toba: it doesnt matter if a guy and a girl are alone. of course a lady can spend time alone with her fiance but u both must be disciplined. devil has made fornication so sweet these days that its becoming irresistable.

l have a lot of stories to share with u guys from what happened in the church between church workers

when are the stories coming up?
I disagree with u smal lol. Being alone in secret places that cause fornication.
Remember, resist the devil and he wil flee from u.

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Zeebah23: Trusting 'believers' might not b a gud idea. Dey cum lyk sheep but dey r wolves. Dey lure u into sin using d Bible. I met a lady who was a virgin and went in2 a relationship wit a fellow believer. Each time d bro demands 4 sex, d lady reminds him dat d bed must b undefiled,d bro wud in turn say God undastands how we feel hence d verse 'd spirit is willing but d flesh is weak' or dat we r unda grace . This concept of grace has bin misundastood *dat's a topic 4 anoda day* d so-called brethren give u examples of Men of God dat had s*x b4 marriage,dey tend 2 4get dat God shud b their standard! Don't b decieved by der activities in church. A sister got in2 a relationship wit an active broda (prayer warrior and evangelism cord) in her church who told her 2 stop wearing trousers and make-up. Ordinarily,one wud think dis broda is out 2 remould her buh d reverse is d case. She was defiled by d broda. So,i'l advice evri1 2 b careful and prayerful. Dos who av it shud kip it, dos who av lost it can still retrace their steps. A guy once told me he couldn't stop coz he was careless and he fell into sin,so felt he shud continue since he was no longer a virgin. If u r wit dis mindset,lemme ask u dis question,what happened to celibacy. Retrace ur step and go celibate. May God help us all.

that bro na sharp man but was she raped? why was she alone with the brother? church relationships must be reported to church authorities so both male and female would be guided

Bélla3: when are the stories coming up?
I disagree with u smal lol. Being alone in secret places that cause fornication.
Remember, resist the devil and he wil flee from u.

why will u disagree with me? now lets talk as adult. l dont think u're married, so i presume u're dating. tell the truth u ve been alone with ur bf. yes or no?

toba: why will u disagree with me? now lets talk as adult. l dont think u're married, so i presume u're dating. tell the truth u ve been alone with ur bf. yes or no?

I dey laff o. Oya bella con answer nah. By the way how wuz ur day bella?

toba: why will u disagree with me? now lets talk as adult. l dont think u're married, so i presume u're dating. tell the truth u ve been alone with ur bf. yes or no?

i dnt believe in dating. Too much temptation . So NO, i have never been alone wit my boyfriend.

Guitarlife: I dey laff o. Oya bella con answer nah. By the way how wuz ur day bella?

fine oh. Interesting confessions! So na so you dey cheat on humbled eh?

Bélla3: fine oh. Interesting confessions! So na so you dey cheat on humbled eh?

Just don't let dagr8 read that part about humbled. I know you were reffering to yourself and not humbled.lol.

Bélla3: i dnt believe in dating. Too much temptation . So NO, i have never been alone wit my boyfriend.

good. but i would like to know ur age cos i detest boyfriend girlfriend tags. l prefer fiance. pple that wouldnt get married in 2 to 3 yrs time shdnt be dating. they are the ones that are prone to temptations

on a side note. some pple think im a lady cos of my profile pixs hence lots of personal msgs.

well im a human being with two balls down there.

toba: good. but i would like to know ur age cos i detest boyfriend girlfriend tags. l prefer fiance. but pple that wouldnt get married in 2 to 3 yrs time shdnt be dating. they are the ones that are prone to temptations

yeah i have no intentions of geting married in 2 yrs. About my age, ask iya humbled, lol. I be smal pikin o, hmm infact ask guitar4life.

toba: good. but i would like to know ur age cos i detest boyfriend girlfriend tags. l prefer fiance. but pple that wouldnt get married in 2 to 3 yrs time shdnt be dating. they are the ones that are prone to temptations

yeah i have no intentions of geting married in 2 yrs. About my age, ask iya humbled, lol. I be smal pikin o, hmm infact ask guitar4life.

Guitarlife: Just don't let dagr8 read that part about humbled. I know you were reffering to yourself and not humbled.lol.

so if its me you wil cheat on me? Heyee i don suffer.

Bélla3: yeah i have no intentions of geting married in 2 yrs. About my age, ask iya humbled, lol. I be smal pikin o, hmm infact ask guitar4life.

muheeehe. lf i start a church i will sell well. l knew everything about u.

just keep it tight down there. even if its guitarlife u end up marrying, ooen the door only after the wedding

toba: muheeehe. lf i start a church i will sell well. l knew everything about u.

just keep it tight down there. even if its guitarlife u end up marrying, ooen the door only after the wedding

i dnt get you! Am a reverend Sister

Thanks to everyone who contributed to my question.
Well for the first question i do fantasize about my wedding night and beyond and jus needed to know if it was wrong, thanks for the contributions.
For the second, even though i am a bit repulsive when it comes to that act (not ryt now, but if it has to), maybe because as a traditional african man, it may sound odd, it does cross my mind though and having read something about it that it helps strenghten intimacy and help the woman get optimum satisfaction which is the essence of sex in marriage: mutual satisfaction, i thought i needed to get a spiritual perspective on it, though the responses i got did not show clearly that it is sinful...
All i can say about what i got in your contributions is that when the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable, God did not create the mouth for that purpose, thanx once again.

Bélla3: i dnt get you! Am a reverend Sister

Im also a prophet. just wondering if referen sista dey get boyfirendi

Bibol:
Have you considered focusing on the kind of husband you will like to become? Maybe you should quit thinking of what she should look like, because you may never have all those qualities in one single lady. You may marry a very petite woman today and later on, become +sized. Rather, i think you should be more concerned about who she is on the inside. It is the inner qualities that make a person. All in all, if you are still single, its best to set your affection on spiritual things, that way, you'll attract the right set of people and keep an open heart. You never know what God has in stock for you. All the best!

I agree. But I never though I could be confused on the complexion or size of the woman I wanted to marry. I dont wanna mess up.

when will the bro and sis start signifying their interest?

sadeiyare:

You can only marry one person ; You decide lol

Yeah! Hope to God I make the right decision.

toba: good. but i would like to know ur age cos i detest boyfriend girlfriend tags. l prefer fiance. pple that wouldnt get married in 2 to 3 yrs time shdnt be dating. they are the ones that are prone to temptations

Oh I agree with u completely. If u can't get married in space of 2-3 yrs, just don't date. Temptations are better avoided than managed!

Gracious10:

More reason u should wait till u know what u want. Confusion issues must be dealt with before u involve another serious focused person into a relationship.

I think I need perspectives on this issue. I should get over it though. But i will love a woman that is not thin or fat, especially after child bearing. If it is otherwise, wouldnt love her any less.

Gracious10:

Oh I agree with u completely. If u can't get married in space of 2-3 yrs, just don't date. Temptations are better avoided than managed!

help tell bella. its either she breaks up with her boy friend or get him committed.

relationships are for would be couples. though there can be companionship but there must be nothing like emotional attachment in companionship.

BTW are u married?

toba: Im also a prophet. just wondering if referen sista dey get boyfirendi

who tel u say i get boyfriend?

After reading through this thread once again, I can't help but say thank you to Toba for starting this thread. Today has been one of my best days on N/L

Bélla3: who tel u say i get boyfriend?

u told me

Bélla3: i dnt believe in dating. Too much temptation . So NO, i have never been alone wit my boyfriend.

Bibol: After reading through this thread once again, I can't help but say thank you to Toba for starting this thread. Today has been one of my best days on N/L

u are welcome sis. u are free to post a question and knowledgeable pple will help out. We are not the most intelligent but God'll guide us.

the thread is here to stay

Abbott:

I think I need perspectives on this issue. I should get over it though. But i will love a woman that is not thin or fat, especially after child bearing. If it is otherwise, wouldnt love her any less.

u would love the flat tummy after births just like omotola

toba: help tell bella. its either she breaks up with her boy friend or get him committed.

relationships are for would be couples. though there can be companionship but there must be nothing like emotional attachment in companionship.

BTW are u married?

Nope, why do u ask? Do I sound like mama? LOL

Godspikin: Thanks to everyone who contributed to my question.
Well for the first question i do fantasize about my wedding night and beyond and jus needed to know if it was wrong, thanks for the contributions.
For the second, even though i am a bit repulsive when it comes to that act (not ryt now, but if it has to), maybe because as a traditional african man, it may sound odd, it does cross my mind though and having read something about it that it helps strenghten intimacy and help the woman get optimum satisfaction which is the essence of sex in marriage: mutual satisfaction, i thought i needed to get a spiritual perspective on it, though the responses i got did not show clearly that it is sinful...
All i can say about what i got in your contributions is that when the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable, God did not create the mouth for that purpose, thanx once again.

regarding satisfaction, a married man (muslim man) told me in 2004 that he satisfies his wife with all sort of sexxxual performances which makes his wife love him more. how true that is, i dont know.

but friends also say they do these acts to make ladies ask for more fun and come back to them

toba: u told me

lol. Read wel johr

Gracious10:

Nope, why do u ask? Do I sound like mama? LOL

nope. u sound like gracious. most of the regular posters/members on nairaland are under 35 and mostly singles.

so tell me what are the qualities u want in a man u want to get married to? must he be as rich as abacha?

toba: help tell bella. its either she breaks up with her boy friend or get him committed.

relationships are for would be couples. though there can be companionship but there must be nothing like emotional attachment in companionship.

BTW are u married?

i dnt believe in dating, hw then cn i have a boyfriend?