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Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Princessogaraya(f): 5:46am On Mar 16, 2021
odinson1:
It is Because Nigerian girls are Useless...All of them

including your mother and sister
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by 001spice: 5:47am On Mar 16, 2021
Ardar.honestly i pity a being like u.with all the words u type down here it clearly so u r a lazy brainless fellow and ur types r the ones liking the trash you just post. So to be a modern couple you must not support you partner financially when the needs arise.na wao i wonder the kind of home u were brought up from.with this trash u wrote i wat to think that it either u r stupid or u r a fool bt it obvious u r both. Enjoy ur foolishness
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Raph3177(m): 5:47am On Mar 16, 2021
Jaqenhghar:


See who is calling someone toddler. SMH. Na you dey find you will nanny you and na you dey call someone toddler.
Oh man this toddler pls go to mummy your brain is under developed u need her breast milk to boost your brain power so u can begin to understand simple sentences u clearly lack understanding pls go to mummy young man and stop embarrassing yourself further
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Princessogaraya(f): 5:48am On Mar 16, 2021
Ardar:
The day Nigerian mails stop been foolish is the day all the water bodies on this earth dries up.

You can not eat your cake and have it. If you want to be a traditional man be a traditional man to the last and if you what to be modern then be modern to the core.

You want your wife to bring part of her income into the house while you don't help her with the house chores and at the same time demand maximum respect and submission from her. You want to mix all the benefits of having a traditional and modern marriage for yourselves all the while maintaining the traditional mode of marriage for your wives.

I am sorry but women are humans not remote controlled robots.


Abi ooo, all those foolish men here in nairaland always talk nonsense, thinking they are wise
insulting Nigeria women but forgot that it is Nigeria woman that bring them into this world.
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by 001spice: 5:50am On Mar 16, 2021
chiommy123:
She is saving it for the raining day na
raining days keel una there. Rubbish
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Princessogaraya(f): 5:53am On Mar 16, 2021
Stockquality:
They re all useless girls. I have spent for a lady,sent for a lady,cooked,done every but still she remained adamant,like 3 diff girls o. They are all wired to be promiscuous,lazy,greedy,arrogant and fromnpoor background. I dated the rich,that one was super arrogant, money conscious ad social media freak. Its been 7months now I never sex any gal. My ex who realised I loved her in 2015 suddenly started calling me and said she even bought gifts forme during val. On the D day I off my phone,can't go back to my vomit. During their prime,they won't use their head and study life,its from one guy to the other,Then by age 30,lady already looking like 45,desperate to settle down,by age 35,no hope. I hate majority of naja ladies and I wish ritualsts ca reduce ther numbers. They are ungrateful and would mock u in disguise.

including every woman in your family are useless too
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Princessogaraya(f): 5:55am On Mar 16, 2021
AwesomeStormy00:


How can we stop this? How can couple or ladies put an end to this habit. Yeah girls, women wife need to be look after but it shouldn't be at the expense of going broke working 2, 3 jobs to survived.

If you love your husband and your nuclear family it is better you support him to the end and for men dont treat your mrs bad, dont disrespect her by cheating on her. Help her with house chores, cooking, cleaning etc full housewive job is harder than full time job trust me.

Sad to say some African men cheat on their wife, they keep concubines etc that's bad our girls are hard working and industrious and if they bring all their positive vibes to their marriage the sky will be a starting point


God bless you bro
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by sisisioge: 6:06am On Mar 16, 2021
Well, we were indoctrinated to think it was the man's job to provide everything relating to money by our mothers, them by their mother....but now that we've seen the economic reality of our lives, you would barely see a reasonable woman think it's all a man's job. Remember, women have mostly broken the glass ceilings which means we are earning just as much or more...why not contribute? In most cases, it cant even be helped.
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Jaqenhghar: 6:26am On Mar 16, 2021
Raph3177:

Oh man this toddler pls go to mummy your brain is under developed u need her breast milk to boost your brain power so u can begin to understand simple sentences u clearly lack understanding pls go to mummy young man and stop embarrassing yourself further
Keep saying the same ol'shít. Toddler this toddler that. Can you get any more boring

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Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Jaqenhghar: 6:28am On Mar 16, 2021
Kebbiprince:

Don't think everyone is like your worthless and incapable father, check well no be your papa born u bc your mama played away match

Oya you don score point. Feel better now?

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Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by tammyf: 6:45am On Mar 16, 2021
RisenPhoenix1:
How everyone manages to miss the fact that this thread is fundamentally feminist at its core, is amazing. Even so-called red pillers seem to be supporting the op.

Men are men. Their role in the home is to provide. Women are women, their role in the home is logistic. If a family is not doing well financially, it is always the man who is incompetent at his duties and solely to blame; and no wife is obliged to take up that responsibility from him. This is why the man has always possessed the authority. Authority only comes with responsibility. If you abdicate your responsibility as a man, be ready to also abdicate your authority. Your wife becomes co-leader. Only a feminist will preach this type of blurring of gender roles.

What is next after shamefully making women work full time and still expecting them to be good wives at home? Are we going to start forcing our children to work as well, so that we can live up to our neighbour's lifestyle expectations? Will men not become even more useless in the house when each person is feeding him/herself?

This is why no man could answer directly when a woman on another thread asked what it was that men bring to the table in a marriage. Men are effectively being rendered useless; with their own vociferous consent. Please go and take up your duties as men and stop blaming women for your financial shortcomings.
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RisenPhoenix1:
How everyone manages to miss the fact that this thread is fundamentally feminist at its core, is amazing. Even so-called red pillers seem to be supporting the op.

Men are men. Their role in the home is to provide. Women are women, their role in the home is logistic. If a family is not doing well financially, it is always the man who is incompetent at his duties and solely to blame; and no wife is obliged to take up that responsibility from him. This is why the man has always possessed the authority. Authority only comes with responsibility. If you abdicate your responsibility as a man, be ready to also abdicate your authority. Your wife becomes co-leader. Only a feminist will preach this type of blurring of gender roles.

What is next after shamefully making women work full time and still expecting them to be good wives at home? Are we going to start forcing our children to work as well, so that we can live up to our neighbour's lifestyle expectations? Will men not become even more useless in the house when each person is feeding him/herself?

This is why no man could answer directly when a woman on another thread asked what it was that men bring to the table in a marriage. Men are effectively being rendered useless; with their own vociferous consent. Please go and take up your duties as men and stop blaming women for your financial shortcomings.
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RisenPhoenix1:
How everyone manages to miss the fact that this thread is fundamentally feminist at its core, is amazing. Even so-called red pillers seem to be supporting the op.

Men are men. Their role in the home is to provide. Women are women, their role in the home is logistic. If a family is not doing well financially, it is always the man who is incompetent at his duties and solely to blame; and no wife is obliged to take up that responsibility from him. This is why the man has always possessed the authority. Authority only comes with responsibility. If you abdicate your responsibility as a man, be ready to also abdicate your authority. Your wife becomes co-leader. Only a feminist will preach this type of blurring of gender roles.

What is next after shamefully making women work full time and still expecting them to be good wives at home? Are we going to start forcing our children to work as well, so that we can live up to our neighbour's lifestyle expectations? Will men not become even more useless in the house when each person is feeding him/herself?

This is why no man could answer directly when a woman on another thread asked what it was that men bring to the table in a marriage. Men are effectively being rendered useless; with their own vociferous consent. Please go and take up your duties as men and stop blaming women for your financial shortcomings.


and wat happens when u take up ur duty as a man yet d woman doesnt ....full of hate and insultive...wat happens den
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Bennysam: 6:46am On Mar 16, 2021
Ardar:
The day Nigerian mails stop been foolish is the day all the water bodies on this earth dries up.

You can not eat your cake and have it. If you want to be a traditional man be a traditional man to the last and if you what to be modern then be modern to the core.

You want your wife to bring part of her income into the house while you don't help her with the house chores and at the same time demand maximum respect and submission from her. You want to mix all the benefits of having a traditional and modern marriage for yourselves all the while maintaining the traditional mode of marriage for your wives.

I am sorry but women are humans not remote controlled robots.

This is the most stupid comment I have ever read on NL
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Blackdisciple(m): 6:47am On Mar 16, 2021
Kriss216:
Stay away from Nigerian girls and avoid threads like this.

100%
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Offpoint1: 6:57am On Mar 16, 2021
franchasng:
But my wife is so beautiful like a water goddess and she still have sense, as in big sense and gives me joy and peace of mind.



She makes me so relaxed that I feel like marrying 2nd and 3rd wives cos I never knew marriage will be this sweet haven read and heard so many bad tales of married people cheesy



My point is, bad character has nothing to do with being beautiful, though physical beauty makes some ladies abi girls to develop horrible character and personality which affects their life negatively at the end.


In all these, guys are to blame.

They ignore a lot of vital signs during dating and courtship in the name of love and out of youthful exuberance.


Many guys also get carried away by sex and forget their sense of reasoning.


During my single days, I dated girls I knew I would never marry even if it's for free with extra gifts lol. But what I do is to be at full alert and end it sharply as it started without giving her any reason.


Even though you are Hot and need vagina to cool off as a guy, you shouldn't forget your senses and drown inside the red sea.


Some girls are only good for one night stand sadly cry, and you must be at alert and protect yourself fully if you must dive.


Some girls are only good as far from home runs, never allow them know your house, keep them far. Even some are only good for chop and clean mouth like Dbanj and 2face does. But some guys will develop love and start full relationship with marriage in view with any girl that crosses their path, no standard, no dream, no vision, no plan, anything goes angry
Unfortunately your wife is the last of kind, you're one lucky son of a bxxchgringrin

Son guys are equally senseless, they let the female gate of hell control them...before they're back to their senses, it's already too late.
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Nobody: 7:06am On Mar 16, 2021
001spice:
Ardar.honestly i pity a being like u.with all the words u type down here it clearly so u r a lazy brainless fellow and ur types r the ones liking the trash you just post. So to be a modern couple you must not support you partner financially when the needs arise.na wao i wonder the kind of home u were brought up from.with this trash u wrote i wat to think that it either u r stupid or u r a fool bt it obvious u r both. Enjoy ur foolishness

As lazy and as brainless as your entire family members right? I won't be surprised if you can't even hold a basic conversion with me without fumbling.

I am not against supporting my spouse but I won't do it at my own expense especially if my spouse leans towards the traditional side get that into that thick skull of yours.

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Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by 1miccza: 7:11am On Mar 16, 2021
Nazgul:
I've said this severally and I'll keep saying it, any girl you're dating and claim to love, who can't bring out her money to buy you gifts or grant you urgent financial relief whenever called upon.

If you love your destiny as a man, stay away from such girls, cos if you marry them claiming love, you'll spend every penny of your life feeding, clothing and housing them, without her reciprocating your efforts. And as if that's not enough, you'll suffer miserably once your finances goes south, cos she'll mock you and call you unprintable degrading names.

I've witnessed such incident (my late uncle who died last year during the lock down) so I know exactly what I'm saying. If your girlfriend doesn't spend her money on you, or you can't point out a single gift she used her money to purchase for you, please don't marry her. It's for your own good.


Oil dey your head abeg, these are the type of girls that we now have everywhere the ones that will jump on to you for 1k5
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Dalil8: 7:20am On Mar 16, 2021
knowhowk:
Work Hard ,Find a Surrogate mother ,Sign an agreement to carry baby/ Babies for you at least two ,Further your contract with her to take care of them till 2 to 3 years ,when they have started Schools ,Work hard to build a good home ,Hire a house Help and a good cook ,U can pay a good school with good environment to have them in the school till you close .Later move them to boarding school .Enjoy your life and stay away from Wife/ Woman Palava

I keep saying this.

You can get a surrogate mother for as low as 500k here in Naija or $10k in some eastern european, asian countries.
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Kebbiprince: 7:47am On Mar 16, 2021
Offpoint1:

Unfortunately your wife is the last of kind, you're one lucky son of a bxxchgringrin

Son guys are equally senseless, they let the female gate of hell control them...before they're back to their senses, it's already too late.
Well we would have taking you more seriously if u were married and acting it, unfortunately you're a single girl who hasn't entered marriage yet
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Offpoint1: 7:53am On Mar 16, 2021
Kebbiprince:

Well we would have taking you more seriously if u were married and acting it, unfortunately you're a single girl who hasn't entered marriage yet
I don't need to be married, relationship is enough to draw my conclusions from, life experiences is enough to draw my conclusions from.
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Kebbiprince: 7:55am On Mar 16, 2021
Offpoint1:

I don't need to be married, relationship is enough to draw my conclusions from, life experiences is enough to draw my conclusions from.
Ooh, this is your second handle, what happened to the Ardar? Atleast I'm enjoying the convo with u. But u have to understand the fact that real life experience is different from imagination, that's the truth. I bet you will act differently is you were married
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by MightyHand(m): 7:59am On Mar 16, 2021
SanctifiedSista:
don't be like that.. all it takes is time and maturity grin

Time: after the man clock 75 a bi
Maturity: after the woman enter menopause a bi...

Is better Nigerian girls change this bad attitude now or never
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by donogaga(m): 8:03am On Mar 16, 2021
Kriss216:
Stay away from Nigerian girls and avoid threads like this.

Stop giving bad advise bro.

If we stay away from them, who is gonna marry them?
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by UkBalesNig(f): 8:05am On Mar 16, 2021
This is so wrong. Women help your husbands so they can live long.

Please, check my signature
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Spectrum22: 8:10am On Mar 16, 2021
[quote author=Nazgul post=99882411]I've said this severally and I'll keep saying it, any girl you're dating and claim to love, who can't bring out her money to buy you gifts or grant you urgent financial relief whenever called upon.

If you love your destiny as a man, stay away from such girls, cos if you marry them claiming love, you'll spend every penny of your life feeding, clothing and housing them, without her reciprocating your efforts. And as if that's not enough, you'll suffer miserably once your finances goes south, cos she'll mock you and call you unprintable degrading names.

I've witnessed such incident (my late uncle who died last year during the lock down) so I know exactly what I'm saying. If your girlfriend doesn't spend her money on you, or you can't point out a single gift she used her money to purchase for you, please don't marry her. It's for your own good.[/quote

Bringing out their money during courtship is not a guarantee that they will do same when you get married. These women can do anything to lure men into that trap called marriage. Speaking from experience.
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Nobody: 8:11am On Mar 16, 2021
Ardar:
The day Nigerian mails stop been foolish is the day all the water bodies on this earth dries up.

You can not eat your cake and have it. If you want to be a traditional man be a traditional man to the last and if you what to be modern then be modern to the core.

You want your wife to bring part of her income into the house while you don't help her with the house chores and at the same time demand maximum respect and submission from her. You want to mix all the benefits of having a traditional and modern marriage for yourselves all the while maintaining the traditional mode of marriage for your wives.

I am sorry but women are humans not remote controlled robots.

Modified: I knew this comment will rile up some mails here but I stand by what i wrote. Some one just asked me if its a man's job to do the house chores but now am asking is it a woman's job to provide for the family? This is what I mean by mails trying so hard to eat their cakes and have it.

You undervalue the essence of cooking, cleaning and taking care of the children while holding your purpose as a husband to high importance, that's why some mails talk about how women live longer than men because of all the work and blah blah (which by the way is all total B.S) while intentionally forgetting the fact that there are women to who lose their lives due to stress and depression.

If you want your wife to contribute to the home financially whether 50:50, 60:40 etc then you'll have to EQUALLY help her in the house work, if you can't do that then you're a shitty husband.

Mails? Or males? Not once, not twice.
You go school like this?
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Offpoint1: 8:15am On Mar 16, 2021
Kebbiprince:

Ooh, this is your second handle, what happened to the Ardar? Atleast I'm enjoying the convo with u. But u have to understand the fact that real life experience is different from imagination, that's the truth. I bet you will act differently is you were married
Which ardar?
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by milann: 8:18am On Mar 16, 2021
yom2:
that is naija scenerio for u. Most of the relationship s are selfishly .manipated by d female.. Meanwhile 90% of Nigerian female are wired like this.. I be seen several couples fight and eventually break up because of this female selfishness excessive sense of entitlement.. I have seen one case where the husband travelled out for urgent business transaction for 2 weeks.. Within that period NEPA came unexpectedly to disconnect d building for a bill of 30k which the wife can conveniently pay. She's a lawyer in top position in a bank and also runs a large fashion factory of her own which the husband even contributed in setting up for her. But she can not cover up for her husband when he is not around.. Its OK for her and d 2 kids to be in darkness for some days till her husband returns.. That sparked off a quarrel when her husband came back cos she does not contribute to any maintenance in d house
woe betide a dependent wife
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Wealthprosper: 8:19am On Mar 16, 2021
Stockquality:
They re all useless girls. I have spent for a lady,sent for a lady,cooked,done every but still she remained adamant,like 3 diff girls o. They are all wired to be promiscuous,lazy,greedy,arrogant and fromnpoor background. I dated the rich,that one was super arrogant, money conscious ad social media freak. Its been 7months now I never sex any gal. My ex who realised I loved her in 2015 suddenly started calling me and said she even bought gifts forme during val. On the D day I off my phone,can't go back to my vomit. During their prime,they won't use their head and study life,its from one guy to the other,Then by age 30,lady already looking like 45,desperate to settle down,by age 35,no hope. I hate majority of naja ladies and I wish ritualsts ca reduce ther numbers. They are ungrateful and would mock u in disguise.

You spoke my mind
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Hassanmaye(m): 8:23am On Mar 16, 2021
Nazgul:
I've said this severally and I'll keep saying it, any girl you're dating and claim to love, who can't bring out her money to buy you gifts or grant you urgent financial relief whenever called upon.

If you love your destiny as a man, stay away from such girls, cos if you marry them claiming love, you'll spend every penny of your life feeding, clothing and housing them, without her reciprocating your efforts. And as if that's not enough, you'll suffer miserably once your finances goes south, cos she'll mock you and call you unprintable degrading names.

I've witnessed such incident (my late uncle who died last year during the lock down) so I know exactly what I'm saying. If your girlfriend doesn't spend her money on you, or you can't point out a single gift she used her money to purchase for you, please don't marry her. It's for your own good.
Thanks I will take this advice serious

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Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Hassanmaye(m): 8:24am On Mar 16, 2021
Belafonte:


This mentality isn't unique to Nigerian women
Are you serious??
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by Raph3177(m): 8:28am On Mar 16, 2021
Jaqenhghar:

Keep saying the same ol'shít. Toddler this toddler that. Can you get any more boring
U are now sounding like a girl lol pls tell me u are a girl ?
Lol
Re: His Money Is Ours And Her Money Is Hers- A Selfish Statement by milann: 8:35am On Mar 16, 2021
Princessogaraya:


Abi ooo, all those foolish men here in nairaland always talk nonsense, thinking they are wise
insulting Nigeria women but forgot that it is Nigeria woman that bring them into this world.
you are missing the point. Why are women so entitled to a man's money when they can use their own.

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