The word 'goodbye' is used here to mean letting go with finality a relationship that is heading no where.

The question is why is is difficult for singles to say goodbye when they come to the realization that the relationship they are in is something they ought not to have gotten into in the first place.

What is the reason for this?

because nobody wants to lose someone she 'loves' especially when goody goody is involved

If the relationship wasnt worth it from go, then i dont have any difficulty in saying goodbye

You answer your own question.

virgie:

The word 'goodbye' is used here to mean letting go with finality a relationship that is heading no where.

The question is why is is difficult for singles to say goodbye when they come to the realization that the relationship they are in is something they ought not to have gotten into in the first place.

What is the reason for this?

hurdles in relationships should not make u regret such, its not easy to let go when true love n emotional commitment is involved. Most times it takes prayers and strng resolution to move on

you can't force someone to love you . . .if its not working, let it go.

I an an emotional person ( most ladies are).When I was in my last relationship, I devoted my time, money and all to see that it works. I was so much committed that I turned a blind eye to his faults even the most obvious. I think I loved him too much to let go, until he made the moves himself and  checked out, and now I know that was the best thing he had ever done. I am much wiser.

@poster

when you say goodbye, you let go. if u can't let go then it's a good stay.

i hope it's not your story on vanguard because i will surprised at your action. You need serious counseling to mend your heart. I am confident if the guy comes back begging you will take him back.

I think its all a game; and you know the drift  . . . it hurts to lose. Of course the winner goes home happy  

@ poster,
I've heard pple say it's easy to destroy than building[i][/i] but not in the case of real love. In my case, i've broken up with my chic three times but i find myself making up in less than one week, the thing is not every lovable person is marryable.

zignor:

@virgie . . .I read this topic yesterday on vangard . . .lol

Besides, how old are you?

what has her age got to do with the question she is asking?

you either answer the question or shut up!


@poster

The reason is the emotional attachment which is not an easy thing to severe especially when true love existed in the relationship!

[size=13pt]I hate saying  word "Goodbye"
especially to those i love the most
we all have to let some people go, at one point in life
it doesn't matter if they are lovers,friends,family members e.t.c

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Brash!:

what has her age got to do with the question she is asking?

you either answer the question or shut up!

@poster

The reason is the emotional attachment which is not an easy thing to severe especially when true love existed in the relationship!

Why do you always have to be so insultive??

Hmmm! Goodbye?! That is the saddest word i've ever known. It's hard to say goodbye esp. when the feelings/emotions are still intact. I've been in a situation where i expected the dude to call it off but nah,he preferred to lurk around. It wasn't easy saying this word but i said it after many attempts.  
Infact,goodbye doesn't apply to r/ships alone. There are cases like when a friend u've grown so attached with decides to leave or travel or sumfin like that,u just find it hard to say this bloody Goodbye.

simply put,emotions,memories and love will make you stay put and familiarity with the one you love

Ujujoan:

Why do you always have to be so insultive??

and how is mere "shut up" being insultive, busy body?!

get off my back!!

it's not very easy to say goodbye,especially where there is love, i remember very well when i wanted to get married,i was in love with two chics (one was older than me while one was younger) and definately i had to choose one of them,it was really difficult infact at some point i wanted to loose my mind and sincerely i must confess that even though i choose the older person i still keep in very strong touch with the younger person though she is also married now,so the bottomline is goodbye hard ooo my brothers

tRoOE:

[size=13pt]I hate saying word "Goodbye"
especially to those i love the most
we all have to let some people go, at one point in life
it doesn't matter if they are lovers,friends,family members e.t.c

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I agree with all that you've mentioned but not on family members it depends on the inolvement

@post

Goodbye is hard to say when it involves heartbreak. Once your heart takes some time to heal then you won't forget such person in a hurry.

the moment you get over your heartbreak, that moment you let go.

Come this Brash of a character, who is on your back eh?? Is that a fantasy or what?? Mind yourself oh

Ujujoan:

Come this Brash of a character, who is on your back eh?? Is that a fantasy or what?? Mind yourself oh

Brash is bigger than insults and loves the ladies

so one word- PEACE!

_{M Brashy and Nasty with a cocky swagger and arrogance, i'd brush anytin off like Abrasives!!}

Letting go? Not easy. But in the end, i believe nothing happens to you that you can't handle. Just pick up where you were dropped and move on (easier said than done, yes).
Emotions are real funny attimes. Your logic tells you 'it won't work, man. BAIL!', but your emos keep finding 'reasons' to hold on, even long after it's off.
And if you hold long enough to get hit by reality train, Just get a grip (a real good, tough one) of yourself and set sail forward. There are others (looking for you) out there.

the sooner we make the tough choices, the better.

This love car, needs Wisdom to steer it.

rubi:

I agree with all that you've mentioned but not on family members it depends on the inolvement

[size=13pt]Yea it depends but it does happen[/size]

Easybaby:

@Brash,
what is your problem?

you suck!

your father sucks!!

You never heard that love is a heart string?

How can you detach your heart from his, if you're not willing to let go?

If you want to say goodbye, you better be sure you cut that string, or else you're just playing yourself: you'll end up back with him if he comes back begging.

It's hard to say goodbye because we're not willing to let go.

*Morenike:

You never heard that love is a heart string?

How can you detach your heart from his, if you're not willing to let go?

If you want to say goodbye, you better be sure you cut that string, or else you're just playing yourself: you'll end up back with him if he comes back begging.

It's hard to say goodbye because we're not willing to let go.

Very well said

@ topic: I guess it has 2 do wth d heart not being able to come to terms with a rational decision taken by the person in question!

I got me this girl, quite young and still in sch. I told her it wouldn't work n she does the tantrum thingy, calling me names n sending all kinda nasty message. Nxt thing u know she be calling n apologising tellin me we can still be good 2gether. . .  

it might be hard if true feelings is involved