bennyraz: @wam and metalgoong.. take note.

Metalgoong:

Sir Benny you know better than this naa . . . The fact is that all the non virgins here are simply the promiscuous ones - the ones jumping from bed of one bf to another. And you know what we call those people who are promiscuous . most will claim they lost theirs to rape.
. . Stooorryy!!!

In as much as being a virgin does not or is not the only thing that guarantees a blissful and happy marriage;at the same time, one shouldn't be proud of getting married to a public borehole and still end up having a horrible marriage.

MRbrownJAY: @OP
Is it not also that many of these virgins are quick to state their hymen status, simply because they strongly believe that they are BETTER than the many ladies who aren't virgin any longer?!

Another sad fact is that many of these women believe that being a virgin at a certain age (or with a certain look) is an achievement rather than a problem..... And therefore telling this to the world will solve their MAIN problem, which is to finally attract the right guy to pop their cherry.

And then you have the serial virgins........ Aka the ones who boast about their virginity, and actually feel like celebrities simply because they are still virgin, and since they love the "attention" it brings to their sad lives, they are ultimately trapped in a zone where they CAN'T fukc anyone because if they do, they will become common human beings like us all.

Remember, if there is nothing special about a person, then that person will try to bring out anything to shine and make that person stand out amongst us. Normally your great character/look/personality/charisma should be the key, but to some they have nothing but a big pair of tittays ( that they like to flaunt at every occasion), some money (that they like to flaunt to attract attention from golddigaz) etc...... It's all about ATTENTION!

MRbrownJAY: @OP
Is it not also that many of these virgins are quick to state their hymen status, simply because they strongly believe that they are BETTER than the many ladies who aren't virgin any longer?!

Another sad fact is that many of these women believe that being a virgin at a certain age (or with a certain look) is an achievement rather than a problem..... And therefore telling this to the world will solve their MAIN problem, which is to finally attract the right guy to pop their cherry.

And then you have the serial virgins........ Aka the ones who boast about their virginity, and actually feel like celebrities simply because they are still virgin, and since they love the "attention" it brings to their sad lives, they are ultimately trapped in a zone where they CAN'T fukc anyone because if they do, they will become common human beings like us all.

Remember, if there is nothing special about a person, then that person will try to bring out anything to shine and make that person stand out amongst us. Normally your great character/look/personality/charisma should be the key, but to some they have nothing but a big pair of tittays ( that they like to flaunt at every occasion), some money (that they like to flaunt to attract attention from golddigaz) etc...... It's all about ATTENTION!

Metalgoong:

Sir Benny you know better than this naa . . . The fact is that all the non virgins here are simply the promiscuous ones - the ones jumping from bed of one bf to another. And you know what we call those people who are promiscuous . most will claim they lost theirs to rape.
. . Stooorryy!!!

In as much as being a virgin does not or is not the only thing that guarantees a blissful and happy marriage;at the same time, one shouldn't be proud of getting married to a public borehole and still end up having a horrible marriage.

slimyem:
You talking to me?

Mrs.Chima:
Yall jealous of us virgins. Muaaah.

WAM?:
You are right virgins might not talk about it- because it is not the popular thing to say. However keeping quiet does not make it right.The way people speak up against slavery or corruption as being wrong is the same way people should speak up that being a virgin might not be the order of the day but it is in line with the word of God and certainly the right thing to do. I can't count how many young ladies have found this information beneficial.
Let me add there is nothing wrong in telling a guy straight up where you stand- it makes the elimination process easier and also you avoid uncomfortable situations. A guy shouldn't feel comfortable talking trash to a girl who has clearly stated where she stands. If you for whatever reason try to go with a guys flow - then don't feel disrespected if he does or says anything stupid.

WAM?:
This is funny and very lame if you would ask me. If I went to school to be a Dr and I introduce my self as Dr whatever- how would that be an issue. My dear the worst person to lie to is yourself. If you are a Christian ; say it act it. If you are a virgin say it if you choose to- its a free world. Why should you be attacked for saying who you are. If you are not a virgin- say it if you want to..If you are a hoe- say it and be proud of it. We all have been given choices and we all would have to live up to the consequences of our choices. Shikena.

ogugua88:

No, this is lame. "Hello, I am a virgin" versus "Hello, I am Dr Okocha". Is "virgin" someone's name or are people now putting that title before their name? Why are you comparing kola nut and garden egg?

I guess if you want to make that comparison, it should be modified to "hello, I'm telling you I'm a virgin because I know all guys like virgins and once they've found a virgin, they won't leave the girl" versus "hello, I am a doctor, I'm richer than Babangida, and I know you want a rich man because all women want a rich man with a big title, so stay with me and you will soon reap your benefits". The way some doctors are arrogant and feel they can get any man or woman because of their title is the same way some virgins assume all men want a virgin for that one sexual reason I refuse to state.

What I'm trying to say is that if a girl truly is a virgin, then why broadcast it? A girl stating it everywhere she goes, most especially in the midst of a man or men, is only begging to lose that virginity. I'm assuming she has waited so long so that she can marry and then lose it. Does she no longer cherish it then?

ogugua88:

No, this is lame. "Hello, I am a virgin" versus "Hello, I am Dr Okocha". Is "virgin" someone's name or are people now putting that title before their name? Why are you comparing kola nut and garden egg?

I guess if you want to make that comparison, it should be modified to "hello, I'm telling you I'm a virgin because I know all guys like virgins and once they've found a virgin, they won't leave the girl" versus "hello, I am a doctor, I'm richer than Babangida, and I know you want a rich man because all women want a rich man with a big title, so stay with me and you will soon reap your benefits". The way some doctors are arrogant and feel they can get any man or woman because of their title is the same way some virgins assume all men want a virgin for that one sexual reason I refuse to state.

What I'm trying to say is that if a girl truly is a virgin, then why broadcast it? A girl stating it everywhere she goes, most especially in the midst of a man or men, is only begging to lose that virginity. I'm assuming she has waited so long so that she can marry and then lose it. Does she no longer cherish it then?

Metalgoong:

Sir Benny you know better than this naa . . . The fact is that all the non virgins here are simply the promiscuous ones - the ones jumping from bed of one bf to another. And you know what we call those people who are promiscuous . most will claim they lost theirs to rape.
. . Stooorryy!!!

In as much as being a virgin does not or is not the only thing that guarantees a blissful and happy marriage;at the same time, one shouldn't be proud of getting married to a public borehole and still end up having a horrible marriage.

WAM?:
Well the intention is not to make others feel less of themselves. We all are aware that times are changing. I don't recall my parents talking to me at such an early age on sex education- I was too busy playing with sand. It's happening now - it's amazing what a five year old knows. We can't afford to be quiet anymore on several issues and it goes beyond this. It's important to speak-because everyone does it doesn't make it right and no one should be bashed for speaking- but then again its a free world- so you can bash :-) I would rather people make choices based on I chose to rather than everyone is doing it- it must be right.

WAM?:



True- to the believers; speak and let them be aware of the standard that is expected of them and not be deceived into doing the popular thing! To those that don't believe; speak and let them be aware that they do have an option to abstain until they are ready to make that choice and live with the consequences whether good or bad. I cannot stress it enough- we can't deceive ourselves. It is the popular thing to do doesn't make it right! I certainly do not want my young nieces or nephews venturing into this- believer or no believer.

Well from my experience most girls who remain virgins have carefully thought through this decision and are doing it for greater reasons than keeping a guy around. How would being a virgin keep a guy around? A guy is going to leave whenever he pleases even a baby cannot hold a guy down if he chooses to leave. It should be more like dude I'm not going there with you- it's best you get the stepping now if we are not of like minds. If dude decides to stay - hoping to convince then good luck to him.

I also totally agree with you all, being a virgin is not the criteria of being a good wife or husband , going to heaven or having a successful marriage. There are blessings though attached to obeying God and it could also serve as a good foundation in starting a lifetime relationship.

Trust me a person- guy or girl who "chooses" to obey God in case of the believers or who chooses to keep oneself in case of non believers would be doing other things as well to better themselves . It takes a lot for one to be disciplined. People just don't do things without expecting results. I have chooses in quotation because a personal decision is different from a forced decision or one that is brought out of fear of unknown.

Let me add- it is all in the head. A forum consists of both males and females. It is wrong to assume that she or whoever this person is - is talking to the males alone. It could be that she is standing for what she believes in. A normal person wouldn't go to a place and announce something except the need arises and when it does- its best to speak so that boundaries are drawn.

ogugua88: What's up with virgins putting their virginity on full display? Do they not covet it anymore?

It reminds me of Lolo Jones, the American Olympian. During an interview, she announced that she is still a virgin at 29. My first thoughts were who cares? Is that why she was sent to Beijing and London?

Then, there's the case of the Brazilian girl who is actually auctioning her virginity. She claims that some, not most or all, of the money will go to charity.

I've forgotten which tv show I was watching. It was a show where a dating guru was trying to help people who had no luck building or maintaining relationships. As you may have guessed, there was a virgin on the show. The dating guru paired her with another guy who needed dating help. They were at a restaurant and ordered their food. Before the appetizers reached the table, she already announced that she was still a virgin. She had the biggest grin on her face. Meanwhile, the guy's face was of total confusion, as would mine if I were in his shoes.

Why are some virgins so quick to announce their virginity? Something they've held onto for so long, it appears, they're so quick to dash as well. This was exactly what the dating guru told the woman on he show. Rather than to safekeep it, the woman mentioned it almost immediately, not only degrading herself, but making herself look cheap, desperate, and foolish.

I wonder how many guys would actually choose a girl who mentions her sex status first thing on their date.

KingOfNairaland:

I think non-virgins are always against Real-Virgins.

KingOfNairaland: I think non-virgins are always against Real-Virgins.

uniqueren: @ op
do you ever notice how loud the non virgins are abt their own status?
they say it
they sing it
they wear it'
they live it
they even write abt it
so the question should actually be "" y do some people make their virginity status known to random people?""

because you are indirectly saying you are jealous of 'em virgins