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| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by yeancharr(f): 4:52pm On Nov 24, 2013 |
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| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by Nobody: 4:58pm On Nov 24, 2013 |
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| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by ATMC(f): 5:07pm On Nov 24, 2013 |
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| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by Nobody: 5:22pm On Nov 24, 2013 |
ATMC: a year now...just give him time and keep showing him lots of love. Actually its kinda cute, I wouldn't mind it if my guy is so scared of losing me. It'll keep him on his toes  2 Likes |
| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by Nobody: 5:24pm On Nov 24, 2013 |
ATMC: Sorry, I was only trying to help. |
| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by ITbomb(m): 5:39pm On Nov 24, 2013 |
First how old is the relationship . If less than 2 months then the guy has every right to be assured cos peace of mind would come after some time of proven fidelity n not just words . Girls are like cats , always looking for more fun n easily bored with one 'size' n style. . And also . . The guy should be frighten cos u are always online where 'beautiful' eligible young men like ITbomb are having sleepless night plotting to snatch u from him |
| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by daa1(m): 6:22pm On Nov 24, 2013 |
@adaobi, you need to ask ur self fews questions, r u actions, speach, conducts, relationship with others, demands(directly or indirectly) making insecure? How do u treat him in d presence of ur friends expecially d male ones? R u on his side a conservation? Do u rebuked him openly? Do u make him jealously? He hasn't recovered from a betryed relationship and he been careful(insecurity) same won't repeat itself with u? They r all personal questions u need to answer ur self N/B hope u aint double dating? |
| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by ATMC(f): 6:29pm On Nov 24, 2013 |
ITbomb: First how old is the relationship . If less than 2 months then the guy has every right to be assured cos peace of mind would come after some time of proven fidelity n not just words .Lol truth I don't touch my phone anytime I'm with him...look at ur ugly face mtscheew... |
| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by ATMC(f): 8:37pm On Nov 24, 2013 |
bestestgirl: just give him time and keep showing him lots of love. Actually its kinda cute, I wouldn't mind it if my guy is so scared of losing me. It'll keep him on his toesits giving me concern o cos e no dey hard b4 like play like play perspn go lose trust...dts my concern shaa |
| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by ATMC(f): 8:49pm On Nov 24, 2013 |
daa1: @adaobi, you need to ask ur self fews questions, r u actions, speach, conducts, relationship with others, demands(directly or indirectly) making insecure? How do u treat him in d presence of ur friends expecially d male ones? R u on his side a conservation? Do u rebuked him openly? Do u make him jealously? He hasn't recovered from a betryed relationship and he been careful(insecurity) same won't repeat itself with u? They r all personal questions u need to answer ur selfNo I'm not double dating...I am always on his side, I understand his fears but I don't get y he should entertain such fear. When we talk about it, he tells me that its common among guys who love their women truly and especially beginners. so I asked why is it so? and what can a lady do to curb it? I understood from some posts up there that it is insecurity. we all suffer insecurity in different areas. |
| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by sunnydayasaba(m): 9:50pm On Nov 24, 2013 |
Well Op, I think it depends on d individual. I feel dat way sometimes, dats bcus alot has happened in my lyf ever since I started dating my girl...i hv always received unexpected favours, financially and career wise. I knw every gud thing comes frm God, but some women brings gud luck to men, while some brings bad luck. So check d guys lyf and try to figure out what has changed abt him since u met him and figure it out why his always insecure. So I dnt think is only abt his love for u. 2 Likes |
| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by nbright: 10:06pm On Nov 24, 2013 |
No matter the promises you give to a man, there will still be doubt in his heart... Because you are a Human and you can change your mind at any given time.. Wetin be your number 2 question sef?. |
| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by Nobody: 10:59pm On Nov 24, 2013 |
1. Ego: a man is a proud animal. He is always ready to protect and defend his territory. So if a lady he's involve with leaves him for another man, it robs on his pride and self confidence. 2. Your second question is insecurity particularly when the girl is in control of the relationship. If a guy is not meeting up to the expectations of his girlfriend(mostly financially), he fears the girl might dump him for someone better, hotter and richer. Students falls in this category. (baby, please bear with me, I will care for u in the nearest feature) |
| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by stag: 11:25pm On Nov 24, 2013 |
born_to_be_gr8t: somebody pls tell me this not the english language Dunt laff me brol, hall fingas a nt hiqual  |
| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by temi4fash(m): 5:47am On Nov 25, 2013 |
He is suffering from insecurity and mayb a chronic one dat.. And dere might a couple of reason for dat.. He might had a gal as gud as u b4 and left him for a better guy, oh he has the feeling within him telling him if u leave he might not get a gal as gud as u. Or he lacks self confidence solution: i tink u shld b really open to him, calm is fears, dont giv him any reason to doubt ur luv, and also dont flaunt wat other pple especially guys do for u.. N.B.. Woman are emotional beings a sure guy nos dat u dont fllw wat dai say but wat dai do. So if ur guy cont lik dis ur r/ship might hit rocky waters soon and it will take ur patience on ur side for it to survive.. Except u r dif.. 1 Like |
| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by yetseyi(f): 7:02am On Nov 25, 2013 |
chiboy1928: I would always advise any guys in such situation is to always have a bck up plan like having anoda babe by the side so wen she hurt or dump u,u can still have somewere to fall onto like having a plan B dnt always give her all ur heart so wen she hurt u,u won't feel the heat,but all dis our baby boys won't tink like dat dose dat love wit they heart and nt wit dey brain it only take a matured guy to understand dis principles it nt for a kids in love anyway.If plan A doen not mess up what happens to plan B. I ask coz a guy once used me as a back up plan and told me right in my parents living room d@ he had proposed 2 another lady since he knew her first also said he wz hoping mayb I wld have found sumone else so he wld continue with d lady, Also even said d@ d Lady had not accepted yet and even if he come back he knows I'll have it @ d back of my mind d@ He made me 2nd choice. Well I wz hurt seriously but had 2 move on. Most times some one gets hurt, I dont suscribe 2 all this plan A, B, C stuff. |
| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by ATMC(f): 7:08am On Nov 25, 2013 |
yetseyi:I like the fact that you moved on |
| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by anukulapo: 2:24pm On Nov 26, 2013 |
ATMC: I have two questions; Just like jealousy,the "insecurity" feeling is a natural reaction for most men. I advice you find out his love language and relate with him in such way. Everyone has one. 2) Don't let him fell bad about his insecurities nor talk to him about it. It will die naturally. Cheers. |
| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by jude4us(m): 4:45pm On Nov 26, 2013 |
stag: 1. Know 1 his soppos to b hafrayed hin rileshunsheep Omo, see German. Abeg, come teach me. |
| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by Thavik(m): 4:58pm On Nov 26, 2013 |
Listen,its one simple answer, girls ttend to go towards the path of money, power, attractiveness, your guy may be lacking in all these so therefore insecure.... oh nd also, girls are hos |
| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by GoodFaith: 6:56pm On Nov 26, 2013 |
ATMC: I have two questions; Your actions has failed to make the dude secure |
| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by ATMC(f): 7:33pm On Nov 26, 2013 |
anukulapo:thanks esp @2 |
| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by Sunbellar: 6:45pm On Dec 07, 2013 |
I think your action or inaction is part of insecurity. If he had known you as a good Christian that doesn't give room for trash, he wouldn't suspect. You can check the veracity of yours words because no guy will be willing to entertain lies . Do you tell him you are in the church while he was calling you and the background sounds like a bar? Do you always keep your line busy while he was calling you to tell him you 've been talking with a girlfriend when he knows ladies cannot last so long on calls. There are many things that can triggers a guys suspicion which mainly bothers on the girls spirituality or canality. |
| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by ATMC(f): 6:47pm On Dec 07, 2013 |
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| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by Tyche(m): 11:30pm On Dec 07, 2013 |
1. The guy is a sissy 2. He has a poor pipe game. In any case you are just what he needs for his development. When you finally leave him, which I know you will, he may have learnt a lesson or two. He will be wiser and better in his next relationship |
| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by ATMC(f): 5:47am On Dec 08, 2013 |
Tyche: 1. The guy is a sissyu talking from experience? tell me more |
| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by Fruitful2: 7:19am On Dec 08, 2013 |
The reason the guy will feel Insecure is 1.He has had a bad experience in his life that resulted to him loosing the girl or he is close to somebody who has.2.Because the girl in question is materialistic and he is not financially ok to some extent.3.he loves you so much and is afraid of loosing you because he is not ready for Marriage financially.Now he might want to marry you but he does not have the resources.Since you are beautiful his mind is raising against time, praying to be ok before another guy steal you away. but you can help him conquer his fears.For a man of his type you need more than words to conquer his fears.Your actions must be in line with your words.You can Introduce him to your family and circle of friends as your fiancee only if truly that is what he is to you.You can also tell him to introduce you to his family and friends.Let him have access to your phones without you making a mountain out of it.Be honest to a fault.At every point let him know what you are doing and where you are.Do not directly or indirectly encourage another guy and With time I assure this fear will turn to trust in you. You need to do more than sitting down to talk with him. 2 Likes |
| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by ATMC(f): 7:43am On Dec 08, 2013 |
Fruitful2: The reason the guy will feel Insecure is 1.He has had a bad experience in his life that resulted to him loosing the girl or he is close to somebody who has.2.Because the girl in question is materialistic and he is not financially ok to some extent.3.he loves you so much and is afraid of loosing you because he is not ready for Marriage financially.Now he might want to marry you but he does not have the resources.Since you are beautiful his mind is raising against time, praying to be ok before another guy steal you away.thank youuu sooooo much. esp@ do not encourage another guy part...I am grateful. |
| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by Tyche(m): 8:53am On Dec 08, 2013 |
ATMC: u talking from experience? tell me more  |
| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by ITbomb(m): 10:09am On Dec 08, 2013 |
ATMC: thank youuu sooooo much. esp@ do not encourage another guy part...I am grateful.The best way is to tell him about any guy who is stubbornly insisting , that doesn't mean to tell him about any tom who says hi to you . . But it is a very thin line between being friendly with people and encouraging them so use ur head n maturity. . I remember when my ex had a stubborn admirer who use to buy her gifts even when she said no , he called her one evening , she used her sweetest voice n told the man ' I appreciate everything you r doing but like before I'm still saying no , I'm with my bf now n should be spending the night here so if there is any other thing , you can discuss with him ' . And she handed the phone to me . Immediately I said hello after some silence the line went dead never to call again . |
| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by Danhumprey: 11:39am On Dec 08, 2013 |
daa1: @adaobi, you need to ask ur self fews questions, r u actions, speach, conducts, relationship with others, demands(directly or indirectly) making insecure? How do u treat him in d presence of ur friends expecially d male ones? R u on his side a conservation? Do u rebuked him openly? Do u make him jealously? He hasn't recovered from a betryed relationship and he been careful(insecurity) same won't repeat itself with u? They r all personal questions u need to answer ur selfPlease,do us a favour and kindly enrol in an English class. |
| Re: Brothers, Come Help A Sister by Danhumprey: 11:44am On Dec 08, 2013 |
temi4fash: He is suffering from insecurity and mayb a chronic one dat.. And dere might a couple of reason for dat..Please,speak and type in correct English. Thank you. |
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