jay bee:



Oga mynd, that's the angle that i'm trying to get uj sizzle to view it from as well hence my question.

babe4chi: Sexkilz,tank u jare!

Necklace sha! Ohhhhhh! Chineka nna!!!

jay bee:
Phew, thanks for seeing my question for what it was really.

Here is another question, so if a ring is meant to be a sign of commitment and commitment is meant to be between 2 couples in love so why then must the ring be given to the woman alone?

HisRib:

I can't believe this man proposed without a ring. Who does that?

Every woman deserves to have an engagement ring. If he can't afford it, he shouldn't be thinking of marriage in the first place.

Sweetheart, my advice to you is, call it off and tell him you want a ring & if he won't give you one, go find another man who will have enough love and respect for you to give you one.

Him not having a ring is NOT a good sign. Just think of all the other things he will disregard once you guys are married. RUN while you can!

babe4chi: Wearing d ring means I'm engaged to be married to a particular person! Wen people see it,they knw I'm taken!

But if u giv me a necklace,and smone else comes for me nd I tell him I'm engaged,showin him d necklace on my neck! What do u think wil be on his mind?

Mynd_44:
Wait ooo. A ring signifies commitment and promise bla bla bla but why a ring? What not a diadem, a tiara, a scarf, a bracelet, necklace or waistbead? Why a ring?

We need to ask serious questions here oooo. What is the significance of a ring?

uj_sizzle:
It's still tradition. The same reason why some cultures have the man paying a bride price and others have a woman paying dowry.

uj_sizzle:
Rings are more conventional, but like I said earlier some people alter tradition somewhat and decide to use other tangible things to seal the deal.
Doesn't matter which way you decide to go IMO, my major concern is that something must be given.

She can find a way to explain why she has a tiara or wears the same purple scarf everday

Mynd_44:
what does the ring do for you? Answer wisely ooo

uj_sizzle:
It's still tradition. The same reason why some cultures have the man paying a bride price and others have a woman paying dowry.

Mynd_44:
So you are bothered about what other people think right? Does thru ring stop the guy coming from still pushing you? Does the ring stop you from cheating? Does the ring mean the guy is serious? Have you not seen girls who wear ring even though they ain't engaged?

So now you are saying a ring is to show others you are taken and it is no longer a sign of commitment right? You are saying it is a way to let peoplewho don't really matter in your life (cos face it only the both of you matter in this case) know you are engaged? Think about this and ask yourself if it makes sense

uj_sizzle:
Look at it this way-- I write a proposal for a partnership, you're cool with it and interested so you put your signature on the document.

I=Man
Proposal=Marriage proposal
Document=Ring
Signature=Letting you put it on my finger.

Mynd_44:
that is the spirit. The ring merely represents something. The ring can be replaced with anything as long as they agree with.

Hell sometimes, you don't need an object as the word of the parties is enough(don't take this advice: humans can't be trusted )

jay bee:
I'm not saying it isn't tradition. I just frown at people hiding under tradition/culture/norm whenever it suits them.

Getting engaged/married is a decision between two people willing to spend the rest of their lives together. They should decide on what works for them and not what the society deems acceptable.

The notion that a ring is a sign of commitment is all farce. Commitment is all about respect and values that the couple have for each other once they make that decisions to embark on the journey of no return. One of the main reason why this same ring has almost lost its true value/meaning is simply because most women want this same ring to show off or better still use to warn all their numerous admirers off.

Technically, being committed starts once you are in love and you both see each other as someone you had be able to spend the rest of your life with.

jay bee:
I'm not saying it isn't tradition. I just frown at people hiding under tradition/culture/norm whenever it suits them.

Getting engaged/married is a decision between two people willing to spend the rest of their lives together. They should decide on what works for them and not what the society deems acceptable.

The notion that a ring is a sign of commitment is all farce. Commitment is all about respect and values that the couple have for each other once they make that decisions to embark on the journey of no return. One of the main reason why this same ring has almost lost its true value/meaning is simply because most women want this same ring to show off or better still use to warn all their numerous admirers off.

Technically, being committed starts once you are in love and you both see each other as someone you had be able to spend the rest of your life with.

uj_sizzle:
I think we're on the same side with what the object should be. I don't care if it's a ring oo, i'd even prefer a bracelet sef


Ok, like i told Jay bee before: blame humans and not tradition.
It's not our fault some men can't be trusted to keep their word, but there are those who see engagements as sacred.

uj_sizzle:
Fine, we're on the same page. Tradition in all it's purity has been raped.

@bolded. Very worthy cause if you ask me

Danhumprey: GBAM!!!!!!!!!!!! I couldn't have said it any better.

uj_sizzle:

@bolded. Very worthy cause if you ask me

Mynd_44:
But does a ring ward off intending men? Be honest

druid06:

Abeg go Sidon. You think say every man be WOMAN wrapper like you.

uj_sizzle:

Men. But you really hadn't said a thing yet
Thank God for Jay bee sha.

jay bee:
Why should a girl in a relationship be having all those admirers? If you focus on your relationship then surely you will have no reason to warn off admirers, no?

Commitment is all about mindset

adaeze#123:
Do you guys think its necessary for a Guy to propose with a ring. Please give your suggestions....

uj_sizzle:
Sometimes it does, but some men are stubborn and only understand the language of a fist in the face or acid in the brain

uj_sizzle:
Please teach your brothers. I think globalization is becoming a curse

If he comes without a ring, say no.

Mynd_44:
how do women ward off men before they get engaged and the ring came?

The ring is for show off