maclatunji:

Finally, I see where you are coming from- the land of rubbish academics and woeful debating!

dayokanu:

Masculinity is to dictate what your woman does ? Well i am not surprised at you though. You have stated clearly you dont want a woman who can think for herself.. A zombie is your ideal woman. Who does no work, Who has no financial freedom, physical freedom, emotional freedom but under the shackles of her husband to dictate every move she would make because she cant think on her own

Baby mama: And this uncle cannot come to her home or her job
Cannot meet her somewhere besides a hotel
Her husband is also barred from accompanying her?
Only a foolish husband that pi.mps out his wife for rent will allow such

coogar: so avoiding that situation completely is not a safer bet?
because people die boarding air planes now mean you should paddle on a canoe to new york because planes can also crash? what kind of stupidity is this for goodness sake? why do people work with extremes when they can easily deduce there are lesser evils?

Baby mama: And this uncle cannot come to her home
Cannot meet her somewhere besides a hotel
Her husband is also barred from accompanying her?
Only a foolish husband that pi.mps out his wife for rent will allow such

dayokanu:
I think your quote highlights your idiocy

Because Men rappe women means everyman out there is going to rapeee her. Fathers rape their daughters, So whenever your wife says she is visiting her father your rappe alert comes up

Basically the woman cant think for herself and need the man to think for her and determine whats safe and whats not

Kobojunkie:
Oh blimey!!! I asked you of the attack cases that happened in the hotels. There are stories of women getting attacked, but not ra_ped, in hotels. Do we just assume that BECAUSE @BABE on Nairaland thinks it, then it should be true that chances of rape is higher in hotels?? Come on!! Common sense says to INVESTIGATE to find truth before you continue naw . . .
How do you know the odds are higher? Again, we have an example of a woman who got attacked twice in an office. But so far you have not produced even a single evidence that rapers are higher in hotels yet you continue to spout this, why?
The last statement is illogical, and does not even go along with any of what YOU have been saying, or what I have been saying all this while.

bjcole: one yeye uncle like dat asked my wife 2 come home, because of some assistance, when she told, i could sense some wrong motives & i told her dis ur uncle is after something, she was like i m making asumptions, not more than two weeks after, d true color of d uncle was revealed. U will see d handwriting clearly & stil ignores it. Men dont think d way u women think, having sex to man is like easing himself & after, he is relieved. Even d advanced world, d men behave better because of d law.

BABE!:


Explain why it's illogical, ma'am.

It's a hotel for zeus's sake! Everyone minds their own business. Even if people hear noises, they would most likely not think anything of it. But in a TYPICAL office setting?. . common now... if she's truly and whole heartedly screaming for help, chances her she'll get help quicker than in a hotel room.

Btw, we're not talking about a one-man office here. The point of an office being "better" is because people will be there to help.

Because you have a closet example of an office attack doesn't mean my stance is void. It proves nothing. This is a matter of common sense and odds.

coogar:

some people are so unbelievably stüpid they don't even know where the buck stops with feminism. women who are so helpless in the hands of an attacker should not be kept out of harm's way because she can think for herself.

thinking for one's self and defending one's self are 2 different things. what if she assumes the uncle is safe but the uncle still attacked her?

i have never seen anything more moronic in my entire life - damn, some nigerians are dumb!



you are the troglodyte!



who knows what obtains?
my duty is to keep her out of harm's way so that men like you would find it difficult to rapë her.



her thoughts are irrelevant!
if a woman is so trusting to put herself in harm's way, her thoughts would not bail her out of the situation. we are talking about nigeria here where your attorney general claimed 90% of räpe victims were the cause of their situation. if only they had listened to their men - maybe the rate would be lower than 10%.

Baby mama:

Statistics tell us that most women are r.aped by people they know not total strangers
Family members and friends of the family
It is stupid reasonings like what I have read here that makes some parents leave their young daughters in prayer houses for hours and days because they trust their MOG and expect him to be impotent
And the MOG will defile the poor girl
We live in a dangerous world
If a father can r.ape his own daughter and nieces,what more some uncle that is not even related.

coogar:

the percentage is ridiculously high - women get räped far more by known faces....
so the people saying she would know her uncle better than the husband could are just simpletons.......that's even the more reason the appointment should be cancelled by the husband.

maclatunji:

I go to sleep, the mind boggles at some arguments here!

coogar:

better don't take 95% of the things you read here seriously.....
sometimes people just want to argue - it does not mean what they argue for/against is what they do in the real world. dayo is a chauvinist for instance - he's just winding us up!

Baby mama: This is from a UK site



Myth Men of certain races and backgrounds are more likely to commit sexual violence.

Fact There is no typical rapist. Studies show that men who commit sexual violence come from every economic, ethnic, racial, age and social group. 85% of rapists are men known to their victims.




Myth Men who rrape or sexually assault are mentally ill or monsters.

Fact Studies have indicated that as few as 5% of men are psychotic at the time of their crimes. Few convicted rapists are referred for psychiatric treatment.

http://www.rapecrisis.org.uk/commonmyths2.php

chaircover:

You haven't seen male gigolo bankers abi? . . . . and you live in Nigeria!

Amyway let me educate you . . . depending on your job title, bankers MALE & FEMALE are given a target that they have to meet. Some are lucky, they come from rich families so they can easily meet their targets. Some dont have that luxury and have to hustle anyway they know to get that money or their jobs are at risk.

Now back to this particular story. I am assuming that the transaction will take place in a hotel room and not the lobby or bar. Why? because generally speaking in Nigeria, hotels are seen as places where responsible married people dont just visit, so the man wouldn't want to risk being seen with another woman apart from his wife in a public hotel lobby because The first thing that comes to a Nigerians head when you mention the word hotel is sex!

This is also not a relation but a family friend. This changes the dynamics and anything can happen in that hotel room.

The "uncle" himself doesn't sound as if he is giving his money up for free . . . .It is a biz transaction and his office or the banking hall will be a more suitable location. Why does he need to hire a room in order to hand over a piece of paper.

Now I may be wrong and all this may be innocent but my gut feeling tells me otherwise and if I were the husband, I will feel a little uncomfortable too. Not because I dont trust my wife but because she is in a vulnerable position and may not be able to fight her way out if the man decides to rape or attack her.

personally, I believe that a man of integrity will not ask another mans wife to meet him at a hotel. Not in Nigeria anyway.

chaircover:

My question to you is does the gigolos wife know that her husband is not being decent and throwing it away on the excuse of career advancement and professional fulfillment?. . . . cos you are making it sound that all career highflyers are doing dodgy things to get to where they get to/got to. That is a big insult to many of the hardworking women out there who balance work and family on a daily basis.

. . . . .and to go one step further what do you think is the percentage of men who can effortlessly singly financially cater for their family?

chaircover: debrief its because of these speculations, sterotypes and assumptions that people generally have, that should stop a man of integrity in his steps and say he doesnt want his name or intentions muddied in any way and therefore say to the woman "I will come to your banking hall" or "tell your husband to come and get the cheque"

chaircover:

There is theory and practical . . . . . Thank you for being realistic.