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Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by esere826: 9:20pm On May 11, 2013 |
steve_cantrell: women like travel well, well so that they can post picture in album I dont think she would mind 1 yr younger if u are ready to settle down |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Nobody: 9:23pm On May 11, 2013 |
God never promised that the road would be easy but he promised never to leave nor forsake us. Life is a competition, let us learn to go easy on ourselves and trust that God is working it all out for good( even if it doesn't make sense now). I know that there's a time for everything but most importantly that IT WILL COME TO PASS., no matter the trial or challenges , yours will come to Pass in due course... And u will be up and strong again to lift up those who maybe down under... Never lose hope.. YOU DIDN'T CREATE YOURSELF , NOR CHOSE THE PATH YOU WILL LIVE ON EARTH, LET GOD DO HIS WILL.. COS HE KNOWS ALL AND HAS ALREADY MAPPED OUT EACH AND EVERYONE'S PATH INLIFE... Be patient, your time will come to marry... Shalom. 2 Likes |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Osama10(m): 9:25pm On May 11, 2013 |
Just one word, change your ATTITUDE. |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by esere826: 9:27pm On May 11, 2013 |
Amelian: God never promised that the road would be easy but he promised never to leave nor forsake us. shooo!!! which kine plenty advice be this naw we the male folks have decided to handle matters our way and provide practical closure to Chima's desires |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Nobody: 9:27pm On May 11, 2013 |
coogar: |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by stevecantrell: 9:28pm On May 11, 2013 |
esere826: She's still kinda young for that, she's not that desperate yet. Besides, I look even younger than my age. Go 4 it dude.. U d man !!! |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by esere826: 9:29pm On May 11, 2013 |
steve_cantrell: chop knuckle bro 1 Like |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Nobody: 9:30pm On May 11, 2013 |
esere826: U may not need the advise, but there are people out there, who desire and had wish to read this advise.. It doesn't apply to the op alone, but anyone who is worried and unsure of where his or her life is heading to...so don't use your own to block other people from receiving true words. |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by esere826: 9:31pm On May 11, 2013 |
Amelian: Ok ma by the way, do u have any issues that need practical male solutions? |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Nobody: 9:33pm On May 11, 2013 |
esere826: Hey, do yourself good and stop playing around with someone's tory. Didn't you read she doesn't fancy unsettled guys? Yeah, she actually said it. If you think you are done posting some serious $hit and it is time for jokes, you know the section to visit. 1 Like |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Nobody: 9:35pm On May 11, 2013 |
esere826: Thanks for the generous offer.... You are so kind but ... I don't have any issues that requires practical male solutions... Am more than able through Christ Jesus.. |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by cold(m): 9:38pm On May 11, 2013 |
@op,stop looking for the so called 'God fearing men'. Maybe all you need is an atheist to sweep you off your feet & change your life forever. Once had this cute & intelligent broad,we got on very well but couldn't consummate the relationship because of my stance on religion. In spite of her best efforts I refused to be swayed even as a pretentious move just to make her happy. She eventually got married to this 'God fearing' bloke she met in one of their numerous fellowships. Fast forward a year later & she's texting me how things have degenerated so badly between them the guy even spat at her in a moment of rage which happens quite frequently according to her & how she misses me & all the good times we spent together,reh,reh,reh,bla,bla,bla. The point to my story is keep an open mind & don't be parochial in your thinking or search for that elusive man. True story... 3 Likes |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by esere826: 9:39pm On May 11, 2013 |
Tashamania: All this ^^^ my dear is the issue My guess is that the kind of men she;s looking for only approach women who let their hair down when men are finally in through jokes/ease/fun, thats when the ladies shld spring the 'serious' trap Unsettled guys are the majority (settled single guys are scarce) many of my smart female friends know ways of ensuring the unsettled guys get settled and settled with them Ask ur grand mum to teach u some man sense (u can also try this classic https://www.nairaland.com/1265198/dwindling-pool-male-lovers-nigeria it shld teach u a thing or two) |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by coogar: 9:42pm On May 11, 2013 |
esere826: 1 Like |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by esere826: 9:42pm On May 11, 2013 |
Amelian: U see, You've got urself a man there dear |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Nobody: 10:14pm On May 11, 2013 |
esere826: Na u know oooo..... |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by minute(f): 10:16pm On May 11, 2013 |
Well maybe you are looking in the wrong places. Or maybe you need a a little pick me up makeover. Have you tried one of those phone chat things and speed dating? And, don't forget, your biological clock is ticking . . .tick tock... |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by esere826: 10:24pm On May 11, 2013 |
*Folds worn out shirt* who's next? |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by BecaciaBarbie(f): 10:27pm On May 11, 2013 |
Acidosis: You are only 31, woman... Relax your mind and like you said, you can get your own apartment & make sure you live a decent life. |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Nobody: 10:41pm On May 11, 2013 |
esere826: What you just wrote made no sense and to that effect, I aint wasting my time on you. You can run along now |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by esere826: 10:46pm On May 11, 2013 |
Tashamania: Except ur a teenager hiding behind that moniker then u know perfectly well what I am talking about I trust u'll sneak back to make sense out of it when u finally mature *straight face* |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Nobody: 10:52pm On May 11, 2013 |
esere826: And how old are you, elderly one? That you couldn't comprehend a simple post made by OP. Go get new clothings for yourself and while you are at it, a luxurious house too. I refuse to settle for unsettled guys too. Get behind me |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by esere826: 11:00pm On May 11, 2013 |
Tashamania: But pls naw I will soon hammer just some patience its not my fault that i have not hammered yet its nigerian condition (Happyness_Chima... hope u learning some lessons from this shallow theatre, and sort of friends u shld keep away from that cld influence ur ability to get the right man) 1 Like |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Cultured(m): 11:47pm On May 11, 2013 |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Danfo(m): 1:53am On May 12, 2013 |
@OP, I have reviewed your initial post and subsequent comments and I think I have an apt response to your statement: but I don't know what I’m doing wrong. From your comments you gave ample indications, thus I will use extracts from same comments to highlight what you are doing wrong, in my view. Here we go: 1. I have a good job and travel to the UK often. (Deduction: Pride) 2. All the men that approach me either are unsettled yet or one problem or the other. (Deduction: Pride) 3. Sorry if I offended anyone by mentioning UK. What I meant to explain is I'm always on holidays to London to relax and expand my search for a husband. I work in rotational shifts so when I get 4 weeks off, I like to use it to travel which is like 5-6 times a year. I'm not bragging or showing off. I don't even go for shopping or live lavish when I visit there. Maybe it wasn't worth mentioning so I'm sorry. (Deduction: ….even in apologising for showing pride you convey pride) 4. Jehovah!! What kind of rest-less married woman are you biko? You said no salary in Nigeria will afford 5 trips to the UK? that shows ur financial level. I have nothing to say b[i]ut whats so special about this UK that has been biting you this woman since[/i]. I even apologized that I want others to understand what I do with my life and how I spend my time so they can advice because its biting u seriously. Flight ticket to London is only 90K. You claim to know everything abt wild girls and their lifestyle. How did you know all these if u were not one of them? I passed out from unijos by the age of 23. I'm not baby for you to boss around online. Is this how you treat your single friends? Show me one woman that has never had a suitor abroad. What have I done to warrant all this insults? (Deduction: Your reaction to criticism is self-justification and loss of decorum; Pride is present) 5. Is it wrong that I mentioned UK? I even came back to clarify. She wants to ridicule me for no reason. If I knew how inconsiderate people can be, I won't open a topic like this. (Deduction: your reaction to criticism is self-importance and loss of decorum ; Pride is present) 6. When you meet a man that's not settled, they usually bring their baggage to me and as a single woman I don't think I should be feeding any man. (Deduction: Pride) My sister, I can deduce from this distance that you are a very independent young lady. Let me even go as far as saying that you are been modest when you say you are employed, I would say you are self- employed. You are worth millions of Naira and you certainly have a large circle of friends at home and abroad. This standard of living has made you become prideful and given you a sense of high expectations in your relationships and quest for a husband. I can surmise that you have an ideal man in mind, and the ideal man has to be successful, perhaps ‘settled’ like Tyler Perry but definitely not a Spike Lee type because looks is also very important to you. Your social status has made you create an elusive Eldorado (a man in shining armour riding a resplendent white horse). But know those are the stuff fairy tales are made of. An elusive Eldorado only blinds girls, temporarily, to present realities and the result is rancour and wistfulness at age 30+. I sincerely think that you have this instinct and pride which have made you to build a secure unit/prison around yourself. So you exist in a state of schizophrenia where you are both the guard and the prisoner. And having been lobotomised by these double roles (unreal duality) you no longer have the capacity to leave the prison that you made, or even see it as a prison. Thus I bring you release today. I bring you release by saying set it free! Set pride loose in the name of Christ Jesus! Damn it, let it go! You are not in this world to live to no one’s expectations. Stop thinking people expect you to manufacture a perfect man to marry because there is no such. If you are sincere in talking about marriage you cannot be prideful or boastful regardless of your success so far. Your search for a lifetime partner should not be based on material success. Rich people have been known to become poor and vice versa. For marriage you must look for someone who will love you for who you are and not for your money or popularity, and you also must do the same. Presently, your expectation seems too high. Too high that you even went international in the search. Forgive me if I am wrong, but most likely your father was not wealthy when he met your mother, and yet your mother loved him enough to marry him, and look at what they produced, an independent and prosperous lady. If you find a man with a good heart and love for you, you can build him up if he has nothing of his own, and he in turn can bring you satisfaction and peace, and happiness in ways that money can never do. I want you to know that if your desire for a man is guided by GOD then the ideal union will arise between you and a worthy man. But if you choose by what dominates you now (materialism); then you might regret it. Finally, know that all things have their time and from hurry comes harm. So take your time, let prayer, humility, due diligence, and sincerity guide you in your search. Do not disregard any suitor just because they are not ‘settled’, but by means of prayer let GOD reveal the heart and mind of the suitors to you so you can make a creditable shortlist of suitors to work on to find the man for you. I pray that my words will be meaningful to you. I close by saying that, I sincerely wish you the best. May GOD hear your prayers and bless you with a good man that will truly be a worthy lifetime companion for you under all circumstances as you journey through earth-life. Amen 24 Likes |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Nobody: 2:04am On May 12, 2013 |
Happyness_Chima: Shebi na husband u dey find eh kwa He may just be reading so keep it all prettied up Nne He could be reading FYI,people have found husbands on nairaland This year shall not pass you by 2 Likes |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Nobody: 2:16am On May 12, 2013 |
Danfo: @OP, And you have to type all this while deducing? |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Nobody: 2:19am On May 12, 2013 |
I hope there is a settled young man here to take the bull by the b.alls 1 Like |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Nobody: 2:20am On May 12, 2013 |
babyosisi: Let the lady be Biko! You dey pray for her, same time laughing at her .... I see nothing wrong with what she just typed. Yes, she might sound proud to the penniless but not to people like me(the wealthy kind) 4 Likes |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Nobody: 2:21am On May 12, 2013 |
Vikin: What are you waiting for? You may be the man she has been waiting for The story is funny na,somehow Forgive me @ the poster,I wish you all the best 1 Like |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Nobody: 2:26am On May 12, 2013 |
babyosisi: Forget the name Biko! I be sexy mama! |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by otokx(m): 2:40am On May 12, 2013 |
Gboliwe:that is normal in Nigeria, especially when job is around parents locality. |
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