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| Re: When Your Partner Doesnt Compromise For Love's Sake by bukatyne(f): 12:06pm On Apr 04, 2013 |
freecocoa: I'm not o so make me understand what your point is. You said the BF is nice and I wanted to know your definition of nice... We always can't see things the same way... You feel she overpampered her BF, I feel he doesn't love her or is not willing to change. Overpampered people I know like others to plead before they lift a finger. They behave like babies and go the extra mile when you can appeal to their soft side/ego. Every lover indulges their partner one way or the other BUT it must go both ways. If she complained that the BF likes her to cut his nails or shave his beard or tuck in his clothes/in bed or pack his bags or cook a special meal etc I would tell her to run along and learn to do it better. Our bros is NOT even ready to lift his finger despite her pleas (According to her story). From her story, what really can we say she gains in her relationship? We can just point out the pros and cons of her choices while she and only she determines which choice she makes. P.S. My Initial question was NOT personal and I am NOT interested in OP's BF. I have my darling already  and he's just perfect for me in his imperfection  |
| Re: When Your Partner Doesnt Compromise For Love's Sake by bukatyne(f): 12:07pm On Apr 04, 2013 |
fluid26: Sorry, I don't do fights, E or R!  |
| Re: When Your Partner Doesnt Compromise For Love's Sake by Okijajuju1(m): 12:13pm On Apr 04, 2013 |
bukatyne: Good for you!! No carry Cocoa play o!! She escape from Yaba Left two months ago after wiping out 1 batallion of JTF wey F.G send to capture her.. See her picture of when she dey calm! Imagine when she don vex..  1 Like |
| Re: When Your Partner Doesnt Compromise For Love's Sake by freecocoa(f): 12:39pm On Apr 04, 2013 |
bukatyne:Point of correction, the OP said her boyfriend is nice, I only repeated what she said so don't put that on me and for her to say that, means there are certain things he does which she's at home with, whatever it is isn't my headache. Now I'll tell you something, my very first boyfriend hardly called me back then, I was the one always calling and complaining he doesn't call, it continued for a while till one day he told me how I always keep calling even after the complains, he went further to say that if I told him he didn't call and wait for him to, then maybe I would have no reasons to complain but that I keep calling so he keeps receiving and don't see reasons to call when I won't even give him the space to, what he said was true because I don't see how you'd call someone for over 30 mins and call them back an hour later to complain that he doesn't call, that call would also stretch to another 20 mins and the circle keeps going. After that talk with him I learnt my lesson. What am trying to say is, that the OP's BF may be selfish but it doesn't mean he can't change or atleast compromise if the OP played her cards right. If he refuses to help her out with some things then let her leave those things undone and let's see how it goes but she complains and still goes back to do those things, just what do you think would happen? he behaves that way cos he knows she'll end up doing whatever he wants even after the complains. |
| Re: When Your Partner Doesnt Compromise For Love's Sake by bukatyne(f): 12:56pm On Apr 04, 2013 |
freecocoa: Point of correction, the OP said her boyfriend is nice, I only repeated what she said so don't put that on me and for her to say that, means there are certain things he does which she's at home with, whatever it is isn't my headache. Your 2nd paragraph is great... Your BF was concerned about the no call issue and set to address it. Whether he decided to give excuses, start calling, told you to stop calling etc is another thing entirely. Does the OP's BF see this as an issue? Is he set out to address it? Let her try your way and see if it would work. The guy might need it to sit up. |
| Re: When Your Partner Doesnt Compromise For Love's Sake by vm26: 1:11pm On Apr 04, 2013 |
leave that selfish boy.love is god and god is everywhere meaning love is everywhere.wht sort of a lazy man is that?he is not lazy but a chauvanist .if u wanna keep him jus picture when u hve kids .is he ever goin to brush yo children's hair even afta bathing them.he will ask u to bath him and feed him.watch this space.selfish pple r boring |
| Re: When Your Partner Doesnt Compromise For Love's Sake by freecocoa(f): 1:42pm On Apr 04, 2013 |
bukatyne:Yeah, if only she'd apply this method as many people have already said and see how it goes. |
| Re: When Your Partner Doesnt Compromise For Love's Sake by Nobody: 1:46pm On Apr 04, 2013 |
Op heed the advice of gree-die and freecocoa, they gave the best advice. Now gimme a few min to rant becos I can't possibly comprehend what I'm reading. Your post dey do me like film trick. U mean u leave your house and job in abuja to travel to Lagos by bus to see this guy. U con reach him house finish, begin wash cloth and cook. Egbami, does your father know u're turning yourself to a slave for a man that hasn't paid your bride price? Is he handicapped? I can't possibly understand why u are doing the laundry of a grown man. When he visits you in abuja, does he do your laundry too? Is he that broke that he cannot afford to buy a pack of water in the house? Why u gotta go downstairs every time u wanna drink water?! Does he buy all hand wash clothes? Why can't he buy washer and dryer in his house, a lot of Nigerians use it now. I don't understand how I would cook for someone and tell him to go get water and then he says he's too tired. No problemo, we will both eat without water. |
| Re: When Your Partner Doesnt Compromise For Love's Sake by Daresh(f): 2:03pm On Apr 04, 2013 |
I Hate 9ja: Please what is bad about not being a slave and taken for granted. I hate washing that is the worst chore that is y i have LG washer. And I hate lazy men. Get off ur fat bottom and work. |
| Re: When Your Partner Doesnt Compromise For Love's Sake by Nobody: 2:18pm On Apr 04, 2013 |
Let me rant some more........ You turn yourself to a slave for a man that doesn't want to lift a finger for you. Hollup, don't u have male friends in Lagos? I trust myself, in his presence like this, I would call my peeps to come do what he refused to do for me. In fact I trust my friends, they will even do more than required. B4 one silly man begins to think he's irreplaceable, I put him in his place sharply. U gotta keep him on his toes, this dude is too relaxed. Does he even realize that u're doing him a favor by doing his laundry and coking for him? Just to buy water, he's complaining. He should thank his stars he isn't wiv me cos I would be calling him to branch to the store to get me tomato sauce, or one ingredient or the other on his way from work. |
| Re: When Your Partner Doesnt Compromise For Love's Sake by kekilika: 2:44pm On Apr 04, 2013 |
Okija_juju:does that person look calm to you? Lol 1 Like |
| Re: When Your Partner Doesnt Compromise For Love's Sake by Nobody: 8:51am On Apr 08, 2013 |
He has refused to Change o.Came home to find out that is elder brother has prepared smtn good and he gavee me a sizable portion.He told me that there no water and I shud call my Bobo who is not around that on his way home he shud get some.I call my guy and this is the conversation Me:please baby on your way home buy water and some oranges for me abeg Him:Madam go downstairs and get water Me:I won't! Few minutes later,he came home with a friend carrying only the oranges but I no enjoy the orange o because as soon as he gave me,he took some and began to lick and he gave his friend some out of six small Oranges  I got angry and told him to take the oranges back that I won'tlick again  .Where is the water na? He escorted his friend much later and came home without water again! I told him that I don't like wat he is doing and he promised to buy it before bed but as am typing right now,his elder brother is going down to get water! |
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