donroxy: I love career woman because I'm highly career oriented and If you aint following my steps or me following your steps then I'm gonna get bored easily cuz U can't be telling me about Tomato , Tatashe , abi some clothing lines everyday !! ....


The only thing is :

we will always review impact of our engagement on the family and turn down positions with more than necessary adverse effects on the family !!


Strategic level management is not as demanding as middle level management = The company's messengers !!

Tannie: I want to be successful, have my own money, contribute my quota to my family but not at the expense of my family. I don't have to work 6-9 to be successful, I can work 7-4 and still be successful. I want to be involve in my children's life, attend sch parties, have a heart to heart talk with them, create an everlasting bond with them and help them in difficult times, that's why I'm their mother.

lynpetra:

The role of a father remains different from a mother.Naturally,kids knows that daddy is the one that works to put food on the table.That is why a situation where a woman is the bread winner is seen as totally abnormal and far away from the norms.No matter what,a hardworking father will definitely have little time for his kids excerpt he is jobless.He spends little time and thus dependent on the wife to give more info concerning any problems he is not aware of.A situation where the wife is also ambitious like him will definitely place him in situation where he might not get vital info about his children's welfare and challenges.The role of the African woman/mother should never be sacrificed at the alter of ambition.There should be a reasonable limit to achieving her ambitions especially when it clearly affects her family. I know women wants to play vital roles in the society, heck this is the 21st,but a woman who succeeds as career woman and yet her family is in shambles is still considered a failure!

cococandy: Any body who's a parent should know their family comes first. Be he husband or wife.
A man who makes all the money in the world without being available for his kids is still considered a failure as a father.
Kids who grew up with absentee fathers know this too. That no amount of money can make up for the parents deep and intimate involvement in their lives.

This mindset is what makes mothers more celebrated then fathers because despite all the money the kids are more bonded with who was available for them.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with being ambituous be you man or woman. But a balance is necessary for both parties. And curtaling your ambitions as a woman isn't the answer. That's bondage.
Knowing how to make the best of your time is the answer.

Who's talking about African women in particular here?
Do African women raise better kids than other races? Look at Nigeria as a case study and look at other societies and tell me how relegating yourselves to the background or curtailing your ambitions as african women has helped your country.

I still maintain it is better for the kids if both parents make time for them. Excusing fathers' absence in the name of bread winning is almost the same thing as a single mom raising her kids alone with the father paying child support.

Matthewbriggs: This is a really complicated topic and from my observation .. Their is really no right answer or stance, it is not black or white ... the best bet is that one should go for whatever works for him or her and proceed to settle with someone who shares the same ideology.

But as we do so I think it is important to note the following points.

1. Family must come first before career for both couples. They both should be involved in a child's upbringing and more involved in each others life.

2. Both partners would try as much as possible to ensure they aid each other have a fulfilling life and career and should never try to prevent one another from reaching for the stars for egotistical reasons.

3. Nothing is set in stone, your stance may change in the future. The baseline is that both parties should be willing to make compromises when it is called for... To ensure the family never suffers.

4. Its not a crime for a woman to not have any ambition other than be a good house wife, so is it not a crime for a woman to desire to rise to be the CEO of a fortune 500 company. The most crucial thing is never let the home front suffer as a woman. The survival of the family structure is more dependent on you the woman.

5. Is not a crime as man to go for a less ambitious woman or to go for a very ambitious woman. The most important thing is you do your best to ensure you both have a fulfilling married life.

#Justsaying
#Mathew Briggs

carefreewannabe:

And the man does not have to succeed as a family man, right?

And a woman who decides not to marry and have children is a failure, right?

carefreewannabe:

And the man does not have to succeed as a family man, right?

And a woman who decides not to marry and have children is a failure, right?

cococandy: The mind boggles

Meanwhile a great shout out to all the fathers out there who balance their careers with family life.
Your kids will forever be grateful and have sweet memories of a loving attentive father in their lives. Rather than a cash cow father who doesn't even know they like to eat for breakfast.

carefreewannabe:

I love this comment.

I only disagree with the bold because I think that fathers are equally IMPORTANT for the success of the family as a whole and equally IMPORTANT for their children and of course the wife. Saying that mothers are more important is discriminating against fathers. In my view.

That said, this is a beautiful comment.

cococandy: The mind boggles

Meanwhile a great shout out to all the fathers out there who balance their careers with family life.
Your kids will forever be grateful and have sweet memories of a loving attentive father in their lives. Rather than a cash cow father who doesn't even know they like to eat for breakfast.

Tannie: I want to be successful, have my own money, contribute my quota to my family but not at the expense of my family. I don't have to work 6-9 to be successful, I can work 7-4 and still be successful. I want to be involve in my children's life, attend sch parties, have a heart to heart talk with them, create an everlasting bond with them and help them in difficult times, that's why I'm their mother.

teeo:

I also disagree with you. Women are pivotal in the development of children and the family. I for one am a perfect example.
If a man loses his wife to death most times he remarries because he doesn't naturally have the capacity to take full care of children, am not saying some men don't do it but it's rare.
But most women have the capacity to train children without the support of a man and they become successful men and women in future.
Women have to first and foremost make that sacrifice, God is not a fool there is a reason why it's the woman who has the womb. Nurturing a child doesn't end in the belly.

teeo:

I also disagree with you. Women are pivotal in the development of children and the family. I for one am a perfect example.
If a man loses his wife to death most times he remarries because he doesn't naturally have the capacity to take full care of children, am not saying some men don't do it but it's rare.
But most women have the capacity to train children without the support of a man and they become successful men and women in future.
Women have to first and foremost make that sacrifice, God is not a fool there is a reason why it's the woman who has the womb. Nurturing a child doesn't end in the belly.

Ajekpakororo:



The man has to.What use is an effeminate man in a homeYour kids can NEVER respect you.I have come across such homes and how kids degrade their father to dusts!!!Look,a father's domestic roles should not be expected to be on a shoulder level with the mother's.The loopholes as a result of his absence should be filled in by his wife.He should be able to balance his ambitions with his domestic roles at home else,he might end up having sons who thinks and acts like women.

There is a difference between just bringing out a child and being a mother.The first is the ability to conceive,and the other is the ability to nurture and this takes more time and effort.A woman who has succeeded in populating the society with liabilities as a result of her inability to perform her domestic roles is a failure.A man who do not provide for his home,who do not take adequate measure to spend quality times with his kids and wife,creating time and merging dosmetic roles with his wife in other to create a functional home is also a failure.

cococandy: Any body who's a parent should know their family comes first. Be he husband or wife.
A man who makes all the money in the world without being available for his kids is still considered a failure as a father.
Kids who grew up with absentee fathers know this too. That no amount of money can make up for the parents deep and intimate involvement in their lives.

This mindset is what makes mothers more celebrated then fathers because despite all the money the kids are more bonded with who was available for them.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with being ambituous be you man or woman. But a balance is necessary for both parties. And curtaling your ambitions as a woman isn't the answer. That's bondage.
Knowing how to make the best of your time is the answer.

Who's talking about African women in particular here?
Do African women raise better kids than other races? Look at Nigeria as a case study and look at other societies and tell me how relegating yourselves to the background or curtailing your ambitions as african women has helped your country.

I still maintain it is better for the kids if both parents make time for them. Excusing fathers' absence in the name of bread winning is almost the same thing as a single mom raising her kids alone with the father paying child support.

Joel3: i'm fine and you. are you loreta_U? What happen to your username? Is this a new id?

carefreewannabe:

First of all, let us leave religion out of it. Your faith is not necessarily mine.

You are free to disagree as much as you want. I do NOT believe that women are pivotal. I believe that both parents are EQUALLY IMPORTANT.

Tallesty1: You are right. It is lust for money and power that cause all these. A married woman first becomes a friend, a wife then a mother before any other thing. If you know you cannot do these then it's better you don't marry at all. In a christain home it is CHRIST first. HUSBAND second. CHILDREN THIRD. Family must come first before your job. You must spend quality time with your family and any job doesn't allow you to bond with your family is not mean't for you. Always keep your priorities in check, it is important. Some are chasing after wind unknowingly later they will say "I wish I spent more time with my family". As a parent, it is your job to raise your children to prepare them for the world with the help of your partner, this is not the work of any nanny or your own mother. It is the no. 1 reason he married you.

Harmvirus:

I think a mother is more important. A child has that natural attachment to his mother that once she's not there he feels her absence more than when father is not there

carefreewannabe: I do NOT believe that women are pivotal. I believe that both parents are EQUALLY IMPORTANT.

carefreewannabe:

What makes a man effeminate?

Just for your info, more and more German men decide to stay at home when their children are young, German men consider it NORMAL to share chores, German men consider it a joke that a woman's place is in the kitchen. Did they make the impression they were effeminate yesterday?







How does a woman succeed in populating the society with liabilities? By having a job?

Harmvirus:

I agree with you, a woman that truly love her kids will compromise without even being asked to do so once she sees they are suffering before of her over ambitiousness.

teeo:

True that but unnecessary civilization and the drive for feminism has pushed women away from the home front which should be their primary duty. Men are to be bread winners working hard to put food and good resources on the table. Am totally in support of ambitious women but I don't think I would want my wife to sacrifice the development of our children for an unneeded achievements.
If after all the achievements your child becomes wayward and ruins your name, the achievement amounts to nothing, it becomes total rubbish.

CocoLoca: THIS ENTIRE PIECE IS JUST A SHALLOW ATTEMPT AT SELF-ADVERTISING AND PROMOTION OF PHANTOM QUALITIES WRITER THINKS HE POSSESSES.

Good job op.

Tannie:

My dear, the society is dieing because parents esp mothers are leaving their responsibilties to nannies. I'm a christain and I know what is obtainable in every christain home and that's the standard on which I will build my home. My family first in everything I do.

Ajekpakororo:


I am not saying a woman should be a housewife ooo.All I am saying is that she shouldn't let her ambitions affect her motherly responsibilities,hence populating the society she has worked hard to build and be responsible to with liabilities.

For men who are lucky enough to create equal time with their wives for their kids,that's is commendable.Again,let's not compare a developed Germany with Nigeria.It gets tough here.