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Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by trolling(m): 4:29pm On May 12, 2013 |
What supposed ego do they have..don't put them on a pedestal... Love your comments tho Dreamflyin: Frankly, u wouldn't get a hussy at a club(night clubs i guess). |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by anonimi: 4:30pm On May 12, 2013 |
Happyness_Chima: You should not let the inconsiderate nature of SOME people here put you off. You should learn to separate the wheat from the chaff, in a manner of speaking. I can understand where you are at. I see a few ladies in similar situation. It is DIFFICULT but is NOT IMPOSSIBLE to find a man who will match your criteria. You are very comfortable and most men who are MORE comfortable than you are will MOST LIKELY be already married at 31+ as I assume you probably want someone older than you as with most Nigerian ladies. You will have to determine what matters to you most and seek guys with promise and moral but who may "not be settled" yet. Any relationship and/or marriage is about compromise, give up something so the other party also gives up something and you make it work. BTW, I have heard and seen ladies who determined to get married and/or just have a baby within one year achieve their goal by making the necessary compromise. And I must commend you for going out and getting involved in various activities but you may want to volunteer with charities and serious NGOs particularly dealing with kids rather than focusing on pentecostal churches where it is obvious most ladies are in the same situation and guys will come and pretend long enough to get them before showing their true colour. I wish you luck. 1 Like |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Ndjones(m): 4:39pm On May 12, 2013 |
Come let me marry. 08035223611 |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Benuromi: 4:42pm On May 12, 2013 |
Hello Happyness Chima, it was sad to read your topic. I won't say much but with God, all things are possible. I don't know you but reading through your topic, I felt sad on how people can easily conclude without thinking before making comment. I lived in the UK and life is somehow but with faith, u will be fine. I will like to talk to u. I will drop my number. Give me a miss call and I will talk to u. Be positive and don't let any negative comment bring you down. |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by trolling(m): 4:43pm On May 12, 2013 |
on point... Personality is the key babyosisi: Not to boast or anything but before I got married,suitors were pursuing me day and night |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Angel778(f): 4:45pm On May 12, 2013 |
The greatest mistake u'l ever make is giving urself an ultimatum of when u are to get married!" 1) Put ur trust in God and pray to God 4 a good partner (2) work on ur manner, d way u talk and interact wth people 3) dress cute bt decent 4)work on ur shape, if u'r fat try and loose some flesh and stay fit. 5) try and socialize and be humble and i pray God wil connect u to d bone of ur bone, AMEN |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by pcnwamadi(m): 4:53pm On May 12, 2013 |
@ OP, why don't u start by dropin ur contact email here for prospective suitors, I can assure u dat u will ve dem in loads, the good, d bad and d urgly 2 Likes |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by hisableplc(m): 4:57pm On May 12, 2013 |
I realize that we have more ready ladies than dudes that are never ready or ever balling even at late 30`s and 40`s and even the one that are hooked are disengaging themselves....this guys have everything but u dont see them looking down talk more of settling down. They fail to look at the promising future all they are concerned is the present and that is the reason why its more complicated. There is only one who knows that future that is GOD ask him for bread He will never give u serpent ask Him for egg He wont give you scorpion...Remember is ways are not your ways so be careful in taking decisions. |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by esere826: 4:57pm On May 12, 2013 |
@happyness I interested in knowing how u get ur tickets for 90 thousand naira kindly PM me with details ...Tnx |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Ninilowo(m): 4:58pm On May 12, 2013 |
Ur frequent visit to UK n ur job are some factors responsible cos ppl see u as a fellow "up there". If u can come down a bit am sure u ll get a suitor soon. |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by dokunbam(m): 4:59pm On May 12, 2013 |
just put ur trust in God he will answer ur prayers I dont think parties and all that stuff will work, cos of the kind of pple u meet y dont u try ur church, be more active in your church and u might meet a God fearing man guys are still looking for a good and God fearing lady too you have to be honest with urself, are u really the type a guy would want to settle down with? answer that and get back to me for more advice |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Abusitamuno: 5:00pm On May 12, 2013 |
wait till u r 39! |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Originalsly: 5:02pm On May 12, 2013 |
Tell me...why do you think you are "marriage material"? I'm waiting. "A rolling stone gathers no moss" |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by protocol(m): 5:04pm On May 12, 2013 |
Happyness_Chima: I'm 31 And Nobody Is Asking My Hand In Marriage |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Osama10(m): 5:05pm On May 12, 2013 |
Hmmmn, look at the way some people are dropping their numbers cos them don hear say she dey buoyant. 1 Like |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Nobody: 5:06pm On May 12, 2013 |
I keep having this feeling that you will be happy before thus year runs out...its a strong one and so I personally think you need not worry...God is with you and you wait wud be for the best. |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Pancho01(m): 5:06pm On May 12, 2013 |
I understand that ur one desire nw is 2 get a husband 4 urself. But 2 b frank wit u, there are sum married women that are weeping and regreting on why they entered in2 marriage, wishing that they neva got married. Why am i saying this? It seems natural 4 guys and ladies especialy at ur age 2 bcome so obssesed and desperate in2 enterin marriage. Bt i tel u it wont work dat way. What u hav 2 d first of al is 2 wrk on urself,ur character,personality, etc. If u ar truly lukn 4 a husband 2luv u, u hav 2 make urself luvabl. Do away wit any traits of personality dat may repel ppl away 4rm u. Hw do u present urself in d public? Ur bodylanguage also matas alot and ur dresin. In all, b nice and friendly and u wil draw guys 2urself, where u can nw make a choice. Bt dnt mak urself to seem too needy and desperate. Relax,be calm, live a healthy life, attend responsible social gatherings nt d crazy bar,niteclubs etc. And lastly, check ur opinion on wo d ideal man is 2u, no man is perfect. Anyway wish u luck! 1 Like |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by hisableplc(m): 5:07pm On May 12, 2013 |
ChiSun27: Lol not that my spiritual taste is just high that i dont think anyhow person can fit in, my 3 yrs junior blood brother has done is court wed, but am not hasty and it only takes someone with an inner eye to recognize me cos am complicated but easy going |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by StateOfMind: 5:07pm On May 12, 2013 |
ChiSun27: Bfor i say anythng...try to answer dis ? Of what use are the first three questions please? She already explained how she is living her present life which is what you should work with and offer advice if you have any. I know most men would come here to conclude she turned down potential suitors in her twenties reason she is not married now. They are called 'potential' suitors for a reason, a lady should not accept any suitor that comes her way or endure a bad relationship because of the fear of being single at 30. As men too, you come across many potential wives growing up, but you end up picking just one as your wife. Being a female does not necessarily mean one doesn't have a choice (though I understand it can not be totally compared to a male's life cycle). But as long as one's set standards are realistic, there should be no settling for less. |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by okechukwu2013: 5:11pm On May 12, 2013 |
Post your picture let's see if your problem is internal or external 2 Likes |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by trolling(m): 5:14pm On May 12, 2013 |
Spot on... This is why Solomon said the race is not to the swift... If the race is smooth for you something is wrong.. Amelian: A close friend of mine sent me, this message: |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by dowjones(m): 5:16pm On May 12, 2013 |
I read that the the age of menopause is shifting higher. there are records that show women reaching menopause at 38 years. O.P, you are single because you are probably 1) Rude, aggressive, unfriendly (humiliate a man in order to test his love. Smh) 2) Superficial and fake (nollywood effect..too much make up and shytt) 3) Unrealistic (expecting too much from relationships and men) 4) Religious or Over spiritual 5) Un-intelligent (the average naija woman cant hold a decent conversation even when the guy is trying too hard) these are ur options leave ur parents house to avoid that pressure (you're ibo, thats almost impossible) Freeze ur eggs (it wont get any better,for insurance sake) Join LINKED-IN (your chances of getting serious guys are higher there) Do the opposite of the listed causes of ur present state (avoid nollywood movies!) I'm out 1 Like |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Nobody: 5:18pm On May 12, 2013 |
Damn son!! Going to Church won't get you a husband, there are too many beautiful single ladies out there and the competition is stiff for the few available men.. Anyway, if you can compete, good luck to you. And the club isn't the best way to find a good partner. However, you need to move out of your parent's house for a start; get involved in volunteering, or social gatherings where you can meet/network with people; compromise a little bit; and hope for the best. Btw, esere626 has been trying to holla directly and indirectly, he might be the one you've been waiting for. 1 Like |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by Marcelinho(m): 5:22pm On May 12, 2013 |
Pray like never before,give your life to christ,and your dream will come to pass,but make sure you are not the pride type,don't look down and your man will come. Goodluck |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by okechukwu2013: 5:24pm On May 12, 2013 |
OP post your picture lets disect where the problem is coming from.Lol 1 Like |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by badmeat(m): 5:25pm On May 12, 2013 |
You need TB joshua |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by cold(m): 5:26pm On May 12, 2013 |
Yeah,the competition in churches is way too stiff you barely stand a fighting chance against the more experienced men-hunters.I'm afraid you've got to look elsewhere for your salvation.Just check out this fellowship
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Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by alemunile: 5:26pm On May 12, 2013 |
love yourself first. and block our all the side talk about your way of life. remember live your life for your self and not the way some expect you to live it. And if you are 31 and still living with your family. that is a BIG TURN OFF. if your can afford to get your own place, why are u still stay with your family. step one start living your own life. u only got one. don't let someone else dictate how u should go about it. GOOD LUCK 2 Likes |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by kbass: 5:27pm On May 12, 2013 |
take out time and pray and fast |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by PHIPEX(m): 5:28pm On May 12, 2013 |
I only have these little advice for you. 1. The title of this thread is wrong; men want to marry you but the ones coming are not as comfortable as you expect. 2. You are 31 already meaning that most likely you will expect men of around 35 to approach you for marriage. Am afraid because by your standard, majority of men of that age who are as comfortable as you expect are most likely married. I therefore suggest you trade off some of your standards which many people here have identified as a possible problem. I don't think it'll be a crime to use your resources help anyone of the present suitors come up to your standard since you can afford it, it takes two to tango. 3. Am yet to hear of a man who met his wife in a night club, I might be wrong but I think you are looking at the wrong place. Be social but mind where you socialise. 4. Pardon me to further say that you need to first give your life to God after which you can now boldly ASK GOD FOR YOUR RIGHT. Changing churches wouldn't be the end point which is exactly what your action seems to suggest. I don't think there is a relationship between attending Winners and still going to night clubs; set you priorities right. seek God for who he is and not for what he can give. Someone who has an eye on you on Sunday in your beautiful sunday dress but sees you in the usual nightclub dress on Friday will take you to be hypocrite. 5. Finally, your first story here gave a wrong impression of yourself which you have tried to clarify. Therefore I also suggest you make sure you are not giving people a wrong impression of yourself in real life by your comments and lifestyle. It's said that first impression lasts longer, you may not have a second chance to clarify yourself after such impressions. Best of luck in your search! 1 Like |
Re: Update; I Am 31 And getting married soon by ngorluv: 5:28pm On May 12, 2013 |
@op I av a brother who's looking for a wife...he's good looking and has a very good job.....I will like to hook u guess up,lemme kno if u ar interested |
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