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|Re: My Mother Inlaw by Metalgoong(m): 8:11pm On Dec 11, 2012|
I think you are the low life . . . Classless hag!
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by Nobody: 8:16pm On Dec 11, 2012|
A bushmeat has just been set loose! awwwww its bin sometym i ate bushmeat! pls get back into the pot darlyn!
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by Nobody: 8:18pm On Dec 11, 2012|
Eermm..... what's going on here? Now you want to shoot the messenger cos I interpreted what was said on a particular thread..... Hissssssss Abeg move jor and stop hating,
that's what you all resort to calling people low lives and low self esteem ...... hehehe like I give a FVCK!
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by Metalgoong(m): 8:28pm On Dec 11, 2012|
Your mental problem is beyond redemption. . . The Bedlam or Yaba Left wont even accept you. Your family needs to chain and dump you in one of those white garment churches in Nigeria and never look back.
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by coogar: 8:28pm On Dec 11, 2012|
this is not a beef market - calm down or go and sip some coffee.
don't mind her....
she needs to go apologise - what she did was inexcusable....only a wife who has no regards for her own parents would lash out at her in-laws. it really says something about her upbringing. i want to know what her own parents said about her actions? i doubt they would support such nonsense.
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by baby124: 8:32pm On Dec 11, 2012|
oh my days.... hahahahaha.
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by Nobody: 8:32pm On Dec 11, 2012|
lwkmd! cool down jare you are about to be cooked and chopped!
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by Nobody: 8:48pm On Dec 11, 2012|
Ms Juan ..... is there a problem somewhere I'm not aware of? I'm very confused right now Have we crossed path before
Metal Abeg chill let her say what's bothering her.
Or is she Blazay / callotti again?!
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by Metalgoong(m): 9:00pm On Dec 11, 2012|
Most times, people like you who have incurable mental illness starts showing their cannibal instincts with their crave for any kind of bush meat .
You need to be chained right away before you end up like Clifford orji !!!
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by baby124: 9:07pm On Dec 11, 2012|
jidegirl12: Ms Juan ..... is there a problem somewhere I'm not aware of? I'm very confused right now Have we crossed path before
Am so confused too. What happened? Why did she fly off her handle like that. . Where is the hostility coming from.
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by Nobody: 9:12pm On Dec 11, 2012|
hehehee you this
Bon Apetite to moi!
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by Nobody: 9:35pm On Dec 11, 2012|
I have no clue like seriously..... I swear she sounds like one of the mentally disabled individual .... She needs a PRN seriously!
She opened various threads about her hubby and MIL and I was very nice on one of them so..... I'm just dumbfounded at her sudden attack!
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by Kobojunkie: 10:51pm On Dec 11, 2012|
[size=14pt]The Bible NEVER SAID anything of the Virtuous woman NEVER LOOSING HER FUSE from Time to time. Even Jesus Christ lost his cool from time to time and that did not make him less of a Savior. [/size] For all you and I know this @OP could be a virtuous woman . . . an example of the woman in Proverbs 31, who knows.
Also, another thing I will like you to take note there is Proverbs 31 never talks of mother in-laws or in-laws being part of her family. It refers to her husband and her children as her family. These are small things that people like to IGNORE so they can continue to arrogantly spew tripe in the name of understanding.
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by plaetton: 11:16pm On Dec 11, 2012|
So the proverbs never mentions that a virtuous woman should respect her mil, therefore a mother inlaw is excluded from those of whom she should show utmost respect?.
That is a very narrow and extremely infantile way of interpreting the bible as well as life in general.
You think a husband is like a custom made shoe you can just pick from a store, pay for it and then it becomes all yours.
You are extremely immature.
Let me repeat what other wise people have been emphasizing on this issue:
If you love and RESPECT your husband, or wife, you must extend that same RESPECT to your inlaws, ESPECIALLY your mil.
If that is too hard for you or anyt one, dont ever bother to f&%$#@ng get married.
A good wife brings joy and peace to a family. A bad wife, such as the op comes to destroy a bond between a mother and her son.
No matter how bad your mil is , dont start that war, because no matter how it ends up, you loose. You can never ever win.
Once you loose your so-called fuse on you mil, your relationship with your husband cannot go anywhere but down and keep sinking.
My mil does not like me. A fact that is well known to my wife. As far I am concerned she has every right to feel anyway she you wanst about me. She is a mother, and I see her and treat as my own mother.
I cannot ever envisage a situation where I would loose my fuse on my mil. I would never ever mistreat, disrespect or insult my mil. God forbid.
When she ties to exert or flex power around me, I just see as an amusement and usually my wife would take care of her without even a whimper from me.
Now why can't women behave the same way? How come men hardly ever complain or confront their mils or father inlaws?
You see it's a bad woman's problem. Good women, even under the most humiliating circumstances, always find a way to comport themselves and avoid bitter confrontations.
That is what makes a good woman.
I guess, a bad woman can never see any good, no matter how many times you point it out to her.
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by Nobody: 11:17pm On Dec 11, 2012|
I beg you, please stop talking about things you don't know. Do not ever write the bolded again. The Bible clearly says it is better that it is better to live on top of a tree than with a quarelsome woman and even in Proverbs 31, the Bible says the mouth of a virtuous woman is full of kindness. What this poster did is wrong! This is not to a stranger but your own MIL. Where is honor your mother and father? I'm sure you will say MIL is not biological mother so deserves no honor abi?
Stop talking about things you don't understand! And please Our Lord and Saviour was not "loosing His cool from time to time", I wonder where you get such from!
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by Metalgoong(m): 2:32am On Dec 12, 2012|
Woman, nairaland wont help you with your mental disabilities. I pity your husband who married a lunatic. . . Your hubby and MIL really need to keep an eagle eye on you mentally deranged hag before they end up like the victims of Clifford Orji . . .
You are on a looong thing if you think you can add me to the lists of your
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by Kobojunkie: 3:07am On Dec 12, 2012|
what the heck . . . you highlighted my post but you NEVER offered an actual rebuttal to show it is wrong. Are you just here to argue for arguments sake or what? Please next time, if you have nothing sensible in the line of a rebuttal, don't border pretending you have a clue.
As I said . . .
If you have evidence, as in real evidence, then post it to show you have a clue, else sud off! I am done wasting time on you
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by Kobojunkie: 3:07am On Dec 12, 2012|
Read my response to the other one of your kind who attempted to rebut what I said without even showing he has a clue.
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by Nobody: 3:38am On Dec 12, 2012|
My mother never cooks in her sons house without permission from her DILs. Neither does she stay past two weeks except on omugwo. She is not one to poke her nose and just last year she thanked her DILs for looking after her sons and asked them to kneel before she prayed for them.
Not all mothers are witches. They are still sane ones
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by Kobojunkie: 4:06am On Dec 12, 2012|
That ought to be the way. I never could cook in any of my aunts or uncles houses without permission. My grandma and mum were the same way. So was my dad. It is called RESPECT but I guess it is lost on so many here.
You do not walk into someone else's house no matter how related you think you all are, and start taking over. To this day, my mother knows her place when she shows up in the house of her children. She may be their mother but she knows that after marriage, her position has taken backseat and now it is the turn of the kids and their immediate families. We are all Africans, so imagine my shock when people claim it is AFRICAN to be disrespectful to those you are related to.
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by plaetton: 4:18am On Dec 12, 2012|
He he he. so it 's all about cooking?
So this whole wahala is about cooking?
The women is away on her stressful job, he mother in law cooks for the household, she comes back and finds her husband, and I suppose her kids, enjoying a good meal, but instead of thanking her mil for being considerate and kind enough to have relieved her of the job cooking after stress filled day at work, what does the bad woman do, she decides to throw tantrums at her mil right in front of her husband.
She is probably a terrible cook, so mother inlaw's food is now a great threat.
Women, na wa o.
And this Kobojunkie person thinks its just ok.
I know you are not married, so pls save yourself and whichever unfortunate man out there potential problems and heartches by not contemplating marriage,at least until you fully mature.
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by 2sexy(m): 4:32am On Dec 12, 2012|
babyosisi:God bless you ma'am... I was almost in tears I don't know where you touched in my heart but you have spoken out of undiluted wisdom.
I can't analyze all you have written in connection with what I have to say since I'm currently on phone and not my laptop.
Like I said earlier..."The Kind" of mother is what matter here.
Another thing is that the OP will DEFINITELY do the same for her own son. It's normal.
But telling my own mother to leave my house, is unacceptable. Ha... I just don't know but after what I saw my own elder brother turn into in hands of his wife, I have made it a point of focus that there is NO guarantee that a woman and I will remain under one roof other than her manners not even if children were involved. God help me.
To all the women that have spoken well, may unmerited favour meet you at your point of need. You will live long enough to enjoy your children.
It's a mother we are talking about here. Not a brother or sister or uncle. A woman like the OP who breast fed her son, went through thick and thin with him. Fought toot and nail to see him become a full grown man.
Ideally, mothers are jealous of the fact that, by law of nature, all her labour over the years has been 'stollen' in a space of a year or two. She hopes that a wife would be able to take care of her son as she has done. And I think what the OP should have done was to assure her MIL that "mama, don't worry, your son is in safe hands"
As long as this world is concern, I don't think any woman can sacrifice as much as my mother has done for me. Therefore, I cant tolerate and watch a woman whom I have only spent a few years with rubbish my mother who has been there for me in the last 30+ years in my presence. The OP is really lucky that the husband was cool with her.
God help me because a woman's manner is the MOST VALUABLE asset in my book, not beauty or s3x.
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by Kobojunkie: 5:25am On Dec 12, 2012|
plaetton: He he he. so it 's all about cooking?
Unfortunately for Nigeria, this here is an example of what the mothers have produced as the next generation in Nigeria. A sample wrought with no respect for the marriage institution and no respect for the rights of human kind. Sad ! tell ya!!
Mothers, please try to do a better job . . . set better examples for your sons and daughters so this cycle of humiliation does not continue for generations to come.
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by Nobody: 6:31am On Dec 12, 2012|
You are asking me if this is all about cooking? So I just wasted my time and all this time you've been blabbing, you had no idea what you were talking about? So you have just been posting without even having an idea of what went wrong?
plaetton: He he he. so it 's all about cooking?
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by plaetton: 6:32am On Dec 12, 2012|
2sexy: God bless you ma'am... I was almost in tears I don't know where you touched in my heart but you have spoken out of undiluted wisdom.
I hope kobojunkie is reading all this, instead of deluding herself in her fantasy lalaland.
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by Nobody: 6:36am On Dec 12, 2012|
Of course you don't just walk intl someone else's kitchen and start cooking. Respect is supposed to be earned. My home is my home and my rules my rules. You either accept it or leave
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by Nobody: 6:38am On Dec 12, 2012|
it really amuses me when i see
Have a blessed day
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by plaetton: 7:02am On Dec 12, 2012|
And look who has respect for marriage and humankind. Big laugh.
Everything you post on this forum seem to clearly indicate that you have noooooooo idea what marriage is about and neither do you know what respect ct really means in a marriage. I am happily married for 14 years. At least I know what I am talking about. You are still in your Mills and Boom romance novel fantasies.
I can assure you, your Angry-black-woman front is gonna be a big problem for you.
Over and over again, in this and other threads, you never seem to understandt the main issues before you jump, head first, into the defence of a woman, no matter what she has done.
I keep wondering about your age, your upbringing and your sense of morality. The problem on threads like this is that many of you bring your Angry-black -woman syndrome to bear on any and every issue. If every corrective gesture from a man is abuse and humiliation to you, then don'e ever bother even attempt marriage, just get yourself a good di.ldo with a long-lasting duracell battery. lol.
But if you are a man, I suppose a young exhuberant lad, well, I have good news for you. There are lots of women out there looking for a pus.sy boy like you that they can walk all over,emasculate and castrate to be their cockhold husband. It would suit you fine.
For your information, I am not a male chauvinist. I probably have greater respect for women than you do. I am sorrounded by women in my life and I respect, protect and fight for women's rights and dignity. That said, what is wrong is wrong.
You never ever seem to see wrong in whatever acts of irresponsibility any woman shows towards her husband.
Any time a man criticizes the actions of an irresponsible woman, to you the man is acting like a beast, a bully and so on.
With that, I can almost psycho-analyze you with a degree of accuracy.
We all have our wounds from bad relationships.
Dont let yours always cloud your judgement. Defending women's rights and dignity is fine and noble. I am all for it. But call a spade a spade when it's time to do so.
A man builds a house, it is the woman that builds the home. I believe that women are the stronger sex because they have a greater and more important responsiblity in the home and also have the natural ability to endure a lot more than men.Once a woman abdicates that responsibility for petty issues, then the home cannot stand.
For the records, men are do far worse things to women. a lot of women bear all sorts of abuse in the hands of bad men. I pity them and would defend their dignity when it's time to do so.
Your posts are always the same, defending acts that are clearly indefensible, as long as a woman is involved. Maybe that is how you tell yourself that you are modern and civilised.
You, infact, we Africans, have little idea of what it really means to be civilised. It still eludes us.
Let me repeat this over gain.
You cannot insult or disrespect a man's mother and expect to remain good friends with him. That is fact , not fiction, and has nothing to do with being modern or civilised.
If you like heed it, if dont like, go ahead and try it one day with your spouse.
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by Nobody: 7:07am On Dec 12, 2012|
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by vanitty: 7:30am On Dec 12, 2012|
Poster, the way you handle yourself right from the onset matters, right from the moment you were introduced as the fiancee. You will have obviously seen this lace of respect trait in mama's attitude towards you but you decided to ignore it. Now you are married, you think you can just cut off mama from son, you are sadly mistaken.
However, no point crying over split milk, at the fix you find yourself, please the only thing you can do is apologise.
Don't let anyone advice you to do "stronghead" especially as your hubby as said his mother cannot leave. As many people have said, it is a battle you can never win, you lose each time regardless of the outcome.
I still even for the life of me cannot fathom how you can tell his mother to leave your house, na wa, was it not even too heavy in your mouth.
Even mere family friends at times, you have to be very diplomatic in the way you deal with them, you won't outrightly tell to get lost not to talk of your husband's mother. I still don't understand how his mama giving you the "evil look" links to you throwing the food away.
Remember, bi won se ni ilu kan, ewo ibomiran ni - that is simply saying "what we do in my town might be a taboo in another place"
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by plaetton: 8:02am On Dec 12, 2012|
And besides, in far majority of cases, it is the woman's mother, brothers, sisters and relative that usually come to live or stay in a couples home.
Most men don't have a problem with that. In most cultures, it is almost a given.
You hardly ever hear men feeling insecure about their mil,fil or her wife's siblings living or overstaying in their homes, talk less of directly confronting and insulting a mil or Fil. Unheard of.
Why is the woman the only one that imagines that she has something to loose or under threat when her inlaws come to stay?
|Re: My Mother Inlaw by Nobody: 8:15am On Dec 12, 2012|
jidegirl12: Yada yada ....... why can't people just be real for once?
Na wa oh . . . Are you so scared of the man you claim to love so much that you can't even air your greiviances to him
Thank God I married a man who I can still complain to about things that are not right to me, without standing the risk of being kicked out.
How you colcluded that this post is about gra gra is beyond me!
The woman has been tolerating crap from the MIL for soo long. When a bull is pushed to the wall, you know what happenes!
All I'm saying if if MIL has behaved herself, or her hubby had intervened when he should have, things would not have gotten to this stage!
I hope to br married forever, and forevere is a looooong time to spend kissing up to someone who is making me unhappy in my own home. DILs who take crap from their MILs are mostly on their knees every night praying for the poor woman to die so they can have peace of mind.
I prefer we all live in peace than one party making the other uncomfortable, don't you think
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