coolruler:

How come when you're dating, everything's fun, you flow beautifully with your babe, conversation's no problem, the two of you can sit for hours just chatting and laughing. You think" life cannot be better than this. At last, I found my soul mate"

But immediately the two of you are married, everything changes. Gone is the fun, the laughter, the attraction. Conversation becomes a contest where every statement you make can and will be used against you. For example:

You say: Honey, I will be going to the club tonight with my gees. Its our Boys night out.

She hears: Honey, I am fed up staying in the house with you. I'm going to the club where I will drink tons of beer, tell my friends all about you, and likely chat up a babe or two.

_{She knows you always go to the Club at least once a month to hang out with your guys, and she never had any problem with that when you were dating.}

Nella:

wht a foolish example.

Like u said : " She knows you always go to the Club at least once a month to hang out with your guys, and she never had any problem with that when you were dating."


There, "when u were dating" , But now u are married and no more a boy but a man, So 4 Christ sake put your whole boyish behaviors to the side and take on the responsibilities of being a man! u are no more 24.

Besides, using your example, how about this : "look, your wife also used to club and go partying with friends every Thursday night when u were dating, how about she continues that now in your marriage hu? After all u never had any problem with it when u were dating.

If u are married, then be married. If u want to go out and club and chat up babes with the boys, then y in the world get married??

And tell me the guy doesn't do any of those listed there!??

HR.hotness:

You guys always whine about the number of things the guy gives up. . .

New Flash:

Women also give up alot when they get married. . . we don't hear them whining do we

Deal with it dude!

HR.hotness:

You guys always whine about the number of things the guy gives up. . .

New Flash:

Women also give up alot when they get married. . . we don't hear them whining do we

Deal with it dude!

coolruler:

@HR
what are those things women give up?


@sistawoman
Thank you for keeping it real.

coolruler:

How come when you're dating, everything's fun, you flow beautifully with your babe, conversation's no problem, the two of you can sit for hours just chatting and laughing. You think" life cannot be better than this. At last, I found my soul mate"

But immediately the two of you are married, everything changes. Gone is the fun, the laughter, the attraction. Conversation becomes a contest where every statement you make can and will be used against you. For example:

You say: Honey, I will be going to the club tonight with my gees. Its our Boys night out.

She hears: Honey, I am fed up staying in the house with you. I'm going to the club where I will drink tons of beer, tell my friends all about you, and likely chat up a babe or two.

_{She knows you always go to the Club at least once a month to hang out with your guys, and she never had any problem with that when you were dating.}

mesmya:

that is a foolish example

a man is supposed to forsake alot of things once he is married

what is a married man doing in d club drinking and dining wt frinds when his wife,and prolly kids r at home

u men should just say you're looking for licence to cheat abeg

sistawoman:

I disagree.

There are times that i just want a girls night out and I can understand him wanting a guys night out.

A club is not the only place a man can meet a girl to cheat with.  If he is going to cheat he is going to cheat and I am not going to worry my beautiful little body thinking about it.  What is done in the dark comes to light and if you are willing to throw away what we have for some azz in the street then so be it.

Trust is one of the foundation blocks of a marriage if i can't trust you then i should not marry you.

I think that couples should/must retain their own identity when they marry.

mesmya:

im entitled to my opinion aint i?

mesmya:

no wonder your hubby left home for days d last time

thank God my hubby is not d type that hangs out in d club at night ,that is what i call being responsible

mesmya:


what on earth im i looking for in d club all in d name of girls night out?can't we all meet smplace during d day time,please im too responsible for that shit,to leave my kids and tell them im going out to meeet sm friends at night,no hells way

mesmya:

anyways its only jobless people that will do such a shit,im too busy for such an irresponsible life

i did it when i was single and don't wish to continue now that im very much settled

sistawoman:

You are entitled to your opinion.  And at no time in my post did i insult you.  I simply said I disagreed and stated why i disagreed.

My husband and our arguement has nothing to do with clubbing.  Therefore I don't understand your reference to it here.

My girlfriends and I go for spa days, weekend retreats and every once in a while, like maybe 3 times a year to the club.  I never said what kind of club.  We go to jazz clubs, dinner clubs, dance clubs and we have a few drinks, on our husbands and let our hair down.


We all have very good jobs and when we do this it is because my kids are away for the weekend visiting friends or doing other things.  My girlfriends are all my sr. by at least 13 years.  You see i hang with, talk with and get advice from women much older than me.  These outings are times for us to take off the wife, mother hats and just relax.  We are not out looking for other men as we are all happy in our marriages.

Because I am married it does not mean I am dead. 

My hubby and I also attend the club together as a date night thing that we do in addtion to other fun activites.

mesmya:

ESSAYS ESSAYS ESSAYS

good for u,too much long story

i have a very responsible family which im very proud of,we catch our fun sm other ways,that im very grateful to God for

have fun wt ya gals in da club,like i said im too busy to get involved wt such things

and as for your hubby ,its what u get for dragging your familys name into nairaland

buhbyeeee

sistawoman:

Why can't you just simply state your views on a matter w/o insulting someone.  I simply shared my views on the subject and because they are different then yours I get hurled insults.  That my dear is completely insane.  You should have better command of the english language and be able to state your views w/o insults.

People disagree all the time but if done in a respectful manner you can get your point across and give someone something to think about.  but if you do it with insults the person is less likely to hear you.

Just some food for thought.  Do with what you would like.

sistawoman:

We give up half of the bed, . . . . .STOP! ! ! just stop it there . . .Bed HE bought in HIS apartment

We give up sleeping through the whole night, yall will roll over and "poke" us   Yeah right . . .like as if you guyz don't "have ur own moves when you want IT too

We give up being wined and dined by various men . . . .and where did it get you?

We give up freedom to come and go w/o having to "check-in" with someone else . . . . . .Do you want IT BACK ? ? ?

We give up only having to cook for ourselves and having to cook for you . . .ahh . . .NEWS FLASH . .we can also COOK . ._{Thank God 4 THE CHICKEN REPUBLIC}

We give up more time because it now takes longer to wash the dishes or do the laundry or shop at the store, we are no carring extra weight. . . .Of you WON'T do THEM, your BESTFRIEND will

We give up control of at least one remote in the house. . . .You can hold on to your Ipod 4 as long as you like BUT PLEASE . . .beta free THE remote when the Premiership is on

sistawoman:

We give up half of the bed.

We give up sleeping through the whole night, yall will roll over and "poke" us

We give up being wined and dined by various men

We give up freedom to come and go w/o having to "check-in" with someone else

We give up only having to cook for ourselves and having to cook for you

We give up more time because it now takes longer to wash the dishes or do the laundry or shop at the store, we are no carring extra weight.

We give up control of at least one remote in the house.

Nautillus:

_{My opinion please . . .don't shoot me}

HR.hotness:

~ we hav to buy more sensible shoes because gon r d days when we can just splurge on every and any fabulous pair we find. . after all we hav less nights out

Nautillus:

_{My opinion please . . .don't shoot me}

stillwater:

"

Nella:


"who says he can't step out of his house for one night? Like u said\and like the guy would say, :" he is goin to have a night out with the boys" -- now, if u know that a "night out with the "boys" is what u want, why head to a club? -- is a club used for playing poker? Is a club used for talking\watching sports? no, the main aim\use of a club is : TO MEET BABES and TO LOOK AT WOMEN! -- dispute me -- u are a guy, when u prepare to go clubbing wht is goin through your head? is it to go and dance with a guy? sit and stare at some guys? NO, u go there because it is a fun place to be in because THERE ARE WOMEN AND FINE BABES ALL OVER! Full stop!"


Now, no one is sayin he shouldn't have a "boys night out" Besides, let's face it. Calling it a boys night out is just a way of disguising wht it really is, You are not going to a "boys night out" u are going CLUBBING! Call it wht it is. . . . boys night out my a$$, will u stay five minute in that "boys night out" if there weren't botty women walking around and shaking there asses all over?? -- Why not just go to a gay bar, if u really want to have a "boys" night out?
sometimes u men think u are talking to small children, *hiss* . . . at least a little respect for your marriage home?

sistawoman:

Sad but true stillwater.

Wait till you have kids. You will have more tennis shoes than heels. You have to keep the comfortable shoes for all the running around we do with the children.

stillwater:

Tennis shoes are ugly.

sistawoman:


No shooting neccessary. . . . . . .just having alot of fun.