Ur dating a guy who means the world to u, everthing u ever want in a man and from all indications he feels the same way about u.

But ur family does not accept him cos of the part of the country he comes from, given their experiences with people from that area.

His people do not accept u based on looks, and status.

Would u let go of the relationship because maybe God is using this people to save u from a life of misery or would u keep at it cos its ur chance at being happy?

It's pointless going into marriage when both families involved do not agree with the relationship.

Sometimes, it might be instinct making both families say no and it's best to let it go. But sometimes, it's just pride and prejudice causing wahala. You should pray about it, both you and the guy and try seek God's will. I've seen both sides of the coin, and you can never tell. But don't do anything stupid to force anyone's hand, like get pregnant.

Wetin remain again?

IF BOTH FAMILIES DISAGREE THEN RUN FOR YOUR DEAR LIFE, IF NOT UR PLANNING YOUR EARLY EXIT ON EARTH.

The words of our elders are words of wisdom. They have seen something you may not have seen but the onus is on them convince you. I would be all ears to what they have to say.

It all depend on who you are and how old. I for one wouldn't allow my family to have a say on who I marry cause the mariage is for myself not them.

DANILSA: IF BOTH FAMILIES DISAGREE THEN RUN FOR YOUR DEAR LIFE, IF NOT UR PLANNING YOUR EARLY EXIT ON EARTH.

you're rite

The only reason why I would quit a relationship is if I don't like him anymore. Aside from that, hmmmm

Its hard, but u just have to let go.


If d hubby dies..... D woman becomes lost wit her kids....

If d woman dies, d man is called a kidnapper/murderer.

This is because, he hasn't performed marriage rites.. Due to his parents not backing him, or her parents not suPporting/consenting!

ikachi1: The words of our elders are words of wisdom. They have seen something you may not have seen but the onus is on them convince you. I would be all ears to what they have to say.

What did they see? They have to give me an authentic reason. Not just "we don't like him because he is from......"

Run

mrrock: It all depend on who you are and how old. I for one wouldn't allow my family to have a say on who I marry cause the mariage is for myself not them.

i agree with u 100%

This case is usually frustrating expecially when both families are opposing and you're both in love. Sometimes this situation leads the parties with two choices, to part ways or to elope. So you need to ask yourself some introspective questions like, what does these people see that I do not? Is this marriage bound to fail? There's an old adage which says that " what an elder sees while sitting, a child cannot see it while standing''. Some people may say "our marriage will prevail against all odds, no matter what sayest our families or the gods" hmmmmn, obviously in love. So my point is, never go ahead with a marriage you have no blessing or support from your families.

k2039: It's pointless going into marriage when both families involved do not agree with the relationship.

Is it the family that are getting married or the guy and the girl? Get your head out of the fix, the business of marriage is between the husband and wife everyone else is an outsider, a baggage

its not adviseable to get married without ur families concent. the best tin to do here is to part ways.

It's quite painful, but if you do think you both can weather the storm hang on... but if one person is reluctant to dig in and fight... then you let go.

Hapiness is what I seek and hapiness is what I will fight for, family opposition or not.

I have been there and I can tell you letting go without that fight, will bring regrets of "what if"

Apply wisdom!

My life my choice. Those are dumb reason. More like my grandma disliking my ex Romanian gf because she refused to eat slummy soup aka okra soup thereby turning into overnight racist. Smh

I have a colleague who had a similar experience with yours, but she stood firm because her pastor told her the man in question was the man for her, else she would have bolted for her life, she said. She later found out that the fire was being fanned by some induviduals with vested interest. The husband's family later apologized and accepted her, they are married and expecting a baby girl right now.
SO : pray about this, it works; and its YOUR LIFE! I would rather make a mistake by my actions and learn from it, than have people lead me into one!

Just quit a better option is waiting

gistme24:
SO : pray about this, it works; and its YOUR LIFE! I would rather make a mistake by my actions and learn from it, than have people lead me into one!

This is the best advice. Op, you are responsible for your actions. No one else will share the same amount of sorrow or happiness with you.

Wendyslim: Just quit a better option is waiting

She should just quit, after meeting her soul mate. So that tomorrow, when things start going wrong she will start wishing "what if it had been this person that I got married to"

Op, you can quit... But why quit now.

Bumps

goosebumps: Ur dating a guy who means the world to u, everthing u ever want in a man and from all indications he feels the same way about u.

But ur family does not accept him cos of the part of the country he comes from, given their experiences with people from that area.

His people do not accept u based on looks, and status.

Would u let go of the relationship because maybe God is using this people to save u from a life of misery or would u keep at it cos its ur chance at being happy?

On things of emotion such as this, follow your mind. You can never be wrong and if you ever think you are wrong, think again, because you can never go wrong. Its your joy or sorrow, in either case, you lap it up and live with it, Just you, NO ONE ELSE.

It's difficult and painful especially after quitting and it's taking you so long to find another person you love like your Ex.

I would have asked you to hang on and fight but in your case it isnt one family that said NO rather both families said NO, so listen to them.

Is like this thread is for me, pls I av a similar issue @ hand nw, I love the girl very much n her family takes as if am their son, bt my parent especially my mum didn't want me to settle down with her because we are family friends n my mum said the girl was too stubborn when she was younger also she knew some guys she has dated b4, bt I dnt see all these as enough excuse, or mayb she's hiding something for me.... The funniest thing is that I jst recovered from similar scenario bt in a reverse state where my mum like d girl bt her family didn't want me, pls pple wat can I do coz am kind of tired of all dis relationship tinz....

Please, wear canvass and run

Op pls do not go into a marriage without the blessing of ur parents. Marriage is not a bed of roses. Its easier when ur dating. Reality sets in when u r finally married.
Listen to ur parents. Do not rush into marriage.

@OP, read through this topic https://www.nairaland.com/876626/crazy-brother-law-gullible-sister

goosebumps: Ur dating a guy who means the world to u, everthing u ever want in a man and from all indications he feels the same way about u.

But ur family does not accept him cos of the part of the country he comes from, given their experiences with people from that area.

His people do not accept u based on looks, and status.

Would u let go of the relationship because maybe God is using this people to save u from a life of misery or would u keep at it cos its ur chance at being happy?

If I were you, I will pray and let God tell me what to do. You do not want to marry into a family that does not want you, trust me. If tomorrow your husband begins to beat you, where will you run to in order to report him?