Tony: Why do good girls always fall for bad guys?

Ngozi: How do you mean?

Tony: Why do good girls love bad bad guys?

Jane: What do you mean by a bad guy?

Ngozi: Tony, no woman wants a man who would abuse, maltreat or disrespect her.

John: I don’t seem to agree with you, Ngozi! What you are saying is far from our daily experiences. We have always seen good girls fall for troublemakers knowing fully well that the bad guy would hurt her and break her heart eventually.



Peter: The truth is that opposites attract. The good girl wants the bad guy for a balance in life.

Jane: Peter, That is not true! Every girl wants a nice guy. But what does a girl mean when she says, “I want a nice guy?”

Ngozi: Most men think that a nice guy is one who is humble, meek, buys gifts, compliments, wants her to be happy always, do not wish to offend her…

Tony: What else would you want from a nice guy?

Jane: Such guys would make good employers but not good mates!

Tony: Why?

Jane: They show up on time, respect the other, always play it safe, say all the nice things, and the likes. Hence, such guys are good, safe, and harmless but BORING to a good girl who is already used to such form of life.

Ngozi: The fact is that the good girl wants the package without the luggage inside.

Tony: How do you mean?

Ngozi: The so-called bad guy has some attractive sides: strong sense of personal authority, wild fun, playful side, knows where to be at every time…. In short, he adds condiments and spicy to the game making it interesting. However, she wouldn’t want the bad things that bad guys do: abusing, lying, etc. Hence, she wants a jerk without the bad side.

John: And at times, the girl feels safe around such a man. That is why you see a girl threaten a boy twice her size. Once the boy begins to come closer, she calls her boyfriend. She is her AK47.

Emeka: There is another side to this issue. Even though it appears as if the bad guy and the good girl are opposites, they are not. The bad guy’s reckless personality is vibrating at the same frequency with the good girl’s desire for adventure and self-exploration. Since women don’t want to be responsible for being bad themselves, the bad guy offers her the opportunity to break away from the monotony of her own world.

Chioma: Age matters a lot here too. While the younger girls would wish to explore life and go after such radicals, the older girls would wish to have the good guy who would be a good father to their kids. They want someone who would help them build a home together. But certain common mistakes make even the older girls fall prey to the bad guys.

Tony: What are the mistakes?

Chioma: Women love to change their men. Every girl believes that there is a “good him” in every bad guy and we trust our ‘nurturing instinct’ so much to think we are able to change any man. Hence, we see every bad guy as a ‘PROJECT’. Thus, the ‘badder’ the man, the better because such personalities give us more task. Worse still, we believe that we are insulated from the influences of the person’s immorality, addictions, etc; unknown to us that instead of changing them, they may end up changing us. Furthermore, bad guys are usually more assertive than good guys in terms of initiating dating relationship. Women love to be pursued and many good guys are not ready to go extra miles in pursuit of what they want. Most good guys are even so afraid of rejection that they find it difficult to ask a girl out for a date. But for the bad guy, he does not give up easily nor hesitate to make his demands. Equally, our society seems to applaud the bad guy qualities. Look at the rough actors, daring musicians, cultists, etc. They appear to have attractive popularity. Some women could be attracted to them in attempt to meet up with their desire for acceptance and relevance.

Emeka: What these girls do not know is that associating with bad guys can tarnish their image. Also, a bad guy may be fun when you go out for party…but remember that the party does not last forever. Besides, every vain pleasure is ephemeral and disappears with time. The bad guy may give you the excitement, security, pleasure and joy, you need at the moment as much as you meet up with his needs. Once you fall short of his needs, he zooms off in search of another fellow to take your place and leaves you to lick your sour heart! Why take such a risk?

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