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Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by emmatmg: 10:37pm On Apr 08, 2013 |
THIS SOUNDS LIKE THE TALK FROM AN EXPERIENCED LADY. IF I AMY ASK HAVE BEEN JILTED BEFROE? |
Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by Juicysam(m): 5:35am On Apr 09, 2013 |
Celibacy on my mind,whetin them dey use woman do self#hisses# marriage=having 35 channel tv and only permitted to watch one.{monotony and boredom} |
Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by Juicysam(m): 5:43am On Apr 09, 2013 |
Cherechy: It baffles me when I hear guys say they are trying to put one or two things together before getting married. In d case of those still in school or studying it's understandable but in d case of a grown ass man, working and lives on his own I don't get.#appealing opinion# |
Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by Ogadtop(m): 6:08am On Apr 09, 2013 |
i courted with my wife for 11 yrs,we met while in secondary school.the 11yrs courtship was blisful and romantic though,i will not encourage any1,expecially ladies to risk long courtship.men have nothing to lose.we are married for 3 yrs and i love my wife i must confess.its a risk fot ladies. |
Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by chichi414: 6:17am On Apr 09, 2013 |
Nice write up to my own point of viwe what work for me may not work for you.but with God everything is possiable |
Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by JisolaMar(f): 8:18am On Apr 09, 2013 |
Cherechy: It baffles me when I hear guys say they are trying to put one or two things together before getting married. In d case of those still in school or studying it's understandable but in d case of a grown ass man, working and lives on his own I don't get. God bless u, sweet! |
Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by miss20(f): 8:49am On Apr 09, 2013 |
bukatyne: What do you call long courtship?]wow ur relatnshp is realy cool.ur case is diff.I tink d lady was talking abt relationships wer the guy is comfortable financially 4 marraige.nd even if hiz nt,d girl shuld knw if hiz going to marry her wen hiz financially ok.u probably stayed wit ur man cus u both loved each other nd u knew he loved u enof to marry u.wishn u d best in dat relatnship jare,its nt easy |
Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by bukatyne(f): 9:11am On Apr 09, 2013 |
miss20: ]wow ur relatnshp is realy cool.ur case is diff.I tink d lady was talking abt relationships wer the guy is comfortable financially 4 marraige.nd even if hiz nt,d girl shuld knw if hiz going to marry her wen hiz financially ok.u probably stayed wit ur man cus u both loved each other nd u knew he loved u enof to marry u.wishn u d best in dat relatnship jare,its nt easy Thanks I understand the OP perfectly. I made a post to that effect. |
Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by Nobody: 9:13am On Apr 09, 2013 |
Miss Ope:1. you can pray and ask God to reveal if such a person is........ 2.You and the person must be on the same level of revelation not just same religion but same principles and understanding of whom God is and what God wants. most importantly if you are born again your spouse should not be 'born against' very important. 3.you must like the person involved enough to get married. |
Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by Nobody: 10:15am On Apr 09, 2013 |
32-D:yes you're weird |
Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by Nobody: 10:50am On Apr 09, 2013 |
Op, you are right on point. God bless you...Some guys are really time wasters ... I can't date a guy for up to 2 yrs and no marriage on the cards?...nah, I can't...ladies av to be strong , face realities of life. Or else, some could loose all..or contend with any circumstances.. Parents have to sum up to their responsibilities of training their sons to have conscience & responsibility and their daughters to be a good and responsible wives to their partners..it's well. |
Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by Nobody: 10:55am On Apr 09, 2013 |
emmatmg: THIS SOUNDS LIKE THE TALK FROM AN EXPERIENCED LADY. IF I AMY ASK HAVE BEEN JILTED BEFROE? Emma, everybody has been Jilted before, one way or the other. ..Including YOU.....The good and empowering thing, is cut yur losses, check yur mistakes then move on. |
Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by alphaconde(m): 11:19am On Apr 09, 2013 |
Cherechy: It baffles me when I hear guys say they are trying to put one or two things together before getting married. In d case of those still in school or studying it's understandable but in d case of a grown ass man, working and lives on his own I don't get. Its take a lot to get married. One can always feed so its not all about feeding. People got their first car as cheap ones others had their first cars as expensive ones so that's standard. U need to be able to assume the status/ duty of a captain to be a husband/father u just don't hurriedly do that. Please give us time we need all the time we can get. #hands mic back to u# |
Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by AtheistD(m): 12:09pm On Apr 09, 2013 |
Temi 23: Marriage can be a financial burden. The average cost of weddings in the UK is somewhere between 8-10k GBP. Also, expect pregnancy within a year of marriage and a year out due to child birth. What about a buying a new house with a mortgage within the first 2 years of marriage (which most newly married couples would like to opt for). Two working partners becomes 1 for 2 years after marriage and it would affect both the finances and the career paths of both partners. These days people see it as prudent to save a bit for such and 5 years may give good time to settle things. |
Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by papaGEJ: 12:19pm On Apr 09, 2013 |
Long courtship can b a bad bizness 4 u nd a gud one 4 me, dere's no yardstick use in measuring courtship, it al depends on d individuals involvd. What i knw is dat as an adult, we shld b able 2 knw diff btw a courtship dat wil lead 2 marriage nd d 1 dat wil nt. If u re in a courtship dat u knw dat wil lead 2 marriage, no mata how long or short it is pls stay, bt if it wil nt, wakanow.com. No body wld want 2 delay afta finding his dream wife bt because of so many factors dats y d delay. |
Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by AtheistD(m): 12:26pm On Apr 09, 2013 |
Habiolar: @ op , 9ce write up,but to my opinion, wht works 4 u might nt work 4 some1 else. I had a neighbor dt he&his wife court 4 9yrs b4 getting married & up till nw, dey are happily married with kids. Me&my Gf is nw going to 5yrs relationship nw yet we still luv eachoda dearly & I still hv to 2-3yrs b4 settling down, because I hv to put tinz in place. Mind u, if I make money 2day,I'll marry her months after. Same here. I have a friend who dated for 10 years before marriage and are happily married now. It can happen if the partners are really certain and work together. They are agemates. |
Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by bukatyne(f): 2:54pm On Apr 09, 2013 |
Oga-@-d-top: Can you expatiate? Imagine your wife heard this and decided not to wait for you? I think the poster means period of proposal till the wedding day |
Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by mko2005: 3:32pm On Apr 09, 2013 |
Why go into courtship in the first place ? Una don come again with all these courtship things ! God help us |
Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by FXKing2012(m): 3:41pm On Apr 09, 2013 |
m.k.o2005:Is it wrong? |
Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by Drdreluv: 4:12pm On Apr 09, 2013 |
Cherechy: It baffles me when I hear guys say they are trying to put one or two things together before getting married. In d case of those still in school or studying it's understandable but in d case of a grown ass man, working and lives on his own I don't get..................na so na make i finish my ican jare women are nonesense |
Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by salt1: 4:42pm On Apr 09, 2013 |
Men want time. Women want security. And in this game, the women are often the losers. That is the truth whether we like it or not. We agreed to marry in June and wedded February the following year. If I had to do it all over, I'll still do it same way. Men, don't play tricks with someone's emotions: she's a daughter and a sister. What you don't want another man to do to your sister or daughter, don't do to someone you profess to love. Long courtship (beyond a year) never never! I've seen ladies who worked and helped the man through school and her thank you was a wedding invitation card from the man. When you're ready to marry, just marry. |
Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by ayobase(m): 8:36pm On Apr 09, 2013 |
onyeahams: I don’t know how it works for men but long courtship is bad business for a woman, a right thinking woman. And this is not about lack of patience on a girl’s part. It’s simply and totally about common sense. Letting a man dangle you on his key strings is dumb and dangerous and a bloody waste of time, and time is what a woman doesn’t have and that goes beyond biological clock. My siggy is the summary of this long piece! Read and digest! 1 Like |
Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by xeexee1: 9:28pm On Apr 09, 2013 |
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Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by Dacore: 9:42pm On Apr 09, 2013 |
Babzilla: WHAT THE FCK DO Y'ALL KNOW I don't normally comment around here but i am with you on this topic....time is important to get some kinds of information about people. No hurry my brothers....no matter what others say. If you live fast you will die fast. |
Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by adconline(m): 7:44am On Apr 10, 2013 |
Another epistle of how women should be married after a first date. Ask them how much is a tin of Similac, they don't know, yet they want to be married ASAP. |
Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by Nobody: 8:06am On Apr 10, 2013 |
Jisola Mar:Going by this, the OP has no point seeing as courtship begins when there's an actual proposal. Now, the issue of spending too long after proposal is one to look into. Nice one Jisola. |
Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by Nobody: 8:16am On Apr 10, 2013 |
GraceBestowed:They are usually ready because all they have to do when married is sit on their arsses and spend the guy's money(if they wanted to). Any sensible man will be fully confident of ability to, at least, provide before he begins to make moves as per starting a family. |
Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by Nobody: 8:21am On Apr 10, 2013 |
ruthosquare: because he is all I wanted in a man. It takes two to tangoMeaning he's financially stable above every other quality. This one na im oyinbo dey call half truth. Would you marry him in 2 months if he earned 50,000naira per month? |
Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by Nobody: 8:24am On Apr 10, 2013 |
Juicysam: marriage=having 35 channel tv and only permitted to watch one.{monotony and boredom}You are so wrong. Find proper marriage education. |
Re: Long Courtship Is Bad Business By Funke Egbemode by Nobody: 8:29am On Apr 10, 2013 |
bukatyne:Nope. OP used period of commencement of relationship to mean courtship. This is apparent when she says this: onyeahams: Because she thinks he'll propose at the next valentine dinner |
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