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All these people now if they got appointment from BAT govt would have been quiet. Abeg joor.

Tinubu is not going anyway. After his 8 years he will want to become God father of Nigeria and install his boy or maybe Seyi Tinubu as President just like he is doing in Lagos. Na there gan gan the battle go start.

Na everyday in Nigeria so so Prison Break. Even Michael Scoffield no do reach this one

Only a dull person doesnt understand that Tinubu is doing all this to secure 2027 election. He wants a state governor he can control to help him with the massive rigging that will happen in Rivers State come 2027.

kokomilala:
A Bold Response In the Face of Simmering Political and Social Inferno

Tinubu has only exercised his duty as the Chief Security Officer of the country in the heat and face of the build up of political and social disasters threatening Rivers State.

To those blaming him for declaring a state of emergency in Rivers, what would you have done if u were the president, given the circumstances?

To those that set down words without considering their import, are you so dumb to know that the Constitution has provisions for such emergencies? Well, this is a missing and irresponsible generation, whose ignorance and lack of a sense of history is very evident in their interaction with present realities.

OBJ declared a state of emergency in Plateau State in 19909, I think. Such an exercise is not out of place within a federal structure.

In the US in 1959, a group of black students were hectored by white racist students at a school, Little Rock. President Eisenhower sent federal troops to escort 9 of those students back to school after the state had acquiesced with the racists in what became known as Little Rock 9. So, Tibunu hasnt done anything wrong here .

Those asking Wike to be removed, u need to hav e your brain checked.

And those saying the SW stands alone. I see it as a prophecy for the final break up of Nigeria. The Yoruba nation is not scared of being alone. If anything, it's the Nigerian project, flawed in every aspect, that has held back the Yoruba nation. In terms of human resources, we can match any peoples anywhere in the world. So, save your promise of 2027.

Bro you APC goons are liars. Dont even try to compare Nigerian politics to American politics. In the case of Little rock 9 the governor was never removed and the state house of Assembly was not dissolve. And can you compare what is happening in Rivers right now to what was happening in Little Rock then?

I'm Yoruba and I supported Tinubu in 2023. But truth be told. Democracy in Nigeria is a joke. How can a president sack the Governor and the whole house of Assembly in a state that belongs to the opposition party and put a Military Governor. Is the state or Country at war? This is very absurd I'm not going to lie and wonders shall never end.

Gradually turning into one party country in Nigeria

In Nigeria we call the O.Y.O. Zelenskky is on O.Y.O.

Trump said no more free dollars for war. If you want to fight mumu war you have to give us your mineral resources and oil

irumole1975:
Because ehheeen I don’t understand what’s happening again..similar thread like this on twitter, I saw Nigerians saying they’ll rather make it in Nigeria than japa and spend 30million naira from their hard earned money ..I thought they all were kidding..here on Nairaland again people don’t seem to be bothered about japa again unlike before when u see us saying we will rather die in America prison than to be successful in Nigeria’..

Something has changed I don’t know what it is. Maybe the cost of japa is discouraging them or the recent anti immigration stance from those countries

My guy nothing dey abroad. I'm currently in the U.S. If to say Nigeria good small. I swear nobody go leave Naija come inside this yeye oyinbo lands dey hustle inside cold. Na the way things be na him cause am.

irumole1975:
Wait o, what’s happening? I thought yall hate Nigeria and will rather be in jail for eternity in America than to live as a billionaire in Nigeria? Ahaha what has changed? I thought 99% of Nigerians are poor and desperately want to leave the country? I can’t believe we still have Nigerian who want good things to happen to the country? Thought we all want evil to happen to Nigeria.

Or are yall lying on this thread? What happen to the japa wave of 2021 to 2022?

The reports coming back from the Japa wave after the honeymoon period of the initial Japarians have not been rosy As people come dey learn that relocation is not a piece of cake some people in Nigeria don dey get sense small small

IBB brought all Nigerian politicians together. They are all smiling together. Later one mumu person wey no dey political class will go and be killing himself for politicians wey no send their papa.

Both deeone and verydarkman are just clout chasers. How do people like this become popular sef. Arguing over very stupid issues. Ewwwww.

Treasure17:
Nothing concern me abeg. Tinubu should resign and hand over to Peter Obi.

What are you sniffing this late afternoon.

I'm thinking of taking a 2 months medical leave and come to Nigeria to clear my head. Hopefully that will help me put things in perspective. The process is long since I need to get a medical certificate from my psychiatrist and talk to my supervisor but I will try to press through. Hopefully they don't fire me for this otherwise I will just have to look for another job I guess.

Thanks for all the advises so far. First let me clear some assumptions. I got married before I moved to the U.S and my wife came to join me a year after. Secondly, I didnt cut off all my friends in Nigeria. Most of us simply drifted apart. Many have also relocated to different countries abroad. Thirdly my major problem is just a feeling of emptiness and sadness which leads to depression. Fourthly I'm doing a fairly decent job in the U.S and likewise my wife. I'm not doing a low income job so my finances are okay. We have some investment here although not much I believe it's okay for our level. I

I don't know where I got it wrong. Everyday I now wake up from bed to go to work is a struggle. I never was a person with a whole lot of friends. My friends were typically guys on my street that I worked up to. The tailor that sews for me etc. But since I came here everyone simply minds their own business. My problem is that I long for the simpler days which I believe are long gone now. I think I need some growing up to do but it's just so hard for me given my loneliness and depression. I really need a way out before things even get worse. I can conveninetly survive unpaid at my job for a few months but since I just started less than a year ago I think they will take me as unserious if I suggest leaving the job for a break. The process of getting my Greencard also took quite a while and I feel I should make the best use of it by making as much money as I can since I now have it but I also don't want to harm myself mentally in the course of doing that.

I go to a Nigerian church before but it was all about pay tithe donate money this and that so I lost interest. I'm really at my wits end so please keep the advises coming and reading everyone of them and will make a decision based on what I receive here.

Thanks!

Zzyco:
For your anxiety do you feel your hands shaking? Like do you find it difficult holding things without quivering, when you stretch your fingers do you they are vibrating?

No.its more mental and no physical symptoms

Taal17:
Find out about your HR policies.

Or get your doctor to provide a letter and take FMLA. It's federal govt protected leave, your job would be protected. I think FMLA is up to 12 weeks.

Find out about it

You have to be alive to work o. So pls put yourself first and get back to yourself biko.
The US makes you feel like you have to work till you grind yourself like crayfish lol.

I think you need to have worked one calendar year for FMLA which I have not yet worked up to.

Tohsynetita1:
Wait o, which Drug is it Fluoxetine?

I don't know what that is.

Bankowner:
You probably need a break. Take one, go to Nigeria for 6 months. Maybe, just maybe, that will reset your thinking.

Me hope you're not using us to catch cruise sha.

Thanks for all the replies so far. I'm not using you guys to catch cruise. This really is my situation. Go to Nigeria for 6 months ke?? 6 months is too long oooo. Make T pain come finish me for Naija. Abeg ooooo

Taal17:
It's your life so you can be frustrated it's okay.

Can you take some time off, a leave of absence..a change of environment might help you think and reflect on what dreams you had that you never took up.

Extreme fatigue typically needs a break
.no pressure ..no pending commitments.
Start with 2 weeks or one month and be a child again .
Doesn't have to be anywhere expensive ..a resort where you can see sunlight regularly.

Your wife is responding from a place of fear so her discouragement is because she sees you moving as losing your security. So take that break with her.

The one time I had extreme fatigue I had experienced mild depression months before which I didn't pay attention to.

I was on a call and my speech just slowed down everything just slowed. I asked those on the call if I sounded strange. They called for help . Hospital checked everything and my vitals were fine. Yet I felt and moved like someone who was recovering from surgery.

In the end I cut down everything that day. Work Calls, Stress shut it all out. I learned from that.

Take a break and find you again.. remember the things you really enjoyed no matter how silly they are and do them. It will help reset you.
Since you're being treated for depression go on these breaks with someone and find some Sun

Can you take a leave of absence from a new job. I've been there for less than a year and just passed my probation period of 6 months.

Tohsynetita1:
Why are you taking antidepressants?

I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression.

Bankowner:
That is not enough to make you sad and lonely.
And the good thing is you're in a country where there are advanced treatment for things like fertility issues as well as options to make it possible to bear children. Explore those options first.

Most of the advanced treatments have failed but the fertility issues is not the reason I'm sad and lonely. In fact I fear taking additional responsibility in the name of kids given my physical and mental state. And to those who are asking why are turned irreligious. It's simple. I found out I wasn't gaining much from church.

Helpout12345:
What city are you based? I think you can pull through.

I am based here too and I understand the loneliness part you are talking about.

I'm based in Ohio

Bankowner:
You have a wife, yet you feel sad and lonely. Are you having troubles in your marriage?
Have you thought of having children? You buy a house to be lived in by just the two of you, abi?

My advice to you is simple.
Find and pursue activities that will keep you occupied. A local church, volunteering, a sport.
Love your wife, have children, devote yourself to those children.

Part of the health issues I am having is fertility issues.

LordBiden:
Lol.

millions of Nigerians are praying to be in your shoes.

The Nigeria you left years ago is not the same currently.

I know that. I was in Nigeria in 2023. But I virtually miss home. I am homesick AGAIN. You wouldn't understand if you've not lived abroad for long. I am the one wearing the shoe and I know where it's pinching me.

DrDoc:
Try attending churches nau. After that support groups and the likes and before you know it, you have company. Don't do life alone

I'm no longer very religious.

Hello nairalanders I know to a lot of Nigerians who have never left the country this may sound funny. But I'm indeed frustrated with my life in America. I moved to America as a student in 2016 for masters in an engineering degree and after about 7 years I obtained a U.S Greencard. I work a middle income job with the government and I'm here with my Nigerian wife. I have faced a series of health challenges since I got here and some have been resolved and some additionally ones have cropped in with the latest being depression and extreme fatigue. Currently I'm on antidepressants but I'm still depressed and frustrated. My job is not that taxing but I wish I could do more save for the extreme fatigue that the doctors have not been able to resolve. I wish I could hustle harder but my health is not allowing me to. I feel also very sad and lonely living in the U.S as it's only me and my wife and I dont really have any friends. Everyone here always mind their business and its tough building any meaningful relationships. I have toyed with the idea of moving back to Nigeria in my head since America has not been all I hoped it will be for me but my wife does not want to and she quickly reminds me of the employment suitation in Nigeria and how it is me that made her come here in the first place. She kind of prefers it here. We have no kids yet so that is one additional information. I'm just venting and frustrated and I hope maybe some Nairalanders can come to my aid. Additional information. I dont come from a rich family that has money sitting in the bank and its me and my own. We just bought a house on a 30 year mortgage so we pretty stuck with paying the debt for 30 years but I don't know how I'd live here for 30 years. Just looking for someone with experience to share ideas with since I have no one. I feel stuck. Please no insults

Nigeria a country doesnt have constant power. Which one come be AI university again. We need industralization and manufacturing before AI. This is pointless.

baba sope politics in full swing in Lagos. Tpain era is here to stay. Seyi Tpain is the next Lagos state governor already.

none saw covid. Not one single prophet. so what are we saying?

shiwex:
And who is this person, why is the person not in Jail,

In China people like that are committed to death by hanging but in Naija even to name the person na wahala.