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Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by jowizee(m): 3:15pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
Kgdavid: grown men shuld not spend so much time talkin to each other on the phone, your wife probably feels ignored and neglected during that period! after all the talk una talk from growing up , wetin una still dey talk....u shud be sharing those moments with ur wife and ur family as shes ur other half not ur boyhood friend.....hes no longer ur responsibillty...ur wife is!!!!seriously 2 hours phone calls and on weekends skype.... who the hell does that with a guy? |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by Nobody: 3:28pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
Hmm... I don't see any reason why a spouse should ask you to dissociate from your friend of 15years or face divorce if the relationship between you both IS CLEAN. In my opinion that's kind of harsh. Because from the way i see it he is like a brother and such kind of people are rare to find as well as such kind of friendship is rare. She just feels threatened cos it appears you are closer to him than your wife and you don't give her attention. The best solution is this, both you and your wife and your friend and his wife should all go out together on some retreat away from home and work and all and have a weekend of relaxation and then a round table conversation/discussion on one of the days where you guys deal with this issue squarely. Just let this retreat be like some kind of surprise. I bet you after this retreat (if truly every one opens up and trashes this issue)things would change! |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by Nobody: 3:33pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
Since Dayo's wife is having same issue with your wife, then you guys are very lucky. Call your wives and have a meeting, just the 4 of you, and explain each other's history and give reasons why the friendship has to continue. If both wives accept it, which I believe they will, then its cool for the marriages, if not, then the women can go ahead with their threats. A man, has to be a man. Full Stop! 2 Likes |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by Dreamflyin(m): 3:37pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
Please! Who's talkin about bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh? These ar two dudes dat've got history. A case scenario; if Dayo needs a kidney transplant, who do u tink will giv his/hers witout a 2nd thought? Dude, i wish u 2 friends were GAY!! Yes Gays. Makes dis whole childish jealousy easier!! |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by Dreamflyin(m): 3:38pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
Dayo shuld hav a fatal accident dat'll cripple him, den u'll see hw dis sweetheart of a wife will fly. Hypocrits!! Love is a mirage, but brotherhood is golden. Ask d army boys!! 2 Likes |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by BOAproperties: 3:42pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
Don't u think if their is any strange things already attached in between ur wife and friend.as u said,u ve tried all means to appeal to her,friend always be a friend and number of years being together.u can also call ur friend and try to investigates without being knowing.God wil help u. |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by Nobody: 3:48pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
breh, your wife shouldnt bring up divorce, but i gotta ask you a question tho, how on earth do u stay on the phone with a nigga with a pri#ick for two hours? imma go straight to the point and ask, nigga are you ga*y? i dont talk to close male friends on the phone for two hours but i definately can play fifa with them for five hours. i mean, everyday? |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by plezant(f): 3:48pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
I wnt to ask a question ooo. What if Dayo is OP's blood brother. Will d wifey complain cos I hv dis call ritual wit my sis every evening aftr wrk. Dnt tink my hubby will tell mi to stop talkin to my sis. Just my 2cents 1 Like |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by tgbaba(m): 3:51pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
luvmijeje:no be one thing fa I dey see plenty. Dnt u hv mind of ur own . |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by basadenet: 3:53pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
May be you forgot one thing that you are now married, so whatever that happen in that happen in the past between both of you kindly take as past event.then calling another persons wife on phone for hours is ridiculous and suspicious, well you a choice, either your wife or dayo.Now make a choice. |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by Dreamflyin(m): 3:54pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
Donlittle: breh, your wife shouldnt bring up divorce, but i gotta ask you a question tho, how on earth do u stay on the phone with a nigga with a pri#ick for two hours? imma go straight to the point and ask, nigga are you ga*y? i dont talk to close male friends on the phone for two hours but i definately can play fifa with them for five hours. i mean, everyday? Even if im be gay? So? Dese ar two dudes dat built their lives 2geda, nt just fair weather friends. If u've neva had such a friend, it'll b hard for u 2 undastnd. It's crazy, bro. 1 Like |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by Ishilove: 3:55pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
coogar:Your conceit is out of this world. I have dealt with people like you before; all hot air .One minute you challenge a whole section, the next you don't have our time again. Ha! When it comes down to the nitty gritty, your type end up showing themselves to be filled with bluster, and nothing else. |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by victorD3: 4:01pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
I feel your wife probably knows something you are not telling us |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by mikelangs(m): 4:01pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
WEL SPOKEN MY BROTHER!!!!! Give ur wives more attention and quit spending the whole time talking to ur friend. Ur new best friend is now ur wife and if possible call her too on phone !!!!!!!!!! alutacontinua: Maybe u shld move dis to the family section. But then, seems lyk she might av her reasons. You come back from work, let's assume by 6.00pm and spend 2 hours with ur friend on phone. Let's assume u call ur parents and oda pple too for about about 1 hour too. Dt leaves about an hour or two with ur wife and children before u go to bed. Don't u think u might actually be putting ur friendship before ur family |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by bukatyne(f): 4:01pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
dayokanu: If the OP feels they are holding him to ransom because of RP, then he should tell them to pocket it! I don't believe that anybody holds the keys to another's success in his/her hands. You feel I can't have RP without you? Shove it in your pocket! I don't subscribe to him keeping a grudge and pretending with his wife till she gets him the RP and he then unleashes the dragon. |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by IbnTimothy: 4:01pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
mentorken05: From what I read...I can say that he is more than a brother to you.let ur wife get dat into her head.Ask her why she hates him around and if there is no good reason from her,den don't listen to her.am sorry but as for me,I can't loose my brother from another mother special thanks to unmeaningless request from my wife... Meanwhile 1st to comment...dancing azontoyou either not married yet or you are one of those old school kind of husband that expect to religate their wife to the background. Poster Whatever you shared with your friend in the past is in the past. Friends do not need to talk for hours like lovers. How will you feel if your wife does same? Both you and your friend need to grow up to the fact that you are now married and your family comes first. |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by aijaydiva(f): 4:06pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
A friend will always be a friend but getting married make ur priorities change. If ur friendship with him is making u not to fulfill ur marital duties like having time for ur family etc, then things should change atleast. There should be a balance between ur family and d outside world. Maybe she even feels jealous that u give more attention to ur friend than u give her and d family. Although she went to far with the divorce, but u have to step into her shoes 4 atleast a second. |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by Nobody: 4:07pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
@OP, if you will not take any advice from here, take this one: "brothers before hos". |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by aijaydiva(f): 4:15pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
plezant: I wnt to ask a question ooo. What if Dayo is OP's blood brother. Will d wifey complain cos I hv dis call ritual wit my sis every evening aftr wrk. Dnt tink my hubby will tell mi to stop talkin to my sis. Just my 2centswhat did u just say? Ur sister sheybi? U pple are girls and u can even gossip 4 two days. What are two grown up men talking abt 4 2hrs on d fone? Everyday 4 dat matter ooo! Haaaa! Even brothers cant do dat. |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by esanland: 4:17pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
Your wife is angry because u spend too much time chatting with your friend while your wife feel sideline, neglected. U need to balance the time u chat with your friend and your wife. Mend your communication break down with your wife o if not she go leave u. |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by devour129: 4:25pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
A good friend is hard to find likewise a good wife. Try to bring in your wife sometimes into your clique that way she feels secure. Unless your friend it's a womanizer that's only when us women hate that type of friend hence they influence our hubby. That's not a reason to threaten divorce Biko.find your own friend and gist for hours while ignoring your hubby lets see how happy he will be. |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by bukatyne(f): 4:25pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
BoboYekini: @OP, if you will not take any advice from here, take this one: "brothers before hos" And who is the ho? 2 Likes |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by bambamshak: 4:26pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
Please let your wife and that of Dayo get the life history of you both. life is sweeter when there is LOVE. I am high impressed the way you guys comes along. Mind you, other friends are not having it that nice. when a lady wants to deal with you, they will start from your extended family. Then, they will get down to push your own BLOOD away from you so that you can face the BATTLE alone with her. If not while the threat |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by JOFF: 4:28pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
My brother i feel you. I want to suggest just like some of reasonable people have adviced : Ask her why she doesnt wants you around your brother(from another mother),remember you must not do this why she is upset. God will see you through. |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by Nobody: 4:28pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
luvmijeje:When things go sour and he turns to the wife. Are u sure the wife will b supportive without been silly |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by Nobody: 4:30pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
alutacontinua:True, there should b a balance |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by Nobody: 4:34pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
Whaaaat! Dis man never settle his case! Nawaaa o! |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by benjaminedicha: 4:41pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
Sir...thanks for this whole story.but you are on the vedge of losing your relationship if you permit friendship to interrupt your home affair. Pls talk issues with your wife and get it into her that you really love her and will need her to understand with you in this matter. Reduce your long hour conversation with dayo and make your wife feel loved |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by adconline(m): 4:42pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
Why are most women in the business of always trying to change guys? Maybe the husband should be taking to his ex- girlfriends |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by OILOFGLADNESS: 4:46pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
zeefa: I don't really know how to handle this case cos its becoming a huge problem between me & my wife. I have tried to play it to the best of my knowledge but the situation is not getting in anyway better. dear i envy your friendship honestly. its rare to have such friend without betrayal. i am the only daughter and all my life i have been looking for a friend that will be more than a sister to me , though i have such friend but honestly not to this extent. nobody is wrong btw u and ur wife and nobody is to be blamed, but the two weakness in play here is jealousy and communication gap. just try to sit her down and ask her some questions ,let her know how he had helped you, be transparent enough to her regarding your discussions with your lovely friend, if possible get her involved in the discussion. make it a family friend affair, i believe you trust your wife and friend so much , some times let your friend call your wife and communicate with her, and u too do same but LET IT BE AS TRANSPARENT AS POSSIBLE. I DIDNT SEE ANY MUCH ISSUE OR DIFFICULTIES IN THIS MATTER. YOUR LOVELY WIFE IS JUST BEIGN A WOMAN AND A WIFE AS SHE SUPPOSE TO BE, SHE IS NEVER AGAINST YOUR FRIENDSHIP, SHE IS ONLY AGAINST HOW YOU GO ABOUT IT. NEVER THINK OF DIVORCING HER AT ALL, IF THE WORST COME, DISCUSS WITH YOUR FRIEND, HE WILL DEFINITELY UNDERSTAND, U WELL SAID THAT HER WIFE WAS COMPLAINING TOO, AND HE TOLD YOU. THIS REQUIRES AN OPEN SOLUTION 1 Like |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by Parnassuss(m): 4:49pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
alutacontinua: Maybe u shld move dis to the family section. But then, seems lyk she might av her reasons. You come back from work, let's assume by 6.00pm and spend 2 hours with ur friend on phone. Let's assume u call ur parents and oda pple too for about about 1 hour too. Dt leaves about an hour or two with ur wife and children before u go to bed. Don't u think u might actually be putting ur friendship before ur family Bull! A marriage and a friendship are totally different roles, I wish I had a friend like Dayo sef. Women are just jealous of every shadow I can imagine what would happen if Dayo was a woman! The world would have burned down be that! |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by Bertila1(f): 4:49pm On Apr 05, 2013 |
Frm d look of things it seems u spend more time wit ur frnd than ur wife and for dat reason she get jealous(u knw we women na). In other for her to know who u really value and loved,she threaten u wit a divorce. But nt too worry all u nid to do is to call the two families together by tellin d wifes all dat trespass b/w u both right frm d beginin as inform of makin d two women knw u both started b4 dey came in. Bt mind u let d meetin b durin ur frnd and his wife visitation,in other for u nt to bring ur wife down. Bt if after d meetin she insist on divorce,then let her do dat on her own. But probably she has a strong reasons 4 dat, which might be dat she had once dated ur frnd b4 and she is now afraid of ur frnd tellin u all dat happened. Just b wise and dnt let wat u build for many yrs to jus b washed away for jus a second. |
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