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Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by biolabee(m): 3:01am On May 12, 2013 |
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Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by biolabee(m): 3:03am On May 12, 2013 |
Happyness_Chima: Dont worry dem plenty hia o. even unmarried all join.... take heart dohh.... This is Family Seksion 3 Likes |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by biolabee(m): 3:07am On May 12, 2013 |
coogar: fresh |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Nobody: 3:11am On May 12, 2013 |
Osisi meant no harm. Even the OP wouldn't have replied her that way If Tashmania had not made a mountain out of a mole hill and started the pity party train. @OP Like I said you need to re evaluate yourself. What you want now is what you are eligible for if you were still in your 20's. you have gone past that age range So you need to turn it down a notch. You can negotiate. I wish you well 5 Likes |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by biolabee(m): 3:18am On May 12, 2013 |
I love your analytical methods though feel you were too hasty in adjudging her prideful 20/20 for effort! Danfo: @OP, 1 Like |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Qualer: 4:37am On May 12, 2013 |
@op. Send your tel no. And pic to this mail address for talk and subsequent meet - t2eff @ yahoo . Com |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Danfo(m): 5:29am On May 12, 2013 |
biolabee: I love your analytical methods though feel you were too hasty in adjudging her prideful @biolabee, Thanks for the 'effort marks' (20/20).Professionally I am an high level Analyst. Personals apart, no there is no hastiness here. You see, the instrumentation or tools for identifying a problem is constantly provided by means of words.In other words, when you start talking/commenting an expert will identify your core/central issue(s) right away. And if I identify pride as the issue here why do I have to wait to state my honest opinion. Wait till when? Shey you understand? As far as I know the OP is here for frank and honest opinions not some stupid, sycophantic, nursery, and senseless comments people makes which has no impact on her desire for a solution. 6 Likes |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Danfo(m): 5:37am On May 12, 2013 |
Vikin: @Viking, I am an human not a robot, so yes I did type all of that because I care enough for a troubled mind seeking answers from strangers she might never ever meet in real life. I know your type; intellectually bankrupt , lethargic in mind, never contributing anything meaningful, yet criticizing those who makes an effort. I beg comot make I see front... 9 Likes |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by biolabee(m): 6:19am On May 12, 2013 |
Danfo: I loVe the analysis but I don't think the conclusion is fair She brought the info so that we could get a better feel of her social standing However the reality is that even if she is humble a natural male will be put off as she will be seen as a 'potential shrew and unsubmissive woman'. The woman with the pants? So she has to cool off and take her time But set your standard reasonably and don't go below it 2 Likes |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Nobody: 7:11am On May 12, 2013 |
Danfo: See ur head! Also using your methodology to deduce that I never contribute anything meaningful and intellectually bankrupt! Nothing you said here that has not been said by previous posters even your so called deduction. What you fail to see is that pride can be negative and also positive. Def: Pride is an inwardly directed emotion that carries two common meanings. With a negative connotation, pride refers to an inflated sense of one's personal status or accomplishments, often used synonymously with hubris. With a positive connotation, pride refers to a satisfied sense of attachment toward one's own or another's choices and actions, or toward a whole group of people, and is a product of praise, independent self-reflection, or a fulfilled feeling of belonging.ref. wiki From the way she was going, she meant no harm! I don't see why she should not celebrate her success. Let those that cannot fit into her lifestyle give way! Except she is ready to endure most things But u should be shot with this your deduction method, even God himself have pride in him. 3 Likes |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by StateOfMind: 7:20am On May 12, 2013 |
babyosisi: You are indeed a very restless woman. What do you stand to gain by mocking this poster. You think your life is better just because you claim to be married? You keep going on and on about her preference for someone settled. Is there a crime in that? She has worked hard enough to become settled in life and she deserves a good man to complement that. In as much as she has been advised to lower her expectations and be more open minded, which I agree with, I do no wish her a marriage to any unsettled guy just because she wants to be a mrs. She has to be wary of irresponsible unsettled guys who will just come into her life to squander her money. Don't make it seem as if all unsettled guys are good and responsible while their settled counterparts are not. Op, live your life and be on the look out for good, decent and responsible men, settled or unsettled. Your priority should be making yourself happy and approachable. Be open minded and very observant too. All the best. 21 Likes |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by StateOfMind: 7:21am On May 12, 2013 |
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Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Dreamflyin(m): 7:32am On May 12, 2013 |
Danfo: Abegii, u self get d pride, even a bigger one. U tinks dat u ar on a higher moral/intelligence pedestal above everyone. Bro, pride is an innate tin in every human being. We all got it. Who wants to knw if u ar a professional wat.(analyssss, abi analysian, someone shuld pls teach me gud englisss). We all got PRIDE! 12 Likes |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by esere826: 7:52am On May 12, 2013 |
LOL analysis everywhere I think i'll make a home in the familly section |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Danfo(m): 8:58am On May 12, 2013 |
Dreamflyin: @Dreamflyin, You are actually missing the main star of the topic:The OP looking for opinions. Do not reduce the topic to my own stupidity, intelligence, imbecility, or 'pride'.This is nothing about me. I reserve the right to comment about my line of work. You will also notice that I directed the comment about my profession specifically to @biolabee. And this comment neither adds to nor subtract from the OP's quest for candid opinions. Please make sensible contribution (s) if you can, but stop trivializing the issue. 5 Likes |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Nobody: 9:03am On May 12, 2013 |
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Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Danfo(m): 9:08am On May 12, 2013 |
Vikin: Your comments are very comedic, including the one about GOD, because Jesus said: for I am meek and lowly in heart: and you shall find rest to your souls. This your mind-set is what makes good men afraid to come near successful ladies. I'm happy to know you are into comedy just like me. Cheers mate! By the way, you do not have a gun big enough to shoot me. Dream on! 2 Likes |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by jwart(m): 12:30pm On May 12, 2013 |
All what we want is what God wl give us but it might not be in the same package we expecte, reject a man and two men wl eject you, dont aim too high to make a choice, who want to marry you is different to whom you want to marry, gud men who serious about marriage ar in da club like wl op we find them in religious places, the last wedding i attended the couple met on da social net work, just do your home work very wel no tym is too late to get married |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Nobody: 1:06pm On May 12, 2013 |
I read @danfo's analysis and I was about to say it is all hogwash, but I understand that is the way a typical Nigerian male will evaluate a woman with a well paying job. They'll probably see the poster as high maintenance, too proud and she'll struggle to wear the pants in the family. Judging her without getting to know her. I heard a story years back abt a woman in her 30's too with a good job in an oil servicing company, sha had a nice SUV et al, when the whole marriage issue started disturbing her too much she parked her SUV and bought a kia Picanto and moved back in with her folks and men started coming. Long and short of what I am saying is try to be as modest as you can, smile and enjoy your single life your Mr right is by the corner. 1 Like |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by biolabee(m): 1:10pm On May 12, 2013 |
steph7: I read @danfo's analysis and I was about to say it is all hogwash, but I understand that is the way a typical Nigerian male will evaluate a woman with a well paying job. They'll probably see the poster as high maintenance, too proud and she'll struggle to wear the pants in the family. Judging her without getting to know her. Your head dey there.. i no know why people like to dey vex when theyu see correct analysis Danfo.. i gbadun you jaawe No need to defend yaself |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by biolabee(m): 1:17pm On May 12, 2013 |
StateOfMind: This restless word again.... coogar abeg make i re borrow this your gif |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by youngalex(m): 2:20pm On May 12, 2013 |
Happiness my dear,i understand ur situation at the moment but i want to tell u the blunt truth - Have u asked yourself why God gave u Money? Probably he wants u to use that money to assist people around you including your would be husband Most rich ladies always believe that they will attract and Marry very comfortable guys...In reality it doesn't always work - It might be your destiny to build your own man...maybe its part of your success story Stop Looking Up...Just Look Down And Move Up |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by DMK02: 4:15pm On May 12, 2013 |
either unsettled nd u nid a husband. God go hlp u find am o |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by hisableplc(m): 4:16pm On May 12, 2013 |
Happyness_Chima: I'm 31 And Nobody Is Asking My Hand In Marriage Will you marry me ....am single around that age too and willing to marry this year...but.............. |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Augustinaz(m): 4:19pm On May 12, 2013 |
Madam come marry me. I am single. |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by ChiSun27(m): 4:22pm On May 12, 2013 |
Bfor i say anythng...try to answer dis ? 1. 4rm d age of 22 -25...wia men komin to ask for ur hand in marriage? 2. 4rm d age of 26-28...wia u bizy living ur life to d fullest n making unnecessary selection of d typ of man u want or not? 3. 4rm d age of 29-30..did u appear to b too xpensive in front of guys...lyk in churches, work or place of abode? 4. Now dat u r 31...hw r u living ur life presently to mek up for those period dat u wia mayb playn hard to get? Reply ASAP. 1 Like |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by ChiSun27(m): 4:24pm On May 12, 2013 |
hisableplc: u r still unsettled. |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by odunola1000: 4:24pm On May 12, 2013 |
Is there any way i can get incontact with u ,may be by chatting ,u can send message to my inbox here. |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Nobody: 4:24pm On May 12, 2013 |
oyeyipo w: On a lighter note, please I'll like to see ur picture b4 I can comment OPtrue talk |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by killuminati(m): 4:27pm On May 12, 2013 |
Op you sound kinda desperate. Just calm down why u dey rush...shey dem say God's time's the best? No worry just maintain ursef and be hopeful. Before dis year's end who knows, you might just get married to me. |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by tpapi: 4:29pm On May 12, 2013 |
Forget going to club, club is meant for fun,they wil jus b interested in havin fun wit u,if u r attending a big,pls change to a smaller church where u can b easily noticed,join a dept in church n b active in church,attend singles programmes,dress responsibly n b we'll behaved,before u no wats up God wil bring one responsible man to u, I op u r not d pompous n sausy type |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by AceVentura: 4:29pm On May 12, 2013 |
Happyness_Chima: Be patient, your man will come. Also tone it down with the clubbing & excessive partying, men usually don't bond well with ladies in that category. They want homely women & prospective home makers. Moving out isn't the solution. You'll just flood your home with guys looking to doke you only. Guys feel intimated by ladies who are financially ahead of them but if you're a humble person then you have nothing to worry about. Keep praying for your man to come. |
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