instead of waiting for a man to do everything. It’s archaic thinking and needs to change.
A man is not a poverty alleviation plan.

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Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by Nobody: 4:51pm On Dec 22, 2020
DropsMic:
Guys don wise
Yeaaaa

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Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by Nobody: 4:53pm On Dec 22, 2020
Happy2020:
Why would a Nigerian man want to marry a liability? Makes no sense at all.
Nigerian women need to change their attitude and actually bring something to the table instead of waiting for a man to do everything. It’s archaic thinking and needs to change.
A man is not a poverty alleviation plan.
The FUNNY THING is that a Lady who does nothing gossips more, attracts problems and makes the loudest noise, because if she has got a job that keeps her busy she wouldn't be engaging in such.

IF a JOBLESS LADY can be proud to have a List and preference of MEN despite her joblessness, please gainfully employed Guys should also be able to draw their list of preference too.

Please, GUYS wise up

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Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by pansophist(m): 4:55pm On Dec 22, 2020
DexterousOne:


I wont advise any woman to marry a man who makes 30 grand though
Especially in Lagos

All I advise is for the ladies to have REALISTIC expectations

If I would define marriage in a few words, I would say that '

'Marriage is an institution where two individual ties the rope of their existence together, to alleviate the suffering of life.

The idea that people should not get married because they earn whatever amount is flawed, though, I can understand the line of thinking it is coming from. It is easy for two people to live on sixty thousand nairas for example (each spouse earning thirty thousand naira), than for one person to live alone with thirty thousand. Because the same room that one person will live in, can accommodate two people, food will not be wasted, and you have someone to count on, free necessary labour (such as domestic duties, errands) =, and many more that is hardly achieved by one person.

The idea that one has to make a lot of money to settle down is good, but what about losing your wealth after marriage, what will become of such a couple? What if they both encounter life difficulties such as sickness, losing mobility, and more? such formula is not sustainable. The will to be a good partner is superior to the will to have lots of money.

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Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by DexterousOne(m): 4:59pm On Dec 22, 2020
pansophist:


If I would define marriage in a few words, I would say that '

'Marriage is an institution where two individual ties the rope of their existence together, to alleviate the suffering of life.

The idea that people should not get married because they earn whatever amount is flawed, though, I can understand the line of thinking it is coming from. It is easy for two people to live on sixty thousand nairas for example (each spouse earning thirty thousand naira), than for one person to live alone with thirty thousand. Because the same room that one person will live in, can accommodate two people, food will not be wasted, and you have someone to count on, free necessary labour (such as domestic duties, errands) =, and many more that is hardly achieved by one person.

The idea that one has to make a lot of money to settle down is good, but what about losing your wealth after marriage, what will become of such a couple? What if they both encounter life difficulties such as sickness, losing mobility, and more? such formula is not sustainable. The will to be a good partner is superior to the will to have lots of money.

Okay....
I see
But read my second paragraph again

REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS
This above is the basis

I stand by it
A man making N30k has no business getting married
He needs to improve his situation at least
Both parties getting into marriage with realistic salaries/income is more workable

N30k can't do crap in Lagos

At the same time
Looking for a man making N20m annually is NOT REALISTIC
Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by Fiscus105(m): 5:13pm On Dec 22, 2020
CalliDora1:


Who is talking about genger equality here?

Gender equality is the giant destroying relationship and marriage
Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by Nobody: 5:20pm On Dec 22, 2020
Fiscus105:


Gender equality is the giant destroying relationship and marriage

That's for those who are ignorant of God's word. God has made man the head and nothing can change that. Not even westernization or civilization.

Any woman claiming gender equality is going against God's word and will bear the brunt.

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Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by GeneralPula: 5:48pm On Dec 22, 2020
madridsta007:


Marriages and economic growth are directly proportional, especially in Conservative African societies.
The more middle-class growth, the more marriages.
Low middle-class growth, less marriages.
This should be very simple.

Let me break it down:

The Middle-Class man, lets say a pilot, gets married and employs a Night-Guard to guard his house. The Night-Guard makes some money from that employment and then marries. More marriages means, more jobs for photographers, event planners, etc. These guys make money and then marries.... Friendships that lead to marriages are formed in a wedding. Everything stems from that middle-class population. Reduce it, as Buhari, Tinubu and APC has done and you will gradually affect marriages. That is why I pity women who think their problem is spiritual. Most times, it isnt. Again, follow the economics.

In Nigeria's North, more insecurity and instability means less marriage. The bachelor is thinking about surviving and staying alive than marriage. There are many research studies that links low marriage rate to the existence of civil unrest, wars, etc.

I'm very surprised that people were voting for Buhari's Change in 2015 and Next Level in 2019 and were not thinking that the economic recession he came with wont affect your chances of marriages. Africans can be very foolish.
The man you want to marry is thinking about surviving economically and not being a burden to a woman and her people.
Again, this is common sense.


Mtcheew..

And someone was even saying this one has sense..

Shey nah 2015 husband become to dey scare abi nah 2015 women start to dey show their evil ways?
Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by Ryan03(f): 6:12pm On Dec 22, 2020
papiforreal:
Poverty and unemployment. Boys don reach 35 no solid source of income and boys no wan marry base on Insha Allah
you don talk am finish. I barely earn 50k monthly, same as my girl. She refused for us to marry this yr o. She don't want her kids to suffer lipsrsealed she insist we both up our games before thinking of marriage. Nobody wants to marry with the "he go better" mindset anymore

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Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by lexy2014: 7:06pm On Dec 22, 2020
Rrex99:
I hv never seen a jobless man having true love. Everything is bore to financial stability before thinking of a marriage.

If u have never seen, doesn't mean it doesn't happen
Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by Nobody: 7:43pm On Dec 22, 2020
With animals like these growing in high numbers instead of brilliant and decent inventors, marriage will be extinct very soon.

They can have all the bobrisky f@ggots they want.

Good riddance to bad rubbish.

Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by Akuruoulo(m): 7:44pm On Dec 22, 2020
Hathor5:

I weep for your generation.
Why including his generation ?
Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by Youngzedd(m): 8:02pm On Dec 22, 2020
OcVoice:


Marriage is still attractive to those who value marriage. People are getting married steady. Infact a lot of people tied the knots even in this covid


What's in for a man in marriage that he can't get outside marriage



See attached image.

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Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by Youngzedd(m): 8:06pm On Dec 22, 2020
wisdomiskey:
Husbands are scarce because wives are scarce.

Women became Instagram thots/slay queens, so men became purchasers/patronizers of psleeves.

It's fair game in my opinion undecided

When the milk is free, WTF are you doing with the cow

Coach Grey Adams' student, I sight you.

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Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by Draught: 8:15pm On Dec 22, 2020
...

The truth is bitter regardless of however you want to sugarcoat it..

This However goes both ways cus a good wife is also hard to find..

That being said.. Most males are now realizing that honestly apart from procreation.. There's really no advantage in marriage..

Incase y'all don't know Males are polygamous in nature due to their high testosterone levels.. And even in lower animals a male is considered successful when not only does he beat the odds to survive to adulthood but also pass on his genes to offsprings..

But Because of human beings higher intellectual capacity.. We have deduced a principle called love which really doesn't exist.. No matter what relationship you have with another gender, both sexes are benefiting in one way or the other from such relationship.. We are naturally SELFISH!!!

In the next century, I can bet you that marriage will look so alien.. We are all getting wiser every day to our detriment but also to our good but unfortunately some of our societal norms will get eroded and this has nothing do with the world is ending or the whites are colonizing our culture..

It's because as a human being we keep growing in knowledge everyday..

Feminism, Masculinism, Misandry, Misogyny, Homosexuality will dominate in the next 50 years from now..

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Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by deltateam: 8:27pm On Dec 22, 2020
DexterousOne:

To be very honest
I dont know

But like I said before
A man making N30k shouldn't be thinking much of settling down

He should be unmarried abi?



You try.
Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by MyPicsSaysItall: 8:27pm On Dec 22, 2020
Sonnobax15:
undecided. Thread like this can never change me from marrying in two years time from now.

Marriage na beautiful thing when you've got the right partner....
Same here
Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by Oceanfield: 8:35pm On Dec 22, 2020
[quote author=Raph3177 post=97323127][/quote]

This is just the truth.
Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by DexterousOne(m): 8:39pm On Dec 22, 2020
deltateam:


He should be unmarried abi?



You try.
Well...
Sentiments aside
Any man earning that kind of money (especially if you are a Nigerian from the south, I know northerners roll differently sometimes) and want to know what it means to be in hell fire
He should try getting married
And maybe have a kid just thereafter

You will know something
I'm not so old or so buoyant
But I have been pestered for financial aid...
From some married men who refused to use their brain
And now have responsibilities
When their hands cant carry them

They plenty for this Lagos
Sentiments aside
The man should strive towards being better

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Re: Why Husbands Have Become Scarce - Blueprint by wisdomiskey(m): 8:39pm On Dec 22, 2020
Youngzedd:


When the milk is free, WTF are you doing with the cow

Coach Grey Adams' student, I sight you.

Fellow #FreeAgent. I salute!

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