chaircover:

Its a hard one, I must admit.
Is this person willing to share what is left?
You see when people are boxed in a corner, they fight anyhow without caring who gets hurt.
its alwayd good to give people an escape route.
I dont know what has been taken so far and what is left
but you may want to consider drawing a line in the sand and saying take what you have taken, but the rest we have to share and maybe she will be more co-operative.
People like that usually do adie da mi logun nu, ma fo leyin
translate please

Ceasar1: Yap, like Toynex, I'm also new here. Biko who's incharge of welcoming the newbies. I don't want to call names.

damiso:

If chicken spoil my medicine, I break her egg Yaay i tried


That's why I think they should all meet and let elders mediate rather than all this over the phone hearsay,excuses and counter accusations.
Your suggestion is similar to pickabeau's as well so will suggest to hubby.

chaircover:

Its a hard one, I must admit.
Is this person willing to share what is left?
You see when people are boxed in a corner, they fight anyhow without caring who gets hurt.
its alwayd good to give people an escape route.
I dont know what has been taken so far and what is left
but you may want to consider drawing a line in the sand and saying take what you have taken, but the rest we have to share and maybe she will be more co-operative.
People like that usually do adie da mi logun nu, ma fo leyin
translate please

damiso: Welcome toynex and caesar no vex I dey do amebo

Pls don't mind CC after the tsunami she was overthrown by moi so all registration fees come through me tanks

TOYNEX: fowl I throw way my medicine, I break ya egg.....

Ceasar1: Yap, like Toynex, I'm also new here. Biko who's incharge of welcoming the newbies. I don't want to call names.

damiso:


That is exactly what I am thinking of how long and drawn out it could be and the nastiness that could indeed ensue.Its a long story but funny enough the person is not male(only one born in Nigeria) and there was no will.So it's more or less been something that was just left to her to manage and oversee as the others were too young and when old enough just left the country.They just kinda never really thought about them and just allowed her free rein(like you said let her be using proceeds from rent etc to organise stuff back home and keep body and soul together)until they discovered recently she actually forged their signatures to SELL OFF(thats their main grouse) some of said property to invest in her 'business' and also get property for herself and hubby.

I also feel karma is a she-dog and she will get what's coming to her and they should forego what's she sold off(as I said sibling things) let them just decide to what they want to do with what's left,maybe also sell off and split proceeds, or appoint an independent estate manager who will manage for a fee and pay proceeds into an estate account.

jaybee3: Awon akuko-blockers don show

Choiiiii

LyndaRoyce: Welcome newbies....
Na my table them they allocate registration fee

TOYNEX: hmmm my head good o. sharp sharp I Don get junior. u are welcome ceasar1

MizMyColi: Lemme book space in this section first before Ceasar1 I followed you here, please register me too @registrar

Ceasar1:

I no we - we would like to know more about you. Introduce yourself.

rebella: Toynex and caesar don't mind them , I collect all registration fees and I give authentic receipt..

MizMyColi: I'm Mizmycoli, what's the template?

EfemenaXY:

I see.

Damiso, forgive me if I'm wrong, but this matter sounds like it's been left too little too late. How long was the estate left in her care for? Three decades?

Apart from the property left to her to oversee on behalf of her younger siblings, did she have any other source of income coming her way? If not, then she does have a point, re: she had to eat and sustain herself (hence the comment about no one bothering to find out how she'd fared all those years...) So if she had and still has nothing apart from that estate as her main source of livelihood, then it might be for the best if you lot just forget about it. Sharing it out will greatly reduce what she has to sustain herself and her family. Not fair, I know. But the fact is, the rest of you are overseas and you aren't dying from hunger, or plying the streets begging.

What she did was wrong though (forging signatures) and is a criminal offence. But nor be Naija we dey talk of? Where anything goes?

And the fact that she's a woman sef...I don't even know what to say!

bellong: Welcome on board.... Toynex, Ceaser1 and Mizmycoli.

I meant, what I'm supposed to talk about. @bellong Thank You, We're Honoured

salsera: @damiso

My take on this is this (bare in mind I'm basing my assumptions on what you have said so far)

Your hubby and other siblings have been passive about the property ALL this while but when they hear she's balling thats when they remember they are all equal children of the same parents.

By no fault of hers she was born in Nigeria and the others had a choice of where to call their legal place of residence.

By default she was left in charge of making decisions with regards to property belonging to all, taking care of property in Nigeria you need all your 5 senses and then some. If its not government asking for Land use charge it is local government then there is tenant wahala, agents going awol.
If everyone had been actively involved on a regular basis in sharing this load she would not have been able to do this.
I'm sure when she sold the property she told herself you guys dont care about it anyway because their inactivity proved that.

This similar scenario played out in my mums family and in the end they regretted it, till date that sibling still takes the larger share because when the properties needed attention in the early years he was the one left to do errand work so as far as he is concerned he's reaping from his hardwork. It taught them all a lesson now they are all actively involved and planning to sell other properties asap

MizMyColi: I meant, what I'm supposed to talk about.

Ceasar1:

I know. I think we should wait for chaircover on that.

While we wait, you ought to introduce yourself na.

Ah Dunno What to say na okay, introduce yourself to me, I'll follow your cue.

MizMyColi: Ah Dunno What to say na okay, introduce yourself to me, I'll follow your cue.

MizMyColi: I meant, what I'm supposed to talk about. @bellong Thank You, We're Honoured

Ceasar1:

Lol, I've been Keep waiting here for almost an hour.
Please how much is the registration fee Ma'am.