Kobojunkie:

Go back, read my questions to you there. I never jumped to any conclusions. Just wondered why your statements and suggestions all seem to be half-witted in that the women here is pretended to be some precious commodity(after marriage) that even her own uncle, who probably was a dear relative before marriage, is made to seem a VICIOUS MONSTER out to get her, simply because she is now married.

Respect does not mean "DO NOT MEET YOUR UNCLE IN A HOTEL". All around the world, business deals are made, issues are resolved, heck company employees meet up each day, but God forbid your wife goes to meet her uncle who is in a hotel for some reason(maybe even a valid one), it means she has lost all respect? WOW!!

I mean what I see are people INSECURE in their marriages projecting their insecurities on everyone else their partner has to deal with rather than facing the very issue which is typically lack of trust.

Siena:
Next time, rather than be so bullish, make sure you state you're trying to impose your opinion on others, rather than merely expressing a different opinion, and leaving it at that. Lies are told for two main reasons - the liar's trying to sell you something, or is afraid of you. Neither of these apply to me.

Siena:
What are you comparing here?? A scenario whereby your cousins or nieces come to visit you in a hotel, to the topic here, whereby an "uncle" requests a married female banker visits him in a hotel, so he can hand over a cheque? He knows she's vulnerable, and has targets to meet, so is most likely desparate to agree to his terms. Are there any similarities between your scenario, and the topic of this thread?

And since you've missed one point that was emphasized by the OP in the opening post, this "uncle" is not the sort of uncle you're thinking of - "family friend, NOT related."

Siena:
So "uncle's" going to hand over the cheque in the lobby, right?

Siena:
Helping her?? Who's account is the cheque going to fund? His, or hers? He's not helping her. She's vulnerable, and he's taking advantage. By you saying he's "helping" her, you're suggesting she should be grateful enough to jump through hoops, because he holds the four aces?

Little wonder the average female banker is under so much pressure.

free2ryhme: pls dnt get d fact dat she is marrid has change so many tins and dat she is accountable 2 her husband. Also she commands a degree of respect which her uncle must accord 2 her as his niece. All in d name of check 2 meet her target 4 wat? He can b d big broda and bring d check 2 her house. Do u fink dat d husband wld b plsd dat his wife is visitin her uncle in an hotel

coogar:

married women should not be shackled - the husband should just fold his hands and let things play out. never mind the fact that if anything happens, the society would want to know where the husband was when this happened. the in-laws would want to know how a responsible man would allow his wife to take such tasks - the same nigerians would say the hubby probably sent his wife to go pröstitute herself....if the wife gets hurt as a result or even die - the husband would be the one heartbroken for the rest of his life and yet he dares not stop his wife from putting herself in harm's way......

nigerian women - i hail thee!

maclatunji:

Yeah sure! He will just write her the cheque at the hotel restaurant and thank her for her banking services. It is this kind of naivety that occasioned that Cynthia girl's death. It is obvious majority of you cannot be trusted to take rational decisions when it really matters- so much for your much talked about intelligence!

BABE!:


You're getting it wrong. It's not about cheating. Cheating is secondary in this matter (assuming the woman is faithful). The primary issue is her safety!

The possibility of her getting r-a-p-Ed or worst of all, killed while having lunch at 'Mama Cass' is incredibly lower than her being in a super seclusive environment such as a hotel room.

Most kidnappers and evil doers do their deeds in such environments. When there are other options available, hotel rooms should be scratched.

armyofone: Aren't you being double standard eh? Here is a woman who is in need of money and someone is offering her the money-OP didn't say she will be collecting the money in the 'hotel bedroom' or at midnight.

that's why we pray to marry guys with real head on their shoulder. a real man with good and real head on his shoulder should be able to provide for his lady. maybe money for doing business etc madam here is working hard, spare her jo

maclatunji:

The irony is that some of the ladies here that post some of these ridiculous ideas would jump like an Orangutan if their husband asked them to. Yet they feed us with feminist crap here daily- abeg! We are not saying you are slaves but for God's sake, there are responsibilities attached to being married. The married ladies wouldn't stay married if they did half of the things they boast about here- I just pity the naive single ones that believe the hype to their own detriment.

victorian: I dont understand why the women on this post are so foolishly naive or foolishly stubborn to recognize the fact that u cannot trust a man in a hotel room, that wants to give u his money and won't touch?...oh please spare me... At my office building, on the 1st floor, am the one heading Phcn bills there.. There is a particular office, I went to see the md to make him aware of some errors in our bill, and when he saw me walked into his personal office,he quickly stood smile , shook my hands and I told him what I came for. During my short talk with him, his gaze was at my boobs, then face and will shake his head in agreement to what am saying.. As I stood up to leave, he smiles again and said pls permit me to hug you,one rarely sees a pretty babe like u all the time. Before I cud say wait, he grabbed me and hugged me tight, just to feel my boobs on his chest, an old man o... .. I was pissed,I couldn't push him roughly make I no commit murder, I just felt numb, by the time he let go, I quickly walkd out of his office, vowing not to go their alone again.... Then how much more hotel room!
Like someone said, in this post... The women are expecting and wishing robe raped.... No wahala,,it's their call not mine..I protect like body like gold.

Kobojunkie: Storyland! You lied, and I just called you out on it!

Kobojunkie: 1) My cousins, nieces and nephews, many of them happen to be married.
2) I happen to be a sort of "Uncle" to most of them
3) By your assessment they are also vulnerable . . . I mean they are showing up, sometimes in my room, to pick up what it is I have for them.

Now you continue to tell me how unsimilar these cases are . . . .

Kobojunkie: WOW . . you mean there is no way for uncle to hand over a cheque in the lobby? Are you sure you are not projecting here? It almost sounds like you expect the man to be guilty even before you have learnt anything of who he is, or what he will do or has done.

Kobojunkie: WOW . . . . we might as well throw the book at him. He is a monster from the way you seem to think and will definitely mo_lest her. Case closed, abi? Even before meeting up, he has probably ra_ped her because he asked her to show up at the hotel to collect cheque oo!!

victorian: I dont understand why the women on this post are so foolishly naive or foolishly stubborn to recognize the fact that u cannot trust a man in a hotel room, that wants to give u his money and won't touch?...oh please spare me... At my office building, on the 1st floor, am the one heading Phcn bills there.. There is a particular office, I went to see the md to make him aware of some errors in our bill, and when he saw me walked into his personal office,he quickly stood smile , shook my hands and I told him what I came for. During my short talk with him, his gaze was at my boobs, then face and will shake his head in agreement to what am saying.. As I stood up to leave, he smiles again and said pls permit me to hug you,one rarely sees a pretty babe like u all the time. Before I cud say wait, he grabbed me and hugged me tight, just to feel my boobs on his chest, an old man o... .. I was pissed,I couldn't push him roughly make I no commit murder, I just felt numb, by the time he let go, I quickly walkd out of his office, vowing not to go their alone again.... Then how much more hotel room!
Like someone said, in this post... The women are expecting and wishing robe raped.... No wahala,,it's their call not mine..I protect like body like gold.

ileobatojo: The drama in this thread is more manufactured than real. Isn't it an incredibly common scenario for these men to try to obtain sexual favors from women in exchange for helping them meet their quota. I think it is safe to assume this will be the same situation until proven otherwise. Even if it's never happened before sef, it is still safe to assume that a man asking a lady to come alone to his hotel room to obtain a favor relating to his money may try to sleep with her. Sometimes forcefully. Some sick men may even assume that your mere presence in the room automatically means you want it. Why put oneself in such a position?

If the meeting will be in the lobby or other public space then fine. If in the room, go with a chaperone. Or a weapon.

As to the husband allowing her or not, why should he allow her put herself in harms way if she came to seek his approval first? If she's asking her husband about it, it may mean she has her fears or is very naive and in that case why can't the hubby provide guidance? There's no reason why they can't both decide together that she meet in the hotel lobby or bust. Or that she go with someone.

All the indignation about the husband 'allowing' her is really not necessary in this case. He's not doing it just to prove his manly lordship over her but to keep her from potential harm.

I'm sure the problem in this thread is not that everyone cannot see the potential harm in meeting an unrelated man in his hotel room for a 'financial favor'. So why the drama?

armyofone: Aren't you being double standard eh? Here is a woman who is in need of money and someone is offering her the money-OP didn't say she will be collecting the money in the 'hotel bedroom' or at midnight.

Siena: It's all coming out now...first they were your nieces and cousins. Now, you happen to be a "sort of uncle to most of them." Make up your mind - you're either an uncle, or you're not. Regardless, your nieces and cousins visiting you in a hotel are doing just that - visiting you, not in a "working capacity." I'm sure your nieces and cousins don't need to visit you in order to pick up cheques in order to meet targets.

Siena: LMAO...you make me laugh. So one has to wait until the "uncle" makes a move? One thing hasn't been answered - why couldn't he just transfer the funds electronically? Okay, let's assume he's not computer savvy, or doesn't trust electronic transfer - what stops him from taking the cheque to the bank, handing it over that way? And please, drop the "he's doing her a favour" card. The money's going into HIS account, not hers. So what favour is he doing her?

Siena:
I know MALE bankers / marketers, as friends. They don't get elected to go retrieve cheques from old men in hotels, the pretty ladies are elected instead. Some of these rich old men have enough clout to say who THEY wish to come pick their checks up. Ever wondered why?

Siena:
Throw the book at him? How dramatic can you get? The OP asked a question, I gave my input. It is NOT appropriate for a male client to request a female banker / marketer to his hotel, to collect a cheque. This cheque could well be paid in over the counter, or transferred electronically. We're talking Nigeria, where nothing's done for free, and this lady would be expected to scratch some old "uncle's" hairy back in exchange for him handing over a cheque to fund HIS own account.

victorian: Why meet in a hotel? If the uncle doesn't have the intention of telling the receptionist to direct her to his room.... All he had to say come to my office, if his intentions are clean... But as it is office sef is also no safe ground....am always wary , when am in contact with a guy..... One nearly raped me in my office, as I was rounding up to go home...I had to warn him with a stern voice that I will scream so loud, the guards will come up,and beat him up, before he lets go of me...

victorian: Why meet in a hotel? If the uncle doesn't have the intention of telling the receptionist to direct her to his room.... All he had to say come to my office, if his intentions are clean... But as it is office sef is also no safe ground....am always wary , when am in contact with a guy..... One nearly raped me in my office, as I was rounding up to go home...I had to warn him with a stern voice that I will scream so loud, the guards will come up,and beat him up, before he lets go of me...

armyofone: @ coogar
ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww, who still hand washes in this age? Skid marks? do you have that? oya open it let's see. with all those fancy toilet paper and moistened wipes, you still talking skids? now i gotta throway this snail stew with uncle sam's rice for trash

where is my boots sef, off for training...carry on

Siena:

I lied about what? What's your definition of a lie?



It's all coming out now...first they were your nieces and cousins. Now, you happen to be a "sort of uncle to most of them." Make up your mind - you're either an uncle, or you're not. Regardless, your nieces and cousins visiting you in a hotel are doing just that - visiting you, not in a "working capacity." I'm sure your nieces and cousins don't need to visit you in order to pick up cheques in order to meet targets.



LMAO...you make me laugh. So one has to wait until the "uncle" makes a move? One thing hasn't been answered - why couldn't he just transfer the funds electronically? Okay, let's assume he's not computer savvy, or doesn't trust electronic transfer - what stops him from taking the cheque to the bank, handing it over that way? And please, drop the "he's doing her a favour" card. The money's going into HIS account, not hers. So what favour is he doing her?

I know MALE bankers / marketers, as friends. They don't get elected to go retrieve cheques from old men in hotels, the pretty ladies are elected instead. Some of these rich old men have enough clout to say who THEY wish to come pick their checks up. Ever wondered why?



Throw the book at him? How dramatic can you get? The OP asked a question, I gave my input. It is NOT appropriate for a male client to request a female banker / marketer to his hotel, to collect a cheque. This cheque could well be paid in over the counter, or transferred electronically. We're talking Nigeria, where nothing's done for free, and this lady would be expected to scratch some old "uncle's" hairy back in exchange for him handing over a cheque to fund HIS own account.

Kobojunkie:

WOW . . . I am going with "You are not daft" so I can continue to try to reach you.

um . . when you have nieces and nephews and you happen to be man, you are auto-magically an uncle. That is how it works.

Kobojunkie: Are we now assuming she is a banker?

Siena:

I would like to presume you're not daft either. An uncle is very different from "sort of an uncle." Your words, not mine.

coogar:

mama biology, you are criminally biased against women.

coogar:

nigerian women have brains now and power to wrestle a räpist and even kill him. there's no harm at all. the security system is also effective - you speed dial and the police come en masse to rescue any victim of a sëxual attack.

maclatunji:

So in your estimation, going to the hotel by this wife is "appropriate". This thread is becoming classic, you ladies are providing us with "uncommon wisdom". After the deed is done, she will be looking for the husband's understanding- abi?

armyofone: Aren't you being double standard eh? Here is a woman who is in need of money and someone is offering her the money-OP didn't say she will be collecting the money in the 'hotel bedroom' or at midnight.

that's why we pray to marry guys with real head on their shoulder. a real man with good and real head on his shoulder should be able to provide for his lady. maybe money for doing business etc madam here is working hard, spare her jo

Kobojunkie: I said it . . some folks believe that once a woman is married, her brain drops out on the way back to the man's house. The same brain that has served her growing up in the same Nigeria and the same wild streets, suddenly drops out of her skull when she is married and she then becomes sheep that needs to be led everywhere.

The woman may have been collecting checks and payments from her customers at hotels, homes, etc, for years. She probably has a business that she runs that way, but once we hear she is married, she becomes a half-wit that needs to be shepherded.
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maclatunji:

My brother, there is a particular bank which if you enter any upscale branch, you will wonder whether you are in a beauty pageant. I guess it is all part of a "positive" banking experience.

maclatunji:

My brother, there is a particular bank which if you enter any upscale branch, you will wonder whether you are in a beauty pageant. I guess it is all part of a "positive" banking experience.

BABE!:


You're getting it wrong. It's not about cheating. Cheating is secondary in this matter (assuming the woman is faithful). The primary issue is her safety!

The possibility of her getting r-a-p-Ed or worst of all, killed while having lunch at 'Mama Cass' is incredibly lower than her being in a super seclusive environment such as a hotel room.

Most kidnappers and evil doers do their deeds in such environments. When there are other options available, hotel rooms should be scratched.

BABE!:

I'm surprised that anyone (married or single) living in Nigeria will insist there's nothing wrong in "hotel meet ups" in this kidnapping and festive season.
Cynthia's case didn't teach most people a lesson, apparently.

Kobojunkie, it's not about her being married. This applies to everyone. Stop focusing on the marriage part, that's not the issue here.

The issue is safety and common sense. She's been doing it before, so what? She's been getting away with it, so what? That means she should keep at it? Everyday is for the thief, one day is for the owner. No one is saying something bad is DEFINITELY going to befall her, but there's a chance something will and that's enough for her to stay away from such meetings. There're other places to collect a check for jupiter's sake. No be ordinary check? It's not as if it's a 'Ghana must go' full of Awolowos.

Sisi_Kill:

What the waaaa. . .okay, we obviously need to go back to primary 1 school level. . .abi which class was it we were taught PART OF A HOUSE? I think we need another lesson on PARTS OF A HOTEL coz apparently, some people think it is just rooms they have in hotels.

So who wants to take up this magnanimous cause? Your reward is in heaven!