Guys check out this scenario.You see a local/village girl you like.You really love the girl but the dressing,hairstyles,behavior,language of the girl are archaic.

In simpler terms, how can you upgrade or love-vendor a local /village girl you love?

may i ask: what did you actually like about this girl if there were so many negative points about her?!
wouldnt it be simpler to just walk away and find someone that fits your desires in a mate?!

MBJ bro, i think there's a twist to his case. He actually loved the 'local' girl but not alright with her demoded lifestyle.
@OP, It's simple, identify what you like/love about this girl, appreciate her on it while you 'work on her'. . .upgrading isn't easy and that's because she has lived years of her life 'feeling good' about her lifestyle. You coming in to change that demands process and patience. If you truly love her, then, that's much possible to get done.

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Sanboy25: If you love her, you also love her "archaic behavior" no ? It's part of the packaging...

True. But he might love certain characters she displays like her culinary skills, her humility etc but he might not like her grammar and dressing.

@OP, check if she is willing to change and BEFORE things get serious, ask her to but don't try to force her.

Personally, I think you should let her be as it is not a good idea to try to change anyone to your taste but you can try as she might also want to change for herself in the first place

aя̩̥̊ε̲̣̣̣̥ you not a local guy yourself with this your question? If she fits your ideal girl, go ahead and upgrade her to †ђξ next level. Even yÓur first lady was once a local girl and Ω̴̩̩̩̥αw challenges more polished persons.

If she is not ready to improve on her archaic behaviour, move on.

You know the picture you have of your ideal girl, just go for it, never settle fot less (that's the best way to avoid irritation).

Personally for me, I can't settle for an archaic girl, I don't care how beautiful you are (we don't need another Patience Goodluck).

D-Explorer:
MBJ bro, i think there's a twist to his case. He actually loved the 'local' girl but not alright with her demoded lifestyle.

bro, thats what makes her a "local" girl, remove that and you probably have someone completely different. you cannot say:" i like this bush lady, but i will change her so that she has Nikki Minaj swag"....no cant do, lol!
nobody should ever try to upgrade people in such a manner, and on such important points as behavior, her definition of beauty (aka hairstyle), language etc. if you change all the above then you have a COMPLETE different person.

You got my drift.

You got my drift.

Mynd_44:
True. But he might love certain characters she displays like her culinary skills, her humility etc but he might not like her grammar and dressing.

@OP, check if she is willing to change and BEFORE things get serious, ask her to but don't try to force her.

Personally, I think you should let her be as it is not a good idea to try to change anyone to your taste but you can try as she might also want to change for herself in the first place

190: a local girl uhmmm No thanks

so what does she sell

cashew, mango or bole

lol

MRbrownJAY:

bro, thats what makes her a "local" girl, remove that and you probably have someone completely different. you cannot say:" i like this bush lady, but i will change her so that she has Nikki Minaj swag"....no cant do, lol!
nobody should ever try to upgrade people in such a manner, and on such important points as behavior, her definition of beauty (aka hairstyle), language etc. if you change all the above then you have a COMPLETE different person.

A complete different person and a better one. You see bro, these people we call 'archaic' knows the in things but kept to fate because they can't afford them. Being archaic mostly comes with being poor, a comfortable lady understand trends and got 'exposed' friends to enlighten her except she's stucked to religious beliefs. I got your point, but i think this' not about 'changing' a person but 'making' her better; her looks, lifestyle and whatnot. If she's demoded, she could want to be free and 'meet up' if a dude can truly love and be patient for the process. MBJ bro, even village girls knows that living in centuries backward is gross but who's gonna love and help? The issue now is, many of those we never gave a chance are better lovers than those we picked by our supposed 'standards'

LOL.

D-Explorer:

A complete different person and a better one. You see bro, these people we call 'archaic' knows the in things but kept to fate because they can't afford them. Being archaic mostly comes with being poor, a comfortable lady understand trends and got 'exposed' friends to enlighten her except she's stucked to religious beliefs. I got your point, but i think this' not about 'changing' a person but 'making' her better; her looks, lifestyle and whatnot. If she's demoded, she could want to be free and 'meet up' if a dude can truly love and be patient for the process. MBJ bro, even village girls knows that living in centuries backward is gross but who's gonna love and help? The issue now is, many of those we never gave a chance are better lovers than those we picked by our supposed 'standards'

yep, probably a better one (in your own mind) but she would always remain who she is deep down inside. characters have no financial inclination, if you are disrespectful when poor, then you will equally be disrespectful when rich. if you are ghetto when poor, then you will only be a rich ghetto person. these women's character can never be changed, they will certainly pretend to be different (because of you) but the day she is fed up with either you or fed up with acting, she will quickly turn back to what/who she really is.

now here is something for you: if the gal is "archaic" yet meet a guy that is as ghetto as she is, do you think he will think she is perfect (since they are both alike), OR think she should change?!

what you see as "better" may not be what i (or anyone else) defines as better too. what makes you think (without a shadow of doubt) that this lady wants to change OR that she would feel better about herself being who YOU want her to be?

MRbrownJAY:

yep, probably a better one (in your own mind) but she would always remain who she is deep down inside. characters have no financial inclination, if you are disrespectful when poor, then you will equally be disrespectful when rich. if you are ghetto when poor, then you will only be a rich ghetto person. these women's character can never be changed, they will certainly pretend to be different (because of you) but the day she is fed up with either you or fed up with acting, she will quickly turn back to what/who she really is.

now here is something for you: if the gal is "archaic" yet meet a guy that is as ghetto as she is, do you think he will think she is perfect (since they are both alike), OR think she should change?!

what you see as "better" may not be what i (or anyone else) defines as better too. what makes you think (without a shadow of doubt) that this lady wants to change OR that she would feel better about herself being who YOU want her to be?

Insightful.Food for thought.