"A man who truly loves you should be the one doing everything possible to marry you in order not to lose you to the other woman and not you chasing and waiting for him to make such decision"

"when a man sees a woman he wants to take as a wife he starts making marriage plans in order not to lose her, don't date a man for long without both of you having marriage plans on ground which you are working towards achieving"

Ladies at what age is your man willing to settle down ask him if he tells you, then it is time both of you start doing things as couple, structure your financial income,to suit the kind of wedding you want, the kind of apartment you want, etc direct your plans towards that time frame both of you should start gearing your resources towards that time frame, the moment a man does not want to stick to plans then it means he's not serious with you,you should not expect magic whether you know his finacial state or not working towards achieving your aim is what is important, this is not you being desperate but focus. Since he has admitted he loves you and want to marry you and you see him as the kind of man you want to settle down with then in order not to waste your time with him start making plans towards that time frame if you think the time frame is too long, give a targeted and achievable time frame, (which he has to agree with,with your support), if he uses that as an excuse then his intentions are not pure, don't wait until a man proposes,men don't just propose, men propose to women whom they feel will help them achieve their goal in life by the action of the woman towards him. If a man knows marriage is what you are serious about,if he's not willing to settle down with you then he will start changing his attitude towards you, he won't want to talk about it and he won't be serious achieving that, don't place yourself in a position where the man can see you as just sex object.. When a woman present herself to a man as a wife, if the man does not see a future with her his love will fade automatically, start making your intentions known to him ask him to give you a time frame so you can both work towards it.. Anything short of that is a further waste of time and it is a way of opening doors to unnecessary issues including giving room for other women to come in...

N:B: A man who does not want to marry you or who is not ready to settle down won't take marriage issues/discussions serious, not because he does not have the money but because he's not serious about it. Any man who truly wants to marry you will start taking into plans all it will cost him to achieve that and when he has this plans he will start working towards it and turn to you for support when he needs it. Don't ever buy into the idea that money is what is delaying him from making his marriage intentions known to you, if he's serious then he will start making plans with your support. Any man who's not getting serious about settling down with you is just wasting your time afterall the essence of relationship is to either gain sexual pleasure or marriage.. Don't allow a man date you for long without having marriage plans with you,it is what you want and it is what he should also want. If he keeps derailing then he's not serious. If he's financial buoyant and he's not making plans then he's just having sex with you or he is not seeing you as his wife is why he's not just serious about marriage.

You better summarise this epistle or else you'll be the one wasting your time because I won't make any marriage plans with you.

true.

Never heard of men making marriage plans - women should be one's pushing for marriage - a man simply concur's ask's for the list sign the cheque and collect the babe.

OP... men only struggle to marry - high quality babe's, and when i say high quality i mean - educated, young, good background, nice job or pursuing higher education, proven track record of her family producing above standard offspring - you know the deal

Love_Decay: Never heard of men making marriage plans - women should be one's pushing for marriage - a man simply concur's ask's for the list sign the cheque and collect the babe.

OP... men only struggle to marry - high quality babe's, and when i say high quality i mean - educated, young, good background, nice job or pursuing higher education, proven track record of her family producing above standard offspring - you know the deal

If men don't make marriage plans then who proposes,if a man does not make marriage plans then at what point does a man decided to get married

U made sense at the later part of ur advise or so, but i know dat once a guy sees a real wife material, he protects such woman with all his might. To me, any supposed good woman pushing for a wedding really has sthing she is hiding. The idea of a lady mapping out arrangements for their wedding with her man sounds good but that rarely happens. Only in Nigeria or probably in Africa will u c a woman so pessimistic about the end of her relationship with a guy while at their youthful ages. So ur admonishment will serve better women really know their pride, not where a woman sidelines marriage at her youthful age only to get desperate for it when she knows she got no time anymore. Guess u are only advising such women at their menopause ages and dat's d only period their senses come to them with the speed of a light

kesta tipsy:

If men don't make marriage plans then who proposes,if a man does not make marriage plans then at what point does a man decided to get married

U shud try to understand him pls. Have u ever heard a man say "my time is almost passing" ? Or " i can't continue waiting for a young one " ?

Their marriage plans can come at any time not like dat of a woman who will turn to God for the fruit of the womb after messing around with her precious youthful time

What if she is also not ready for marriage but looking for some company and fun?

Mynd_44: What if she is also not ready for marriage but looking for some company and fun?

Then it means they are not on the same page

kesta tipsy:

Then it means they are not on the same page

They are on the same page. A girl who is not looking to marry and a guy who is also not looking for marriage

kesta tipsy: "A man who truly loves you should be the one doing everything possible to marry you in order not to lose you to the other woman and not you chasing and waiting for him to make such decision"

"when a man sees a woman he wants to take as a wife he starts making marriage plans in order not to lose her, don't date a man for long without both of you having marriage plans on ground which you are working towards achieving"

I didn't bother reading any further after the first two paragraphs.

Why is the man suppossed to do everything possible?
What is the woman suppossed to do? Sit and look pretty?

carefreewannabe:

I didn't bother reading any further after the first two paragraphs.

Why is the man suppossed to do everything possible?
What is the woman suppossed to do? Sit and look pretty?

Happy New Year

carefreewannabe:

I didn't bother reading any further after the first two paragraphs.

Why is the man suppossed to do everything possible?
What is the woman suppossed to do? Sit and look pretty?

She will fast and pray

A man should start making marriage plans
Poster seems like you are projecting your inner most feelings on us. Like Mynd said what is the man is prepping but the woman is just a dickaholic who is simply looking for fun?

you want a man to meet you and not get to know you but start planning for marriage? this is like the fantasy of a 15 year old girl who just discovered boys

DailyNews: Happy New Year

Happy, Healthy and Successful New Year

xynerise:
She will fast and pray

I am afraid that's all she will do

funny!

carefreewannabe:

Happy, Healthy and Successful New Year

The earlier women can understand that not all relationships re meant to lead to marriage the better for em