If all ladies dress this way, the world would be a better place. No butts hanging out, no cleavage showcase and very fitting tops and pants. Hope they listen to you. Men feed on what they see according to the captain of their hearts. Leaving your unclothedness out there will never keep him forever, it can for a while but not forever. He would definitely find another one out there.

Five things that gives you away "Cheaply"

The word "cheap" when used for a lady is disgusting, demoralizing and dirty. Most times when men talk about women,  they use this word to depict how easy it was to have free casual sex with ladies who believed they are in love with them. Sex is not the litmus test for love. When a man loves you genuinely, it is totally unconditional and he holds himself back from sin. The reason why ungodly men have their way with you is because you have condescend to the level of a cheap girl. I will be sharing the five indicators that suggests to a man that he can sleep with you for free.

1. Lust:- A lustful lady is a cheap lady. Lust is an act of coveting things you don't have or wanting things you can't afford. Ladies feel that they are smart when they make a man buy all they ask him too. You can never outsmart a man because in that state of your lust,he has already mapped out two strategies ahead of you. You will feel that it's your time but he is thinking of how to rob you of that your prized possession which is your sexual dignity. FYI, sinful men go behind you and laugh at your stupidity amongst their friends when you are not there. He would fight with you and due to the lustful manner you have portrayed yourself, his friend would come have a go with you too and I bet he to would score a goal due to your careless lifestyle. A man is not stupid when he lavishes that amount of money on you. He knows how sinfully dignified is he when he has been able to get you on your back. You may feel that you are enjoying yourself even when you are having sex with him but I want you to think of the shameful consequence even before the sinful consequence. Nowadays, the moment you meet a lady and show some iota of interest, she turns you into a cash cow to be milked dry. Some men do have more sinister reason to want to sleep with you. We have heard of some men using ladies for rituals and you can imagine that the cause of your death is meat pie, sausage and ice-cream.

2. Notice Me:- Most ladies even in the church today do use this to try and make men to be aware of there presence. They feel that by doing this, they attract responsible men unto themselves. You can only attract one set of people, the wrongfully minded men as you. Most time ladies are the cause of their woes. You create an atmosphere around you that people must notice you everywhere you go in order for you to gain respect; respect is earned most times when you are quiet and thoughtfully reserved. You can never get any man to love you by trying to be noticed. He would notice only one thing, the fact that you a cheap lay. You may not be a cheap lay but when you act like this, it portrays you as such.

3. Mode of dressing:- This is one terrible aspect that our ladies get wrong all the time. How can you tell me that a responsible man would be rightfully attracted to you when half of your boobs are hanging out and you ass is packed tight in your trousers? You would only attract men that they only see you as free sex and cheap lay, worst case scenario, they would spend a few thousands to fleece you into bed. And once they sleep with you, it now becomes a regular reoccurrence. You will become his sex mate. So many relationships and marriages has been lost due to ladies fooling around. Do you know if the man you slept with now is a close relative to your fiancé in future? Is that the kind of life you want to live? The way and manner of your dressing mostly determines whether your boss would harass you sexually. When you dress up, look at the mirror to see if you are not hanging out sexually. I am not against ladies wearing trousers but the definition of trousers that is to tight or that is hanging out you ass is a total abomination unto you. It will give irresponsible men the wrong type of message and make them run after you only for sex.
Stop making yourself an object of ridicule and a channel to hell by your sinful way of dressing.i think a word is enough for the wise.

4. Your friends:- Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are. The kind of company you keep will determine your level on the cheap and expensive chart. This chart has nothing to do with money. It has to do with how you carry yourself. When you join up with friends that are not Godly, the end result is a situation whereby you would have to do what they do. They will influence you to become cheap or look cheap. They do not need to teach you what you do before you start picking up traits of a cheap lady. You will start to unknowingly pick up their dirty habits. They will influence your decisions on daily basis and the end result is that you will fall flat on the chart of life.

5. Things you watch and listen too:- Recently, a research came out about the devil worship of most of this international musicians whereby the worship baphomet. This subconsciously deal with your subconscious mind and teaches you to see casual sex as a norm. Most of all their lyrics too are pointing to this direction and when you listen and watch this kind of musical videos, they silently change who you are. There is so much power in the visualized media. Some ladies watch pornographic movies and they feel that they are in control of themselves. This trait will not just appear one day, it will subconsciously start to manifest in how you see the opposite sex. This will draw you to men that would see the cheapness in you.

More trads!

naturality: Imagine when you are on a date and a girl is asking you question like ''are you a student?´´ what job do you do?'' do you have a car?'' ''do you live alone?'' etc

Word.

Soyedele1: You are doing a great job here carmelion.let me quickly share my experience with you.I met ds lady and I decided to ask her out bt do u knw she sd?she sd 'Samuel,I don't do such,u r not ready for a relationship,pls face your book and make sure you read well my dear'
I was like WTF I just left and smiled.im 26 ooo,imagine!!!!!

Soyedele1]@ carmelion.....Well,d gal is 25yrs old of age.we met tru a frnd and we xchanged numbers.she is a graduate of ui,nt presently working.
I only wanted to try my luck ni u knw?undergrad dating grad bt when i asked her out and it took me alot of courage to walk up to her and ask her out.i ws nervous dat day bt she gave me dt response i posted earlier and believe me,i knew she needs a relationship badly and im already to offer her one..
I met another lady during my PD days,i wanted to ask her out bt imagine ds lady telln me that she cant date her level mate and dt d least she can date is 300lvl.when we got to 300lvl,i asked her out officially and imagine ds gal telling me she is nt a secondary gal that do get moved with words and how does she expects me to take gud care of her snc we r both students.apart,she sd she cant date her lvlmate.i was like wow!!! Keep it up.

^^^^

^^^I promised to say the little I can concerning the above mentioned issue.So here I am.

What am about to say is as a result of my observations and by virtue of being a woman.

It might not be exciting especially to the guys but there is little or nothing anyone can do about. Sorry.

Mr Soyedele (and others who would find this useful),I want to tell you that a 26 year old girl and a 26 year old guy are just AGE MATES on paper,NOTHING ELSE!.In every sphere of life she is older than you(everything being equal) most especially biologically.

When I say everything being equal,I mean if both of you re given equal opportunities in life.

Mr Soyedele,let me give you an insight of a womans world. Once a lady gets to 18,she is biologically old enough to be married so gradually her mind starts settling towards that direction. I wouldn't blame guys for going after their age mates .It's only natural cos they re the ones that can really flow with them when they re discussing.

I mean the discussion between a 26 year old guy and an 18yr old girl may not really flow. The guy would feel more comfortable with his age mate.(My guess,am not a guy)

Mr Soyedele,the lady told you the right thing but in a wrong way(I mean her choice of words re not ideal). At 26,she must be facing pressure at home,I mean she is working,so the next thing obviosly is marriage.

Okay,let's assume she falls in love with you,(let's not forget that you re in school o,)then after which you will now go for one year youth service .

So that means she will be 27 when you pass out. Then you will start job hunting. May be or may be not,you will land a job.

But let me ask you,Mr Soyedele,what if you don't get that big job that would enable you go and pay a lady's bride price?She would continue waiting for you?with all the peer pressure?family pressure,societal pressure?or she should borrow you some money,later you will pay?

Even if she decides to wait,when it is time to marry her,it is the grooms family members that would kick against you marrying an older lady.

They would ask you what happened to the younger ladies?No amount of explanation would convince them,I mean they were not there when it all began.

Then in order not to disobey your 'loving/caring' family members you will now leave her may be at the age of 33 or so. Let me ask you who do you want her to marry then?

Yes the lady rejected you then, though in her mind(she might like you) but she was bothered about your current status. May be after school God,will make you a millionaire over night,but then the poor girl doesn't have the ability to see beyond that day(No human has the power).

Its not easy ,my brother. If only you know the pressure single ladies face. if only you know.

Please next time ,channel your love to someone younger,in age and status.

You won't have any problem. Infact,she will see you as a mini-god.

2buff:

How does the rejection taste?
Delicious isn't it?
Ya know, if you sprinkle it with some lack-of-shame garnished with a bit of self-pity, it really starts to settle in your gut like a heavy meal of pounded yam, egusi and assorted meat. Yum

This is what most guys have for breakfast, lunch and dinner.

^^^Hello house,lets discuss this tommorow.

Hope you all had a nice day?

WHAT U̶̲̥̅̊ NEED TO KNOW BEFORE SLEEPING WITH HIM. It's a hard pill to swallow, but it’s true: Just because a man has sex with a woman doesn’t mean that he has even spent a second thinking whether or not he wants to be with her or have a relationship in the future.

So if you’re thinking that sleeping with a man will make him “see your worth”, you’re dead wrong.

It is not the physical attraction a man feels for a woman - or getting close to her physically - that makes a man really “feel it” for you and want more.

Yet almost every woman I know equates sex with a relationship.

The Morning After

Let’s say you slept with a guy, and then he got distant. You’re probably thinking he played around with you and was not being honest about what he was looking for.

“You’ve gotta stop banking on what you think a relationship could be - and what I call a man’s “future potential” - and start opening your eyes to what is.”
But let me ask you this: Did YOU tell him what you wanted before you got physical? Did you say something like, “I only sleep with a man if he already values me and sees me for the amazing woman that I am?”

I’m guessing no. Instead, you probably did what lots of women do during “casual dating” - You gave him no impression about whether you were in it for the fun and connection of it all with him or were actually looking for something serious.

You thought the act of sex alone would speak for itself. Wrong.

If you’ve ever felt hurt because you became physical with a man and he ended up not having an interest in dating or starting a relationship, then odds are you can look back and see that you’ve made this mistake.

Of course, it doesn’t seem like it’s you who is making a mistake in these situations. It feels like the man you’re with is the one who obviously doesn’t get it and is a player for not being ready for a relationship.

But deep down, you know you slept with this man because you believed that if you could come up with enough “proof” that he should love and value you, and if you could make things “perfect” between you two, then he would become the open and loving man you imagined him to be.

Who Gives You Your Worth?

You’ve gotta stop banking on what you think a relationship could be - and what I call a man’s “future potential” - and start opening your eyes to what is.

You’re so wrapped up in his perspective, what he’s doing, his feelings, his emotions and his desires (or lack thereof) that you’ve all but forgotten about something way important. What YOU really want.

I’ll take a wild guess here and bet that the kind of guy that you truly want isn’t a guy who is going to freak out or act distant just because you’re telling him how you’re feeling after you’ve already slept together.

and what men really mean when they say they want “freedom.”

Knowing this will free you from the pain of getting too attached to a guy and then pushing him away. You’ll learn how to handle sex throughout every stage of dating and how to give him the “freedom” he’s looking for in a new way - through love and connected experience.


Happy Valentine dolls... I'm out for now...

madridsta007: WHAT U̶̲̥̅̊ NEED TO KNOW BEFORE SLEEPING WITH HIM. It's a hard pill to swallow, but it’s true: Just because a man has sex with a woman doesn’t mean that he has even spent a second thinking whether or not he wants to be with her or have a relationship in the future.

So if you’re thinking that sleeping with a man will make him “see your worth”, you’re dead wrong.

It is not the physical attraction a man feels for a woman - or getting close to her physically - that makes a man really “feel it” for you and want more.

Yet almost every woman I know equates sex with a relationship.

The Morning After

Let’s say you slept with a guy, and then he got distant. You’re probably thinking he played around with you and was not being honest about what he was looking for.

“You’ve gotta stop banking on what you think a relationship could be - and what I call a man’s “future potential” - and start opening your eyes to what is.”
But let me ask you this: Did YOU tell him what you wanted before you got physical? Did you say something like, “I only sleep with a man if he already values me and sees me for the amazing woman that I am?”

I’m guessing no. Instead, you probably did what lots of women do during “casual dating” - You gave him no impression about whether you were in it for the fun and connection of it all with him or were actually looking for something serious.

You thought the act of sex alone would speak for itself. Wrong.

If you’ve ever felt hurt because you became physical with a man and he ended up not having an interest in dating or starting a relationship, then odds are you can look back and see that you’ve made this mistake.

Of course, it doesn’t seem like it’s you who is making a mistake in these situations. It feels like the man you’re with is the one who obviously doesn’t get it and is a player for not being ready for a relationship.

But deep down, you know you slept with this man because you believed that if you could come up with enough “proof” that he should love and value you, and if you could make things “perfect” between you two, then he would become the open and loving man you imagined him to be.

Who Gives You Your Worth?

You’ve gotta stop banking on what you think a relationship could be - and what I call a man’s “future potential” - and start opening your eyes to what is.

You’re so wrapped up in his perspective, what he’s doing, his feelings, his emotions and his desires (or lack thereof) that you’ve all but forgotten about something way important. What YOU really want.

I’ll take a wild guess here and bet that the kind of guy that you truly want isn’t a guy who is going to freak out or act distant just because you’re telling him how you’re feeling after you’ve already slept together.

and what men really mean when they say they want “freedom.”

Knowing this will free you from the pain of getting too attached to a guy and then pushing him away. You’ll learn how to handle sex throughout every stage of dating and how to give him the “freedom” he’s looking for in a new way - through love and connected experience.


Happy Valentine dolls... I'm out for now...

Thanks for giving us an insight into a mans world,I appreciate

@carmelion....well,let me just say i dont need to get a job in order for me to get married bt if i get,no P..during our discussion as friends,i said i will like to get married by 2016 but believe me if i have sugar coated my mouth to ds gal,im sure she will date me bt you knw
My family and i seriously mean it will not dictate for me d type of woman i wil marry talkless of knwing her age and i like my family alot cos they are friendly and they dont dictate instead,they will show you love.the only thing my mum is just against is me dating or marrying a stubborn lady due to my gentleness as she doesnt want problem for me.
I just find it difficult to relate with ladies am older dan wt 3 years above.i do like ladies that are older or my agemate(mostly matured in thinking).i av done all dose lil chicks before in d past...sincerely,i love matured gals i can freely relate with,i dont normally have regrets hanging out with them..

^^,@ Soyedele I understand what you mean but I must tell,most women (including me)would not want to wait that long.We re all scared of the unknown,too many uncertainties around us.

Please,pardon me,but I would like to know what you mean by,You don't need a job before you get married?

Just like I guessed,you don't feel comfortable with younger dates,but I can assure you ,that is one of the quickest ways to bypass this whole issues of

"my girlfriend of 4 yrs left me for a richer guy,girls are too materialistic"

"My family doesn't want me to marry my fiancee cos she is 30+,help".

I want to tell you that some of these ladies have to force themselves to love those guys they end up getting married to,just to evade pressure.

Forget (some of)those wedding pictures you see,its all for the cameras dear.if only you can see their mind.They wish it was their longtime boyfriends ,but they can't help it.

Luckily they will start loving their husbands after marriage,I mean they have no choice I just hope you uunderstand,and save yourself the stress.

carmelion:
I want to tell you that some of these ladies have to force themselves to love those guys they end up getting married to,just to evade pressure.

Forget (some of)those wedding pictures you see,its all for the cameras dear.if only you can see their mind.They wish it was their longtime boyfriends ,but they can't help it.

Luckily they will start loving their husbands after marriage,I mean they have no choice I just hope you uunderstand,and save yourself the stress.

So in a way u are saying "MOST" girls get married to a guy not because of love but because they know that they are gettin old?, don't you think those kind of girls are the types that still indulge in extra marital affairs with those their ex's that they wished they would've been married to?....

Do any of you girls still listen to the late Pastor Bimbo's (Singles & Married) tape?.... I think it will be very helpful to some..

carmelion: ^^,@ Soyedele I understand what you mean but I must tell,most women (including me)would not want to wait that long.We re all scared of the unknown,too many uncertainties around us.

Please,pardon me,but I would like to know what you mean by,You don't need a job before you get married?

Just like I guessed,you don't feel comfortable with younger dates,but I can assure you ,that is one of the quickest ways to bypass this whole issues of

"my girlfriend of 4 yrs left me for a richer guy,girls are too materialistic"

"My family doesn't want me to marry my fiancee cos she is 30+,help".

I want to tell you that some of these ladies have to force themselves to love those guys they end up getting married to,just to evade pressure.

Forget (some of)those wedding pictures you see,its all for the cameras dear.if only you can see their mind.They wish it was their longtime boyfriends ,but they can't help it.

Luckily they will start loving their husbands after marriage,I mean they have no choice I just hope you uunderstand,and save yourself the stress.

is there a rule saying someone must get a job before getting married?getting married before getting job is nothing for me to worry about as everything has been settled by God.which ever comes first,im okay with it...i av ds new gal that is my age mate always visiting me,i do feel comfortable to talk freely wit her knwing she is my agemate.i cant just help it as i like relating with pple of my own age(esp gals) but thanks for ur advice,i will try dose younger gals and see how it goes.most of dose young gals get problem as they always 'form' for guys knwing well that they have a lot of suitors hereby making dem feel onto of the world.
Btw,yu mean asking lady of 26yrs to wait for 3 yrs is too much(2016)?what gives d gal assurance she wont still be single till dat time?(God forbid on her behalf)..she wont expect me to date her for just a year and just marry just like that?thats a big NO for me..

Soyedele1: is there a rule saying someone must get a job before getting married?getting married before getting job is nothing for me to worry about as everything has been settled by God.which ever comes first,im okay with it...i av ds new gal that is my age mate always visiting me,i do feel comfortable to talk freely wit her knwing she is my agemate.i cant just help it as i like relating with pple of my own age(esp gals) but thanks for ur advice,i will try dose younger gals and see how it goes.most of dose young gals get problem as they always 'form' for guys knwing well that they have a lot of suitors hereby making dem feel onto of the world.
Btw,yu mean asking lady of 26yrs to wait for 3 yrs is too much(2016)?what gives d gal assurance she wont still be single till dat time?(God forbid on her behalf)..she wont expect me to date her for just a year and just marry just like that?thats a big NO for me..

all this "a girl being your age mate" you kept repeating is what if I may ask? Is how old are you the first thing you ask a girl when you meet her to know is she's your age mate, or do they write their age on their faces?

What if you meet a girl you like because she's your age mate like you said and she flows with you well, later you discovered you are 5 years older than her, what will you do? Dump her?

What if you meet your age mate and she looks 5 years younger than you, how will you know if she's your age mate or not

My guy I disagree with your posts concerning dating your age mates alone because there's no way to detect a woman's age if she didn't tell you, and if you ask she will definitely lie cos every woman runaway from age

Age is just a number bro, if you see whom you are attracted to, both physically,mentally and emotionally go for it and forget about age

Just my thought though

nbright: So in a way u are saying "MOST" girls get married to a guy not because of love but because they know that they are gettin old?,

^^.I can't remember saying that.

You might want to quote me.I only said MOST girls(ripe enough to be married including me) wont wait that long(3 yrs).That's why you can't see a working class lady dating a student.

Personally,the pressure would be too much coupled with the unforseen

Soyedele1: is there a rule saying someone must get a job before getting married?getting married before getting job is nothing for me to worry about as everything has been settled by God.which ever comes first,im okay with it...i av ds new gal that is my age mate always visiting me,i do feel comfortable to talk freely wit her knwing she is my agemate.i cant just help it as i like relating with pple of my own age(esp gals) but thanks for ur advice,i will try dose younger gals and see how it goes.most of dose young gals get problem as they always 'form' for guys knwing well that they have a lot of suitors hereby making dem feel onto of the world.
Btw,yu mean asking lady of 26yrs to wait for 3 yrs is too much(2016)?what gives d gal assurance she wont still be single till dat time?(God forbid on her behalf)..she wont expect me to date her for just a year and just marry just like that?thats a big NO for me..

There is a 'rule' that says you must get a job before getting married.

''If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an infidel''
1 Tim 5:8

Without a job or a means legal livelihood, how do you intend to cater for your wife and family?

Hello dolls,how is your day going?Talking about how to spend the upcoming val,am really thinking of how best to spend it alone.

From my calender,14th is on a thursday so definitely I will be be at work.I would have loved to leave the office during break and give my self a treat,but what else is there to eat that some one has not eaten?Besides fast foods that day would be like accident scenes.

So am thinking of buying myself a wonderful gift.Not neccesarily expensive but something I would cherish. I have a list to choose from
1. A black hand bag
2.Going for pedicure/ manicure
3.Visiting a spa
4.A set of make up applicator
5.Thonging set for hair
6.Sleek lip gloss or Iman powder.

Hmmmm...,all these things boils down to money and my wallet is giving me signal.So I have to settle for just one /two items depending on the price.unfortunately,there is no beach or a waterfall around me,I would have love to go.

Any of them I end up buying,I will try and upload it here.Just endeavour to have fun.Did I mention that I will dress to kill on that day,hehehehehe,No high heels,but necks must turn when I pass.Yes I said that.Bite me

After velentine ,let's gist about what happen that day.Men proposes,God disposes you know.

We might you know.....

Just saying

Carmy doll, hello sweetie, took ur advice, got rid of every ounce of feelin I had 4 dat nigga and am happy and free. Men generally rn't worth any ounce of stress women attach to them, if he's urs, then u wont b stressed at all #Ilovemyfuturehusband

Its not that i do ask them abt their age.when i move close to a lady and let me say we r trying to get to knw each other(friendship tinz),when we get to maybe asking abt educational bckgrnd and she tells me she finished sec schl in maybe 2002,2003 and 2004 etc.now i do d calculation and you will be able to get her age range..its nt dt i do ask them for their ages but they just keep coming my way.i think the least age i hv as a frnd is now 24yrs.its nt dat im selecting d ladies i move arround with.
Funny enou,i ws joking wt onee of dem one day and told her to shut up.she sd do you knw im nt ur mate?she told me her age and i told her to shut up again..like av sd earlier,i will try to be moving close to young ladies

fubbyy: all this "a girl being your age mate" you kept repeating is what if I may ask? Is how old are you the first thing you ask a girl when you meet her to know is she's your age mate, or do they write their age on their faces?

What if you meet a girl you like because she's your age mate like you said and she flows with you well, later you discovered you are 5 years older than her, what will you do? Dump her?

What if you meet your age mate and she looks 5 years younger than you, how will you know if she's your age mate or not

My guy I disagree with your posts concerning dating your age mates alone because there's no way to detect a woman's age if she didn't tell you, and if you ask she will definitely lie cos every woman runaway from age

Age is just a number bro, if you see whom you are attracted to, both physically,mentally and emotionally go for it and forget about age

Just my thought though

madridsta007:

There is a 'rule' that says you must get a job before getting married.

''If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an infidel''
1 Tim 5:8

Without a job or a means legal livelihood, how do you intend to cater for your wife and family?

maybe you are rite.i like dat esp with dt bible quote bt i dont want to go abt d catering for my family n wife.
Off topic; how come ur username shows 'madridsta007' I used to think u r a madrid fan unless u r living is madrid but to my amazement,i found out you are a gunner.abge,leave that trophyless club oo.im a chelsea fan anyway

Maya2pretty: Carmy doll, hello sweetie, took ur advice, got rid of every ounce of feelin I had 4 dat nigga and am happy and free. Men generally rn't worth any ounce of stress women attach to them, if he's urs, then u wont b stressed at all #Ilovemyfuturehusband

Good to see you again doll!,I ve been so worried about you(honestly).Wondering if you re stll crying just like me back then.What kept you?Good to know you re good and have moved on.

Just give yourself a little time to heal,you will be fine.

Don't ever try to bottle up emotions ,its okay to cry and let it all out.it makes you feel better.

When you re stronger,give love a chance again.They re not all bad you know.Good to hear from you again(((big hug))) .

Soyedele1: I used to think u r a madrid fan unless u r living is madrid but to my amazement,i found out you are a gunner.abge,leave that trophyless club oo.im a chelsea fan anyway

People... I believe u start supporting chelsea after Roman bought it?...

Soyedele1:
maybe you are rite.i like dat esp with dt bible quote bt i dont want to go abt d catering for my family n wife.
Off topic; how come ur username shows 'madridsta007' I used to think u r a madrid fan unless u r living is madrid but to my amazement,i found out you are a gunner.abge,leave that trophyless club oo.im a chelsea fan anyway

Hahaha! Am not a Madrid fan, lol, am a gunner... Leave trophy talk matter rest. Currently Sunderland 0 -Arsenal 1. Just loved Madrid more than the other places I've travelled for vacation, hence my username.

Where is ritalewisky?hope she is okay?

@Carmy doll, I honestly cant give love a chance 4 now again till I ave 100% conviction that he's my man #Ilovemyfuturehusband

@carmelion...
You are so rude
How dare you ignore my question I directly to you
Is that how you intend to lead the girlfolks?

Maya2pretty: @Carmy doll, I honestly cant give love a chance 4 now again till I ave 100% conviction that he's my man #Ilovemyfuturehusband

Hope will you know your future husband?
You only get love by showing love

xyoung: @carmelion...
You are so rude
How dare you ignore my question I directly to you
Is that how you intend to lead the girlfolks?

Sorry I lost track of your post.But since you mentioned it,I had to search for it and alas!I found it.

Then I discovered that answering your question would lead to repetition(I am not a fan of that).
The answer to your question is lying somewhere in one of the post on Pages 0-25 of this thread.

You may want to read through/in between the lines.Thank me later

xyoung: @carmelion...
You are so rude
How dare you ignore my question I directly to you
Is that how you intend to lead the girlfolks?

hmmm,that ws harsh.the lady is doing a gd job here,so show some respect bro

carmelion: ^^,@ Soyedele I understand what you mean but I must tell,most women (including me)would not want to wait that long.We re all scared of the unknown,too many uncertainties around us.

Please,pardon me,but I would like to know what you mean by,You don't need a job before you get married?

Just like I guessed,you don't feel comfortable with younger dates,but I can assure you ,that is one of the quickest ways to bypass this whole issues of

"my girlfriend of 4 yrs left me for a richer guy,girls are too materialistic"

"My family doesn't want me to marry my fiancee cos she is 30+,help".

I want to tell you that some of these ladies have to force themselves to love those guys they end up getting married to,just to evade pressure.

Forget (some of)those wedding pictures you see,its all for the cameras dear.if only you can see their mind.They wish it was their longtime boyfriends ,but they can't help it.

Luckily they will start loving their husbands after marriage,I mean they have no choice I just hope you uunderstand,and save yourself the stress.

Dear, I appreciate what you are doing on this thread. However, i just want to point out some things:

1. the lady has a choice to marry who she wants to. Must the wedding be big? Must they live at Lekki? Must they have a ride? Some Churches make a provision of office wedding for poor couples. Just the pastors, parents and couple. Some very rich people started very poorly.

2. Love NEVER comes after marriage expect the grace of God: most women accept their fate and live in sorrow. One can't love two people at a time. Love can'y also be switched on and off. If she marries the 'ready' man and tomorrow he loses his job and doesn't quickly get another, what happens? I would say she never loved the boyfriend in the firdt place. I have a couple that had barely nothing when they married. Four yeras later, their story is amazing.

bukatyne: Dear, I appreciate what you are doing on this thread. However, i just want to point out some things:

1. the lady has a choice to marry who she wants to. Must the wedding be big? Must they live at Lekki? Must they have a ride? Some Churches make a provision of office wedding for poor couples. Just the pastors, parents and couple. Some very rich people started very poorly.

2. Love NEVER comes after marriage expect the grace of God: most women accept their fate and live in sorrow. One can't love two people at a time. Love can'y also be switched on and off. If she marries the 'ready' man and tomorrow he loses his job and doesn't quickly get another, what happens? I would say she never loved the boyfriend in the firdt place. I have a couple that had barely nothing when they married. Four yeras later, their story is amazing.

thank you for this analysis.God bless you real good