bukatyne: Since we have learnt that a husband dumps his loud mouthed wife in thr gathrring of her inlaws,

What does a wife with a loud mouthed husband do?

I will appreciate practical answers.

Who knows, someone may benefit from it

sometime you are on your sit relaxing and a kid walk up to you as an elderly person and request:-
why is the sun always risen from the east and not west, south or the north cardinal.

Who paid your bride price?, your husband or you.?
In nigeria, we stil have places where a young lady is been sold out in the name of collecting the *bride price*

kulyie: Before nko.an example is romance or politics section.if you want to see all manners of cussing just go there and that usually happens when communication has broken down and i can bet my life that assuming those folks that are arguing saw each other,they will beat themselves or stab themselves.

Of which nl is a reflection of nigerians and its anonymous yet cuuses and insults fly around like no mans buisness despite mods and censored words.so imagine if there was none

you have to seperate virtual personalities from real ones and understand people put up a front which may or may not be at variance with their own real personality

back to your post, i do not subscribe to a philosophy that espouses immediate seperation after breakdown of communication between couples

Customarily, there were elders who stepped in
Modern day, we have marriage counsellors , imams or pastors etc

After this has failed then the process of seperation can start

It is true, d lady lacks manner of approach. She sells zobo in one small shop in Ibadan and I asked her: 'aunty, sobo yin tutu? Imagine wot she tld me, she said :'obo awon iyalaya e loma tutu''. Only yorubas wil understand. Crazy lady.

Miner13:

ọjọgbọn amoye ọrọyi kori bi oti ro oon.

She's educated but not working under govt or any company yet.
An insider said the husband want her to do business and has set up business for her, rather than looking for job.
What else then would you be looking in a man that has shown this commitment to his wife

Did the husband find out if she was interested in business or still lookng for a job?

And what is extraordinary in a husband setting up a business for his wife? Should I be the one to set it up?

Ewuro707, why did you deactivate ur oda acct?


@topic, very funny!

In this case, i cannot judge. I've learnt that a lot goes on btw married couple dt siting down on the internet and apportioning blames is really not it. Most especially, when we don't have either of the parties to tell us what exactly happened. It only gets to hit a nerve when beating is involved as far as i'm concerned! As per this issue, dey'll both be fine!

I thought i was the only one the thing was funny to

ileobatojo:

Rotfl!!

I can't help cracking up whenever I see this 're-training' word on this thread. Ah! My people!

kulyie: I didnt know women are now equated with products that are now bought,sold and returned.see black mans mentality.smh

will you be happy if your parents give you to a husband freely or you can do the same for your own daughter?

Iyawo shaara

Miner13:

sometime you are on your sit relaxing and a kid walk up to you as an elderly person and request:-
why is the sun always risen from the east and not west, south or the north cardinal.

Who paid your bride price?, your husband or you.?
In nigeria, we stil have places where a young lady is been sold out in the name of collecting the *bride price*

Are you speaking spanish?

I asked a sinple question and if you don't have an answer, it's fine

O sumi o

bukatyne:

Did the husband find out if she was interested in business or still lookng for a job?

And what is extraordinary in a husband setting up a business for his wife? Should I be the one to set it up?

jhidey08: It is true, d lady lacks manner of approach. She sells zobo in one small shop in Ibadan and I asked her: 'aunty, sobo yin tutu? Imagine wot she tld me, she said :'obo awon iyalaya e loma tutu''. Only yorubas wil understand. Crazy lady.

You no know say she still dey town

Feraz: It's like saying 'ókó mí'. Literally, it means our father (used to address either a husband or elders).

Which would people prefer? That he divorces her, she gets remarried prolly to someone less patient than the above guy and becomes a punching bag

OR

she gets the required training, gets back with her husband and the marriage works. Even though she remarries, she'll appreciate what her ex-husband did. For him to have done this, he must have tried everything possible to make the marriage work. Going by the OP, I don't think he laid a finger on her which few men would have done since.

If he brings another wife, ladies would scream 'unfaithful husband' saying why didn't he divorce her? He divorces her, problem. He beats her, all men are 'beasts'. He has an extra-marital affair, all men are 'dogs and they can't control their third legs'. What do y'all want men to do?

I still ask again, what is the best solution to the above problem since returning her for re-training is a problem assuming that every form of making the marriage work proved futile

now i think i need *kulyie, bukatyne, chaircover, yellowpawpaw,alutacontinua, i've not seen baby mama i would love to see her own contribution

kulyie: I am typing in caps BECAUSE IT IS MY PHONE,I WORKED FOR THE MONEY I USED TO BUY THE PHONE AND CAN PRESS CAPS AS I LIKE TO DRIVE HOME MY POINT (i am joking o,i hope you take it as one before another bout starts )

Anyway to the issue getting a 3rd party in marriage is just courting for trouble because after husband and wife leaves.na una matter be the topic of gossip or when the elders get home,one of them will be like dont be like baba nkechi or dont be like mumy stella.they did this this and this.even yorubas say a matter cannot be too big to the extent that you cant say it.its your mouth you will use and say it.marriage should be about CONSTANT COMMUNICATION AND RESPECTING EACH OTHER)

Adonblivit!
So you can be as reasonable as this.
You are just trying to protect the woman folks while you ignore moderating the excess of some woman like you

jhidey08: It is true, d lady lacks manner of approach. She sells zobo in one small shop in Ibadan and I asked her: 'aunty, sobo yin tutu? Imagine wot she tld me, she said :'obo awon iyalaya e loma tutu''. Only yorubas wil understand. Crazy lady.

haaaaaaaaaaaaa


tell me you are joking?

but wait o,hope the lady you are referring to is not the same lady they said she should go back to her parents and learn some manners?if shes the one,then i give up

Miner13:

Adonblivit!
So you can be as reasonable as this.
You are just trying to protect the woman folks while you ignore moderating the excess of some woman like you

beleieve it o.nayi i am not particularly for any gender,i am for PEOPLE RESPECTING EACH OTHER

you gerrit

Miner13:

now i think i need *kulyie, bukatyne, chaircover, yellowpawpaw,alutacontinua, i've not seen baby mama i would love to see her own contribution

abbeeeegggiiii @ feraz nayi,let me hear word o jare

there is no perfect woman anywhere.if he divorces her and marries another one and another one and another one,he will keep divorcing and marrying till jesus comes.there is no perfect woman anywhere and there is no husband and wife who doesnt have their own for body,stop making it look like it is always the womans fault.be objective and stop letting barbaric culture influence your objectivity.omo ibos do big party and spend heavily on gorge etc when they are doing wedding

why then will he now bundle her back to her parents after spending millions on wedding and bride price and co.kilode.ede jekamalo senses wa na

pickabeau1:

You no know say she still dey town

lwkmd which kain expensive joke be that one.how she go dey refer to im great grand ma vag1na because he ask whether zobo cold

thats too much na.its funny at the same time its not funny

chaircover:

Thanks for making me laugh like a crazy person in my office. You want people to think I am mad abi?

orisirisi human beings

jhidey08: It is true, d lady lacks manner of approach. She sells zobo in one small shop in Ibadan and I asked her: 'aunty, sobo yin tutu? Imagine wot she tld me, she said :'obo awon iyalaya e loma tutu''. Only yorubas wil understand. Crazy lady.

Olódumare ooooo!

Oga jhídey máfẹ fi ẹrin pami kẹẹẹ.

Olẹnu bi dagrin

Miner13:

will you be happy if your parents give you to a husband freely or you can do the same for your own daughter?

Iyawo shaara

lmao and what does that have to do with what i said :p

bukatyne:

Did the husband find out if she was interested in business or still lookng for a job?

And what is extraordinary in a husband setting up a business for his wife? Should I be the one to set it up?

ogao aunti buki, yorùba ni ẹni tio mo banse un dupe ore kole ri omiran gba.

So you can't appreciate the effort of your husband?

pickabeau1:
you have to seperate virtual personalities from real ones and understand people put up a front which may or may not be at variance with their own real personality

back to your post, i do not subscribe to a philosophy that espouses immediate seperation after breakdown of communication between couples

Customarily, there were elders who stepped in
Modern day, we have marriage counsellors , imams or pastors etc

After this has failed then the process of seperation can start

well thats my opinion 8-):*

Miner13:

ogao aunti buki, yorùba ni ẹni tio mo banse un dupe ore kole ri omiran gba.

So you can't appreciate the effort of your husband?

kiloshey teyan oseri abi ti awon egbe guy yen o shey ri.ema pele broda minner :p 8-)

@ọjọgbọn kulyi e
so you knew it right females have their problem.
Oda o moti lo ọpọlọ toni aponle kinse ọpọlọ biti ọ̀pọ́lọ(toad)

Miner13:

ogao aunti buki, yorùba ni ẹni tio mo banse un dupe ore kole ri omiran gba.

So you can't appreciate the effort of your husband?

I have not said the woman should be ungrateful but if the husband doesn't, who will?

Me?

It is my duty to take care of my husband and my husband's duty to take care of me.

If the man can't take care of his wife, he should go and sleep!

No need sef, he has sent her back

bukatyne:

The issue is not returning her for retraining, it's the manner he did it.

Now the whole town knows, he will take her back abi?

Some people are desperately wicked and do not know what love is

*singing in mariah careys voice *

i wanna know what love is,i want you to show me,i wanna feel what love is,i know you can show me *


oya show me na :p

anyway,just kidding but honestly,i dont know what some men benefit by disgracing their wives,maybe it boosts their ego,i dont understand

No problem

kulyie: well thats my opinion 8-):*

Miner13: @ọjọgbọn kulyi e
so you knew it right females have their problem.
Oda o moti lo ọpọlọ toni aponle kinse ọpọlọ biti ọ̀pọ́lọ(toad)

and what is that supposed to mean baba yi

kulyie: *singing in mariah careys voice *

i wanna know what love is,i want you to show me,i wanna feel what love is,i know you can show me *


oya show me na :p

anyway,just kidding but honestly,i dont know what some men benefit by disgracing their wives,maybe it boosts their ego,i dont understand

Lol @disgrace = ego booster!

kulyie: and what is that supposed to mean baba yi

Ìba yin oo.
I remain loyal.
But, ennnn i 2 dey fear women very cunny creatures by the creator

Miner13:
Ìba yin oo.
I remain loyal.
But, ennnn i 2 dey fear women very cunny creatures by the creator

i remain loyal too.emi na judi

but men too are not cunny or sly creatures

kulyie: i remain loyal too.emi na judi

but men too are not cunny or sly creatures

skelewu tinz

but is this really the best option of how to treat the wife.
So that i can just keep it in my record for future purpose