latsholly: its really hard 2 c a married man go home after work.my dad hangs out wiv his frnds at d club house.

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No Boy, that was and still the life i live, if you are in Naija may be you can tell me your village and i will tell you the road that get you there!!! no pun intended.... cos there is absolutely no local government i havent been to, name it... mind you i work and a Transmission Engineer in one of the Vendor in Naija then and now as an Engineer in Telecomm company here in the States...


The following places might look familiar, so look for ur places u know...

Abia close to Ohafia

Enugu in Udi, Nsukka, obolo, Nkpologu

Ebonyi Ezzangbo, Nkalagu, Effium, Ugbala, Ngba along that only road like look like a u-turn.

Benue that one plenty: Otukpo, Otukpa, Gboko, Katsina-ala, Zakibiam, Aliade, Igbor, Shangev-tiev, Abakpa, Tor-Donga, Ochobo etc

Akwa-Ibom: Etinan, Eket, Ikot-Abasi, Abak, Ikot-Ubo, Azumini, Ikot-ekpene, Itu, and Uyo main town.

Nassarawa: Keffi to loko, yelwa, mada, Gitata, Panda and that Yoruba Military Barrack; chei i don forget where dem beat me, anyway along Jos road.

Taraba: Jalingo, Tafida, Ibi (no road town where R-Benue pass, Karim-lamido, Lau, Junleri, Lankoviri, Bambuka etc.

Plateau: Ikputu, Shendam, Zamko, Amper, Langtang, Pankshin, Panyam, Bembem, Jimiya, Fuskam mata, Bukuru, Mangu, Kassa etc

Adamawa: Ganye, Jimeta, Jiberu, Mubi, Uba, Michika, Mayo bani, Bazza, Shelleng, Numan etc.

Gombe: Duku, Jamari, Nafada along Potiskhum rd, Bajoga, Tula, Filiya; the road to Karim-Lamido, Garko etc.

Bauchi: Ho! my favourite state, Dass, Darazo, Gabarin, Kari, Misau, Azare, Udubo, Katagum, Bara, Alkalere, Wikki etc

Borno: Askira, Balala, Biu, Miringa, yelwa, Burma, Shani, Badir, Damboa, Bama, Gwoza, Madagali, Kunduga, Magumeri, Gubio, Zari, Damasak up to
Dusi where the border is to Niger republic, If u want pics i'll give u all.

Yobe: Potiskhum, Damaturu, Ngelzama, Zoro, Nangere, Dapchi, Gashua, Nguru, Machina-the border town to Niger-Republic.

Jigawa: Hadeija my cool town, Mallammaduri, Gumel, Ringim, Kazaure-the road to Daura in Katsina etc.

Anambra: Igbo kwenu! Okija shrine, Onitsha, Nnewi, ihiala, uli, electronic market.

Imo: my main town, Owerri, Umuduru, Etiti, Orlu, Ihuo, Obaku, and my favorite hotel

Delta: Warri, Ughelli, Oleh, Ozoro, Ashaka, Burutu, Forcados, Evremi, Abbi, kwale, Onicha, Ekuku-Agbor, Isele-uku, Asaba, Umunede, Ete-uromi,
Bojiboji Ogwashuku, Ibusa etc.

Edo: Oluku, Odigbi, Uyere, Igbogor, Orah, Siluko, sapoba, Obiaruku, Idokpa, ewohinmi, Ebelle, Ekpon, Igueden, Ehor, Irrua, Sabongida-ora, Ozalla
where young girls unclothed for festival, Ekpoma---yeee! gun, Agenebode etc.

Ekiti: Effon-alaye, ikole, ikere, ilawe, igede, ishan, Ise, Emure, Aiyede, Oye--election rigger, Omuo etc

Ondo: Idanre, Igbatoro, igbokoda, aiyetoro, Omisore, Ifetedo, Owena, Ofos, Ore,Okitipupa, Ajilete, Mahin, Ile-oluji, Owo, Idoani, Akungba, Ikare, Ifon

Oyo: Kute, Ibadan, Fiditi, Lanlate, Iseyin, Igangan, Ofiki, Ago-are, Ikoyo, Ogbomoso, Tafon, Sapeteri, Shaki, Wasinmi, Ilero, Ado-awaye, Ogbontosa.

Ogun: Oni, Omu, Odeda, Owode, olorunda, Ajebo, Iperu, Ijebus, Odogbolu, Shagamu, Alakuko, Waterside, Otta, Ifo, Oja-Odan, Imeko, Oke-odan etc.

Osun: Ede, Inisa, Ibokun, Ilesha, Ife, Ifewara, Ejigbo,Iwo, Odeomu, Ifetedo, Ipetuijesha, Oke-Imesi, Ila, Ikirun, Ilobu, Okuku, Osi etc.

Kwara: Ilorin, Offa, Ajasse, Omuaran, Petegi, Lafiaji, Shonga, Jebba, Bode-shadu etc.

Niger: Mokwa, Bida, Lemu, Wushishi, Minna,Gwada, Zungeru, Gunni, New-bussa, Pizhi, faje, Kabchi, Kontagora, Bari, Tegina, Zente, Rijau, Sarkipawa.

Kebbi: Bin-yauri, yelwa, Bagudo, Tunga-Ilela, Zaga, Jega, Birnikebbi, Masama, Argungu, Tambawel, Allero, Kamba, Zuru, Kandu, Marafa, Ribah etc.

Kano: Kano city, Wudil, Tudunwada, kibiya, Garko, Gaya, Kachako, Ajingi, Danbatta, Kabo, Gwarzo, Albasu or sometging like it etc.

Kaduna: Birni-gwarri, Ganga, Buruku, Rigacikun, Kachia, Kafanchan, Gimi, Iya-tawa, Pambeguwa,Dutsan-wai, Zaria, Lere, Doka,Ribako etc.

Katsina: Shinkafi, Yashi, Daura, Hunkuyi, Palgore, Funtua, Karfi, Faskari etc.

Zamfara: Gusau, Bungudu, Maru, Talata-mafara, Bakura, Birni-magaji,
Kaura-namoda, Zurmi, Gunmi, Tsafe-Orientation camp, Maradun, Anka, Moriki, Shinkafi, Mada, Langalanga etc.

Sokoto: Sokoto, Illela, Goronyo, Kurawa, Wamako, Jabo, Rabah, Ganji, Malamawa, Yerimawa, Rafin-kudu, Sanyinan-daja etc.

Kogi: Lokoja, Ajaokuta, Ososo, Okene, Kabba, Mopa, Isanlu-esa, Koton-Karfi, Ikebe, Idah, Idibo, Eganyi etc.

Cross-River: Calabar, Uwet, Ugep, Nko, Obubra, Ikom, Nkomfap, Ogoja, Okuku, Akpakpa, Obudu, Otuk etc.

Bayelsa: Yenagoa, Amasoma, Furupa, Peniton-Island(Ezetu), Mbiama, Ayebabiri too much water i run comot.

Rivers: I have been to all the Rumus; Rumoula, Rumuokoro, Rumuigbo, Bori, Tabangh, Gokona, Ogoni, Degema, Ahoada, Obido, Abua, Opobo, Elele.

Please, dont say its a lie, cos i will tell u how to get there, either by water or road

yellowpawpaw: It is of uttermost important that guys go home after work especially when u still hv small children to foster bonding.I tell u,bonding is not financial provision.many hv regretd not doing so but then it is too late.one small gal of 5yrs will always sit at d sitting room waiting for the dad to show and help her with her homework bc teacher said daddy must help u with homework.and where is daddy? She will sit like that crutchin her exercise book in her little hand and sleep off.very heartbreaking.d next day mummy will rush tru d exercise.on asking daddy why he didn't do d homework for her,that she waited,daddy will give excuse.tomoro u think they will bond?high blood pressure in old age!

byvan: Yeah baby,but do you know that having a drink with the boys is a regular with most that do it?Well,it still boils down to individual preference sha,after all I have friends that claim to prefer long distance marriage even.

byvan:

Don't mind them,at old age they ll start complaining that their kids give them only dry gin instead of buying them a porshe carreri GT .It is paying the men that understands this bonding,I know how my kids keep inquiring about their dad when he is off to work.its so heart warming when your kids really feel your absence.

U've killed me .

staicey:

Long distance marriage? does that even work?
I have a guy who is married as a friend, he is an engineer here in the US and his wives and kids still Nigeria for now, still making plans for them to come over. I can tell you this guy is such a flirt and I can't count how many times he's demanded for $ex from me. Such irks me! Married men. And he's not alone, most of his married men who have their families in another town does such too

Naaaa I do not support Long Distance Marriages. And to those who still have their husbands go home to them after work everyday shouldn't complain much if he decides to chill with his friends atleast once, you should count yourself lucky

Rooneyboy:



U've killed me .

Tobiegal: Well, hubby goes home straight from work... I know cos we come and go together.

byvan:

Nice!my favourite kind of arrangement.

byvan:


Most women that root for long distance marriages probably have plans of their own,plans to paint the town red with their ex bfs and E buddies.Ofcourse,no wise woman will stop her man from chilling with his buddies once its not late.My dear I really do consider myself lucky because I can't handle the typical Naija kind of marriage.

byvan:

Don't mind them,at old age they ll start complaining that their kids give them only dry gin instead of buying them a porshe carreri GT.It is paying the men that understands this bonding,I know how my kids keep inquiring about their dad when he is off to work.its so heart warming when your kids really feel your absence.

biolabee:

it seems you like certain generalisations and believe most if not all men are cheats and this has coloured how you perceive others
it all about cheating cheating



So fathers who work offshore or far from their homes will get dry gin and cannot raise dutiful children .. stereotypes!!
Does this mean fathers who stayed with their kids 24/7 will get porsche cars
so what will orphans do

biolabee: I can only make an analysis based on what you post here

Long distance marriage for some is a result of them wanting a better life for their kids, better opportunities, security etc but you coloured it with women having a cheating mindset

Then you say because a man does not come home, he will suffer when his kid does not buy him a sports car

I read and comprehend wella

#JezSaying

byvan:



About the sports car,don't you have a sense of humour??Based on the long distance marriage,didn't you read my conversations with Staicey??No,you don't read and comprehend wella,you just start commenting.Put all your mental faculties at work while reading don't just read like you are reading a poem.

byvan:
Most women that root for long distance marriages probably have plans of their own,plans to paint the town red with their ex bfs and E buddies.

biolabee:

i dont know why you women are so quick to abuse once a contrary point is raised
I read the discussion you had with staicey and she believed that men are entitled to some personal space. you dont agree fair enough

I do have a sense of humor and you could have said you were jesting on the sports car part because that will be the rational explanation. anything else na wash
I have friends whose fathers dey 24/7. so i need to tell them to get their fathers a sports car soonest



I asked the significance of long distance marriage and a woman cheating



Also you say guys that hang out to drink do not have good conflict resolution methods as they will run to the beer parlour when there are issues in the home
That is also stereotyping men

But no wahala... ish

biolabee: If you see everything as a argument good for you

This os a forum and people will always disagree to agree

That's what mature discussion is all about

You prefer a man who does not GO AT ALL to any bar fair enough - your call.

Some ladies don't mind fair enough to them their call

We can't see life in the same way