Mrs mansson: Op this is not to spite you but an unbiased answer is needed
If your child steals would you send her away just the way you sent your Help away
No one is perfect,rather than send someone away all the time for their short comings why not profer solution
Its not going to be easy but your decision is ok

baby.me:


Believe me i know all about that. I treat my girl like a partof my family, neighbours actually think she is my sister. What i dont get is some folks making it look like those that have helps at home are committing a crime.

If you know you cant treat them fine then dont get any, but dont make it look as if u are super special or something

Bigsteveg:
Solution my foot....u cant correct someone else child d way u can do to urs....a yoruba adage says ' ba na omo mi ko de inu olomo' meanin help me beat my child, d mama no fit take am

Rawpidgin: the truth is, if the first house help nor fit stay with u, the second nor fit stay & the third nor fit stay my sister u need to check ur attitude

Mrs mansson:
So you correct a thief only through beating?
Nigerians dont think out of the box
That is why we are the way we are

Mrs mansson:
So you correct a thief only through beating?
Nigerians dont think out of the box
That is why we are the way we are

Bigsteveg:
Id.iot, its just an adage, should i start spellin out wot an adage means to ur small brain.

Perhaphs, even d holy book supports beating because in their heart has 'madness'....(D freakin id.iot wil read anoda meanin to d madness now)

Bigsteveg:
its just an adage, should i start spellin dat out.

Perhaphs, even d holy book supports beating because in their heart has 'madness'....(Am sure u'llstart readin anoda meanin to d madness now)

Mrs mansson:
You didnt have to call your mother an id iot just to proove a point BIG BRAIN
You could ve done better
Id iot

mogbomoya: Hello House,

2014 is round the corner, and the purpose of this tread is to share easy tips on how a working mother can survive without a house help in the YEAR 2014. (This is specially for Nigerian Working Mothers/Women. Mothers abroad pls share ur survival tips as u guys are used to DIY.)

Some say house helps are necessary evils. I had my first help in January 2013 and this year alone I have had 3 househelps! (The first was a thief, the second was so lazy & rude, the third had eye for my hubby and eventually got pregnant for our gate man). I got fed up and I have lived without them since September 2013. I am happy I do not have a stranger living with me.

I have a 17 months Son, and I am currently 3 months pregnant. The following tips will help anyone who decides to join me to say no to househelps in 2014.

1. You must get ur spouse involved. This is the most important o.
2. Get a washing machine. This is a saving grace cos my toddler can wear 5 different outfits in a day!
3. Get a deep freezer. This helps me to cook in bulk and store.
4. Ensure you have a generator that can power you freezer. (You do not want ur stored food getting defrosted and going stale cos of the erratic power supply in Nigeria.
5. Shop in bulk and store. In case you don't have time to shop, there are various online grocery shops. I love Madam Sabi. www.madamsabi.com You can also get ur office assistants/cleaners to help with ur shopping. For me, hubby does the toiletries and necessary provisions shopping (He buys from any supermarket, pack & shop/Shoprite/ebe ano), while I do the vegetables and meat.
6. Plan ur meals at the beginning of each week. I have a timetable.
7. If you have a toddler, get a Creche that closes 7pm around ur home, so that in case you are stuck in traffic, ur mind is at ease knowing fully well that ur kid is in safe hands. My baby's creche closes by 7pm, and in case my hubby/myself can't make it before 7pm. They take him home and I pick him from there. They also bath and fed my baby dinner and dress him in his night wear, so I just pick and put him to sleep in his play pen, while I make dinner. I take to bed when he eventually falls asleep in his playpen.
8. If you have older kids, get an after school facility, most creches offer this service. They bath, feed ur kids and help out with their assignment. They even help make ur female kids hair.
9. While doing house chores/cooking, my hubby baby sits our son.
10. Have a night schedule / specific bed time for ur children. My son sleeps by 7.30/8pm. so I have 2 hours to fix a quick dinner, have my bath, have dinner with hubby and watch TV.
11. Go for first service on Sundays. i.e if u are a xtian. I attend 7.30am service. Am back home before 10am, and have time to do loads of stuffs.
12. I use my Sundays to plan out all our cloths and shoes for the week. (Myself & son)
13. Get at least one good wig. For those sundays you are unable or too tired to make it to the salon.
14. Get ur hubby to help paint ur toe nails and do ur pedicure. Not only does it save u time, but also a bonding time for you both.
15. My hubby helps with the ironing and washing the toilets & bath.
16. Do not stack up ur dirty plates & pot. Try as much as possible to wash as u cook.
17. Get nice cartoons and sing along for ur kids. This keeps my son busy in his play pen / high seat while am busy with cooking/house chores. (In case hubby isn't around to baby sit.)
18. You do not have to attend / honor all weekend party invitations! I bet most don't even notice u are absent.
19. Hubby baths our son every morning. While I pack our breakfast/lunch boxes.
20. If u have an uncooperative hubby, pray to God and talk to ur hubby.

House, abeg add more tips.

Mrs mansson:
Should you worrry over this topic even?
Shouldnt you rather worry about ur HND lautecth degree and where you might be posted for Nysc?

byvan: Children in Nigeria definitely need a bath more than once a day,one in the morning,one after school. Kids smell differently after mingling with others in school, i hate that smell lingering all over my house when they are back from school,so they must hit the shower a second time.

stagger: OP,

God bless you for this post. Ever since my dad's office enemies nearly had our entire family poisoned through our house-help when I was a kid, I have had a complete aversion to them for like forever.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yV_5bNFbX0g

If this video does not shock you, then you have not imagined the serious damage that these househelps can do.

SupermodelVicky: @Op.Nice thread but wait until u hav 3 hyperactive kids or more.Its easier 4u 2plan al these now cos ur kids ar stil smal.

D point is dat combining work&running a home isn't easy.My sister tried it out&sh fell sick(bp;ringin in d ear&so on).Dr's diagnosis afta al series of test was! Stress&Exhaustion.My sister was carryin dredlock cos it wasn't easy 4her 2go 2salons al d tym back then.

Sh had her 3rd baby dis year(1st one was 3;2nd was a year + then)&few wks afta delivery,sh was admitted.Diagnosis: puerperal depression.I can't go in2 details of wot happened or drove 2dat but d stress got 2her.Mumsy had 2get 2 househelps 4her.

If u can get a househelp,its easier.Wen ur kids grow up now.There're tyms u just want 2lock urself in d rm&tak a long siester during wkends;u won't b able 2do dat cos d kid wil b there,disturbin or wantin 2b fed or dis or dat.Wot if ur husbnd is out of town? Or wot if u want 2tak a trip 2d villa?Or u hav conferences or seminar&u hav 2travel wit d kids lik my sister does?Who wil u leav d kid wit in d hotel?

Wen d tym comes;I'l pay pounds&dollars 2hav a househelp plsssss

Ewuro707: @ Pamela Gold easy Abeg

Pamela Gold:

THE TRUTH HAS ALWAYS BEEN A BITTER PILL TO SWALLOW

Chillisauce:

What's the truth here . Do you stay with her to know she is lying or are you the house girl.

Pamela Gold:

THEN U ARE AN EXAMPLE OF A WICKED PERSON, IF U ARE SEEKING FOR NOTICE, U HAVE GOTTEN IT.