deols: A girl used to complain about her bobo like this. She thought it was his nature and she was ready to endure it..it didnt work.


I was surprised to see that he is getting married to another girl. I could bet that he doesn't treat the new girl the same way.


My opinion-he just isn't into you.He doeant care about your feelings and will never change. People dont hurt those they care about like this.

call it quits or face d cons3quences.

Typical woman!!!


Why cant you bet that the new girl does not behave as badly as the old?!

Instead of advicing her to learn how to be a good woman, you are encouraging her to break-up with a man that dosent cheat on her or even beats her.

I hope you will still be there to be advicing her on break-ups when she is 60 and still single.

stainlessino: i advice u to think towise be taken the final decision that what i have to tell u are ur boyfriend u now her better than us take and talk to her and what is the the problem.

lynpetra: Well,the am so certain that he loves me but he is sooooo selfish.One of the reasons I decided to go online with this issue is that I don't want to behave irrational by making hasty decisions because that is the ONLY problem I have in the relationship and its pissing me off big time

lynpetra: I actually called him right now to tell him that we are gonna have a conversation tonight....will call it quit.I know I deserve better.Thanks to everyone who has contributed.

deobaba: Am i the only one that can see that this is a selective and biased assessment of a relationship? @ Op isn't this called being carefree I mean is that supposed to mean that he doesn't love you so if he does your laundry, delivers the fish to your mum means he can sacrifice and is a perfect man Please please this is an 8 year relationship and these excuses you are writing here seems fishy.Honestly my opinion is that you have started seeing someone better around you in that Abuja and all of a sudden the things you do without stress have sudden become a big deal (assumption) Men can be changed genuinely and if you really love him and want him to, you just have to make him see reasons why a change in his attitude will benefit you both, but anyone that advices you to terminate an 8 year relationship because of thess little inadequacies your man has is not doing so in your best interest. Unless there is something else you are not saying

deols:
The man Op talks about has a big problem.If he wouldnt deliver the fish for example, he should have made it clear to her with reasons rather than making it get spoilt. he is a sissy! giving silly excuses for his silly actions.

Okija_juju:

Typical woman!!!


Why cant you bet that the new girl does not behave as badly as the old?!

Instead of advicing her to learn how to be a good woman, you are encouraging her to break-up with a man that dosent cheat on her or even beats her.

I hope you will still be there to be advicing her on break-ups when she is 60 and still single.

Daresh: My sister I would not ask you to quit o, just stop doing all those things you do and see what will happen. Dont travel to Lagos and go thru hell to see him, dont wash his clothes(God forbid I was a bf clothes, I never wash my own finish) . Dont buy his water abi r u his slave? Leave all that tin, when you show him you are a queen he will treat you as such. I never ever washed or did any work when I was dating, b4 one man will think I am his maid. Imagine him piling up clothes for you to wash? You be LG washer? Let him come and find you. When you marry and he loses his job thats how he will cross leg waiting for you to provide for him. Woman be careful.

Okija_juju:

Dont mind her!! Make she no appreciate the one wey she get!! Na because she don see as ehn cool na ehn make she wan turn am to house boy wey she go dey send go buy water, carry fish go her brother house, spread cloth for line, e.t.c.
ONE DAY!! She go send amm go market, tell am to buy pad for her and even tell am to wash her pkata wey blood don stain! !!

If I see this her guy, I swear, na slap ehn go chop!! He is a disgrace to MEN around the world.

LastApostle:
My dear if I had a hectic day at the office maybe my superior queried my performance and upon that on my way home I branch into KFC to buy you snack( appertizer) as option to wait when dinner would be ready having dropped money for food before leaving to the office in the morning and because you are still on the dinner preparation which you are supposed to be done with earlier then instruct me to go downstairs for drinks to munch the snacks... If I finish scattering your mouth ehh, e go better thunder fire am than for me to smack am! ***seriously***

lynpetra: I actually called him right now to tell him that we are gonna have a conversation tonight....will call it quit.I know I deserve better.Thanks to everyone who has contributed.

Okija_juju:


Instead of advicing her to learn how to be a good woman, you are encouraging her to break-up with a man that dosent cheat on her or even beats her.

lynpetra: Well,the am so certain that he loves me but he is sooooo selfish.One of the reasons I decided to go online with this issue is that I don't want to behave irrational by making hasty decisions because that is the ONLY problem I have in the relationship and its pissing me off big time

anitank:
I sincerely want to believe someone stole ur NL password because this is not the intelligent okija_juju I know.
So asking her boyfrnd to help her deliver fish to her brother is now a sign of disrespect? Wow! Men!

My boyfrnd goes to the market sometimes if I'm coming over to cook for him and I'm working late, all I do is BBM him the list of items he needs to buy (and that is always his idea). He has also had to board a pregnant woman against their airline rules, just for her to help deliver a parcel to Asaba for me. And does all that make him less of a man? Yes he has his own flaws but this thread is not about me.

I'm just surprised you think a man helping out his girlfrnd with little things makes him a DISGRACE. I must say I'm shocked at this and even more shocked itts coming from you.

@op, don't be so fast to call it quits with ur man because the next person u meet may be worse (most men are lazy when it comes to chores). Think about the good side of him and the reasons u've been with him till now, if they far outweigh this behaviour of his, then just talk to him about it. But if u feel u're helpless and can't take it anymore, then be mature and handle the breakup without drama........goodluck!

pato405: NL- the wrong-est place to solicit for advise on this sort of issues.

it's nailed even before arrival.

As soon as I read the post, I predicted the responses and it was absolute

over 95% of responses yelling ''LEAVE HIM, JILT HIM, HE DOESN'T DESERVE YOU; bla bla bla

serzly OP: you are one control freak, when you turn his errands down, he doesn't think of aborting the relationship, but when he turns yours down, you brood over it, frown, remonstrate, hyperventilate and then, grab your keyboard to ask pessimist NLders - knowing fully well what their response will be. to better curry their favour in their usual biased/one-sided judgement,you have painted the story to your favour and painted him like the devil.

NOW YOU HAVE IT! hope you are satisfied !


GO get a man who wouldn't bother you, one who'll make you sleep 26hours out of a day's 24 hours, give you body massage and pedicure (as Okija suggested), wash your undies, do domestic chores, go to market and prepare meals, work from dusk to dawn while you relax like queen eliza.

I just don't get it. I keep saying it: ''our generation of ladies have lost it'' this generation of equal right has got it all wrong'' it's now a man-run-errand-for-me case. you want to wash while he spreads the clothes. RUBBISH. you can as well leave the laundry filthy. good old days, mothers do these without any complain. In some cultures, it's even a taboo sending your husband on errands, and if you must, then you have to garnish your plea with courtesy. besides, it musn't be too often. nowadays, 'it's do as I say' you must run an 'equivalent errand for me' afterall I've been the one doing it. You deserve trashing

Okija_juju:

Argh!! AniTank.

Infact!! I cant even speak anymore. You wont understand. This woman is simply trying to control her Man!

KenGali:

Okija, Everyman, even the greatest of warriors is a baby in the hands of some woman. Before her he behaves like a child, a coward, a foolish person or any other thing you can call it. The only catch is that some of us are not lucky to be loved back by that same person. There is no need charging like a bull.