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Re: When Long-Distance Relationship Ends - Advice On Adjusting by KateSpade(f): 1:36pm On Sep 29, 2012 |
MacLovington: OP, Oh noo. He has plenty of potential and he is not my back-up. I'm not shopping right now. |
Re: When Long-Distance Relationship Ends - Advice On Adjusting by KateSpade(f): 1:43pm On Sep 29, 2012 |
Onegai: OP, even though you say you want your bf, you're apprehensive over his coming back and his plans for your future, you want him to discuss said future immediately and that your plans are different from his. Well, I kinda agree with everyone that it seems you're not really into him anymore (maybe you never were). Try to figure out what is causing that, do you like him as a person, and are just managing till someone you like more comes to sweep you off your feet? Is something going on that makes him less attractive to you? The worst you can do is waste his and your time. I think you should have a clear talk with him, better for both of you to be free to go after what you really want than for you to feel like you're stuck with him, while he loves you. No? I feel like my plans are different because I am more prepared than he is. His life is more disjointed. I do care about him and love him or else I would've ended things once he hopped on a plane. We complement each other well, there are things I've done with him that no other man has been able to get me to do or take interest in and I like that about him. I don't feel stuck with him, I just tend to feel stuck being in a relationship with anyone for a certain period of time. Which is why I end all my relationships. Especially when you are as close to someone as I am to my bf it makes me feel vulnerable and not in control. |
Re: When Long-Distance Relationship Ends - Advice On Adjusting by KateSpade(f): 1:48pm On Sep 29, 2012 |
Baba1010: KateSpade: "I met someone about a two months ago. I've never felt so comfortable so quickly around another man as I do this man. Usually I am pretty shy and standoff-ish but with him things flow so easily. I certainly didn't expect to be attracted to someone because the only reason I met him is through work. However, I have a bf, I havent done anything but talk to this other guy but still I want to know. It's true. I did met someone while working over the summer. Although I was very comfortable around him quickly and he would gel easily into my family and friends that doesn't make him the best for for me. Comfort is fine and good but I need more than that, I need someone to challenge and push me. And although he is here in the same city he is not my bf, even tho my bf and I are quite different we share a lot of the same values. I couldn't leave my relationship I just couldn't but that doesn't mean I'm without doubts and temptations |
Re: When Long-Distance Relationship Ends - Advice On Adjusting by KateSpade(f): 4:53pm On Sep 29, 2012 |
Don Tim: i wish i knew dis guys num (d one comming back) would have talked some sense to him. got some questions for u though 1. My bf is the only one, but I've had boyfriend before. When I got together with my bf I had been single for a while. 2. No affair, I met him while working and while talking I found out we have a lot of things in common. 3. no 4. no, he didnt propose. I have prepared gifts for when the bf returns. I know what meal to cook, I even have gotten things engraved. There have been sleepless nights and tears a plenty even before he left just knowing about his departure. |
Re: When Long-Distance Relationship Ends - Advice On Adjusting by Mynd44: 5:01pm On Sep 29, 2012 |
Hmmm |
Re: When Long-Distance Relationship Ends - Advice On Adjusting by daddyhov: 6:27pm On Sep 29, 2012 |
Long distance relationship can be really difficult.It takes a lot of understanding and most importantly regular communication for it to work out.When the communication stops,its definitely geading for the rocks.Wish you the best dear 1 Like |
Re: When Long-Distance Relationship Ends - Advice On Adjusting by KateSpade(f): 6:45pm On Sep 29, 2012 |
daddyhov: Long distance relationship can be really difficult.It takes a lot of understanding and most importantly regular communication for it to work out.When the communication stops,its definitely geading for the rocks.Wish you the best dear Thanks! |
Re: When Long-Distance Relationship Ends - Advice On Adjusting by bejay766: 11:43pm On Sep 29, 2012 |
Please do one last thing! Ask from God.He will provide the solution you needed! God be with you. |
Re: When Long-Distance Relationship Ends - Advice On Adjusting by KateSpade(f): 1:20am On Sep 30, 2012 |
bejay766: Please do one last thing! Ask from God.He will provide the solution you needed! God be with you. Will do. I used to send him devotionals and notes from church every Sunday since he left I need to do that again |
Re: When Long-Distance Relationship Ends - Advice On Adjusting by Nobody: 2:06am On Sep 30, 2012 |
KateSpade:Babe, what you need now is prayer, sit in a quiet place, go through this guys pictures, that should bring back some of his memory, think deep about it, then conclude if you wanna spend the rest of your life with him, time is not on your side to spend too much time with a man you prolly won't end up with. It's better to make the right decision now and be happy later than doing the other which i don't pray for. 'Ti o na koju si e, ko ta, to ba ko eyin si e ko ta, to ba ki IWo nikan ki o ro ori ara e wo' |
Re: When Long-Distance Relationship Ends - Advice On Adjusting by Nobody: 3:14am On Sep 30, 2012 |
@OP you are sensing the real problems, but you are afraid to acknowledge them. your attachment to him is real, but you know it is not love. you also doubt his true feeling for you. deep in your heart you know that this relationship is not meant to last forever. as someone has already said, it's best to sit quietly in prayer until you receive an answer. 1 Like |
Re: When Long-Distance Relationship Ends - Advice On Adjusting by dj5naira(m): 10:47am On Sep 30, 2012 |
Quickly fall in love again. |
Re: When Long-Distance Relationship Ends - Advice On Adjusting by SmartCount(m): 12:12pm On Sep 30, 2012 |
Decryptor: @OP, i know your problem...this guy must have travelled outta the country to hustle but unfortunately, things didn't go well with him financially. Now he's coming back home to start life afresh and u are trying to back out on him. If he had shipped in 6 solid jeeps from wherever he is coming from, you would'nt have posted this here...See why i can never give my heart to a Nigerian woman. I'd rather love my pet dogSpot on. This is the answer to the summary of the OP. |
Re: When Long-Distance Relationship Ends - Advice On Adjusting by KateSpade(f): 6:42pm On Sep 30, 2012 |
Ok so this thread hasn't really advised me much, more so judgement. I appreciate the posts nonetheless and I'll do my best and pray and wait. 1 Like |
Re: When Long-Distance Relationship Ends - Advice On Adjusting by beauty4(f): 6:09am On Oct 01, 2012 |
Sister, i must ask some questions first, 1. Were u guys keeping in touch while he was away? 2. Aw long was d relatnship before he left? Speaking from experience, i was away from my baby for 10 months and wen we got back, it was hotter than before. Infact we are married now. Its all about what u want but first, u av to answer those questions. |
Re: When Long-Distance Relationship Ends - Advice On Adjusting by KateSpade(f): 3:19pm On Oct 01, 2012 |
beauty?: 1.Yes we are keeping in touch 2. Hmmm we have been together for about a year before he left. (but there were times when we both were apart from each other during that year) Congrats to you on your marriage. |
Re: When Long-Distance Relationship Ends - Advice On Adjusting by beauty4(f): 11:24am On Nov 17, 2012 |
KateSpade: thanx alot. but i still think distance isnt a barrier esp when both of u really love yourselves unconditionally |
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