KateSpade: I am currently in a long distance relationship. My bf will be returning in about two months after being away for over 6 months. Over the course of the 6 months, it has been difficult for me at times. I miss him but I also resent him for being gone for so long.

I know certain adjustments will have to be made
Adjustments like making time for him and possibly not keeping up with all of the new tasks I did in his absence. Seeing his family again (some of them live her but I haven't seen the majority of them since he has been gone). The only time I have seen them is when it was work-related.

I don't want to bombard him when he returns. However, I know that he and I will have to have a conversation about our relationship because I know I won't be able to pick up right when we left off. I don't want him to be with me simply because I'm still around and I want to be clear about each of our intentions and future plans without being too rude.

Has anyone here ever been in this position before? Any advice, tips?

Cut that craps abeg

KateSpade: I guess I have no other choice. However, he did think about moving in with me until he finds a new place. That's all too sudden for me. Going from not seeing someone to them moving in with you. Not to mention that I don't want to live with another male I'm romantically involved with until marriage.

tellwsdom:

Cut that craps abeg

Mynd_44:
Then tell him you are not comfortable with him living with you. It is lot better that being uncomfortable with him in the house

KateSpade: I am currently in a long distance relationship. My bf will be returning in about two months after being away for over 6 months. Over the course of the 6 months, it has been difficult for me at times. I miss him but I also resent him for being gone for so long.

I know certain adjustments will have to be made
Adjustments like making time for him and possibly not keeping up with all of the new tasks I did in his absence. Seeing his family again (some of them live her but I haven't seen the majority of them since he has been gone). The only time I have seen them is when it was work-related.

I don't want to bombard him when he returns. However, I know that he and I will have to have a conversation about our relationship because I know I won't be able to pick up right when we left off. I don't want him to be with me simply because I'm still around and I want to be clear about each of our intentions and future plans without being too rude.

Has anyone here ever been in this position before? Any advice, tips?

obowunmi: Break it off - try dating other people and if it is meant to be, you might find yourselves back with each other.

Okija_juju:


SHOOO!! Wetin be your real problem?! Your bobo wey go overseas go hustle for you, dey return, you dey wan form sentimental.. Abi you get one new bobo wey don dey service you while ehn dey that side, now wey ehn dey return, your mind dey cut?! Until you talk your real problems, you can never get real solutions to them!!..

KateSpade: I guess I have no other choice. However, he did think about moving in with me until he finds a new place. That's all too sudden for me. Going from not seeing someone to them moving in with you. Not to mention that I don't want to live with another male I'm romantically involved with until marriage.

Chidera Favour: Pls if u realy lov ds guy n fait4l 2 him,it shouldnt hv bn such hard labour 2 meet him again,somtin must b wrong somwhr anywell u knw d best 4 u

KateSpade:

ha what? Hustle for me? He is trying to get himself together. That is my real problem.

Delfino:

My people would normally say that "If Sunday would be good, it is the preceding Saturday that will tell"

Meaning "If his coming back is anything to look forward to, you would have known by now"
Infact you will not need to open this thread and that's the fact!
Because you will be filled with so much joy and happiness that you will not be able to sleep at nights.
I have been there and we were always looking forward to the "moment" but not from your angle.
There was never a moment of doubt and fear.

My simple advice -- Try to know all that you need to know about the status of your relationship before he arrives.
Ask him the important questions unless of course communication is a problem. But if not discuss this with him now.

Don't wait for him to arrive and confirm your fears.
It is normal for you to be skeptically and knowing the truth will set your mind free.

Omo Alata: Ol'girl, you need to be frank with him. Yeah, it'll hurt but he'll get over it. On no accounts must you let him cohabit with you He can squat at one of his family's place.

WTF!! Are you talking about here biko?! Tell him what?! What will he get over?! ..

Mad Cow: It looks like someone has been fhucking around in the last six months...

Omo Alata: Ol'girl, you need to be frank with him. Yeah, it'll hurt but he'll get over it. On no accounts must you let him cohabit with you He can squat at one of his family's place.