BABE!:


Leave cheating out of this, and assume the woman is a faithful woman. Her cheating would be her choice. Her getting molested or killed in the privacy of her check-man's hotel room wouldn't be her choice. Why should she put herself in that kind of situation?

BABE!:


Leave cheating out of this, and assume the woman is a faithful woman. Her cheating would be her choice. Her getting molested or killed in the privacy of her check-man's hotel room wouldn't be her choice. Why should she put herself in that kind of situation?

coogar:

no wonder half of the firstborns in nigeria are bastards!
with the mentality like yours, may God save your matrimony - so the husband cannot decide what is safe for his own wife or what isn't? surely, akamu must have replaced your brain cells...

people would understand if a married woman gets räped in a car, office, matrimonial bed, etc because people would expect a married woman can be caught in such places. however, if a married woman lodges a complaint that she was räped in a hotel while meeting a client there - what would people think?

fecking hell, am i in the land of philistines?

Kobojunkie:

But she was attacked her in her own office, and almost rap_ed. She said she was molested in another office.

BABE!:


No one said these things don't happen In offices. Such things happen everywhere. So her getting molested in her office is not out of the blue. It's now a matter of lesser of two "evil venues".
Getting r-a-p-e-d in an office makes more sense in Nigeria, btw. If she gets r-a-p-e-d in a hotel, that story wouldn't sound right to the Nigerian audience (the police, her friends and even her husband). They would ask you, "what were you doing In a hotel room with another man?" Your answer will be BS and the case will be closed!!!

If the woman that got attacked (and escaped) in her office were to be in a hotel room when she got attacked, she would have been r-a-p-e-d, straight up. . . so it's better she was in an office.

dayokanu:
BABE can you make this judgment and decision yourself on whether to go to a mans hotel room or you need another man to make the judgment for you?

BABE!:


Of course I can! I'd expect my man to reinforce my decision of not going, coz that's what makes sense (in Nigeria).

stillwater: @Kobo

I know the men wants to use this to assert some authority. I'm not really adverse to that in a way, he's concerned about her welfare. But at the same time, let's forget the men issue and let this woman use her common sense. She's the only one that knows the kind of uncle she's dealing with, anyway.

dayokanu:
You are soo obtuse. So a woman that wants to go and "collect" in a hotel room has to be locked at home by her husband to protect her? What else why not put her in purdah so she wont go out and tie ropes to her neck.

If she decides she wants to go having made the assessment of the situation so whats your own business?

Women who reported their boss trying to abuse them were they told by their husband to do so?

This whole topic is based on the assumption that women left on their own cant think and make good judgment and their husband need to think for them on whats right and whats wrong.

So does your wife also choose where you go and where you don't?

stillwater: @Kobo

I know the men wants to use this to assert some authority. I'm not really adverse to that in a way, he's concerned about her welfare. But at the same time, let's forget the men issue and let this woman use her common sense. She's the only one that knows the kind of uncle she's dealing with, anyway.

Kobojunkie:

Women have been using their common sense in that country long before this question came up this December 2012 . . . The same women used her common sense when she was not married. The same women probably had to visit hotels to obtain payment from other people(I am again guessing that this payment is probably for a business or some investment or whatever, and it is probably not her first time ever getting payment from a man or friend, and she certainly has a brain of her own to know when she should be careful, or go with the flow. So, if we are talking just of the woman, I don't see what the issue here is.

However, as you can see, a lot of folks who continue to comment don't believe women have common sense of any kind and so they continue to suggest that a hotel should be a NO-GO area to a woman as a result. Do you see that?

dayokanu:

If you have made the decision of going or not going then its already decided. No one is in a better situation to make the decision except you. You know the uncle better, you know the kind of person he is, You know the relationship between you guys. So who would be in a better situation to judge other than you.

If the uncle is a flirt and a drunk, Can you Husband tell you to go in such circumstance? What if the uncle is Pastor Adeboye?

if a woman decides to go or not to go, and I know she is a reasonable person why should I question her judgment

Kobojunkie:

WTFrell . . .. how did you know this? Did you talk to her Office attackers to find this out for a fact or are you again JUMPING to conclusions

So, what about the reports of women being attacked(not rap_ed) in hotel rooms? Where would those have had to go to get ra_ped instead??

coogar: cynthia's family must have also thought she's sensible enough not to get räped in a dinghy festac hotel.... we are talking common sense and you are talking in roman numerals. millions of women in nigeria with a higher IQ than yours have been rapëd because they underestimated the situation......

Kobojunkie:

El_dumbero, that is EXACTLY what YOU and your ilk have been doing all this time. Suggesting that women go dig a hole to hide themselves because there is potential danger around the corner. . . .



Imagine this one not even knowing the core of his argument all this time.

dayokanu:

No they are senseless beings that needs to be told to sit, stand, go, come, walk, drive

dayokanu:
Basically women are not sensible enough to know when a situation is good or bad and they need a man to make such decisions for them.

Cynthia must be the first human being to make an erroneous judgment. The millions of men who make bad judgment daily who should they have consulted before doing it? Goodluck Jonathan or Tinubu?

coogar:

don't tell your spouse where to go.....
when she gets battered in the hands of evil men maybe you would learn your lessons painfully(which would have deserved). the babe @ ABSU gangbanged by 5 boys must have also thought the situation was safe - see what happened to her.....

why would you leave a woman in harm's way with 50% probability that she could be assaulted instead of avoiding the situation entirely? why do we have many daft people on this planet? this is like a horror movie of american teenagers acting stupïdly like they have no common sense!

coogar:

far from it.......
the babe that was attacked in her oga's office would have been rapëd if it was in a hotel. the situation would have been worse in a hotel so the office environment saved her. the attacker stopped because if she screamed, the other employees would hear......a woman screaming in a hotel can be mistaken for a woman having her 4th orgasm.....and if the scream is coming from the chief's room(the same chief who probably is their biggest customer) the staff would look the other way!

dayokanu:

If you have made the decision of going or not going then its already decided. No one is in a better situation to make the decision except you. You know the uncle better, you know the kind of person he is, You know the relationship between you guys. So who would be in a better situation to judge other than you.

If the uncle is a flirt and a drunk, Can you Husband tell you to go in such circumstance? What if the uncle is Pastor Adeboye?

if a woman decides to go or not to go, and I know she is a reasonable person why should I question her judgment

BABE!:

What I meant by that is there's a higher chance she'd get r-a-p-e-d in a hotel room. If you do not understand that by now, then I'm sorry for you.

BABE!:

Sh1t happens everywhere. If you now capitalize on that, and decide to leave public places where you're safer and go to hotel rooms and motels, then there's something wrong somewhere. It's all about chances! Nothing is certain, yes! No one has said she'd definitely get raped in the hotel, but the odds are higher.

BABE!:

There was a bomb blast in ikeja, Lagos years ago. On the other hand, Bomb blasts in Borno state is becoming a normal thing.
Now, would it make sense if I decide to go live in Maiduguri just because a bomb went off in Lagos too and sh1ts happen everywhere ? Isn't that putting myself In the hands of danger, deliberately ?

maclatunji:
Don't tell me you joined Kobojunkie in missing my point in that post. That would be disappointing.

dayokanu:
So women who have no husband and are single are running into mischief daily and since they have low IQ, They need the men to help them think. The ABSU girl cant think, Cynthia cant think Infact women can't think and make sensible decisions about their wellbeing and safety.

No wonder the senate full of men would sit down and decide whats good for a womans health because those beings called women can't just think they are toddlers

BABE!:


Of course I can! I'd expect my man to reinforce my decision of not going, coz that's what makes sense (in Nigeria).

BABE!:
Why are you the man In the relationship then? Guess what. . . judgements are to be questioned. Sometimes, people need a second opinion or judgment and those second opinions are indeed right; they do make more sense.

It's not like there aren't other options other than a hotel room. Why must they be together in a hotel room before he can hand over the damn check ? There are safer places the check can be handed over.

maclatunji:


Obviously, comprehension flies above your head even if force-fed down your throat. Let's break it down- you would get the beating of your life at Oshodi Isale and certainly lose the valuables. Effectively leaving the relative comfort of your home to a relatively insecure location is the point there.

A woman has a reasonable chance of warding-off assault in most places other than a hotel especially when she is the one really requiring something from the person inviting her to come to the hotel in Nigeria. Your arguments are beyond foolish, the test is simple, if there is no ulterior motive present the cheque at a place she is comfortable with not the opposite.

Female bank marketers who strive to be decent won't come to your office to even present account opening form without a colleague talk less of coming to collect a cheque probably worth millions.

BABE!:


Why are you the man In the relationship then? Guess what. . . judgements are to be questioned. Sometimes, people need a second opinion or judgment and those second opinions are indeed right; they do make more sense.

It's not like there aren't other options other than a hotel room. Why must they be together in a hotel room before he can hand over the damn check ? There are safer places the check can be handed over.

If the uncle has something up his sleeve or doesn't, then meeting at Mr. Biggs gives a very very slim chance of anything "going down".

maclatunji:

Obviously Dayo has been overfed with family section feminism, he is losing his masculinity. May the day never come that my future wife thinks that my opinion on ANYTHING doesn't matter. She might not ask for it but that is a different thing from saying it doesn't count.

Dude has a long way to go.

#Hehehehe

Kobojunkie: I said it . . some folks believe that once a woman is married, her brain drops out on the way back to the man's house. The same brain that has served her growing up in the same Nigeria and the same wild streets, suddenly drops out of her skull when she is married and she then becomes sheep that needs to be led everywhere.

The woman may have been collecting checks and payments from her customers at hotels, homes, etc, for years. She probably has a business that she runs that way, but once we hear she is married, she becomes a half-wit that needs to be shepherded.

Kobojunkie:

a) There is NO evidence that in Nigeria, the home is MORE SECURE. There are people who have right there in their homes been ra_ped, robbed, molested . . . children fall safely in this category.

b) There is NO evidence that you are more likely to be ra_ped in a hotel than in your home, in Nigeria. So far, many of you have made the 'comfortable' assumption that a hotel equals a hotel room when any intelligent individual knows that is not true. Also, many of you have conveniently concluded that because you think a hotel equals a hotel room, in your heads, and that there is like a bed in that room, means ra_pe is likely to happen there. When in reality the vast majority of ra_pe reports in the papers usually are of ra_pe carried out in the streets and homes(not hotels) across the country.

c) Creating truths for yourselves out of thin air does not make them facts.

dayokanu:
The men don't have supernatural powers to know a potential rappist better than you. Possibly based on your relationship with the uncle you know him better.

You need to collect money from your uncle who flew to town for an occasion and he told you to meet him in his hotel to collect the money, Situations like that happen everytime, The only variable is your opinion of the uncle and how he acts around people. Thats what would determine whether you go or not. Not what another human thinks. Your uncle might be like an angel to be but be flirting with you codedly, Who would know that better? YOU