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Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:28pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
Continuing on CC's line of thought on appreciating him Be generous about it Stroke his ego ,it's totally allowed He needs to hear it Especially for those of us out here,the black man is an endangered specie There are many forces out there against him They want to break him and strip him of his male ego He slips like any one would,they attribute it to his blackness He over achieves like many of them do,they get mad and jealous ,they accuse him of trying to show off They will ask what he's trying to prove,who he thinks he is He is confident and carries himself well,they call him obnoxious and arrogant He is quiet and reserved,they call him timid For any pieces of him they chip off,it is our duty to build him up again at home before he gets out there We can't afford to cut him down with the many already trying to do so Listen well And be a good observer From my own experience ,the man's mood most of the times has absolutely nothing to do with the home front And like most men,he won't share it immediately Nurse him through it all the same One day he will open up and share what happened a few weeks prior and you can tell the exact date that event occurred These people we sojourn in their lands don't like successful,confident and intelligent black men It is a concept they will not accept Period! My husband says they want you to be just smart enough to be hired but you dare not shine or outshine them When you do,they get uncomfortable and extremely jealous and sometimes very hostile We have been there We know a lot of people who have experienced the same Barrack Obama can relate to this for sure The moral of my story,is this Our men are up against so much out there The higher he goes,the hotter it becomes The home should be a warm,comforting place to return to after he has battled the Joneses and the Smiths Any successful black man in the West can relate to the points I just made But when you are upright,they can't find "nathing" You keep going higher |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by EfemenaXY: 4:28pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
jennykadry: Can I ask all you married women a question? ? Yep, What's the question?? |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:33pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
Efemena_xy: There must be yekini. Watch out |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:46pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
Hian! Madam headmistress JK has been teaching her skillz in camera ba! Now it's bearing fruit of sexy convertible cars and some of us are here jonzing? Ok now! I dey 'wash' all of una! |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:48pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
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Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:50pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
A loving Christian brother told me a testimony right before Christmas He worked in this firm many years ago and his senior colleague,a female oyibo couldn't stand him,picked on him constantly and criticized his every move He later on moved up in position and she got worse He eventually got a managerial position in another firm and moved over A decade later he had worked his way up to district manager and a week before Christmas he had to interview someone that will be working under him,if hired. The name was not familiar at all but as he walked into the boardroom,who was sitting before him? The same lady that showed him pepper a decade prior She had gotten married and her last name was different Great testimony My hubby is in the same exact position He is currently the direct boss to a woman and then senior colleague who blocked his permanent hire over a decade ago I really fear this God we serve |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:51pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by EfemenaXY: 4:53pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
Baby mama: A loving Christian brother told me a testimony right before Christmas Abeg finish the story. So what happened next? Did he hire her? If yes, then what's their working relationship like?? |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:55pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by EfemenaXY: 4:55pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
chaircover: I am still looking for one thread where kpekusing was taught from start to finish. . . those of you who havent been on any course can fast track through that one and then we all converge for Madam Jennys second course You mean the Cotton Sheets one which Ronke also participated in? It was never quite concluded. I remember you even gave an interesting assignment which was completed and handed in. Post assignment question asked was whether that technique was effective for those who've been 'cut'. Ah! I dey remember stuff o! |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:56pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:58pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
chaircover: Hmmmmmmm baby momma you are very right, and this is the first time I have You are so right sis |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by EfemenaXY: 5:00pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
chaircover: Thing is: in the corporate world of white-collared jobs, there is a lot of back-stabbing and office politics going on. More so in the city. You're only as good as your manager deems you are. Meaning: as long as you get along well with him / her, then the world is your Oyster. That's why when a manager leaves, those who were on good terms with him or her quickly find their level within another department or completely different company, especially if the new entrant is hell-bent on making their 'mark'. Then those who 'suffered' in silence under the exited manager get the opportunity to climb up the ladder. I've seen it so many times jare. T'is all about how 'sociable' you are with them, starting from not making a squeak about hitting the pubs on Friday evening after work with them, sitting and grinning through team lunches, get-togethers, etc... |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 5:03pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
Efemena_xy: Nne biko correct the word "siphoned "in my post you quoted to "showed" This autocorrect thing sef I will remember to ask the next time we talk. He said he felt sorry for her at that interview,she was so subdued when she saw him and he imagined she must have really wanted the job and perhaps agonized over that day since she knew the name of the interviewer.our typical last names cannot be easily forgotten. He said he won't hold her past actions against her in the hiring process because it is God that put him where he is I thought that was sweet |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 5:06pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
My family and I have walked into the year 2014, all the way from Western Australia I say happy new year to yekini lovers. Lord let your blessings begin |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by EfemenaXY: 5:11pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
jennykadry: My family and I have walked into the year 2014, all the way from Western Australia I say happy new year to yekini lovers. Yaayy!! Happy New Year to you! So, what does 2014 really feel like? We've got nearly 8 hours to go! chaircover: Ha! That was so long ago na. I suppose you could do a keyword search for it but I don't even remember what you called that thing. Nah...you find it CC |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 5:11pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
jennykadry: My family and I have walked into the year 2014, all the way from Western Australia I say happy new year to yekini lovers. Praise God my fellow Yekini lover The bobo is sleeping after round one this morning and I am typing on my IPad while waiting for round two I don't know what people see in oyibo or their fellow women Our black men are good! |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 5:12pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 5:12pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 5:13pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
Efemena_xy: It feels like yesterday. the only difference is the firework @osisi No kill the man. This CC has set the bar too high, everyone is giving out round one with the hope of getting something in return |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 5:16pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
chaircover: Ose ose ose |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 5:18pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
jennykadry: Abi o CC is riding to round 5 and now she is riding in style I am a fast learner Let him wake up,today na today I didn't acquire these hips for nothing This time next year inshallah me I will be talking of my own convertible |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by dayokanu(m): 5:19pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
Baby mama: spending,savings and budgeting This is the best message on this thread. Money is where men and women clash the most. In most household when shit hits the fan financially its the men that are held responsible and most women wont understand what it means to save up WHen the money is flowing they want to spend and spend but the husband is already thinking of when the money would stop and in the typical women way they say "God would take care of tomorrow" . Men dont believe in this mantra because when everything fails its the man that gets the blame You cant go wrong by being prudent and spendthrift. Before you accuse your husband of being stingy check if he spends on himself? If he doesnt then he isnt stingy he is merely saving for the future. I knew a friend who fought with his wife badly and almost separated. The child 1st birthday proposed as a birthday gift take the family to Disney ($500) and put $2000 in an education fund for the child. The wife wanted the typical Houston owambe for the child which the budget is over $4000. The man was like what of the childs education, she responded, He is "Americas child, Govt would take care of him" The woman got her way after making the house very hot for him did the owambe after that serious problems started 2 Likes |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by EfemenaXY: 5:22pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
^^ Not every female thinks like that Dayo. Some of us are financially savvy. 1 Like |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 5:33pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
jennykadry: My family and I have walked into the year 2014, all the way from Western Australia I say happy new year to yekini lovers. Oluwa seun! Happy New Year! |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by coogar: 5:36pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
dayokanu: this is hilarious. |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 5:40pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
coogar: I thought so too That is what happens when a man marries a woman based purely on looks and nothing more He ends up with a pretty air head In parties she is as flamboyant as a peacock but in the head as dense as a sack of beans My relative married one of such All she knows is dress well and perch on a high heel from one function to another Buying and wearing things I know too well they can't afford The woman can't even speak one correct sentence in English yet "wanna gonna" go full everywhere What a pity |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by dayokanu(m): 5:42pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
Efemena_xy: ^^ Not every female thinks like that Dayo. Financially savvy females are in the minority. like 15-20% You would agree with me that a lot of financial irresponsible people are women. Anyone here watches Suzie orman show and see what some women call in wanting to buy? Ask most men what their hubby is they might say watching sports ask a lot of women they say shopping. Shopping costs money. Go to every mall the population is 80% female. Thats money that could have been used for one thing or the other. All these shops have credit cards and Maybe some ppl think credit card is free money. The average female wardrobe is like 10 times the male of the same age Yesterday I was talking to a middle age woman whose excuse is that "I love good things" but every monthend she cant meet up her bills she grumbles about how much rent is, how much phone bill is yet she must buy the latest gadgets. She is not married so that makes her to call all sort of men for assistance and next thing you know what it leads to? Sex with these men some married men. Yet she would put herself out to be the victim of how these bad males are taking advantage of her. Her latest episode talked to her Pastor about her way of life, the Pastor changed her phone number and bought her a cheap phone so these married men wont have her contact 3 month ago she said the phone isnt cool enough bought the Iphone 5s gold cover and she is now complaining of how much the bill is. A woman who cant pay rents but spent $400 on true religion jeans |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by IJ4GOD(f): 5:44pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
Hmmm very interesting, my marriage is just two years and I think this will add more life to it. Carry go ooo 1 Like |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by dayokanu(m): 5:46pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
Baby mama: I thought so too If you come to Houston and see those useless petty competition like teenage girls you would wonder that why did they give these people visas Around 2007-09 it was a rush for all Nigerian RN nurses to buy Nissan Armada, Party like this you would think they all make millions, I know of a Nurse who would kill herself with overtime all week just because she wants to drive a S550 |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by ypepe: 5:46pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
Dayo, this ur analysis is biased. Some men knows how to make money but don't know how to manage and save. Such men, their wives handle their account else yawa go dey. They r everywhere. 1 Like |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 5:47pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
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