For God's sake you beat her twice! why should she have anything to do with you?!. She probably used her pastor as an excuse, knowing fully well that you would probably beat her again if she said the truth, potential wife-beater. That's what is happening in your own situation, deal with your anger dude!.

Move on, her loss. . . . She should better marry the pastor

sexkillz: I don't allow thieves predict my future. . .

u shd b mindful of ur coment to God's anointd man

Hello no....dont listen to their confused predictions...Most lie about it.. For, what? only them and God knows

But wait o....poster, if u had actually raised your hands to beat your loving babe? Then sorry, its not her pastor that says she should lay off you..It was either her common sense or her mum or probably relative that warned her against marrying a wife beater. A man who raises his hands to beat a girl, no matter what will surely become a wife beater and God help such woman , later in life...if she marries him...work on yurself , dude.

pheesayor: everyone here is getting it wrong here except baldman . true prophets do exist however, they won't tell you who to marry. you simply consult the prophet about who you are about to marry, the prophet then fasts and prays mostly for three days after which you'll be told if you are compatible with your partner or not.

my point here is the prophet is not to tell you who to marry but simply tell you if the person you want to marry is compatible with you. if yes the future will be good and if no,the there might be future disaster.

my case study here is an uncle of mine who was warned not to marry his wife but he was so in love and went ahead to marry her,immediately after the marriage he lost his job, 12 years later they have three kids but he's practically living off the rent his mum collects from their fathers houses. don't get me wrong he's not a lazy person but he was so in love that he discarded prophecy and he's paying for it. a person once loved by all is now being avoided.

I'm in similar case too and i have the choice whether to listen or be stubborn like my uncle, time will tell

[size=15pt]This a blatant lie! Either you marry the right person or not. Life is not fair, It will ALWAYS throw challenges at you either you like it or not![/size]

alaoeri: Op she's just using pastor as an excuse, another person don feature in the film.

Abi

who knows d degree of injuries n bruises u wud av inflicted on d lady b4 she freed hersef from ur defective behaviour

i dont think d prophet predicted life partner for her,she already had u,but was only counseled and adviced on d qualities of a good husband,- i.e he should not be a wife batterer n beater, she only heeded advice.
u've beaten a lady u're married to twice,wen u finally marry her nko?mtscheeew!
i wud advice u to take a course on ANM 101 - Anger Management.

WhyAWhy:

[size=15pt]This a blatant lie! Either you marry the right person or not. Life is not fair, It will ALWAYS throw challenges at you either you like it or not![/size]

chose to believe what you wish,i cited a real life experience of someone very close to me, so i know what I'm saying

@OP:

I feel compelled to come back and share my experience with you on this issue because of the nonsense some people are posting here. I have been in your shoes before and this is how I resolved it.

When I wanted to start preparation for marriage with my my one-time fiancee some 3yrs ago, my mother went to her church to pray about it and her pastor said she should tell me to run. At that time, my mum has only met my fiancee once or twice and she was ok with her. So when she came back with the "run" report, I was confounded and I rejected it and refused to talk to my mum for 2 - 3months.

Pastors in my church don't see vision and hardly prophecy on issues like this. But way back in the University, I had a friend who is now a Pastor who once gave me a prophecy that came to pass exactly as he said it. So I went to him to assist me in prayers. We fasted and prayed together for 3 days. After the 3rd day, he gave a bombshell that corroborated my mum's story and even told me more. He went further to tell me that I was yet to meet my wife. I went home disappointed because the lady in question was "my everything". I couldn't sum up courage to tell her until some 6months after.

Today, I'm happily married and I thank God everyday for those God used to stop me from a disastrous future. When I met my wife, I got to know the difference both spiritually and physically. I thought I had seen it all with the other lady but my wife is exceedingly better in everything.

Sometimes, what we earnestly desire is not what we need. Pray God to open your eyes. And I'm not saying that Pastor is right, but please go and seek God's guidance on your own and maybe get a vibrant and praying Pastor to pray with you. Marriage is a spiritual institution, approach it spiritually. Some people neglected warnings and have sad tales to tell.

nzenze2: I have been in a very fruitful relationship with my girlfriend for the past 5yrs...she has been the best in everything,very special and a huge blessing to me and my loved ones...

We started having problems late 2010 and it degenerated into something last year...to the extent that i have beaten her twice...with the help of my family members and friends i was able o win her back and we started dating again.

I proposed to her in june this year and she accepted,now she returned my ring last 3weeks with the excuse that her mom's pastor told her that i am not her destined husband...i have been soo devastated and emotionally down. I have sent gifts,begged,even my boss has called her..she has not been picking my calls and returning my pings...during the last public holidays,i managed to convince her to hangout with me so we can discuss...i picked a nice restaurant and sent her the directions..she promised she was on her way and didn't show up at the end of the day...i was just sitting at the restaurant like a fool...

This is a girl that cannot stay a day without hearing my voice...she used to be so crazy about me...now she has stayed a whooping 2 weeks without hearing my voice...am down..it is affecting my job and my studies...i really appreciate this girl,she stood by me when i had virtually nothing..please what do i do?? do i move on or continue to beg with the hope that she will change her mind?moreover i don't even think it will be easy for me to move on..

You should not have sat at the restaurant like a fool, that was wrong.

You should have sat at the restaurant like a person, that is a more appropriate definition of what you are.

Bloody cretin! You open your mouth to say you beat up your girlfriend and you have the guts to look for pity?

person!

The only fool in this situation is the foolish girlfriend that needed a pastor to tell her to dump your cretinous backside!

^person don vex for here..

Nautillus: Bruv, sorry for your loss. hopefully you will learn from it.."hopefully"

for what ever reason...never hit a woman...(that's when she decided to stop loving you...her returning to you after the incident was a rebound on her part thinking she could still love you again like she used to...but apparently, she could not)

she is with someone else now...trust me...another guy has taken your position. forget pastor say this or that...dat was the format she could use to discharge you that you wouldn't react adversely...(she is scared for her life) if she had just returned the ring with just the fact that she is no more interested in the relationship, are there any guarantees that you wouldn't have attempted to beat her again?

my advice...pick urself up and move on..cos she has..

Yes!

And I am sure the new man is hitting her the way he is suppose to hit her.

Not in the face or body, but between the legs.

@OP, while you are pitying your own moronic arse, she is happy being boned right now.

Some guy is smacking her from the back and she is loving it. She is moaning in ecstacy and enjoying every minute of the sex.

He owns her now. You are nothing!

She is giving it to another man, you are of no value.

Get a rope and end it, person!

@OP: Beating your woman is pushing her far away from you. It's a deliberate and conscious act and not prophesy related.

sexkillz: I don't allow thieves predict my future. . .

nd who re d thefs.my man a word of advice dnt brng curse upon ursf.no mater hw wrong a man of god is u dnt knw hw he setld behnd d scene wit hs god.se d case of aaron mariam nd moses in d old testament

nzenze2:
We started having problems late 2010 and it degenerated into something last year...to the extent that i have beaten her twice...

[size=13pt]WHAT??!?!?!?!?!??!?!?!??!?!?!??![/size] YOU PHYSICALLY ABUSED YOUR GIRL AND YOU HAVE THE NERVE TO SAY THAT SHE DOESN'T WANT YOU ANYMORE?? NA WA O. The nerve of some people! That girl better flee from you as far as she can get. A wife beater is always a wife beater. Women better learn from this story o......

Mynd_44: I read until the part where the OP said he beamed her twice and I decided that the guy deserved to be dumped

Exactly!! If the OP knew he loved her that much, why would he raise his hands to beat her, twice for that matter? Infact one beating is more than enough to dump his sorry ass, she doesn't even need to see her pastor to make that decision. If a guy beats you while he's dating you, chances are he will do more when he's married to you.

slimyem: ^person don vex for here..

slimyem: ^person don vex for here..

Those of you who go to your pastor to pray for you and tell you who to marry, if care is not taken, you will become a victim of lies. You are simply lazy. No pastor or prophet should tell you who to marry. They are to pray along with you, counsel and guide you using the Word of God. If you fail to pay the price to hear from God on that matter, you may be deceived. God can use your pastor or a genuine prophet of God to confirm what He had already told you. Many homes have been established on falsehood and that is why things are falling apart and the center can no longer hold. Some pastors are seriously into match-making. They have taken over from the Holy Spirit. Match-making remains God's prerogative and He has not delegated it to any pastor. Pastor E.A Adeboye.

stagger: OP,

Listen to me and listen very carefully.

THANK GOD THIS IS HAPPENING NOW.

The last thing you need, is a marriage that will be receiving interference from your inlaws and their pastor. So let this girl go and get another one. There are many girls out there. HUSBANDS ARE HARD TO FIND. If the girl feels you are not worthy to be her husband, there are other girls that will worship you as a husband.

The day my pastor back in the day was trying to make me leave my girlfriend (now my wife) and go for another is the day I severed my friendship with him and ties to that church. Today I am married to a woman who cannot bear to see me away from her for even one minute; that is how much she loves me.

So concerning marriage, forget all the match-making BS. It is unscriptural and not in the bible. The BIBLE says that he that finds a wife, finds a good thing....It did not say that he that marries a wife that the pastor has found for him. Be very careful. There are many pastors who were never called of God and will find damnation on that Day of the Lord.

OP, COPY THAT.

Neva have, neva will. But wait 3months for her, if no change, bro move on

Like Chris Okotie?

@ stagger...did i hear u say "HUSBANDS ARE HARD TO FIND"... so u mean d OP is a HUSBAND ....wow ...rather call him a WIFE BEATER....

I'm not op
God bless all the those who comment on dis topic & seun because it very educative.
My contribution leave the girl alone and move on your life.

naijathings:

what is all this? how does all this answer my simple question? I am asking you to tell us how to know fake prophets and u r here talking about what Mathew and Deuteronomy said. it is this type of thing that our pastors use to turn the heads of gullible people who cant use their heads. Scheeew

Mr. Naija things, if I got u right and I am sure I did, your simple question is for me to tell you how fake prophets can be identified? You would note from my post that I addressed my comment to born again christians who presumbably believe in the word of God, hence, my assumption that you responded to my post because you are one, so in response to your question, I referred you to the word of God, without saying more, as the cited passages of the scripture gives not only a spiritual but also a logical answer to your question. However, it appears you are not interested in the answer to my question, you want a fight or some kind of attention which I am not inclined to oblige you.

Too bad you don't believe in the word of God,I hope the use of your head will see you through life. Goodluck

X-factoria:
@OP:

I feel compelled to come back and share my experience with you on this issue because of the nonsense some people are posting here. I have been in your shoes before and this is how I resolved it.

When I wanted to start preparation for marriage with my my one-time fiancee some 3yrs ago, my mother went to her church to pray about it and her pastor said she should tell me to run. At that time, my mum has only met my fiancee once or twice and she was ok with her. So when she came back with the "run" report, I was confounded and I rejected it and refused to talk to my mum for 2 - 3months.

Pastors in my church don't see vision and hardly prophecy on issues like this. But way back in the University, I had a friend who is now a Pastor who once gave me a prophecy that came to pass exactly as he said it. So I went to him to assist me in prayers. We fasted and prayed together for 3 days. After the 3rd day, he gave a bombshell that corroborated my mum's story and even told me more. He went further to tell me that I was yet to meet my wife. I went home disappointed because the lady in question was "my everything". I couldn't sum up courage to tell her until some 6months after.

Today, I'm happily married and I thank God everyday for those God used to stop me from a disastrous future. When I met my wife, I got to know the difference both spiritually and physically. I thought I had seen it all with the other lady but my wife is exceedingly better in everything.

Sometimes, what we earnestly desire is not what we need. Pray God to open your eyes. And I'm not saying that Pastor is right, but please go and seek God's guidance on your own and maybe get a vibrant and praying Pastor to pray with you. Marriage is a spiritual institution, approach it spiritually. Some people neglected warnings and have sad tales to tell.

X-factoria, thanks for your contribution. What I am getting to realize from most of the posts above is that people are generally set in their ways and they rest so much on their own understanding, neither the wise counsel of their parents nor the spiritual insight of their pastors can suade them. In fact, there is the general presumption here that all the Pastors are fake and whatever prophecy or revelation that comes from them is not God breathed. My concern is that these kind of comments coming from people who doesnt respect the word of God, nor have any believe in the spritual guidance of people they call their pastors, may mislead other people to think whatever a Pastor says as coming from the belly of the spirit of God is not true. There are true men of God out there and it will be foolhardy to disobey when they tell you 'Thus saith the Lord' . The bible says you should test every spirit, but how can you do that when you are not spirit filled yourself? It is absurd trying to reduce a divine revelation to cerebral analysis.

I advise that when it comes to a choice of life partner, one should personally pray until there is a release in his or her spirit man that the other person is the right one, this can be difficult for people who by reason of love and or sentiment have already idolized the person they are taking before God. After doing that, then approach any matured christian with the gifts of prophecy and ask him or her to just pray along with you, if He sees contrary to what you are seeing, try another trusted christian, and if both of them are saying the same thing, you may have to subject your conviction to a further test.

Now, there is an assumption that when you marry against prophetic counsel and things are going fine for the next ten years then the prophecy was not true, that may be totally wrong. The adverse incident may not happen any time soon. Indeed, you may live the rest of your life happily with the good wife you found for yourself but you would never be able to tell what better choice, what better life, what better destiny, you could have had, if you had listened to counsel.

X-factoria:
@OP:

I feel compelled to come back and share my experience with you on this issue because of the nonsense some people are posting here. I have been in your shoes before and this is how I resolved it.

When I wanted to start preparation for marriage with my my one-time fiancee some 3yrs ago, my mother went to her church to pray about it and her pastor said she should tell me to run. At that time, my mum has only met my fiancee once or twice and she was ok with her. So when she came back with the "run" report, I was confounded and I rejected it and refused to talk to my mum for 2 - 3months.

Pastors in my church don't see vision and hardly prophecy on issues like this. But way back in the University, I had a friend who is now a Pastor who once gave me a prophecy that came to pass exactly as he said it. So I went to him to assist me in prayers. We fasted and prayed together for 3 days. After the 3rd day, he gave a bombshell that corroborated my mum's story and even told me more. He went further to tell me that I was yet to meet my wife. I went home disappointed because the lady in question was "my everything". I couldn't sum up courage to tell her until some 6months after.

Today, I'm happily married and I thank God everyday for those God used to stop me from a disastrous future. When I met my wife, I got to know the difference both spiritually and physically. I thought I had seen it all with the other lady but my wife is exceedingly better in everything.

Sometimes, what we earnestly desire is not what we need. Pray God to open your eyes. And I'm not saying that Pastor is right, but please go and seek God's guidance on your own and maybe get a vibrant and praying Pastor to pray with you. Marriage is a spiritual institution, approach it spiritually. Some people neglected warnings and have sad tales to tell.

X-factoria, thanks for your contribution. What I am getting to realize from most of the posts above is that people are generally set in their ways and they rest so much on their own understanding, neither the wise counsel of their parents nor the spiritual insight of their pastors can suade them. In fact, there is the general presumption here that all the Pastors are fake and whatever prophecy or revelation that comes from them is not God breathed. My concern is that these kind of comments coming from people who doesnt respect the word of God, nor have any believe in the spritual guidance of people they call their pastors, may mislead other people to think whatever a Pastor says as coming from the belly of the spirit of God is not true. There are true men of God out there and it will be foolhardy to disobey when they tell you 'Thus saith the Lord' . The bible says you should test every spirit, but how can you do that when you are not spirit filled yourself? It is absurd trying to reduce a divine revelation to cerebral analysis.

I advise that when it comes to a choice of life partner, one should personally pray until there is a release in his or her spirit man that the other person is the right one, this can be difficult for people who by reason of love and or sentiment have already idolized the person they are taking before God. After pray through to conviction, then approach any matured christian with the gifts of prophecy and ask him or her to just pray along with you, if he sees contrary to what you are seeing, try another trusted christian, and if both of them are saying the same thing, you may have to subject your conviction to a further test.

Now, there is an assumption that when you marry against prophetic counsel and things are going fine for the next ten years then the prophecy was not true, that may be totally wrong. The adverse incident may not happen any time soon. Indeed, you may live the rest of your life happily with the good wife you found for yourself but you would never be able to tell what better choice, what better life, what better destiny, you could have had, if you had listened to counsel. That is why we have so many people destined to become Governors ignorantly celebrating life as a Local Commercial Bank's middle level manager and ladies that could have ended up becoming CEOs celebrating life as a glorified house wife because they ended up with the wrong man who could not recognise and nurture the CEO in them.

Everytime we refuse to do things God's way as revealed in the word of God and as revealed occassionally through specific prophetic direction, we are shortchanging ourselves. God has nothing to lose, the true oracle of God has nothing to lose, but a disobedient individual risks losing everything.

X-factoria:
@OP:

I feel compelled to come back and share my experience with you on this issue because of the nonsense some people are posting here. I have been in your shoes before and this is how I resolved it.

When I wanted to start preparation for marriage with my my one-time fiancee some 3yrs ago, my mother went to her church to pray about it and her pastor said she should tell me to run. At that time, my mum has only met my fiancee once or twice and she was ok with her. So when she came back with the "run" report, I was confounded and I rejected it and refused to talk to my mum for 2 - 3months.

Pastors in my church don't see vision and hardly prophecy on issues like this. But way back in the University, I had a friend who is now a Pastor who once gave me a prophecy that came to pass exactly as he said it. So I went to him to assist me in prayers. We fasted and prayed together for 3 days. After the 3rd day, he gave a bombshell that corroborated my mum's story and even told me more. He went further to tell me that I was yet to meet my wife. I went home disappointed because the lady in question was "my everything". I couldn't sum up courage to tell her until some 6months after.

Today, I'm happily married and I thank God everyday for those God used to stop me from a disastrous future. When I met my wife, I got to know the difference both spiritually and physically. I thought I had seen it all with the other lady but my wife is exceedingly better in everything.

Sometimes, what we earnestly desire is not what we need. Pray God to open your eyes. And I'm not saying that Pastor is right, but please go and seek God's guidance on your own and maybe get a vibrant and praying Pastor to pray with you. Marriage is a spiritual institution, approach it spiritually. Some people neglected warnings and have sad tales to tell.

X-factoria, thanks for your contribution. What I am getting to realize from most of the posts above is that people are generally set in their ways and they rest so much on their own understanding, neither the wise counsel of their parents nor the spiritual insight of their pastors can suade them. In fact, there is the general presumption here that all the Pastors are fake and whatever prophecy or revelation that comes from them is not God breathed. My concern is that these kind of comments coming from people who doesnt respect the word of God, nor have any believe in the spritual guidance of people they call their pastors, may mislead other people to think whatever a Pastor says as coming from the belly of the spirit of God is not true. There are true men of God out there and it will be foolhardy to disobey when they tell you 'Thus saith the Lord' . The bible says you should test every spirit, but how can you do that when you are not spirit filled yourself? It is absurd trying to reduce a divine revelation to cerebral analysis.

I advise that when it comes to a choice of life partner, one should personally pray until there is a release in his or her spirit man that the other person is the right one, this can be difficult for people who by reason of love and or sentiment have already idolized the person they are taking before God. After doing that, then approach any matured christian with the gifts of prophecy and ask him or her to just pray along with you, if He sees contrary to what you are seeing, try another trusted christian, and if both of them are saying the same thing, you may have to subject your conviction to a further test.

Now, there is an assumption that when you marry against prophetic counsel and things are going fine for the next ten years then the prophecy was not true, that may be totally wrong. The adverse incident may not happen any time soon. Indeed, you may live the rest of your life happily with the good wife you found for yourself but you would never be able to tell what better choice, what better life, what better destiny, you could have had, if you had listened to counsel.

nzenze2: I have been in a very fruitful relationship with my girlfriend for the past 5yrs...she has been the best in everything,very special and a huge blessing to me and my loved ones...

We started having problems late 2010 and it degenerated into something last year...to the extent that i have beaten her twice...with the help of my family members and friends i was able o win her back and we started dating again.

I proposed to her in june this year and she accepted,now she returned my ring last 3weeks with the excuse that her mom's pastor told her that i am not her destined husband...i have been soo devastated and emotionally down. I have sent gifts,begged,even my boss has called her..she has not been picking my calls and returning my pings...during the last public holidays,i managed to convince her to hangout with me so we can discuss...i picked a nice restaurant and sent her the directions..she promised she was on her way and didn't show up at the end of the day...i was just sitting at the restaurant like a fool...

This is a girl that cannot stay a day without hearing my voice...she used to be so crazy about me...now she has stayed a whooping 2 weeks without hearing my voice...am down..it is
affecting my job and my studies...i really appreciate this girl,she stood by me when i had virtually nothing..please what do i do?? do i move on or continue to beg with the hope that she will change her mind?moreover i don't even think it will be easy for me to move on..

Dude she is using that as an excuse to dump you, someone probably advised her against the marriage because you beat her, which means she believes you can still do it within the comforts of marriage...i have heard my friends use that excuse on girls they want to dump but can't find a good excuse so they come up with the stories of pastors advising against the relationship. Bro if she is meant for you she will be , don't force it...marriage to anyone happens naturally , she feels something is not right forget the pastor's part

Let no ma brags that he can never beat a woman. It takes the grace of God and solid determination not to do so. Sometimes the only lubricant that drives women is beating.