why is it that we meet a person and all we can think of is spending the rest of our lives with that person?
why cant we just enjoy the moment without plan for the future?
why do we want to own the person and have right over them?

whats ur idea?

What then is the essence of a relationship?

Concerning owning? Dunno 'bout that.

I actually don't xpect ma every relationship to end up in marriage
or last forever just incase. . .
bhut yl in it,i do ma best to mk it work out nd i xpect anything
bearing in mind dat its probability of workin out is 50-50.
Observation has it dat pple who carry their relationship like their whole
life depends on it,re d same set of pple dat carry out stupid actions
wen dey get heartbroken.it's alwaz safe NOT TO XPECT TOO MUCH.

Some of us love to know where we are going. I would never date someone I don't see as a potential husband. What's the use of a pointless relationship, total waste of my precious time.

stillwater:

Some of us love to know where we are going. I would never date someone I don't see as a potential husband. What's the use of a pointless relationship, total waste of my precious time.

100% in agreement. Why waste yours and her time if its not going to lead anywhere? At this stage i have no time to waste on a bootycall.

What's the point in expending energy and resources on a project that you're gonna tear down in a few weeks?

ogrebuga:

What's the point in expending energy and resources on a project that you're going to tear down in a few weeks?

There's nothing wrong in making your intentions clear to your partner at the onset of the relationship. It's better that way than deceiving people.

Relationships come and go. Marriage is supposed to last forever.

stillwater:

There's nothing wrong in making your intentions clear to your partner at the onset of the relationship. It's better that way than deceiving people.

So we're gonna be telling each other we're in love, knowing it's only temporary with no hope of leading anywhere? That's the stuff evil love stories are made of, no thank you. Not going anywhere, not worth starting. Feel me?

fat stan:

why is it that we meet a person and all we can think of is spending the rest of our lives with that person?
why can't we just enjoy the moment without plan for the future?
why do we want to own the person and have right over them?

whats your idea?

not for me.

I have actually had one knowing right from the beginning that it wasn't going to work out . . yet, i dug my head in it and got more than a headache.

sometimes . . .some guys don't understand the word "NO" or "I NO DO AGAIN"

ogrebuga:

So we're going to be telling each other we're in love, knowing it's only temporary with no hope of leading anywhere? That's the stuff evil love stories are made of, no thank you. Not going anywhere, not worth starting. Feel me?

ogrebuga:

What's the point in expending energy and resources on a project that you're going to tear down in a few weeks?

Your posts are contradictory to me

fat stan:

why is it that we meet a person and all we can think of is spending the rest of our lives with that person?
why can't we just enjoy the moment without plan for the future?
why do we want to own the person and have right over them?

whats your idea?

People define the kind of relationships they want to have.
Although Africans are conservative about pure sexual relationships so nobody sets out to have a dead end relationship based purely on sex.
In some parts of the world. . . . .a guy and a babe can agree on such arrangements with no strings attached.

stillwater:

Some of us love to know where we are going. I would never date someone I don't see as a potential husband. What's the use of a pointless relationship, total waste of my precious time.

Where are u going??
I mean are u saying u would see a 16-20 yr-old dude as a potential husband if you're dating him??

Hannibal:


Where are u going??
I mean are u saying u would see a 16-20 yr-old dude as a potential husband if you're dating him??

I'm going somewhere
In the first place a 16-20yr old would never be my boyfriend let alone a potential husband, where I'm concerned. The thought of considering him as my date would automatically be swapped off my mind.
I like my guys mature both in age and mentality.

stillwater:

I'm going somewhere
In the first place a 16-20yr old would never be my boyfriend let alone a potential husband, where I'm concerned. The thought of considering him as my date would automatically be swapped off my mind.
I like my guys mature both in age and mentality.

I am mature in age n mentality, do u consider me as a potential husband??

Hannibal:

I am mature in age n mentality, do u consider me as a potential husband??

stillwater:

Is that a STRONG yes or a weak NO??

@topic
Exactly my sentiments
If you go into every relationship with the aim of getting married, what happens when you see that u're not made for each other?
This we must marry mentality is the reason why people commit suicides after break-ups

eldee:

@topic
Exactly my sentiments
If you go into every relationship with the aim of getting married, what happens when you see that u're not made for each other?
This we must marry mentality is the reason why people commit suicides after break-ups

Only Africans have this mentality. . . . .
A white chic has a chart of how many guys she must shag before she gets married. . . . . .
They know the relationship is a dead end right from start so no strings attached. . . . When she's choked, she moves on and find anutha geezer!

Hannibal:

Is that a STRONG yes or a weak NO??

I don't know you. I certainly cannot deduce what you are here

@post

i feel that if im dating a person of course im going to think about the future. i mean isn't that the point of relationship. to see if you can spend the rest of your life with that person. i dont understand how people are in relationships for two years and still have no plans on marriage.

@el  n hannibal,
rofl!

@stillwater,
contradictory aw? First one says, no point building a relationship you know won't last or lead anywhere. second one says the same. Abi mi o gbo oyinbo mo ni?  

eldee:

@topic
Exactly my sentiments
If you go into every relationship with the aim of getting married, what happens when you see that u're not made for each other?
This we must marry mentality is the reason why people commit suicides after break-ups

Exactly!

Busta:

not for me.

I have actually had one knowing right from the beginning that it wasn't going to work out . . yet, i dug my head in it and got more than a headache.

sometimes . . .some guys don't understand the word "NO" or "I NO DO AGAIN"

Rofl, So Busta even after all your 'warnings" the goat still hang around? LOL,

@topic
Communication Rocks!! Make sure both parties are clear from the beginning what the relationship entails. The problem here is that, Men more than women, like to have their cake and eat it too.  For those type of situations, I strongly recommend "open relationships" And contrary to popular belief, they do work,

Hannibal:

Only Africans have this mentality. . . . .
A white chic has a chart of how many guys she must shag before she gets married. . . . . .
They know the relationship is a dead end right from start so no strings attached. . . . When she's choked, she moves on and find anutha geezer!

Exactly, know what you want, even if it's just a placeholder . . .
It's only our african women that feel every dude that takes 'em to Mr Biggs three times is Mr Right
I've never seen a country so marriage obsessed . . . my daizzz

I thought relationships always start with 'Let's see where we can go with this' before 'Let's take it to the next level'

stillwater:

I don't know you. I certainly cannot deduce what you are here

Use ur church mind!!!!

onyinye2:

i feel that if im dating a person of course im going to think about the future. i mean isn't that the point of relationship. to see if you can spend the rest of your life with that person. i don't understand how people are in relationships for two years and still have no plans on marriage.

Some men would actually run away from u when u start bringing up marriage issues and stuffs.
One step at a time, ladies. . . . . . . no man wants to be with a desperate babe ready to do whatever for the altar.

eldee:

@topic
Exactly my sentiments
If you go into every relationship with the aim of getting married, what happens when you see that u're not made for each other?
This we must marry mentality is the reason why people commit suicides after break-ups

Not necessarily a "we must marry" mentality, it's a matter of knowing what you want and going to get it. I would not entangle myself with people with no plans for the future. As I said earlier, total waste of my time.

stillwater:

Not necessarily a "we must marry" mentality, it's a matter of knowing what you want and going to get it. I would not entangle myself with people with no plans for the future. As I said earlier, total waste of my time.

My point exactly.

Chat2MeBac:

@topic
Communication Rocks!! Make sure both parties are clear from the beginning what the relationship entails. The problem here is that, Men more than women, like to have their cake and eat it too.  For those type of situations, I strongly recommend "open relationships" And contrary to popular belief, they do work,

Don't dare me . . . I'll take you to Nandos three times and we'll be engaged

stillwater:

Not necessarily a "we must marry" mentality, it's a matter of knowing what you want and going to get it. I would not entangle myself with people with no plans for the future. As I said earlier, total waste of my time.

You can't go out with me for two weeks and know we'll get married
You decide AFTER, not before the relationship starts

What happened to taking one step at a time?

ogrebuga:

@el  n hannibal,
rofl!

@stillwater,
contradictory aw? First one says, no point building a relationship you know won't last or lead anywhere. second one says the same. Abi mi o gbo oyinbo mo ni?  

Sorry oo, the oyinbo scatter my head, lmao

Hannibal:

Use your church mind!!!!

My church mind is not with me at this instant.  lmao

Hannibal:

Only Africans have this mentality. . . . .
A white chic has a chart of how many guys she must shag before she gets married. . . . . .
They know the relationship is a dead end right from start so no strings attached. . . . When she's choked, she moves on and find anutha geezer!

Another ignorant piece. The question is who are the white girl's you've been meeting? The ones i meet have a pretty clear idea of what they want and it certainly isnt a quick shag.

Hannibal:


Some men would actually run away from u when u start bringing up marriage issues and stuffs.
One step at a time, ladies. . . . . . . no man wants to be with a desperate babe ready to do whatever for the altar.

okay im not saying that as soon as i walk into the relationship im going to start talking of marriage or spending our lives together. im saying that i would date people i would see as potential life partners.

eldee:

You can't go out with me for two weeks and know we'll get married
You decide AFTER, not before the relationship starts

What happened to taking one step at a time?

Nigerian chics like double-promotion.
Take em to Mr Biggs and u are half-married to them.
Call em the next day and they are calling u "daddy" already. . . . .
By the time u spell ALEX FERGUSON, they have told their parents u are the fiance.

stillwater:

My church mind is not with me at this instant.  lmao

Find your church mind ASAP or should we go to Nandos to seal the deal??

davidylan:

Another ignorant piece. The question is who are the white girl's you've been meeting? The ones i meet have a pretty clear idea of what they want and it certainly isnt a quick shag.

Shut up, bozo.
According to what we read 48 hrs ago, the white chics u get to meet are ALL on TV(Sex and the City).