Miss_3v3: I have been dating my boyfriend for about 2,5years and even till now am not sure if he is the one. He seems very sure about me but sometimes i feel like the real reason apart from the fact that i love him, that i am still with him is he is such a nice guy and am afraid that i may not find a guy like him again.

We have different backgrounds(grew up abroad while he has never left the country, different thoughts( am more "westernized and he is kinda local ). Sometimes i feel we are too incompatible like i am the type of woman who believes in a relationship, all should be equal. i don't want a man that thinks it is just a women's place to be in the kitchen just like i don't think it's only a man's job to pay bills or buy everything just because it is a "man's" job.

When i get married i have no problems with sharing cost's equally our bills etc just like when we both come home from work. The least he can do is help out perhaps with dishes etc not expecting him to cook but if he did it once in a while to surprise me then i would not mind . But my bf is more of a women's place is this and a man's place is that. Another potential problem which i just realised could be a problem is am going to be earning way more than him.

I am currently doing my articles towards chartered accountancy and he is currently working in real estate business he got a new job. I am afraid that i may become the boss of the house because if am paying bills and he is not even willing to help me with some of the things at home, i think there will be a problem.

Another issue is we are currently in different countries, we have been having a long distance relationship and i see him during holidays. Now am not sure if i want to relocate and give up everything because i can have more opportunities here then there especially for a man am not sure of.

I don't think he is willing to relocate because all his friends are there and family and job wise he may not get a job here. He seems indecisive about his future as he wants to go back and study and i don't know am very confused. Sometimes i find him childish and not mature enough even though he is 2 years older then me.

Should i hang in there or call it quits?

esere826: @OP

Do urself a big favour
When folks advice you on Naraland, and it gets u thinking
simply check their profiles pages on NL to weigh their level of intelligence or stewpidity

Then u know the best companies to keep



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*But that rat infested fella 'solid whatever' should not have used that word 'ode'*
*Well let him pass, do not go down that pit*

esere826: @OP

Do urself a big favour
When folks advice you on Naraland, and it gets u thinking
simply check their profiles pages on NL to weigh their level of intelligence or stewpidity

Then u know the best companies to keep



***
*But that rat infested fella 'solid whatever' should not have used that word 'ode'*
*Well let him pass, do not go down that pit*

alexsamjnr: Rubbish. If you don't want him.......pls let him go

Miss_3v3: I have been dating my boyfriend for about 2,5years and even till now am not sure if he is the one. He seems very sure about me but sometimes i feel like the real reason apart from the fact that i love him, that i am still with him is he is such a nice guy and am afraid that i may not find a guy like him again.

We have different backgrounds(grew up abroad while he has never left the country, different thoughts( am more "westernized and he is kinda local ). Sometimes i feel we are too incompatible like i am the type of woman who believes in a relationship, all should be equal. i don't want a man that thinks it is just a women's place to be in the kitchen just like i don't think it's only a man's job to pay bills or buy everything just because it is a "man's" job.

When i get married i have no problems with sharing cost's equally our bills etc just like when we both come home from work. The least he can do is help out perhaps with dishes etc not expecting him to cook but if he did it once in a while to surprise me then i would not mind . But my bf is more of a women's place is this and a man's place is that. Another potential problem which i just realised could be a problem is am going to be earning way more than him.

I am currently doing my articles towards chartered accountancy and he is currently working in real estate business he got a new job. I am afraid that i may become the boss of the house because if am paying bills and he is not even willing to help me with some of the things at home, i think there will be a problem.

Another issue is we are currently in different countries, we have been having a long distance relationship and i see him during holidays. Now am not sure if i want to relocate and give up everything because i can have more opportunities here then there especially for a man am not sure of.

I don't think he is willing to relocate because all his friends are there and family and job wise he may not get a job here. He seems indecisive about his future as he wants to go back and study and i don't know am very confused. Sometimes i find him childish and not mature enough even though he is 2 years older then me.

Should i hang in there or call it quits?

Miss_3v3: I have been dating my boyfriend for about 2,5years and even till now am not sure if he is the one. He seems very sure about me but sometimes i feel like the real reason apart from the fact that i love him, that i am still with him is he is such a nice guy and am afraid that i may not find a guy like him again.

We have different backgrounds(grew up abroad while he has never left the country, different thoughts( am more "westernized and he is kinda local ). Sometimes i feel we are too incompatible like i am the type of woman who believes in a relationship, all should be equal. i don't want a man that thinks it is just a women's place to be in the kitchen just like i don't think it's only a man's job to pay bills or buy everything just because it is a "man's" job.

When i get married i have no problems with sharing cost's equally our bills etc just like when we both come home from work. The least he can do is help out perhaps with dishes etc not expecting him to cook but if he did it once in a while to surprise me then i would not mind . But my bf is more of a women's place is this and a man's place is that. Another potential problem which i just realised could be a problem is am going to be earning way more than him.

I am currently doing my articles towards chartered accountancy and he is currently working in real estate business he got a new job. I am afraid that i may become the boss of the house because if am paying bills and he is not even willing to help me with some of the things at home, i think there will be a problem.

Another issue is we are currently in different countries, we have been having a long distance relationship and i see him during holidays. Now am not sure if i want to relocate and give up everything because i can have more opportunities here then there especially for a man am not sure of.

I don't think he is willing to relocate because all his friends are there and family and job wise he may not get a job here. He seems indecisive about his future as he wants to go back and study and i don't know am very confused. Sometimes i find him childish and not mature enough even though he is 2 years older then me.

Should i hang in there or call it quits?

Miss_3v3: I have been dating my boyfriend for about 2,5years and even till now am not sure if he is the one. He seems very sure about me but sometimes i feel like the real reason apart from the fact that i love him, that i am still with him is he is such a nice guy and am afraid that i may not find a guy like him again.

We have different backgrounds(grew up abroad while he has never left the country, different thoughts( am more "westernized and he is kinda local ). Sometimes i feel we are too incompatible like i am the type of woman who believes in a relationship, all should be equal. i don't want a man that thinks it is just a women's place to be in the kitchen just like i don't think it's only a man's job to pay bills or buy everything just because it is a "man's" job.

When i get married i have no problems with sharing cost's equally our bills etc just like when we both come home from work. The least he can do is help out perhaps with dishes etc not expecting him to cook but if he did it once in a while to surprise me then i would not mind . But my bf is more of a women's place is this and a man's place is that. Another potential problem which i just realised could be a problem is am going to be earning way more than him.

I am currently doing my articles towards chartered accountancy and he is currently working in real estate business he got a new job. I am afraid that i may become the boss of the house because if am paying bills and he is not even willing to help me with some of the things at home, i think there will be a problem.

Another issue is we are currently in different countries, we have been having a long distance relationship and i see him during holidays. Now am not sure if i want to relocate and give up everything because i can have more opportunities here then there especially for a man am not sure of.

I don't think he is willing to relocate because all his friends are there and family and job wise he may not get a job here. He seems indecisive about his future as he wants to go back and study and i don't know am very confused. Sometimes i find him childish and not mature enough even though he is 2 years older then me.

Should i hang in there or call it quits?

tpia1: cant make head or tail of the original post. . . . . .

iv4real: Just because someone does not see things the way you do, does not make dem local. This thought is very common with women abroad, he is not exposed, he is local.You should learn how to be open minded and be open to other peoples views. I am very sure someone like you will talk down at d guy or frown at anything he says because to you, you are very western and exposed.Is d guy lazy? What makes you think he won't make more money than you someday. My dear come down from your high horse and start thinking straight.

Miss_3v3:

Thank you for the response. Yes you are very right. We have had many talks and infact i have compromised so much. Truth is my bf is not the type of guy i usually go for but i gave it a try because he was such a nice guy etc. I plan to talk to him face to face when i go and see him for the holidays and if we are still not on par then i guess it may be best to break up. Its really is hard because we do love each other but i believe it is not just about love but other things example compatibility as that is someone i will be with for the rest of my life so we need to be on same level

D-Explorer:
The OP is an embodiment of egoistical species.

mbourie: From my on own point of view-u dont wish dis guy u called ur "bf" well,are you God? Your premonition about this guy's destiny is too bad. The fact that God has shown you mercy does not mean things might not go wrong 4u 2morrow-i dnt wish u jinx-but I hope u are aware the author who wrote d book titled:"rich dad, poor dad" is undergoing some financial meltdown. My advise 4u-Mind3v3,please leave d meek,sincere,whizzkid guy alone,because if u get married to him, you will make him look inferior subconsciously. There is a quotable quote dat goes like this, "a woman who equates himself with a man, has no ambition," u did not even equate urself with dis guy, u placed urself above this guy-my dear, you are not God!

Freezle: Hi friend,
Really nice for you to express what you going through, I want to tell you to take your time in analyzing your relationship, because you don't know tomorrow.... He might chance his mind toward relocating and for me since his loves for you is authentic and you reciprocate that's all for know. Just keep it in prayers and all would work out. All the best my dear friend.

iv4real: Just because someone does not see things the way you do, does not make dem local. This thought is very common with women abroad, he is not exposed, he is local.You should learn how to be open minded and be open to other peoples views. I am very sure someone like you will talk down at d guy or frown at anything he says because to you, you are very western and exposed.Is d guy lazy? What makes you think he won't make more money than you someday. My dear come down from your high horse and start thinking straight.

post.email:
I'm beginning to realize the obvious -too many kids on NL. The young lady poured her heart out, seeking an advice from you guys. But some folks here are already labeling her egocentric, etc. she said it as it is for her. If you think she's the problem, then advice her. How would feel airing your thoughts, only to get comments like shut the f*ck, sh*t, egocentric blah blah blah?
It's haughty!