ileobatojo:
Where is the change in the story?

This is not enough to conclude she is a verbal abuser. So making a definitive conclusion based on that only shows ignorance.

kmcutez:

See ya fine picture. I believe you should be amongst the 1% salvageable. I will give you to my cousin to begin the repopulation after killing posters like @coogar.

coogar this girl dey poke you oo

BTW hope your cousin doesn't have feminism ideology so that I can know where to handle her

But thanks I don't need your cousin to start any repopulation

kmcutez:

No vex. I meant 98.99%. I just approximated it to save my MB.

tintingz: coogar this girl dey poke you oo

BTW hope your cousin doesn't have feminism ideology so that I can know where to handle her

But thanks I don't need your cousin to start any repopulation

coogar:

from yelling isn't verbal abuse to yelling can be a type of verbal abuse.

ileobatojo:
No. I said the situation posted is not verbal abuse. There is no evidence in what he posted that it is.

So according to you, all yelling is verbal abuse? Really?

pickabeau1:

So its based on aethestics that you will use to spare those who shouldbe slaughtered

AIDS no dey show for bodi oo

coogar:


if it's not a one-off event then it's verbal abuse. a woman that shouts on top of her voice at the slightest provocation is verbally abusive.

ileobatojo:
No. Not a true statement.

If her yelling is defensive and reactionary, focused on the provocation and not the person, if she is addressing the issue on ground not using it as an excuse to launch a deliberate psychological offensive, if her intention is not to control psychologically; then she is not a verbal abuser.

She needs to learn some manners... But she is not an abuser.

kmcutez:

What can i say. i'm only human. Who no like better thing

coogar:

yes, it is....



look at what you are saying....
if she was addressing the issue, the husband wouldn't have had to park the car & physically beat her up. you cannot shout, argue & not pass insults. we are talking about a nigerian woman here, not a caucasian.

then again, let's assume for argument's sake that she was focused on the topic & didn't pass any insult to the husband - what about the kids in the vehicle? do kids not become scared when adults scream? do they not fret & fidget and sometimes cry when they see their moms yelling?

is that not an abuse?



like i said, i could not think of a situation a woman would be shouting on top of her voice in anger & not being verbally abusive. they were not having sex & she wasn't praising her husband. i don't need to hear the details of the conversation to know she was verbally abusive.

shouting/yelling is verbal abuse!

ileobatojo:
First things first. What car are you talking about and where in Dinachi's post that I quoted say anything about a car? Why are you reaching? Why the desperation?

Second, I'm not interested in working with assumptions here. Let's stick to facts.

coogar:

i have shown you links that prove shouting is a type of verbal abuse. if you don't think it is, good luck to you on that.

going round in circles of tedious. there are no assumptions about this. it's definitive & what you think you know about what entails verbal abuse is largely flawed.

dejioguns:

Hi, I sent you a PM. Could you please reply? Thanks.

coogar:

concerning?

dejioguns:
I just need your input on something. Thanks.

coogar:

nice!
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dejioguns:

Thank you. Can't see your email yet though!

deols:
This is pure nonsense.
Send her to her parents?? she is what?? a commodity?

yellowpawpaw: Kuylie,
I hv to come back and post this for u xplicitely.

I'm sorry I attacked u. Not my style at all but I was angry at one of ur posts that I didn't think b4 posting or sieve after typing.
U r my own paddi and I just felt bad.
Do forgive ok?

But let me tell u something too.
Stop making urself vulnerable for attack.
We all hv diff ideologies about things but presentation matters .U can still make a strong presentation and get ur points across without pointing fingers or attacking anybody. U can decide to keep quite when everbody want u to talk even after an insult or attack.
Most of the time, d essence is to ground u.

Though we c this as fun but it subconsciously rubs off on our personality.

I also prefer the playerful u than the e fighting u anytime. That was what endeared me to u initially.
E joor o!( Hope I gat it right)

coogar:

check your spam!

deols: This is pure nonsense.


Send her to her parents?? she is what?? a commodity?

coogar:

check your spam!



a piece of bad yam!

coogar:

check your spam!



a piece of bad yam!

coogar:

kmcutez needs deliverance!

deols:

hmmmn.lol. I am not surprised you are on this thread.

I relate with such threads as this, putting myself in the woman's position.

Such will not happen to me o(since i won't marry a bush man) but just imagine that he turns bushy I no go gree o..lailai.

He will have to go back to his own parents too. To learn how to deal with a woman

On a serious note, couples should learn about each other b4 marriage. Once married, there is no going anywhere, no third parties until one thinks divorce or dies. His actions are so juvenile..very silly..They will become entertainment for the whole village.

Mothers will keep telling their daughters to be careful of ending up like the wife and to avoid men like the husband. Their children would be taunted by the stories.

coogar:

i have shown you links that prove shouting is a type of verbal abuse.

coogar:
there are no assumptions about this.

coogar:
it's definitive & what you think you know about what entails verbal abuse is largely flawed.

ileobatojo:
Exactly. It is a type of abuse. It doesn't mean all shouting between partners is abuse. And I said the exact same thing even before you posted the link.

Everyone can see where you made assumptions about "Nigerian women". They are pointless and not helpful to this discussion.

No, what you trying to peddle as verbal abuse is false. It only lends credence to my previous statements about people having no idea about what they are saying.

deols:
hmmmn.lol. I am not surprised you are on this thread. I relate with such threads as this, putting myself in the woman's position.
Such will not happen to me o(since i won't marry a bush man) but just imagine that he turns bushy I no go gree o..lailai.

He will have to go back to his own parents too. To learn how to deal with a woman

On a serious note, couples should learn about each other b4 marriage. Once married, there is no going anywhere, no third parties until one thinks divorce or dies. His actions are so juvenile..very silly..They will become entertainment for the whole village.

Mothers will keep telling their daughters to be careful of ending up like the wife and to avoid men like the husband. Their children would be taunted by the stories.